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Why are you settling??? It’s time to break FREE.

September 2, 2015 by Lamisha

photo credit: Butterfly Abstract via photopin (license)
photo credit: Butterfly Abstract via photopin (license)

***Before I get into today’s post, I want to invite you to check out my latest article that has been a huge hit over at The Huffington Post titled : 6 Ways to Find Your Passion & Live Your Purpose. ***

Now for today’s post.

I’ve noticed something over the last few years and it’s really getting under my skin. In fact,  it has become so prevalent and obvious in the last few months I want to set the record straight

Somehow, we have become a culture that believes that while you can have a mostly awesome life, you can’t have everything you want no matter how how hard you try.

There are many people who have come to accept that if you have a fabulous career you love, your relationships have to suck.

OR If you have an amazing relationship, you can’t have all the riches your heart desires.

OR If you have all the money you desire, you might have to enjoy it all alone. (The list goes on. )

It’s as if they believe they are undeserving of having it all and living the life of their dreams is some myth that only happens in fairy tales.

Well I call bullshit.

Who are you not to have it all?

Who are you not to have the love, the riches, the joy, the career, the family, the fame, and anything else your heart desires?

That is what life is all about.  Living, loving, sharing, expanding, and experiencing all that life has to offer.

Do you know what happens when you believe that you can’t have it all?

You settle.

You settle for the parts of your life that aren’t working because you believe that if most of your life is going well, who are you to complain?

But I’m here to tell you this; You don’t have to settle and you certainly don’t have to accept that because 80% of your life IS working that the remaining 20%  has to remain a struggle.

Now, I’ll be honest and say that I USED to think that way.

I thought that if my business was booming and money was flowing that my relationship had to take a fall.  Or if things were really amazing in my love life, then my business and income had to tank.

And you know what happened?  I manifested those very things.

When things were running smoothly in my relationship and in life in general, I somehow sabotaged things in my career.  And when I had a really amazing month in my business, I’d start an argument with my partner.

It as as if I just couldn’t handle all the good at once and I had to have something to worry about.

It took a few years of learning, growing, and lots of life lessons to get to this point, but now I see it and can make changes in my mindset and in my beliefs when I start feeling myself settling.

The truth is, you CAN work through the BS that is holding you back no matter how long you’ve struggled with it…but it’s difficult to do alone.

Lucky for you, this is my specialty and is the EXACT reason I set up the 30-Day Break Free From Stuck program.

If you feel:

  • Like you are settling in your career, relationship, or life in general
  • STUCK in one area of your life that just isn’t working for you
  • Like you’ve done all you can and still can’t make that last 20% of your life work for you

It’s time we had a chat.  I am a firm believer in reaching out and asking for help and I’ve seen amazing miracles happen when I’ve done that myself.

If you are ready to break free and make magic happen in your life once and for all, schedule a free 30-Minute Consultation to chat about what’s going on.

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Filed Under: Authenticity, Being, Challenges, Coaching, Goals, Happiness, Inspiration, Life Tagged With: break free, feeling stuck, freedom, heart desires, intention, life coach, Life Purpose, passion settling, purpose, relationship, sabotage, stuck, The Huffington Post

What’s in your toolbox?

March 31, 2015 by Lamisha

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photo credit: Free space fantasy universe time warp pulsar texture for layers via photopin (license)

Before I get to today’s post, have you completed my brief survey?  If not, I’d love it if you would take a few minutes to share your thoughts with me for a chance to win one of 5 free coaching sessions I will be giving away on Thursday.

I remember many years ago in college I was seeing a mentor/counselor to chat a bit about a relationship I was in and on more than one occasion she asked me what was in my toolbox?

When I was met with a problem or a challenge in my relationship or in my life in general, she wanted to know what tools I was using to cope and help solve those problems.

It was a funny idea as I wasn’t quite sure what type of tools I had at that time, but it was also the beginning of me filling my toolbox with practices, rituals, activities, mindset strategies etc. to help me not just cope and survive life, but to THRIVE.

As it turns out, I’ve done so much research in the last 10 years that I’ve collected a TON of tools and practices that I share with my clients to help them continue to grow and evolve and create a life they ultimately love.

One of the misconceptions about coaching (or at least my style of coaching) is that by hiring a coach you are entering into a long-term relationship where the coach will give you the answers you have been seeking.  That’s actually the exact opposite of what I do.

My mission is to help women like you fill your toolbox with the practices, strategies, knowledge, and other tools that are available to us all to help empower you to be more of who you really are and do more of what you really love.

