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4 Questions to ask when you feel stuck in life

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“I feel stuck in my life and I don’t know what to do!!!”

One of the things I see and hear way too often are people constantly, consistently, and continuously saying just how stuck and lost they feel.

They say it, think it, believe it, share it, tweet it, and write about it non-stop, all the while not realizing that they are actively creating more situations to feel stuck.  (I know it’s a viscous cycle.)

And believe it or not, I’ve found myself in those situations a time or two (or 10 if I’m honest) and it sucks.  I also know how absolutely real those feelings are and how you literally have no idea what to do.

But here’s the truth:

Your words matter.  They hold energy and they are actively creating your future!

(All day, everyday, no exceptions)

So, why not use more empowering language that will not only help you feel better, but also invite miracles into your life?

Here are 4 questions to ask yourself when you feel stuck in life.   The best part is that YOU don’t even have to come up with the answers!  How’s that for easy?

  • How does it get any better than this????  This very magical question can work in multiple ways.  When you are feeling amazing and life is unfolding perfectly, you can say it, write it, think it, chant it etc. and welcome in more awesomeness into your life.  You can also use it when things are tough and you feel a bit stuck.  By simply asking the Universe “How does it get any better than this?”, you are inviting the Universe to show you.  And believe me when I say, you will begin seeing the shifts almost immediately!  (Go ahead, give it a go!)

 

  • What would it take for me to _______???  This question is particularly useful when you find yourself at a loss for what to do next.  Posing this question in your daily mindset practice or whenever you feel stuck is just another way of asking for assistance and signs from the Universe.  I use this question for both seemingly big and small things and it works wonders.  Everything from “What would it take for me to get to my appointment safely and on time?” to “What would it take for me to have more than enough money for all that I want and need for the next 50 years?”–this question is powerful and can be used for virtually anything.  The key with this one is to pay attention to any and all ideas and nudges that come up for you after posing the question.  It’s very likely the Universe is giving you your answer.
  • What do I need to do to (be, have, do) ______?  Similar to the last question, this one asks specifically what do in order to fulfill whatever desire you have.  My suggestion for this question as well as the last is to work these into your daily journaling or mindset work consistently and see what ideas pop up for you.  Remember, you may not receive an instant booming voice in your head (you actually may never hear that anyway), but as you proceed through your days you will be guided.  Just listen and act.
  • How did I ______ so easily/quickly? This one is a bit different in that it plays a bit off of the affirmation idea and turns it into a question.  The idea is that you set up the question as if you have already received or experienced what you desire and you are asking how it happened so easily or quickly.  Again, the Universe is set up in a way that there are no questions without answers and when you ask this question, you will be led to the answers. Guaranteed.

I encourage you to use these questions for the next 7 days or so and see what happens.  Be playful about it and work it into your day through your mindset practice or have them pop up on your phone and then start noticing what you notice.  Become the observer in your life.

One more tip:  Try not to get too serious about this either.  At times we (ahem I) can get a bit too serious and start searching high and low for the answers which can stop the flow.  So, ask the questions and let it go, then watch the signs and synchronicities that unfold for you.

Want more help?  I’m currently only taking a handful of new clients for the summer and I’d love for you to be one if you feel moved to reach out.  Hit the link below and let’s see if we are a good fit.

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You don’t know, what you don’t know…

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photo credit: Puzzled via photopin (license)

A few years ago when I was still working in the corporate world, I had a boss that used to say “They don’t know, what they don’t know and it is our job to teach them”.

At the time it didn’t really make sense and since I didn’t care much for this particular boss and how she ran the company, I just let it go.

But, just the other day I was chatting with my wife and that quote came to mind and it totally resonated.

It was like a light switch had turned on and I finally understood what she meant and it 100% applies to what I do in my work every single day.

Truth be told, I’m more than a coach.  I am much more of a teacher and the coaching work I do helps to bring to light the things that my amazing clients can’t quite see.

