Lamisha Serf-Walls

As good as it gets…

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photo credit: .163: Valle de Bravo via photopin (license)

Fact: You only grow in your life to the degree you THINK you are capable of growing.

You simply can’t hope, wish, and wonder your way there friends.  You must BELIEVE in yourself.

I’m seeing far too many people following the path of “This is as good as it gets for me.” all the while complaining about it.

They complain about their bank account, their weight, their loved ones, their car, their job and yet they do nothing about it.  It’s not that they don’t think there is something better out there.  Of course they believe that!  They just don’t think it’s available to them. 

You see, some of us have fallen into the trap of “It doesn’t work for me.” without ever trying to actually make a change.  They limit themselves by the labels they identify with and accept as truth.

  • They believe in lack because that’s all they see in front of them.
  • They believe in hopelessness because they haven’t given any creative thought to something better.
  • They believe in “this is as good as it gets” because no one told them otherwise.

Well I am here to tell YOU otherwise.

Take a moment to look around you.  Look at your job, bank account, relationships, self-esteem, home, car, community, and family.

Do you LIKE what you see?  Does it FEEL good to think about?  Are you HAPPY?

Let me ask you another question.

If you aren’t happy- have you ever expected anything more than what is directly in front of you?

Likely not.

Because if you did, the scene you are seeing before you would be different.  A LOT different.

You’d likely see more money and love, more joy and bliss, more confidence and support.  You’d feel happy, blissful, lucky, blessed, and you would know that you could have more of anything you desire because YOU are the creator of your own reality.

But you see the “this is as good as it gets” people don’t see it that way.  Instead they see themselves as victims.  Life just happens to them.  They point the finger, place the blame, and look to others as the reason they aren’t further than they want to be in life.  They feel out of control of their own lives without ever understanding that THEY are actually creating their own reality with each new thought they think.

Do you know how I know this?

It’s because I WAS THAT PERSON.

I blamed everyone for the wrongs in my life.  The shitty job, awful boss, the lack of money, the unsuccessful relationship, the friendships torn apart and the flat on the side of the road.  Life was happening to me and the statement I heard my mom say on more than one occasion range true for me.  “Life’s a bitch and then you die.”

THAT is the truth I expected and accepted for YEARS.

Until one day…I got curious.

I picked up one book after another looking for answers and wanting desperately to FEEL better.

Unfortunately, I was still looking for someone to come in and FIX my life.  Back then we didn’t have Iyanla Vanzant so, I was stuck, fed up, and repeating the same old cycle over and over and over again.

I wish I could tell you the moment that changed everything, but I can’t.  What I can tell you is that the moment I realized I was the cause of all of my pain, suffering, and negativity- I was a bit pissed!

Why didn’t I know this sooner?

Why didn’t someone tell me?

And better yet, how the hell was I supposed to change years of programming????

That is when my journey into mindset work really began.  It began by taking back my power and choosing to see the good around me.  Choosing to shift my thoughts on a daily basis and eventually create a mindset practice that would set me up for success in the long run.

I’ve been doing this work for years and each year I learn and grow more than before.  With each new belief I shift, I lay the foundation for more success, love, joy, adventure, and money to flow my way and it is not by accident.  It is by design.

I guess what I’m trying to say is no matter what you see before you, this isn’t “as good as it gets” unless you want it to be.

You hold the power to create your reality wherever you go and if you don’t know anything about shifting your reality by shifting your beliefs you MUST be a part of my mindset program.  Registration officially closes tonight at midnight EST and I’d hate for you to miss the chance to get in.  I will NOT be opening this program again until 2017 so if you want in, now is the time!

Hit the button below for more information and to check out the newly added payment plan option.

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If you want it…it’s time to COMMIT!

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photo credit: Leap and the Net Will Appear by Wayne Stratz via photopin (license)

I’m not a ‘hustler’.

Never have been.  But, I often feel an urgency pop up when it comes to my work and life purpose.

An urgency to share my message and shout from every roof top about how we ALL have the power to create whatever kind of life we choose and we are NOT bound by our past or present.

Today is one of those days.

As a business owner early on I thought I needed to ‘convince’ people that they needed what I was offering.  I now realize that’s not my mission.  My mission is to be a messenger, a leader, a truth-seeker and teller to help the people who are READY to dive in and live a life of purpose, passion, and flow do so.

I’m not here to convince you to be happier, to hire me or to anything differently than what you are doing now…UNLESS you are already ready.

And the truth is YOU know who you are right?

  • If you already feel the pull to do something MORE and are asking yourself the question of “Is this all there is to life?  Surely there’s something else.”  You may be that person.
  • If you are finding yourself searching through books, blogs, videos, and courses to find the key to happiness, but maybe you have some butterflies in your stomach about taking the leap.  You may be that person.
  • And if you are reading this and you’ve been feeling the pull to step up, play big, and let your light shine in this world, but maybe aren’t completely sure what’s in your way.  You ARE that person.

