Lamisha Serf-Walls

My BS: Who Am I To Help?

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Earlier this week I shared this post with my VIP tribe and while it’s a bit of a vulnerable post, I realized how important it is for me to share it with you as well.  May you find comfort in knowing that you are not alone and join me in facing your BS head on, because honestly it’s hard to change anything with that junk holding you back.

Ok, it’s time for me to get something off my chest.  It’s something I’ve been thinking about a lot recently as I have been facing the BS (aka Blind Spot) that has been holding me back and I’m done with it!

The past two months have been pretty tough.  The positive side of me wants to tell you all about the growth, the lessons, and the beautiful blessings in disguise and while there was a lot of that going on that’s not always how it felt. There is another part of me that remembers the worry, the fear, the frustration, and at times the overwhelming tears.In the midst of chaos at home, schedules being thrown out the window, and lots of change going on both personally & professionally, I was forced to face my BS…head on.

The BS I’m talking about is both bull shit & something you may know as my Blind Spot.Yep, in the middle of sharing with you how your BS can hold you back, mine was there waiting for me, trying desperately to get me to not only play small, but quit playing all together. (Funny how that happens right?)  And once I realized what it really was that was holding me back in my business (with the help of another coach), I knew I had to share it with you.

So, here is my most recent experience coming face-to-face with my BS.  My hope is that when you hear my story, you leave with a deeper understanding of how imperative it is to identify and clear your own Blind Spot and you have a bit more compassion for yourself.  Regardless of who you are, what you do, or what area of your life is affected, we all have thoughts & beliefs that are holding us back in our careers, love, relationships, and life in general.  And the best part of all: there is a way to identify and clear it!

Coming face-to-face with your BS isn’t fun or all that comfortable, but I assure you it is the first step to living that amazing, free-flowing, ever expanding life of your dreams.  It is almost as if we believe we can’t or shouldn’t have it all, but as one of my favorite quotes says:

“We ask ourselves: Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?  Actually, who are you not to be?” 

~Marianne Williamson

Go be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous and clear the BS that is in your way!  You have an amazing life of freedom and flow to live so hop to it!

I believe in you,

We Need More Of This In The World…

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Being that I am in the business of uplifting and encouraging women to follow their hearts and go for their dreams, I find it extremely difficult to process when I see women (and people in general) poo-pooing on the dreams of others.  It infuriates me because while I know that their comments are not about anyone but themselves, I also know words hold a ton of power and our dreams are like delicate flowers.  Dream crushing comments (no matter how small) can easily cause dreamers to give up all together.

It is also why I created the Group Coaching Program for Business-Minded Women.  I believe women can come together in support of one another without the catty competition and crass comments.  Jealousy that someone has something that we want doesn’t have to be how we connect with one another.  I have felt this sense of competition in a variety of ways and even in some groups I have been in.  One person’s success doesn’t mean another person’s failure.  It also doesn’t mean that two people doing similar work have to compete.

What happened to collaborating, community, and compassion for one another?

CrystalKylieWhat about sharing, supporting, and uplifting one another in our desires?  I want to celebrate everyone’s success because I know that we are all capable of creating the life of our dreams doing work we love.  And each time I see another soul-sister’s dreams come true, I am inspired to keep going, keep dreaming, and keep following my heart.

I just wish everyone felt the same way.

Purchase your own copy here: www.azureassurances.com
Purchase your own copy here: www.azureassurances.com

The fire and passion I feel as I write this stems from reading a not so nice comment about an extremely talented and amazing woman (also one of our guest teachers for the group program) Crystal Davis.  Recently one of Crystal’s amazing dreams came true and she published her book Azure Assurances. ( You can check out an awesome article about their work here.)  This book is a collaboration with an equally talented artist Kylie Fogarty to create a masterpiece of poetry and art that is nothing less than gorgeous.  I had the opportunity to check it out and as a poet myself, I can tell you it is simply fabulous.

