Lamisha Serf-Walls

Why me? – Why NOT you?

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I shared this message with my newsletter folks this week and it was such a powerful message that I was inspired to share it (and the special offer) with you.

photo credit: Cloud Pyramid via photopin (license)
photo credit: Cloud Pyramid via photopin (license)

There is a huge problem I am seeing lately and it’s stealing joy, spark, and the potential for dreams to come true from so many amazing women it makes me ill.

It’s an epidemic and I’m here to set the record straight.

The problem: Feeling unworthy of creating and living the life of your dreams.

Everyday I chat with women who somehow feel like they don’t measure up to the amazing visions they have in their minds about what they want their lives to be.

They make excuses about how they can’t have this or that because ‘Who am I to have the love, riches, community, joy, compassion, adventure etc. that I desire?‘

Who are you NOT to?

If there is one thing I have learned in the years I have been on this planet it is that we are here to experience life and enjoy it.

We are here to connect, serve, help, learn, love, and share our lives with others.

We are human beings for goodness sake! We have incredible senses that allow us to enjoy a multitude of experiences including food, sex, entertainment, and everything else life has to offer and yet there are far too many women denying themselves of the very dreams that keep them going because they feel unworthy.

I’ll give you that we often live in a warped reality where people think you must do something to earn your joy, but that’s a reality I’m not buying into.

I don’t believe in the idea that you have to work for 50 years in a job you hate to be able to spend a few years doing what you love.

I don’t believe that you must sacrifice your happiness now for more happiness later or that you have to work ‘hard’ for money to make a living.

I don’t believe you have to DO something in order to be worthy of the very desires that set your soul on fire.

Despite what you may have been taught by parents, teachers, society and the like, you are enough.

Let me say that again… YOU. ARE. ENOUGH.

You are worthy of your dreams simply by the air that you breathe and no I don’t particularly care about the past mistakes, mishaps, or misfortunes you’ve had because they don’t matter.  What matters is your determination to move forward.

YOU get to decide what this life experience will be for you.

YOU get to decide when you take the leap and when you don’t.

And YOU get to decide if and when you are worthy to move forward and truly make a change in your life.

The truth is the only way you wouldn’t be worthy of being, having, and doing all the things you want to do in this life is simply by thinking that you are unworthy.  That’s it.

Clearly this is a topic I am deeply passionate about and I know there are so many women dealing with this very issue that I want…better yet, I NEED to help.

So from now until the end of September, I am offering one-time single 60-minute sessions for $97. 

These sessions are best used for one particular issue/struggle you have right now.  If you need help around this idea of being ‘worthy’, a pep talk, uplifting, mindset work, need help making a decision, or you’ve been thinking of working with a coach and just want to give it a try, this is for you.

Now I don’t do this often and I’m not sure if/when I’ll do it again, so if this speaks to you then get on this before the offer goes away.

Want in?  Hit the button below and grab your spot and I look forward to chatting with you soon!

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Investing in YOU

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photo credit: deeplifequotes via photopin cc

Do you know the difference between the people living the dream and those stuck just dreaming?

It boils down to one word: Investment

The people living the life of their dreams made a choice to invest in themselves.

The people that are stuck in dreamland didn’t.

It’s that simple.

Whether it is time, money, or energy, investing in yourself is a MUST if you are going to get from where you are to where you want to be.

So, when was the last time you invested in yourself?

Hmm…that long huh?

How’s that worked out for you?  Are you living the dream or stuck in dreamland?

There are probably 100 excuses you can give me this very second as to why you haven’t invested in yourself.  Maybe you think you don’t have the money, the time, or the energy to invest.  Maybe you have children, a family, commitments, a day job etc. that you think restrict your resources and you just aren’t sure how you can fit something else in.

I know better.  Those are just the excuses.

The truth is when you want something bad enough and you are ready to take the leap, you will find a way to make it happen.

You will carve out the time, hustle up the money, and you will be so inspired by the life you are living, energy won’t be a problem.

But it also comes down to value.

How much do you value YOU and what life can be for you?

Living the life of your dreams is possible as long as you don’t settle.

Close your eyes and imagine what you truly want out of life.  Not what you think you can get or what you think is possible. What do you want?

What’s the first step you can take to invest in YOU?

Not sure?

Start by investing your time in a 30-minute consultation to chat about your vision and how I can help you make it a reality because you ARE worth it.

Celebrating A Day Of (Self) Love

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I couldn’t let this holiday pass without a post about love.  I am one of the biggest saps you will ever meet.  I cry at the drop of a hat, tear up during touching commercials, and I absolutely love romance and all that it entails.  And even though this day has become about giving gifts and cards etc. I still love it.  (I am a greeting card writer after all so it behooves me to be a bit sentimental.)

With that said I want to touch on something that doesn’t get talked about much, especially around this time of year and that is self-love.

All too often many of the greatest givers (myself included) have a tendency to forget or in some cases avoid all together the idea of loving ourselves.  It has been seen by some to be a narcissistic way of living if we tend to our own needs or recognize the gifts we truly have.  It has been all too common to downplay our strengths and focus on our weaknesses all while giving to and doing for others.  Sometimes we see that our needs aren’t as important as the needs of our child, partner, employer, or family and we disconnect entirely from what we want and need in order to give back to ourselves.  It is the lack of balance in loving another and loving ourselves that can cause frustration, fatigue, and resentment.

Is self-love a selfish act?  In my opinion it is not.  It is a necessity in order to effectively love another.  I know this because it has been a struggle of my own, one of which I have been working on for a while now and is one I believe we could all do a little more of.  Please don’t confuse self-love with boasting, narcissism, and the ego because it is far from that.

To me, self-love is accepting all of your being for who you are flaws and all and loving the person you were, the person you are, and who you have yet to become.  It’s not an easy task to do, but as we peel back the layers of ourselves and let them fall away, we uncover our truest selves…human beings full of love, inspiration, power, strength, and beauty.

How does this apply to accomplishing your dreams and goals?  I believe the more we love ourselves and accept ourselves for who we truly are, we view our dreams and goals in a new light.  Instead of not feeling good enough or worthy enough of our amazing gifts, we accept them graciously as they manifest.  So, today I ask you to take a moment and remind yourself that you are worthy of all of the goodness the Universe can give you, but first you must believe you are.

With that I will leave you with an inspirational quote I found.  May you always know you are worthy of your dreams.

Enjoy your Valentine’s Day!

“You can be the most beautiful person in the world and everybody sees light and rainbows when they look at you, but if you yourself don’t know it, all of that doesn’t even matter. Every second that you spend on doubting your worth, every moment that you use to criticize yourself; is a second of your life wasted, is a moment of your life thrown away. It’s not like you have forever, so don’t waste any of your seconds, don’t throw even one of your moments away.”
― C. JoyBell C.