For those of you who ARE that person, today is the first day of the rest of your life because you are going to do something (provided you take action today) that will forever change the trajectory and energy of your life.

Today, I want you to COMMIT to that new life, higher vision, new reality, expanded possibility, dream, goal, or opportunity you’ve been thinking about.

I want you to DECIDE it’s happening, it’s yours, it’s done, it’s on the way, and without worrying about the ‘how’, I want you to do 1 thing to support that vision.

It might be that you make a phone call, send an email, pitch a story, research new homes, sign up for a dating site, buy a website domain or something else.

Maybe you decide today is the day you finally schedule a consultation to get some support to transform your life.

Whatever you do today, I want you to COMMIT to the outcome and then take ACTION and then I want you to post a comment below with what your commitment is and what you plan on doing.

Don’t wait around for the ‘perfect’ time when all the pieces are in place because honestly, that typically doesn’t happen until you take the first step.

So, what are you waiting for?

Schedule FREE 30-Minute Consultation

 

I’m Afraid to Tell You This…

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photo credit: Nebel via photopin (license)

There have been many moments in the last 2 years when I’ve wanted to share something with you but have been afraid of what you might think.  I’ve held back and decided it might not be the right time or a good idea for fear of how it might change what you think of me.

But, I know I’m not doing you or myself any favors by not sharing the not so happy parts of my journey and as I was thinking over the last few months, I realized it’s time to share this with you.

I’ve been afraid to tell you about the 5-month period in 2014 when I thought I was going to have to close my business and give up on my dream.  It was something I never thought I would do, but there were moments when I didn’t think I had a choice.

Lucky for me, I did.

From May – September last year, I struggled to make my business work.  I had a handful of clients and the number was slowly dwindling down to almost nothing.  But it wasn’t just that,  I was struggling with something far worse…my identity.

I knew I wanted to coach.  I knew I was meant for this work and I knew without a shadow of a doubt that this was my path.  The problem came when I couldn’t quite figure out what I wasn’t doing ‘right’ in order to make my business thrive.

Looking back it became completely clear:  I was allowing others to be my guru instead of listening to my intuition.

In fact, it got so bad at one point, I was questioning my skills, my coaching, and my dream of helping other women make their dream a reality.

On more than one night I cried out of fear, worry, and pure disappointment that somehow my entire path was being thrown off and I had somehow missed the mark.  What was true was I had missed the mark, but it wasn’t in my path, it was by allowing someone else to throw me off it.

My heart and soul knew exactly what I needed to do, but I didn’t trust it.  I allowed certain mentors and coaches lead the way because I was so new to it all, I thought they knew everything.  And the truth is, they did…for their own path, but not for mine.

It took 5 months of desperation, fear, and distracted worry to lead me back to what I set out to do in the beginning…change lives.

It took many tearful nights and a whole lot of doubt for me to get to a space of clarity to see that yes I did know how to make things happen and I could listen to that inner voice inside that was telling me all along it would all work out.

Turns out she’s pretty smart.

Looking back on those moments, I am so glad I didn’t give up.  I’m glad that I reached out to the right mentors that didn’t tell me what to do or try to convince me to do it their way.

I found people that would support me in my vision, who believed in me, and helped me tap into that power deep inside that helped me stay the course and not give up.

Did they question me when I became too fearful to fly?

Yes, but out of love and the desire to see me soar.  But what they did for me more than anything else is remind me that above all else, I have to follow my heart-the very thing I teach all of my clients.

You see coaching isn’t about leading you in one direction or another or telling you how to do something.  It’s a co-creative journey that when done well, will lead you back to the power you have had all along to create the amazing life of your dreams.  Coaching is about clarifying your desires, uncovering your fears and other blocks, and empowering you in a way that reminds you, anything is possible.

I learned early on with the right support, you can make anything happen and it’s exactly why I do what I do.

After those scary 5 months of uncertainty, I now stand taller and more proud of my decisions because I know I am making them from the heart and honestly, there is nothing better.

0001-23099893If you have a dream that you aren’t ready to let go of and you need someone to support you along the way, I have 2 spots left in my Breakthrough program for February before my rates increase March 1st.  Now is the time to make the commitment to yourself and the dream that has been following you for years. Are you ready to take that next step? If so, I invite you to sign up for a free 30-Minute Consultation to chat about how I might be able to help you.  If I am not the right coach for you, I promise to help you find one that is.