Not only do I love their work, but I also am so incredibly inspired by the powerful collaboration between two talented women with an amazing vision.  It reminds me why I am creating a space for community, collaboration, and support for business-minded women to come together.  THIS is exactly the kind of thing we need more of in the world.

More sharing, celebrating, and supporting one another.

With that said I want you to know that there is enough room in the world for everyone to succeed.  There are infinite possibilities of how your vision can come together and collaboration is the way of the future.  We are not on our paths alone and surely aren’t meant to create the thriving life of our dreams by ourselves.  They say it takes a village to raise a child and I say the same goes for cultivating a community of dreamers and achievers.  Join me in celebrating the success of others and congratulate, connect, and commune with other like-minded souls.

I also encourage you to check out Crystal and Kylie’s masterpiece, Azure Assurances.  Buy it, give it as a gift, and support two amazingly talented women who have made their dreams come true.

 

Inspiration Round-up

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inspiredFor the past several weeks I have been doing Dreamer Highlights on people who I have found that are living the life of their dreams in some way.  These posts are meant to inspire you and prove that anything is possible, even that seemingly ginormous dream you want to accomplish.  In addition to finding people who are inspiring, I have found many articles, videos, and interviews that have a lot of good information that I would like to share with you.  So, once a week I will be posting either an Inspiration Round-up post or a Dreamer Highlight to help motivate and inspire you to do amazing things!!

With that said, here is the first installment of the newly created Inspiration Round-up.

  • This is the latest interview from Lilou Mace, a woman I have spoken about several times on my blog. In this interview she speaks with Jack Canfield (creator of the Chicken Soup for the Soul books) about dreaming, success, and how to figure out what your life purpose might be.  Great information and I promise it will leave you with your head in the clouds.
  • This video I stumbled upon today and is a Ted Talk by a woman/musician/actress named Amanda Palmer.  Her talk is titled “The Art of Asking” and she shares how she came to the realization that asking is an art, skill, and is a way for us to share our talents, resources etc. with each other.  I absolutely love this video.  Enjoy!
  • Another great interview from Lilou Mace with Joseph Clough who has been helping people realize their potential since he was 18.  Joseph is a hypnotist and life coach helping people find what they want to do, what they are meant to do, and helping them overcome any personal blocks that they may find along the way.
  • One of my favorite videos from none other than Kid President.  Do you need a pep-talk?  “You were made to be AWESOME!” Watch this, smile, remember you can do anything, and create something that will make the world awesome.

I hope you enjoyed this inspiration round-up and I look forward to sharing many more with you in the future.

Have you read something recently that you want to share? Please feel free to pass the info along in the comments section.  I would love to see where you find your inspiration.

Very Inspiring Blogger Award

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I am very grateful and excited to announce that last week I was nominated for a Very Inspiring Blogger Award by Mia at Lights of Clarity.  I am happy to know my blog is turning out to be exactly what I had hoped for, a place to share my journey and in turn inspire others to follow their dreams.  Thank you very much Mia!

The rules for accepting the award are:

1. Display the award logo,

2. Link back to the person who nominated you,

3. State 7 things about yourself,

4. Nominate 15 other bloggers for this award and link to them.

Seven Things About Myself:

1.  I am a hopeless romantic and cry at the drop of a hat when watching heart-felt movies

2.  In addition to my writing here on the blog, I also write for a kids app review site (www.bestappsforkids.com) and write book reviews for New Consciousness Review (www.ncreview.com)

3.  My creativity doesn’t just involve writing, I am also a choreographer/dancer though I haven’t danced in a few years

4.  I was once a tap dancing Santa in a holiday show, actually not one show, we actually did around 20 shows in one month

5.  I am a true book worm, though these days I am finding it difficult to fit as much reading into my schedule as I would like.  At this moment I am in the middle of at least 4 books with many more waiting 🙂

