Lamisha Serf-Walls

5 Reasons You Aren’t Living the Life You Truly Desire

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photo credit: model on the beach via photopin (license)

Every single day I speak with women all over the world who are feeling just plain stuck in life.  They dream of an amazing life with lots of love, abundance, beautiful experiences, and adventure only to find they have no clue how to make it happen.

When we first chat, they list all the things they’ve tried to make their dreams a reality. They’ve pushed, pulled, planned, and done everything they can think of to make their desires real, but find that something is stopping them along the way.

The thing I notice about all of these scenarios is that the reasons these amazing women aren’t living a life they absolutely love has nothing to do with action and has everything to do with things they just can’t see.

If you are in the same boat or have found yourself in a similar situation before it’s likely because of one of these 5 reasons.

  1. You don’t believe it’s possible.  We all have had some bullshit story about why what we desire isn’t possible.  It might be so far outside what you’ve actually accomplished in your life that you just don’t see any way that what you desire could come to fruition and even though you dream of it becoming your reality, there is a bit of doubt about whether it can actually happen.  The answer is this: Yes it can and will happen, but ONLY when you decide it’s possible.
  2.  You’re letting fear lead the way.  Fear is a f–king liar and it will try to convince you more often than not that what you are attempting to do is not safe or smart.  It will try and convince you of all the reasons it won’t work instead of highlighting all the magical ways it will.  Fear feeds off your insecurity (see #1) and the best way to combat that is to take a step forward despite the fear and prove to yourself over and over again that it’s not as scary as you think.
  3. You think you need to know all the steps from where you are to where you are going.  As much as you would like to believe that you are 100% in control at all times and have the power to find the best possible route to your dream life, the truth is you don’t.  All you need to do is take the next step and trust that the Universe is going to inspire the one after that.  You only have the capacity to see 1 possible way your dreams can become reality and it’s likely not even the best way.  The Universe on the other hand has so many amazing resources at its disposal and can orchestrate connections, opportunities, and chance meetings you never imagined.  Let go of the how and just listen to your intuition.
  4. You are stuck in your current reality.  Your current reality is merely an indication of where your thoughts have been in the past.  It in no way means that what you desire is impossible or improbable unless you decide to continually reflect on what is right in front of you instead of focusing on where you want to be.  When you stop playing the victim to your current ‘reality’ you make a new reality possible and the Universe paves the way for you to make your life amazing.
  5. You think it has to be hard and self-sabotage when things get too good.  You likely were taught that everything comes with a price tag and if you want to live the life of your dreams you have to work hard.  That’s a lie.  Do you have to be persistent? Yes.  Do you have to be willing to believe in yourself when others don’t? Yes, but that in no way means it has to be hard.  When things get easy and you manifest circumstances that feel amazing with ease, you may also find yourself sabotaging the situation to shake things up a bit.  Because honestly, who are we without problems to solve and challenges to overcome?  Let the good things be good and the easy things be easy.  I guarantee there will be other problems for you to solve, so don’t mess with the good stuff to make yourself feel more comfortable.

The truth is there are lots of reasons we aren’t always creating the life experience we want and if you are finding yourself struggling with one or more of the above, it’s time to get some support.

Reach out and schedule a FREE 30-Minute Consultation below and let’s have a chat about how I can help you clear the junk holding you back and help you step more fully into the amazing life you deserve.

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Major Epiphany & Life Lesson for You

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photo credit: Upward via photopin (license)

 

I’ve been a bit MIA lately and there’s a reason for that.

In the last 2 weeks I’ve felt a bit off kilter in my journey.  I felt the shift happen after I came back from a wonderful vacation and started to feel like there was a transformation that I was indeed preparing for.  What that transformation included, I wasn’t sure, but I knew something was coming.

And sure enough it was.

I’ve had these moments before when I go through a major life upheaval with emotions running high and lots of blocks and beliefs that need released.  It’s a process for me and one that I understand very well even if it feels like shit while I’m ‘in’ it.  But, what I always know is that on the other side of this upheaval there is always light, purpose, and expansion that I couldn’t have if it hadn’t been for the upheaval.  For those moments I am grateful.

