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Wishing you all the best…

December 24, 2014 by Lamisha

As we approach Christmas and the New Year, I have been doing lots of reflecting. Reflecting on the past year and dreaming big for the year ahead. I have lots of new posts brewing and ideas for how I want to show up in the world in the future. But before I do all that, I want you to know how grateful I am to you for supporting me through this journey. For reading my posts, commenting, sharing, and allowing me to be part of your journey. We are in this together and I am looking forward to an amazing year.

Wishing you all the best for the holidays and beyond. May you fill your heart with an amazing vision for what you want to create in 2015. I will be here supporting you every step of the way.

Big love to you all and Happy Holidays!

Confession Time: I Didn’t Listen To My Heart…and I Failed (sort of)

August 20, 2014 by Lamisha

To be honest with you, I have been dreading writing this post. Part of me knew I had to do some processing mentally and emotionally before I could put anything in writing and the other part of me was just plain embarrassed.

Embarrassed of looking like a fraud, a scam, a loser and my worst fear…a FAILURE.

So what did I fail at exactly?

I failed at listening to my intuition when it told me something wasn’t a good fit.

I failed at recognizing the signs that reinforced something wasn’t a good fit.

I failed at standing in my power to declare to myself and YOU that it’s ok to pull the plug on something that isn’t a good fit.

So what is this elusive ‘thing’ that isn’t a good fit?

The 90-Days To Biz Brilliance program.

Yep, the program I was so excited about (initially before the signs) and the same program I put off releasing twice for various reasons (because I clearly ignored the signs.)

The short story is this. I fell into the trap of thinking that other people know me better than myself and while some of my clients are female entrepreneurs, I am not a ‘business coach’. Here’s where it gets a little confusing even for me. The biz brilliance program is actually full of amazing content, support, information, and practices to handle the stuff that comes up when you are creating a business, but it is also good for people NOT in business.

I was excited about the program. I shared it with you and in various other networks happily. I loved the feeling of the program, but something I couldn’t quite put my finger on felt off. The more I shared, the more off it felt. And when the feeling got to be too much, I knew that it wasn’t going to fly, but I was too afraid to pull the plug for fear of looking unprofessional. I didn’t want anyone to think any less of me and to see me the way I was seeing me in that moment…a failure.

But despite all of that this is what I have learned:

I now know what the off feeling feels like in my body and I can use that in the future
I took a HUGE step to create a program that has good bones and can be used in another way…later
I am not a failure
I now have more clarity about what isn’t a good fit for me, which is equally as important as knowing what is
Life (and my business) goes on despite this bump in the road
Listening to my intuition and inner wisdom is always the best way

It is imperative to trust that tiny whisper within that tells you something isn’t right and the nudge you get to go in a particular direction. Learn to listen to yourself and let go of the other stuff that doesn’t feel right for you. Tap into your intuition on a daily basis and allow it to guide you forward. It takes practice, I know especially when you are in business and there are so formulas for ‘success’. Your success will come to you in a way that feels right and fits your path.

Another big thing this experience taught me is that trying is succeeding in its own right, so keep trying. Keep experimenting and keep going. Do you know how many times Albert Einstein ‘failed’ in his experiments before he got one ‘right’? If one of the most amazing scientific geniuses in history can ‘fail’ a few times to get to something incredible, then don’t you think we can too?

Life is about experience, so remember that as you try and try (and try) again. Don’t forget to trust too. Trust is a big part of the process. Knowing that you will get to where you are going as long as you keep going.

P.S. We are entering the last 4 months of the year (where does the time go!) and I know there are dreams and goals that you have been procrastinating on. It’s time to get a Jump Start don’t you think? My 1-month Jump Start package is available to help you take big action and get moving immediately toward your dreams. Haven’t you waited long enough? Get signed up for your free 30-minute consultation to get started for September.

Worst-Case Scenarios & Why I Have No Plan ‘B’

July 9, 2014 by Lamisha

Throughout my life I learned early on that if I could plan for the ‘worst-case scenario’ then I would be fully prepared for anything. If something better happened, I would be delighted, but if the worst case actually occurred, well then I would have a plan of action. Or in the least, I wouldn’t be disappointed.

It worked for a while (and by ‘worked’ I mean life went on and I didn’t question my thoughts too much).

Looking back now, I realize by planning for the worst case scenario, I actually created it.

I’ll give you an example.

Several years ago I was planning a big move for love (I’m such a romantic and lucky for me it worked out because we are now happily married). Being the planner that I was, I didn’t want to move to a new place without a job lined up especially since I was moving 300+ miles away from home and I had no idea what the employment situation was like.

For months I searched from afar and got little to no feedback. I was discouraged and distraught until I finally decided to move anyway. I decided that if I couldn’t find a job right away, my worst-case scenario was that I would simply get a job at Starbucks.

I repeated those same words over and over again to my friends and family members.

“Oh it’s fine. Worst-case scenario I’ll just get a job at Starbucks.”

(You know where this is going right?)

While it wasn’t an absolutely terrible worst case situation, I manifested it exactly.

After a month or so of applying with no luck, I got a job at Starbucks.

Depending on how you look at it you can view this as an incredible manifestation. I fully believed that if all else failed, I would just work at Starbucks…which I did for 6 months.

What’s my point?

Planning for worst-case scenarios have the power to actually create the situation you ‘planned’ for. But do you really want to create a ‘worst case’?

I have learned from that very clear example of my manifestation abilities and no longer plan for those types of situations.

At this stage in my life and business, it means having no Plan B.

There is no ‘worst case scenario’ or alternate plan if my business doesn’t work. It’s not even a thought in my mind because I know that by planning for it, I am giving my very specific and creative power to something I don’t want.