I help them tune into the things they can’t tune into.

I help them break through the mental blocks they didn’t know they had.

And then I TEACH them how to do all of that themselves (using tools like the ones I teach in the Grow, Evolve, Become program) because my work is all about EMPOWERMENT.

Now, does this mean I can help everyone in the world? No.

And even if it did mean that, it’s really not my purpose.

The women who are destined to work with me are already undergoing a transformation.  They know that there is something out there that they don’t quite know and subconsciously they are seeking a way to find the answer.  They may not even know it until it pops up in their newsfeed or they stumble upon one of my articles.

In fact this very thing happened for one of my recent clients:

“There is an expression that “when the student is ready, the teacher will appear.”  How grateful am I that Lamisha was that teacher and the Universe literally put her in my path, because that is what happened: Lamisha appeared in my Facebook feed and, through conversation, we found each other.” ~ V.F.

 

That is the true magic of this work.  When you are ready for change (and you are open), the person, group, network, or resource you need just pops up seemingly from out of nowhere and when you follow your inspired action-magic happens.

So what kinds of things don’t people know?

Some people:

  • Don’t know that THEY are the creators of their own reality and have the ability to create a life they LOVE.
  • Aren’t aware of how important how they FEEL is to creating that amazing life
  • Don’t know about the Law of Attraction
  • Aren’t clear on the ways they are blocking what they desire from coming into their lives
  • Don’t know that it can be EASY
  • Just don’t know HOW to make it all happen

Do any of those things resonate for you?

Today, I want you to ask yourself a few questions:

  • What do I LOVE about my life?
  • What do I ACHE for in my future?
  • What don’t I know that might change my life and future forever?
  • What do I need to DO right now to move me forward?

It may be hard to figure out what it is you don’t know right now because, well you don’t know it, but you might just get an answer that surprises you.  Be open to what may come up and LISTEN.

And if you are feeling the pull to reach out for help, why not schedule a Free 30-Minute Connection Call?  I’d love to chat with you and learn a bit more about you and help in any way I can.

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2 Questions You Need to Ask Yourself Today

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photo credit: Remnants via photopin (license)

There are 2 things I ask every single client and they are questions I am going to challenge you to ask yourself today.

But, before you do that, I want you to know that the answers you give to these questions will indeed change your life for the better.

And I would venture to say that these are questions you may not have thought to ask yourself before now.

1. What do I want?

This sounds like a very obvious question to ask especially if your interest is to create a life you love, because how can you create a life you love if you don’t know what you want?  But, most people simply settle for what they have in their current reality.  They may desire a bit more money, more free time, and a few more vacations but other than that, they don’t think much about what it is that they want.

So, what do you want?  What does your dream life look like?  If I had a magic wand and I could give you exactly what you are asking for in full detail right this very moment, would you have the clarity to make the most out of your one wish?  Chances are you wouldn’t.  Today I challenge you to grab a journal or a piece of paper and write down exactly what you want out of life.  Focus in full detail on how you want to feel and how that looks in life for you.  What are your key emotional markers for the life of your dreams?

2. What do I need to do right now that I’ve been avoiding?

Most people think that the answers they are seeking lie outside of them and they must go find them.  That’s actually not an accurate depiction of where your answers are.  The answers you seek lie within you, right here, right now.  And when most of us feel stuck in a rut or like we are on the hamster wheel of life, we overlook the thing we know we need to do get us moving forward again.

So, what is it you need to do right now that you’ve been avoiding?  I asked this question to a client who was feeling pretty stuck in a certain situation.  After a brief pause, she had listed 3 things she needed to do to move forward and they were things she had been avoiding out of fear, anxiety, and just plain worry.  Whatever answer you get to this question, go do it.  Take action and watch the Universe work its magic to help support you in your cause.  I promise that is the secret to creating a life you love.

 

Let’s keep the conversation going.  What answer did you get that surprised you a bit? Share your thoughts in the comments below.  I’d love to hear your answers!