Lamisha Serf-Walls

4 Questions to ask when you feel stuck in life

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“I feel stuck in my life and I don’t know what to do!!!”

One of the things I see and hear way too often are people constantly, consistently, and continuously saying just how stuck and lost they feel.

They say it, think it, believe it, share it, tweet it, and write about it non-stop, all the while not realizing that they are actively creating more situations to feel stuck.  (I know it’s a viscous cycle.)

And believe it or not, I’ve found myself in those situations a time or two (or 10 if I’m honest) and it sucks.  I also know how absolutely real those feelings are and how you literally have no idea what to do.

But here’s the truth:

Your words matter.  They hold energy and they are actively creating your future!

(All day, everyday, no exceptions)

So, why not use more empowering language that will not only help you feel better, but also invite miracles into your life?

Here are 4 questions to ask yourself when you feel stuck in life.   The best part is that YOU don’t even have to come up with the answers!  How’s that for easy?

  • How does it get any better than this????  This very magical question can work in multiple ways.  When you are feeling amazing and life is unfolding perfectly, you can say it, write it, think it, chant it etc. and welcome in more awesomeness into your life.  You can also use it when things are tough and you feel a bit stuck.  By simply asking the Universe “How does it get any better than this?”, you are inviting the Universe to show you.  And believe me when I say, you will begin seeing the shifts almost immediately!  (Go ahead, give it a go!)

 

  • What would it take for me to _______???  This question is particularly useful when you find yourself at a loss for what to do next.  Posing this question in your daily mindset practice or whenever you feel stuck is just another way of asking for assistance and signs from the Universe.  I use this question for both seemingly big and small things and it works wonders.  Everything from “What would it take for me to get to my appointment safely and on time?” to “What would it take for me to have more than enough money for all that I want and need for the next 50 years?”–this question is powerful and can be used for virtually anything.  The key with this one is to pay attention to any and all ideas and nudges that come up for you after posing the question.  It’s very likely the Universe is giving you your answer.
  • What do I need to do to (be, have, do) ______?  Similar to the last question, this one asks specifically what do in order to fulfill whatever desire you have.  My suggestion for this question as well as the last is to work these into your daily journaling or mindset work consistently and see what ideas pop up for you.  Remember, you may not receive an instant booming voice in your head (you actually may never hear that anyway), but as you proceed through your days you will be guided.  Just listen and act.
  • How did I ______ so easily/quickly? This one is a bit different in that it plays a bit off of the affirmation idea and turns it into a question.  The idea is that you set up the question as if you have already received or experienced what you desire and you are asking how it happened so easily or quickly.  Again, the Universe is set up in a way that there are no questions without answers and when you ask this question, you will be led to the answers. Guaranteed.

I encourage you to use these questions for the next 7 days or so and see what happens.  Be playful about it and work it into your day through your mindset practice or have them pop up on your phone and then start noticing what you notice.  Become the observer in your life.

One more tip:  Try not to get too serious about this either.  At times we (ahem I) can get a bit too serious and start searching high and low for the answers which can stop the flow.  So, ask the questions and let it go, then watch the signs and synchronicities that unfold for you.

Want more help?  I’m currently only taking a handful of new clients for the summer and I’d love for you to be one if you feel moved to reach out.  Hit the link below and let’s see if we are a good fit.

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Losing Millions….

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I have a confession to make and it’s probably something you might not be able to guess about me, though after I share the whole story, it will make total sense.

My secret guilty pleasure is that I LOVE watching documentaries about where Lottery winners are now.

—> It’s not because I play the lottery, though I do on occasion.
—> It’s not because I want to be up to date with the latest high ticket items to purchase.
—> And it’s not even because I want to use it as a way to envision myself as a millionaire.

Honestly, I watch it because I am incredibly fascinated by the MINDSET behind each winner and how it ties into where they are now.  (I’m a mindset nerd, I know!)

I’ve watched a ton of these shows and what’s amazing is I can see a common thread in all of them as it relates to who still has their money (or even more) and who has squandered it away and is now broke. Can you guess what it is?

It’s all about their growth mindset and upper limit set point.

You see, every one of us has an upper limit set point based on our current mindset.  Based on our past experiences and the mindset work we have done (or not done) we have a certain amount of love, joy, peace, abundance, health, excitement etc. that we can comfortably allow in our lives.

Once we approach that upper limit, our ego gets a bit frightened and feels unsafe.  It immediately wants to bring us back down to our “normal” range, even if what’s been normal for us is incredibly uncomfortable.