Last week I was in the throes of it and finally decided to announce it to my Love Your Life Tribe Facebook group because I wanted to be authentic, honest, and I wanted everyone to know that no one is perfect.  EVERYONE goes through these moments and despite the discomfort of the process, it always works out in the end.

Thank goodness the fog is beginning to clear and I am finally being able to see the lesson here and I am passing it along to you.

My major epiphany & life lesson for you is in: Letting Go.

I am one of those people who tends to be a bit of a control freak.  I like to think I am the one running things and making magic happen in my life (sorry Universe), when in actuality I am just following the nudges of my intuition and the Universe.  However, in the moments when I am struggling with making something happen (i.e. meeting financial goals, figuring out how to do something etc.) I go into overdrive and try, try, try, until I can’t possibly try anymore.

And when that doesn’t work (which it usually doesn’t) I go into the mode of thinking I MUST be doing something wrong (because if not, then it would all be fine right) and then I TRY AGAIN.

Looking back I can see how it might be like me banging my head on a door that won’t open thinking that if I just bang on it hard enough, POOF it will magically open.

Yep, doesn’t work like that.

So the key in those moments (or in the less dramatic moments when you aren’t sure which way to go and you know how all of this works) you let go of the NEED for things to change right then and there and keep moving on your merry way.

Now, that’s hard to do if you are dealing with money because how exactly do you go on your merry way when bills are due?

I’ve learned the hard way that you just have to TRUST.  LET GO & TRUST that it’s all going to work out and in actual fact it IS working out for you even if you can’t see how or when or why it is.

Trust is a funny thing because it means you have to simply let go of the thing you are worrying about and go with the flow of life.  And what takes that up another notch is to be HAPPY & JOYFUL in spite of the given challenge.

Last week, that is the last thing I wanted to hear.

I was struggling (in my mind) and I didn’t want to hear any woo-woo message about letting go and letting the Universe (or God) take care of things for me.  As much as I KNOW that to be true, I wasn’t in a place to hear that.  I had to go through the frustration and the emotion of it all to finally get there….

And I finally made it this weekend when I was getting messages left and right on letting go and simply allowing life to unfold and being JOYFUL through the process.  Funny how that works huh?

The one quote in particular that literally shifted everything for me was this:

“The dichotomy is that for true healing to occur, I must let go of the need to be healed and just enjoy and trust in the ride that is life.” Anita Moorjani from Dying To Be Me

The truth is you can enter just about any word in place the word “healing” and the statement would still be true.  Abundance, love, peace, etc. all follow the same formula.

When you let go of the need to have something and just enjoy and trust in the journey of life, things transform and the very thing you let go of, comes back to you.

Letting go of the need is necessary to manifest your desires and being joyful in the process of life is what life is all about.

And that leads me to simply asking myself this, “How can I enjoy the moment right here, right now?” and then acting accordingly.

Simple truths with magnificent power.

My question for you is this…what do you need to let go of right now?

If what you need to let go of is the feeling of being stuck, check out my free audio 5 Ways to Break Free From Stuck below.

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You’re stuck, but are you LISTENING?

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photo credit: Even If via photopin (license)

Over the years I have been known for being so busy thinking, analyzing, planning, strategizing, and making things happen that I can’t actually hear what I need to do.

I get caught up in the action and doing of life instead of being.

I have often forgotten about the wealth of knowledge and information I have within if only I would listen.

It makes sense that as humans, we often try so hard to make things happen that we also end up making things much more difficult than we need to.

We miss the signs and signals about when it’s time to act and when it’s time to lean back.  We miss the messages that are around us all the time.

I talk a lot about inspired action and how important it is in creating a life you love and I get a lot of questions about what inspired action really is.

Simply put, it’s listening and responding.

Hearing the message and acting on it.

Feeling the inspiration to act and not questioning it…just doing it because it feels right.

And often times that feeling isn’t the most logical thing in the world.  In fact, at times it can seem downright insane, but every time I’ve acted on my inspired thoughts, it’s always worked out. Always.

So, if you feel STUCK and are wondering what the next step is for you, it may be that you just aren’t listening to the messages that are coming through.

