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5 Things You Need To Create A Life You LOVE

April 17, 2015 by Lamisha

Everyone wants a life they love right?

But, how many are actually willing to do the work that is required to make that life a reality?

Far too many people are sitting on the sidelines, wishing, waiting, and wondering when their time will come.

If you are one of those people-today is your day, but you have to be willing to do just a few things to create a life you love.

Below are 5 things you absolutely need to do to create a life you love.

Get honest with yourself. Take an honest inventory of your current life and look at what is working really well and what isn’t. Don’t just pigeon hole yourself into one area of your life. Look at everything. See how well your self-care is doing, your health, relationships, career, family life, hobbies, etc. How are your finances? How are you feeling most of the time? Take an honest look at it all and figure out where you want to make improvements that will make you FEEL better. How you feel is the key to this inventory and make sure you don’t ignore what IS working. That is incredibly important as we always need to see that there are things that are working in our lives.

Learn to say ‘no’. As women this can be a difficult one. We are naturally service-oriented and want to help, nurture, and care for others, many times leaving whatever is left for ourselves. We will make sacrifices to no end and happily put others before ourselves even if that means we are doing things we really don’t want to do. Learning to say no is imperative to making sure you are focusing on things that light you up and keep your cup full. If your cup isn’t full, you have nothing left to give anyone else.

Start small. As they say: Rome wasn’t built in a day and neither is your dream life. Don’t start making big swooping changes in every area of your life as it can be quite jarring and can create a ton of anxiety and overwhelm. Start small with implementing more of what you truly love and enjoy. Remember to focus on the things that make you feel good. The more you do that, the easier the transition and changes will be. As a side note if you were going to start anywhere first, I’d start with your mindset because your mindset is EVERYTHING.

Dare to take risks. Once we reach a certain age, we tend to get comfortable with our lives even if they aren’t exactly how we want them to be. We allow our comfort zone to become like a cocoon wrapping over us and keeping us safe from harm and disappointment. But, all those things you desire for your dream life are right outside your cocoon. You can’t get to them when you are all wrapped up. You have to be willing to break free from your comfort zone and take risks every now and then. Start now, write down 3 things that are a bit scary that will take you out of your comfort zone and will help create a life you love.

Take action. This one seems a bit obvious, but there are so many women out there who know exactly what they need to do, but they aren’t. Maybe it’s fear, worry, anxiety, or just plain procrastination that keeps them paralyzed, but they just aren’t moving in the direction they know they want to go. It isn’t until we work together and they have the accountability and push that they really begin moving forward. If you are one of these people, stop stalling and get busy! Take action now. Your dream life depends on it.

So there you have it. 5 things you need to do in order to create a life you love. Which will you start with this weekend?

If you are looking for some support during this process to help you stay in action or to take the risks you need to move you forward, I’d love to chat with you more about it. I have a few spots open in the coming weeks for you to schedule a FREE 30-Minute Consultation. Simply click the button below to get signed up.

LOA Tip: Energy Shifts Before Your Manifestation Occurs

April 14, 2015 by Lamisha

What do you do when you are working on manifesting money, your dream career, your soulmate or maybe your dream house and despite doing everything you’ve been taught…nothing happens?

I get this question more than you think and to be honest, I’ve dealt with it in my own manifesting journey on more than one occasion.

I have my high vibe practice set up with EFT tapping, meditation, affirmations, visualization, and inspired action and I even lean back and let the Universe take over-but, there are moments when I just can’t help but ask where I am going wrong???

While there may be some things you could do to clear the way a bit more-mindset work, dropping the old stories about working hard etc., one thing you must know is this:

Your stuff is coming…right now.

I know, you are looking around and saying…but WHERE is it Lamisha?

It’s coming, in fact it’s already on the way and the best way for you to know it for yourself is to know this:

Energy shifts before your manifestation occurs.

During the manifesting process, energy is in play all the time. You have to have a vibration that matches that of the thing (or person) you are trying to attract and before your actual manifestation comes to you-energy has to shift first.

Here’s what that might look like in a real world scenario.