6.  I believe we all have a soul purpose here in this life and mine is to help inspire others find theirs

7.  I am a dreamer 🙂

My nominations for blogs that inspire are:

jumpforjoyphotoproject.wordpress.com

chrysalisjourney.wordpress.com

mymeanderingtrail.com

onehotmessage.wordpress.com

luggagelady.net

steadilyskippingstones.com

candycoatedreality.com

400daystil40.wordpress.com

suedreamwalker.wordpress.com

jelenaneylan.com

spiritualworldtravelerblog.com

abcofspiritalk.wordpress.com

crystalchild.wordpress.com

betweenfearandlove.com

100thingschallenge.wordpress.com

I hope you check out these blogs and enjoy them as much as I do. 🙂

Success Redefined

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I have made it just past a month since starting this blog (woohoo!) and I am very proud.  Not only have I stuck with my writing every week day, but I have also managed to keep my creativity flowing and I have found that I am never lacking in material or ideas.  Success!!

Or is it?

When I started using WordPress as a platform for my blog, I was (and still am) very excited about how easy it is to use.  For a newbie like myself it was easy to set up and start blogging, and while there are still many things to learn, I feel confident with what I post each day.  In addition to the easy set up, I found (rather quickly) there is some great statistical information you can get in one click of your mouse.  Information about how many people viewed your posted, what country they are from, the number of “likes” for each post, and how many followers you have.  And being the numbers gal that I am, sometimes I find myself obsessing about the numbers.  How many views do I have today?  How many “likes” do I have?  Any new followers?

Crazy right?

I know I just started this magnificently creative, and courageous journey and though I keep telling myself that “every new blog takes time to grow”, I feel a little disappointed in the numbers.  If one of my posts doesn’t have many likes or views, I am starting to wonder about my content.  Is it boring?  Did I post too late or too early?  Should I have certain topics on certain days? Questions that are taking my focus away from my flow of creativity and joy in my writing.  And since I started this blog for two reasons, (to inspire, empower, and motivate others to achieve their dreams as well as to have a creative outlet for my thoughts), I realized that getting the most likes or followers on my blog is not as important and should not be my main focus.

Easy to say, not as easy to do.

So I am redefining success as it pertains to my blog.  Creating a blog and sticking with it was one of my dreams and here I am blogging about it.  I am enjoying the creativity, thoughts, and muses that come about in my daily life because of my blog and am happy to share with others in hopes that as they venture towards their goals, they will know that they are not alone in their journey.  I am enjoying the journey, the connection with other bloggers, and my own space to share my thoughts, visions, words, etc.  I’d say that is a success, a mini success maybe, but a success none the less.  And as my blog continues to grow (and it will), my definition of success may also change.  One day, I might set a goal for a certain number of followers/likes/blog awards etc., but I’m not there yet.  As for today, I am enjoying the process of creating something that matters to me.  And while I will still check out the numbers and statistics (because I’m curious), I will not allow my confidence to waver if I don’t have as much traffic, or “likes”, because while they are great, they are not the reason I am on this journey.  Those things do not define me as a blogger, writer, creator or person, but in time as I continue to make progress in my writing and blogging, those things will grow naturally.  It just takes time and patience. 

That is the great thing about goals.  When you create your dreams or goals, you get to decide what is successful and what isn’t.  For instance, if you are looking to lose a certain amount of weight, you are bound to have a bunch of little successes along the way and it is important to celebrate them as you go.  It builds the momentum and positive energy you will need to stay the course and reach your ultimate goal.  Same thing goes for any goal really.  If you are starting a business, celebrate when you decide on the name of that business.  Celebrate when you find the space for that business.  Celebrate when you have 2 clients, or when you have 10.

The main thing to remember is to celebrate the journey because it is there that you will find many little successes that once built upon, create the life you once dreamt.

Think about it.  How do you define success as it pertains to your most current dream?  I would love to know.