My plan is to succeed and have my business continue to flourish and thrive. That’s my plan…all of it.

So, the thoughts of getting a ‘real job’ are no more because that isn’t an option. The ONLY option is my business and you know why? It’s because it is what I am meant to do.

Sure it’s risky. It’s scary at times. It’s a bit outside the box. Hell, it’s unpredictable more often than not and I am still learning a ton about myself and my business as I go.

BUT

It’s also freeing, fantastic, and the best thing I have ever done…aside from moving for love. Every day I wake up with a purpose. I love my work. I love my clients. And I love the freedom that this journey provides for me.

Yep, this is my purpose and my heart-centered gift to share with the world and despite what seemingly difficult roadblocks I encounter, succeeding in my business is the only option. No more Plan B or worst-case scenarios for this girl.

Nope, I’m putting my all into my business and by doing that there is no way I can fail.

Your Actionable Item: Today I want you to take a look back over your life to see where you might have planned for the ‘worst-case’. Did it happen? Are you planning for one now? Is it something you want to create? If not, what DO you want to create?

Do you have a Plan B for if your dreams don’t come true? I want to know your thoughts so share them in the comments below.

And if you have a heart-centered business that you are ready to bring a bit of brilliance to, I have good news for you. My 90-Days to Biz Brilliance group coaching program is open for registration! The program officially begins August 7th and I am so excited to finally bring this to life. I know that your work is important to you and if it is feeling less than brilliant at the moment, it’s time for a change. Why not get together with other amazing souls going through a similar experience to grow and transform your biz? This is your chance! If you register by July 21st, you are also going to receive my Invest in Yourself self-study program (valued at $97) before it is even available for sale.

I want this program to reach as many amazing biz beauties as possible so will you help me by sharing this with your network and tribe?

2013 Reflection-Look How Far You’ve Come

December 26, 2013 by Lamisha

Hello my lovely dreamers!

I apologize for my sudden time off of the blog, but with Christmas and some pending deadlines just before the holiday, I found myself a bit scattered. As I work to get back on track, I thought I would share with you a bit about what the next week and a half will be about here on the blog.

As the New Year approaches, many of us are looking to make some changes. Some big and maybe a few small changes and as we plan to make 2014 the best year yet, I have a few things planned here on the blog.

Last year, I wrote a few posts about how I was going to plan for 2013 with a Letter to Myself, a vision board, and selecting a theme for the year. This year, I have a few ideas for making changes for the new year along with some other inspiring posts to get us all started on the right foot. I hope you will join me in this end of year reflection and planning as the new year approaches. I have a feeling it’s going to be a good one for all of us.

The process of reflection is an important piece that many of us miss as we look to make changes. We get so excited for what is to come, that we often forget to look back at all of our accomplishments and challenges. This is meant to give you a clear picture of how far you have come as well as provide an opportunity to really celebrate the past year. The lessons, challenges, and successes are all part of how you got to where you are today and reflecting on that can be invaluable for the future. Michelle Ward keeps track of her “wins” throughout the year so she can reflect back on it at the end of the year in celebration. You can read her 2013 re-cap here.

Even if you haven’t collected your wins throughout the year, this exercise is a great way to get started on your reflection. Think back to all the things you started, made progress on, and completed in the past year. Write them down, celebrate them and recognize your progress. You might even take it one step further and take note of any challenges you overcame during the year that you are particularly proud of.

Every year is something to celebrate and before you begin to make plans for 2014, take a step back and review how far you have come.

My list of wins include:

Taking the leap to create my coaching framework (April)
Successfully working with my wonderful guinea pig client (May)
Reaching my 1 year mark of blogging (October)
Working with a total of 5 clients (from August to December)

While I am sure there are many others that I am missing, the biggest thing for me this year was taking the leap into my dream career and committing myself to helping clients live their dreams. It is my gift, my calling, and my purpose and I love doing what I do.

Take some time this week to reflect on 2013. What wins would you put on your list?

Endings and New Beginnings

December 16, 2013 by Lamisha

I suppose it is fitting that endings and new beginnings have been on my mind as of late. As the year quickly comes to a close many people are taking advantage of this time to make plans for the new year while reflecting on what they have accomplished this year. While I don’t think it’s necessary to stay focused in the past for too long, it is important to reflect on how far you have come, where you are going, and what changes you want to make.

As my most recent full-time position ended on Friday, I found myself in the most wonderful (and weird) state of peace. While I have never been laid off from any position, there was something about this position ending during at this time of the year that felt so right. All along I have felt that this situation just happened perfectly and that in 3, 6, or even 12 months in the future, I will look back on this moment and know that this was the turning point to something bigger. As I sit here and write this, I have no idea what that might be, but I am so excited to find out.

I wasn’t always this easy about change. There was once a time in my life when even the most simple changes threw me for a loop. Something so small as changing my schedule could throw my entire day off. A flat tire? Bad weather? Anything out of my ordinary expectations would ruin my entire day and we aren’t even talking about money. Money issues are an entirely different story. Yet, here I am looking into a future that is far more unknown than is known and I am peaceful, happy even. I have faith that it will work out. I will find my next thing and it will be the perfect situation for what I need in that moment. I’m not worried and for me that is a little bit weird.

How about you? How well do you deal with change? With this year coming to a close are there things that you are ready to move on from and other things you want to get started? I’m sure you may have a laundry list of things that you would like to implement into this new year and maybe even some things that you are ready to close the door on. Whatever that might be for you, I would love the chance to chat with you about it. I am still scheduling free-intro sessions for anyone who is interested. So, if you are looking for someone to help you create some simple, yet inspiring action steps to get you moving into your new beginnings with ease, I’m your girl. Simply contact me and we can get you well on your way to an amazing start to 2014. I can’t wait to see what is in store!
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