Imagine for a moment you want to lose 50 lbs but in reality you only imagine that you can really lose about 25.  As you approach that 25lb marker or a bit beyond that, your ego gets a bit snarky and scared and you find some reason (usually subconsciously) to sabotage your progress to bring you back down to what is “normal” for you.

The same thing happens with money (or anything else for that matter).  The reason many lottery winners go bankrupt after winning millions of dollars is because their mindset didn’t change when they won that money.

Their reality shifted dramatically, but their mindset didn’t and so they had to go back to what was “normal” for them.

It seems a bit crazy, I know, but think back to your life for a moment.

Have you ever noticed that there are times when things are going really good for you, it feels a bit uncomfortable?  Or maybe when things get too good you find yourself sabotaging it in some way, shape, or form and before you know it you are back to where you started?

Maybe it’s with money, weight, relationships, your career, or something else entirely, but no matter what the topic is…the issue is the same.  You’ve hit your upper limit.

So what do you do to make sure you don’t lose your proverbial millions?

It boils down to these three things…

  • Become aware of your upper limit set point
  • Understand your sabotaging behavior when things get too good
  • Actively grow your mindset so as you approach that upper limit, it actually transforms to a new level

Believe me when I say that the upper limit problem that Gay Hendricks discusses in his book The Big Leap is a very real thing.  I’ve experienced it over and over again with each new level I’ve reached in my life and business and understanding how it works and actively working on your mindset is the key to limiting the effects of the ULP in your life.

And you know what?  It’ ALL leads back to MINDSET.

Yes, I know.  I talk about mindset until I’m blue in the face, but I promise it is more important than you know and it is where all your power lies.  It’s also why I decided to put together this FREE 5-Day Mindset Challenge for my tribe starting Monday.

Starting Monday, we are going to help you understand what is going on in that beautiful mind of yours and give you some tools to transform those thoughts so you can continue to grow and expand your life in truly magical ways with or without your upper limit.

If you sign up, everyday next week you are going to be receiving the challenge step of the day in your inbox with an exercise for you to complete that day.

If you choose, you can also join us in the MindPower Collective group on Facebook to share your experiences and enter yourself to win some 1:1 coaching and free entry into the next round of the Miracle Mindset Immersion group program coming soon!

The challenge kicks off on Monday!  Are you ready?

Join us over in the MindPower Collective group and remember to post your exercises in the challenge threads to enter yourself to win some awesome goodies!

Transform your life with this simple question…

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This is the amazing shift I experienced in the last week or so and it’s SO powerful I had to share it with you.

This is only ONE of the many tools I’ll be sharing in my Miracle Mindset Immersion program that begins May 2nd and I’d love for you to join us if you feel like you could use a bit of shifting in any area of your life.  Hit the button below to learn more about what the program entails.

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5 Ways to Raise Your Vibration NOW

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The other day I got an  email from one of my awesome clients.  We have been working on really being intentional and utilizing the Law of Attraction on a daily basis and she had a great question.

What are some of the best ways to raise your vibration and what do you do when you are dealing with a life challenge or grief.

Now, the easy answer to that is anything that makes you feel good, but to be more specific, I’ve put together a list of 10 things you can do to raise your vibration right now.

1.  Meditate– This is one that Abraham Hicks talks about all the time because when we are in meditation we generally let our monkey mind have a break and we settle into the current moment.  When we focus on our breath and are dealing with the here and now, we are at peace and our vibration rises.  It’s also during that time we can connect with our higher selves and the Universe in order to raise our vibration even more.  A quick 5-minute meditation can do wonders.

2. Visualize– Visualization is one of my favorite tools for manifesting and raising your vibration!  When you think about that thing you are trying to manifest and it makes you feel good and as if it’s happening for your right now, your vibration increases and it even brings your manifestation to you faster. For some people, visualization is simply a reminder of what they don’t have which creates the opposite effect, so if this makes you feel bad-don’t do it.

3. Intend to increase your vibration– This one is tricky, but it’s another one of my favorites.  Say you want to attract a certain amount of money into your life and you know you need to raise your vibration to match that of the money you are attracting.  You can totally do that without knowing exactly how to raise your vibration by simply setting the intention to do so.  Close your eyes and imagine something you want to manifest right now.  When you have it in your mind’s eye say to your self- “I intentionally raise my vibration to match that of _____.” When you do that, you may feel a bit of tingling or energy moving around your body indicating your vibration is raising.  Give it a try and see what happens for you.

4.  Take a nap– Another one of my favorites when things feel really difficult and I’m resisting like crazy is to let go and take a nap.  When you sleep your mind has a chance to reset and your vibration naturally raises.  Even a short 20-30 minute nap can significantly raise your vibration and you can hop back into action in no time!