Here are a few ways that I’ve found messages to show up for me:

  • Seemingly random thoughts in the shower (the shower is where I often come up with many program ideas or article titles)
  • Billboards with messages that resonate with me strongly
  • Song lyrics or quotes that feel especially powerful
  • Thoughts that float in with ease and feel simple and easy
  • Ideas that come quickly and just click
  • Inspiration that comes through when I am journaling or working with a client
  • Messages for others that I get while I am coaching that are also messages for myself

And sometimes I even get that earth-shattering lightning bolt of a thought that sends me running to find paper and a pen to get it all down before I forget it.  But, most of the time the inspiration flows in and out with ease.  It’s not pushed, pulled, or forced.  It’s just easy.

So, today as you think about a particular area of your life where you may feel stuck, I want you to think about the messages you may not be hearing.  What are you missing?  What feels almost too easy for you? Go do that.

Even if it doesn’t turn out to be THE thing that gets you unstuck in the moment, it will most definitely lead you down the path that will.

And if you are still struggling with feeling stuck and want more info on 5 ways to break free from stuck.  Check out this FREE audio that will help you get unstuck instantly.

Want more info on how to get the answers yourself and to learn how I tapped into the wealth of knowledge I use everyday in my life and business?  Check out the Universal Toolbox.  We still have spots open for you to get into the group AND get the bonus of 1 free 1:1 coaching session with me.

Last but not least- if you missed your chance to schedule a FREE 30-Minute Connection Call, I still have some spots available.  I’ve had SO much fun with these calls that I increased it from the original 25 to a total of 40!  I only have a few spots left, so if you are interested, hit the link below and schedule your call today.

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My Crazy May Challenge-Yep I’ve lost it!

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When I get inspired I go to the far edge of my sanity at times and stretch myself beyond belief and this week I’ve done it AGAIN.

If you are on my VIP list you know that I opened my calendar for 25 FREE 30 Minute Connection Calls to help women with:

  • Mindset issues

  • Manifesting challenges

  • Feeling STUCK in some area of life or career

  • Needing a bit of insight into life purpose

  • Next steps for making your dream a reality

I’ll admit, it’s a pretty crazy offer to throw out there especially considering I have a calendar full of clients and I’m taking a week off this month BUT I wanted to do this because of the recent response I received from my latest article in the Elephant Journal titled: When You’re Struggling to Find Your Purpose. 

I realized the work I do is incredibly important and I wanted to take some time to gift these sessions to those who could use them.  I currently have 15 spots left and would love to gift you one if you are interested.

I’ve done a few of these calls already and they have been AMAZING.  So much connection, help, service, and aha’s are happening in this 30-minute call and I can’t wait to chat with YOU.

Ready to sign up?  Hit the button below and get scheduled asap, I promise they won’t last long.

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P.S. Have you signed up to receive your FREE AUDIO: 5 Ways to Break Free From Stuck?  This 20-minute audio will help you get unstuck in no time!  Grab it while you can.

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3 Ways to Get Unstuck (Plus A New Way to Work With Me)

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There is a common theme I am hearing amongst women all around the interwebs and it is that they feel just plain STUCK.

STUCK in a rut.

STUCK in a job they hate.

STUCK in the boring ho-hum-drum of life with zero passion, purpose, and joy.

STUCK on the hamster wheel of life going round and round and round with no end in sight.

Well, it’s time to get off the Stuck Train and into flow & ease.

Are you ready?

Check out the video below to learn 3 simple tips you can use to get unstuck and moving again.

Need more help than this video can offer?  Well I have a NEW way you can work with me and it has everything to do with you getting unstuck in one area of your life.

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Imagine:

  • 4 weeks of support to get unstuck in 1 area of your life
  • 4-45 minute sessions
  • Learning the tools you need to empower you to move forward even after the program is over
  • Walking away with more ease and flow in life

Your Investment: $497

Sound good?

If so, the Break Free From Stuck Program is for you.  I am opening 4 spots in this program for April, so if this is something you are interested in let’s schedule a FREE 30-Minute Consultation to chat about where you are stuck and get you started ASAP.  STUCK is no way to live…EASE & FLOW are where it’s at!

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