In a sense, I suppose I’m more of a teacher than a coach, though it doesn’t really matter what you call me. What matters is that you know you don’t have to get the answers from anyone else.  All the answers you are seeking lie within you and it is my job to teach you how to access them.

Is that a business-killer?  I don’t think so.

I like to think of it as me being in the business of empowerment.  I want you to learn the tricks of the trade so you can ride off into the sunset and live that crazy amazing life you’ve been dreaming of.  You don’t need me holding your hand for years to come.  All you need is a toolbox stocked full of tools you can use to tap into the wealth of knowledge that you have lying within you.

I guarantee that in this very moment you have a few things that work for you.  Maybe communication, journaling, art, or writing are some of the tools you use.  That’s perfect!  But, I want to teach you more…a lot more.

In fact, I want to teach you a new tool every week for the rest of the year and the ONLY people that are getting access to this amazing wealth of information right now are my 90-day Breakthrough & 6-Month VIP clients.  For the next month, anyone who registers to work with me in either of those programs will automatically gain access to this Special Bonus that includes a wealth of knowledge that I am calling the Universal Toolbox.

In it you will learn all sorts of tools to help you focus on what you want, shed the layers that are no longer serving you, and tap into the amazing power you have within.

You are going to learn tools and concepts like vibration, energy healing, tapping into your intuition, visualization, forgiveness, gratitude, mantras, affirmations, law of attraction skills, and so much more!

Not only will you learn how to use these tools each week, but you will be able to connect with others learning the same things and you will be invited to an exclusive weekly call to help you implement those tools.  This is a HUGE bonus that will catapult your vibration and manifesting abilities to another stratosphere.

So, are you interested in learning more about this bonus and possibly working together?  If so, let’s schedule a FREE 30-Minute Consultation to chat a bit about how I can help you.

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Filed Under: abundance, Authenticity, Being, Coaching, Inspiration, Intention, journey, Life Tagged With: Bonus, coach, coaching, lessons, practices, relationship, toolbox, Universal tools, Universe

The When/Then Manifesting Pitfall

December 12, 2014 by Lamisha

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When you think of your happiness and what it takes for you to live a happy life, do you find that you mostly feel that way in the present?

Or, do you find yourself falling into what I call the When/Then Manifesting Pitfall.

We all know that when we want to create or manifest a specific thing (be it a career, money, a relationship etc.) it is because we think it will make us feel good.  We search for happiness and want certain things in our lives to feel fulfilled, worthy, and blissful.  But when we are in the process of creating or manifesting those things, we often find ourselves feeling antsy, uncomfortable, and impatient.

We might look around asking “Well where is it?”. 

And if you are like me you might be saying…“When I have the money/car/relationship/career/body I want…THEN I’ll be happy/grateful/fulfilled etc.”

Unfortunately, that’s not how it works.

When you are in manifesting mode, you have to first know that it is coming and enjoy the process.

I have one too many times fallen into the habit of taking score of what I want and how long it takes to get here.  All the while I am missing all of the amazing things around me.  At times in my life I have been a conditional happy person, meaning under certain conditions I would be happy.  (Mostly when things were going really well.)

Falling into the When/Then Pitfall is so easy in our world.  We are constantly on the look out for the next thing to bring about joy that we miss the very thing in front of us that could make us happy now.  And the crazy thing is that in order to manifest what you want, you have to be happy first.

What the career of your dreams? Make peace with the job you have.

What more money? Be grateful for the money you have and enjoy where you are.

What a better relationship? Appreciate the positive aspects your partner brings to the table and simply be happy.

The best thing you can do when you are trying to manifest anything, is start by focusing on what brings you joy in all aspects of your life. 

Find your joy with the in-between time.  As the details are coming together and you haven’t yet reached the ultimate manifestation, know that it is coming and choose joy, happiness, and bliss now.  After all life is to be lived and enjoyed in the present as opposed to some arbitrary moment in the future.

Life is meant to be loved, enjoyed, and appreciated in the moment…always.  Don’t wait for the future to live the life of your dreams…start now with the little moments.

Your action step for the day is to be mindful of all the joy, happiness, and blissful moments you have right in front of you.  Notice them, appreciate them, and welcome them with open arms.  When you do that, I guarantee all those things you have been wanting to manifest will come that much quicker. 🙂

Filed Under: Authenticity, Coaching, Gratitude, Happiness, Inspiration, Intention, Joy, Life, Planning, Practices Tagged With: Bliss, dreams, happiness, happy, joy, Law of attraction, life of dreams, LOA, manifest, manifestation, manifesting, Pitfall, relationship

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