Say for instance you are trying to manifest your dream job. You know how you want to feel in that job and you have been doing your mantras, taking action, and keeping your vibration high.

You take the logical route and apply for the jobs you find along the way, but they aren’t a very good fit. However, you notice that you are making more contacts and “randomly” running into people who are doing the exact type of work you would love to do.

On the one hand you could see this as a chance to moan and groan about the fact that they have this amazing job and you don’t…OR you could simply see it for the amazing gift that it is. The energy is shifting and you are seeing more of what you want in your reality.

You are meeting people who are working in a job you love and you are making connections, networking, and building relationships that will lead you to be notified as soon as a position becomes available.

Energy ALWAYS shifts before your manifestation occurs, so be aware of the shifts and be grateful. It’s a sure sign that your desires are on the way.

Take a moment and look at what you are trying to manifest right this very moment and note the signs you have seen that indicate the energy is shifting and your stuff is on the way. Celebrate! The tides are shifting and you are on the right path.

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A Few of My Favorite (Planning) Things

December 9, 2014 by Lamisha

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The holiday season is in full swing and many of us are starting to make plans for the new year.

I have to admit, I love this time of year. The sparkly lights, giving hearts, dreams of new things on the horizon, and the belief that anything is possible….of course I love all of that whether it’s the season or not.

As I begin dreaming of what 2015 holds for me, I want to share with you some of the tools I’ve used in the last year that have changed my life (and year) for the better. They are things I highly recommend to anyone looking to amp up their planning this year to ensure they have the best year yet.

When it comes to planning and dreaming, I am not your typical goal setter. In fact, I am going to be writing a post about this for The Huffington Post soon. I’m not the hard and fast goal setter with a map and strict deadlines to meet. Those methods just don’t work for me. I’m way more creative than that and I prefer to set intentions vs goals.

Planning:

For that I use Leonie Dawson’s fabulous workbook. 2014 was the first year I have implemented this amazing workbook and I am so happy I did. If you are looking for a way to say goodbye to 2014 and welcome in the new with a bit of creativity, flair, and a sacred practice, this is for you. And if you have a business you want to grow with some amazing new clients, offerings, and new ideas, she has a life & biz workbook for you.

Starting out 2014 with this workbook in my hot little hands was just what I needed to keep focused and it’s something I used the entire year. Check it out and if it feels right for you, I highly encourage you grabbing one of your own.

In fact, you can check out all the things it includes here: 2015: Creating Your Shining Year

Inspiration:

I started 2014 with a bang and tons of inspiration as I was reading one of my favorite books of all time and one that I recommend to anyone and everyone when I have the chance to and it is Inspired & Unstoppable: Wildly Succeeding in Your Life’s Work! by Tama Kieves.

Not only is this book one that I hold near and dear to my heart, but it is one that lit a fire inside me in a way no other book has. It’s all about paving your own path and letting your inspiration guide you to what is right for you in life & business. It is such a wonderful book that I am thinking of reading it again.

There is so much good info and best of all it reinforces what I strongly believe in and that is that when you follow your path, your inspiration is truly the guide. If you are looking for a highly inspiring read, check this one out.

Money Stuff:

I’ve shared this before, but it’s worth sharing again. I coach so many women around money and how they think and feel about money in general. It’s something we all deal with (including me). As I think about the new year with new income goals and intentions, there is a ton of stuff that comes up regarding money mindset and I promise that your money mindset is far more important than any of the actions you do in regards to money.

You also may know that I love Denise Duffield-Thomas’s work and I think she’s simply fantastic. Her books, her free audios, her Lucky Bitch program, etc. are all amazing and she has put together a holiday bundle that is to die for!! Not only that, but it’s at a super low rate until December 17th.

Check out her Lucky Bitch Christmas Bundle that includes: Lucky Bitch Manifesting Course, Meditations, Live Event Recordings, & her audio books. Crazy high value bundle for just $97. I have used her amazing meditations, listened to her books, and recordings and it has changed my money mindset in huge ways.