 

 

Living My Dream

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Wow what a difference a year makes!  Today is officially the one year anniversary for my blog.  It started as a past-time to keep me inspired and engaged while I waited for the pieces to fall into place for my ultimate dream career.  When I began I didn’t think that a year in I would have launched my business and be on my way to helping others follow their hearts to do the same.  It’s been a pretty amazing journey and looking back I can see how creating this blog was the single step that built the momentum for the rest of it to fall into place.

realityWhen I began, I had this preconceived notion of how my dream would take shape.  In my mind the path was logical, realistic, but boy did it feel hard.  I thought that was how it was supposed to be.  You always hear people talking about working hard, never giving up, and making sacrifices to live the life of their dreams, so I thought sure enough I was on the right path.  The only problem was that the more I wrote, the more my desire grew.  I wanted to feel like I was making progress, right now.  I couldn’t figure out how to reconcile my passion with the idea that I had to save a large sum of money, invest 6 months of my time to do something that I have always been doing.  Wasn’t the realistic way the only way?  In April, I realized the realistic way is only one way to make something happen.

It was then that I took a leap of faith.  By simply declaring (to myself) that I was going to create my own coaching model utilizing my experience, Masters in Psychology, and the many tools I have learned along the way, I took the seemingly small step that helped me create what I have today.  Did I know everything at that moment? Of course not.  But I set the intention and the flood gates of ideas opened and the pieces fell into place.  Before I knew it I had created my coaching model and began working with two guinea pig clients who have made some incredible progress!

Am I still learning?  Yes and boy am I learning a lot!  I am learning the ins and outs of business.  I am learning how to better serve my clients and how to grow into this new dream that I held so close to my heart for over a decade.

So what held me back all these years?  I was bound by reality.  Like the caged bird who knows only how to live, breathe, and survive behind bars, I allowed myself to be contained in the logical world.  I thought everyone worked a job they hated just to make ends meet and that only the lucky/rich/free people were able to do the things they wanted to simply because they loved it.  For many years my actions were driven by the need to fulfill my responsibilities in life.  Bills, work, and taking care of my family were all reasons I succumbed to the idea that I couldn’t live with my head in the clouds any longer.

I was wrong.  dream life

Today, one year into this blogging journey and only a few months into my business, I am excited for what the future holds.  I am eager to help clients break free from their perceived limitations in time, money, space, etc. so they too can feel the freedom of living a life of passion while still taking care of all the other stuff too!  You can have it all!  The time, the joy, the family, the money, the career that sets your soul on fire…all of it!  All it takes is one little step forward to get the momentum going.  And I can tell you from where I stand in my own journey, it is an incredible feeling to be living my dream and while I am still growing, evolving, and learning, I wouldn’t change it for the world.

Don’t wait another minute to live the life you were meant to live, to use the gifts you have to give to the world, and to do what makes you happy.  Life is too short to put your happiness off for another moment.

I would be honored to help you move along your journey to living the life you once dreamt.  Interested in working with me and taking advantage of the incredible pay what you can deal from yesterday?  Send me an email at lamisha@lifeoncedreamt.com or contact me here to get a free 30 minute coaching session to get started.  I promise you won’t be sorry you did.

The Real Deal…

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When I first set out to create my blog, I had this idea to keep most posts upbeat and positive.  I wanted this to be a place of inspiration, motivation, and information to help people move confidently in the direction of their dreams.  I wanted it to be a space of uplifting posts, quotes, and tips to help readers focus on the positive.  As a life coach, I thought it was my duty to keep things light, bright, and positive all the time.

I was wrong.

What I think makes me good at what I do is the fact that I am human and I struggle with many of the same issues my clients do.  I have bad days full of frustration, doubt, and sometimes fear.  I have had my experience with the Dream Crusher on more than one occasion, and there are days when I need to be reminded that I have the power and ability to live the life of my dreams.

I am not perfect.  Authenticity

I don’t always pounce out of bed with a beaming smile and positive attitude.  Sometimes I try too hard and more often than not, I need to take a step back from the immediate issue and look at the bigger picture.  My life isn’t always sunshine and rainbows.  I often struggle with disappointment and worry as I move through my journey and instead of sharing those moments with you, I have remained silent.

There have been many days when I wanted to share something uplifting, but I simply wasn’t in that state of mind and instead of sharing with you my perspective and how I am learning to deal with various situations, I write nothing at all.  I have allowed my idea of being a super-human up-lifter get in the way of sharing my authentic self with you.  For that I am sorry.

Does it make me any less of a coach to confess that I don’t always have it together?  I don’t think so.  In fact, I think it makes me a more effective coach because I know what it is like to have down moments in life.  We all do.  And while I admit to having my fair share of struggles, I also have a variety of tools that I use to help combat those not-so-positive moments and they are tools that I want to share with you.

The truth is I love what I do.  I love working with people and helping them follow their inspiration to live the life of their dreams, but I don’t want to misrepresent myself in the process.  I am an up-lifter that sometimes needs to be uplifted and I’m ok with that, because isn’t that what life is all about?  It’s not about being perfect, it’s about learning, sharing, and experiencing life as much as possible.  And I have to say, if it wasn’t for the struggles I have (and will) encounter in life, I wouldn’t be able to help my clients deal with their own, because sometimes you have to go through it to understand it.