5.  Write a Love List– When I’m having a low moment and I need to infuse my life with positivity I will often write a love list.  This is simply a list of all the things you love.  As you write each item, thing, person or place you can visualize it and feel the love radiating through your body.  Love is the highest vibration of all so if you did this everyday, you could easily raise your vibration and manifest much faster.

Now, what do you do when you are going through a legitimately tough time in life or are dealing with grief?

It can be difficult (or darn right impossible) to jump on the happy wagon to feel better right away.  My personal suggestion for when you are feeling down in the dumps or are struggling with a major life upheaval is this.

Feel the feels that come with it.  Resisting how you feel only lowers your vibration, but crying actually releases it and raises your vibes.  I’m a crier…about everything.  Happy, sad, angry, frustrated etc. I cry.  But when I’m done, I almost always feel 100% better (though with puffy eyes I certainly don’t look it.)

If you are going through a tough time, be kind to yourself.  Don’t think you have to pull yourself up by the bootstraps and just shove all your feelings down.  Feel the feels, breathe, drink water, and listen to what your body is asking for and do that.  And when you can as often as you can, choose a better feeling thought.

Watch a funny movie.  Connect with friends.  Read a good book.  Listen to music.  Do something that will raise your vibes even for a little while because it will definitely help and know that you won’t be there forever.

And if you need some additional support, know you can always reach out for help.  In fact, I’d like to invite you to schedule a FREE-30 Minute consultation today if you could use some support.  I have a few spots left in my 4-Week Break Free From Stuck Program.  Hit the button below to schedule your free call today.

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What’s in your toolbox?

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Before I get to today’s post, have you completed my brief survey?  If not, I’d love it if you would take a few minutes to share your thoughts with me for a chance to win one of 5 free coaching sessions I will be giving away on Thursday.

I remember many years ago in college I was seeing a mentor/counselor to chat a bit about a relationship I was in and on more than one occasion she asked me what was in my toolbox?

When I was met with a problem or a challenge in my relationship or in my life in general, she wanted to know what tools I was using to cope and help solve those problems.

It was a funny idea as I wasn’t quite sure what type of tools I had at that time, but it was also the beginning of me filling my toolbox with practices, rituals, activities, mindset strategies etc. to help me not just cope and survive life, but to THRIVE.

As it turns out, I’ve done so much research in the last 10 years that I’ve collected a TON of tools and practices that I share with my clients to help them continue to grow and evolve and create a life they ultimately love.

One of the misconceptions about coaching (or at least my style of coaching) is that by hiring a coach you are entering into a long-term relationship where the coach will give you the answers you have been seeking.  That’s actually the exact opposite of what I do.

My mission is to help women like you fill your toolbox with the practices, strategies, knowledge, and other tools that are available to us all to help empower you to be more of who you really are and do more of what you really love.

In a sense, I suppose I’m more of a teacher than a coach, though it doesn’t really matter what you call me. What matters is that you know you don’t have to get the answers from anyone else.  All the answers you are seeking lie within you and it is my job to teach you how to access them.

Is that a business-killer?  I don’t think so.

I like to think of it as me being in the business of empowerment.  I want you to learn the tricks of the trade so you can ride off into the sunset and live that crazy amazing life you’ve been dreaming of.  You don’t need me holding your hand for years to come.  All you need is a toolbox stocked full of tools you can use to tap into the wealth of knowledge that you have lying within you.

I guarantee that in this very moment you have a few things that work for you.  Maybe communication, journaling, art, or writing are some of the tools you use.  That’s perfect!  But, I want to teach you more…a lot more.

In fact, I want to teach you a new tool every week for the rest of the year and the ONLY people that are getting access to this amazing wealth of information right now are my 90-day Breakthrough & 6-Month VIP clients.  For the next month, anyone who registers to work with me in either of those programs will automatically gain access to this Special Bonus that includes a wealth of knowledge that I am calling the Universal Toolbox.

In it you will learn all sorts of tools to help you focus on what you want, shed the layers that are no longer serving you, and tap into the amazing power you have within.

You are going to learn tools and concepts like vibration, energy healing, tapping into your intuition, visualization, forgiveness, gratitude, mantras, affirmations, law of attraction skills, and so much more!

Not only will you learn how to use these tools each week, but you will be able to connect with others learning the same things and you will be invited to an exclusive weekly call to help you implement those tools.  This is a HUGE bonus that will catapult your vibration and manifesting abilities to another stratosphere.

So, are you interested in learning more about this bonus and possibly working together?  If so, let’s schedule a FREE 30-Minute Consultation to chat a bit about how I can help you.

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