Dreaming, Scheming, & Visualizing 2015

The last thing I wanted to share with you about my planning process is something I am formalizing to do on my own and as an offer to you. When you think of what you want to accomplish for the new year, so many people think about the regular inside-the-box things like losing weight, saving money, or quitting some unhealthy task and all of those things are fine and good, but I have created a process that digs a bit deeper into a more meaningful and creative way of dreaming big for the year ahead.

It’s a process that I’ve done on my own and one I LOVE doing with other people (especially business owners) because I get to spark some ideas in my clients that they never would have thought about on their own.

This process is what I call Dream 2015. It’s a journey we take together in a 90-minute call where I ask you a bunch of questions to highlight what is most important to you both in your personal and professional life. We discuss how you want to feel. What you want to do. New things you want to try and I coach you around what is truly important for you.

For the duration of the call you are asked not to take notes, but instead to immerse yourself in the experience. To think, feel, imagine, brainstorm, and respond based on what feels best for you and after the call I will deliver an organized PDF of all the things we chatted about include a few next step items to help you get a jump start on your vision for the new year.

If you are a business owner this is especially fun because we will begin brainstorming awesome offers, collaborations, projects, and bring up some things to grow your business that you never thought about.

This offer is good for a limited time, so if you are interested, snag your spot here and let’s help you get dreamy so 2015 is your best year yet!

I want to hear from you. What are some of your favorite planning tools or practices for ensuring you have the best year yet? Share in the comments below as others may be looking for more inspiration. 🙂

Trusting the Process

December 5, 2014 by Lamisha

Manifesting the life of your dreams can seem like a HUGE venture, especially when you are just starting out. There are so many things you desire and so many beliefs to conquer that it’s hard to know where to begin and to trust that it’s going to happen. I mean we do live in the ‘real’ world right? (I say that with tons of sarcasm.)

When you don’t trust the process, it makes things a whole lot more difficult than they have to be. You doubt yourself, the Universe, and the magic-makers in the world telling you that you can have all that you desire. But when you doubt yourself or the process, you slow things down.

So how do you trust the process? I answer that question in the video below.

So, what is your little experiment you are going to try? I’d love to hear in the comments below!

3 Secrets to the Life of Your Dreams

November 5, 2014 by Lamisha

Living the life of your dreams is one of those things we all want to do, but how many believe it’s actually possible? It might even seem a bit far-fetched to believe you can live a life you love right now. I’m here to tell you it’s totally possible when you decide you will no longer settle.

It seems there is this BS notion running rampant in the world that says we have to merely survive the life we have been given and do the best with the hand we’ve been dealt. And if you are one of many who have bought into that, you are likely settling for a life that feels a bit ho-hum, when what you really deserve is a life you simply adore. We’ve all been taught in some form or fashion that being logical, realistic, and responsible is how you are supposed to live life.

But being an airy-fairy, head in the clouds kind of gal, it sounds a bit boring to me.

I want you to know that you can have it all. The money, the relationships, the joy, the career, the family, and enjoy every bit of it starting right now. It all starts with these 3 secrets.

Get clear on what you want. Get dreamy and begin painting a picture of what the life of your dreams looks and feels like. Remember to use your imagination and have fun. You can even create a vision board with pictures and words that remind illustrate your dream. Remember this is the life of your dreams so nothing is off-limits.
Believe you can have it. If you don’t believe you deserve it or that it is possible, the next step will be futile. Believe you can have it. Use affirmations or affirmations if you have to but truly believe it is possible. And if you get stuck with feeling worthy and believing, start getting rid of those self-limiting beliefs with EFT Tapping or journaling. Your mind is powerful, let it work for you not against you.
Take inspired action. Instead of taking ‘logical’ action, do what feels most inspiring for you. Get quiet and clear your mind and feel your way forward by listening to your heart. What action lights you up most? Go do that and let it lead yo to the next step. All the steps combined will lead you to the life of your dreams.

Lamisha Serf-Walls is a life coach for women who are ready to live an amazing life on their own terms, but feel held-back and frustrated in how to make that happen. Her mission is to create a community of empowered, free-flowing, lovers of life who live a life of freedom with ease and inspire others to do the same. Her signature Breakthrough program is set up to empower women as they gain clarity about their dream life and break free from the beliefs that leave them feeling stuck.