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Mindset Mastery: Why you need it.

February 6, 2015 by Lamisha

When I was growing up there was a quote that was very popular and it was this:

“You can do anything you set your mind to.” Benjamin Franklin

At the time it felt like just another after school special that was trying to get kids to do the right thing and never give up.

I was a teenager and didn’t really believe it all that much…until now.

Living the life that I have lived and with all the research and focus I have put on the Law of Attraction and living the life of my dreams, I know that those words are completely true, but something is missing.

It’s not just about putting your mind (and action) into something, it’s also about knowing without a shadow of a doubt that you CAN and WILL accomplish whatever you are striving for.

The action comes secondary to what you believe about what you can and cannot achieve. If you don’t believe you can do it, the action is worthless because you won’t make it happen if you don’t believe you can.

“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t–you’re right.” Henry Ford

How you think and feel about your dreams are the MOST important part of the puzzle, in fact it is where it all begins. If you don’t think you can have the career, the love, the joy, the money, and the family you desire all at once…you’ll never have it.

If you don’t think you can make 6-figures in your creative business…you never will.

If you don’t think it’s possible for you to be happy doing work you love while traveling the world…you won’t even try.

If you don’t think that abundance and joy is for you (but apparently is for everyone else around you) then you will always attract the opposite of those things into your life.

Your mindset can be your biggest enemy if you don’t deal with the beliefs that are holding you back now.

One of the most important things I do with clients is to identify the beliefs and mindset issues they never knew they had. In fact they rarely even see them! All they see is that they aren’t manifesting the money they want, the job they desire, or the love of their life. They see the result of a faulty mindset.

That’s where I come in. I not only help you shift the shit that lies in the dark corners of your mind, but I provide action steps to keep those corners light, bright, and dust-bunny-free.

We all have mindset stuff creep in every now and then, but if left unchecked it can and will sabotage every action you take to make things better.

You cannot achieve what you think is impossible.

So my question is what are you willing to do to shift your mindset so you can have all that you desire? If you are struggling to make the shift alone and you have tried many times to make it happen to no avail, it’s time for help.

From now until February 17th I am offering my new Mindset Mastery Sessions at an introductory rate of $150. These sessions will go up to $397 on February 18th. In 1 hour we will get clear on the beliefs that are holding you back, create some simple shifts to clear them up, and provide you with action steps to continue to take so you can move forward and keep your mindset positive and productive. Click the image below to snag your spot!

There’s no reason to let your mindset issues linger and keep you back from everything you desire…it’s time to make a chance.

Mindset, Keeping Score, & How to Make Them Work for You!

July 21, 2014 by Lamisha

Just recently I decided to jump-start my fitness routine again in an attempt to get healthy and create a bit of structure for my workday. I have to say it’s been pretty great…for the most part.

Growing up I was fairly active. I danced from 8th grade through high school and into college so I never really had to worry about getting to the gym and making time to work out. It just happened. I took dance classes and loved it so it hardly ever felt like ‘work’. Just a couple of hours a week doing something I love.

This time is a bit different.

I get up every morning and do the ‘work’. Despite how much it burns in my abs or in my quads, I know that I will feel better having done it. I just have to get through the 30 minutes. The work out I am doing is a Beachbody program and it uses 1 minute increments for each exercise and I can’t tell you how many times I have looked at the time left and wished I hadn’t. Just when I think I am close to being finished, I look up only to realize I am only half way there. For some reason it makes the second half of the minute seem so much longer!

Well last week I decided to try something a little different. I decided that instead of looking at the clock or counting the number of squats or crunches I am able to complete, I would just focus on a spot on the wall in front of me through the entire minute. Funny enough, it seemed like the minute passed by so much faster AND it didn’t feel so hard.

This is a perfect example of how holding your vision while not ‘keeping score’ can help your mindset.

I will be the first to admit that when it comes to my goals or intentions, I am a score-taker. I like to monitor where I am and how far I am from my goal and while that doesn’t seem like a bad thing, I find it to be discouraging at times. It can often make it feel like I’m just never going to make it...there.

It’s like saying I want to go to California and all along the way being discouraged that I’m not there yet. Or wanting to work with 100 clients in 2014 (a true goal of mine for this year) and feeling discouraged when I count I have only worked with 40.

It is ALL about mindset.

If you instead celebrate the progression from where you started to where you want to be AND keep your focus on your vision, something magical happens. Things feel better, run more smoothly, and you get there much faster.

The same works for whether you are working out, wanting to lose weight, or make a certain dollar figure during the year.

3 Key Steps:

Know where you started
Celebrate your progression (no matter how small)
Keep your ultimate goal/vision alive through focus

As long as you are consistently taking inspired action and keeping your mindset positive, you will get there. It just takes a bit of patience, focus, and sometimes accountability. And if you are finding yourself struggling with getting started or need help to keep going, think about getting yourself a coach. I have opened 5 individual spots for the month of August for my 1-Month Jump Start program and while I had previously decided not to run this program again until November, I changed my mind because I know how much can happen in 1 month. I would love to help support you as you envision and create the life & business of your dreams so if this is something you are interested in you can schedule your 30-min. consultation here. We have 5 months left in 2014 what haven’t you started that you wanted to do this year? It’s not too late to get started, I promise working with me for 1 month can make all the difference in you creating the life of your dreams. Are you ready?

We Need More Of This In The World…

June 5, 2014 by Lamisha

Being that I am in the business of uplifting and encouraging women to follow their hearts and go for their dreams, I find it extremely difficult to process when I see women (and people in general) poo-pooing on the dreams of others. It infuriates me because while I know that their comments are not about anyone but themselves, I also know words hold a ton of power and our dreams are like delicate flowers. Dream crushing comments (no matter how small) can easily cause dreamers to give up all together.

It is also why I created the Group Coaching Program for Business-Minded Women. I believe women can come together in support of one another without the catty competition and crass comments. Jealousy that someone has something that we want doesn’t have to be how we connect with one another. I have felt this sense of competition in a variety of ways and even in some groups I have been in. One person’s success doesn’t mean another person’s failure. It also doesn’t mean that two people doing similar work have to compete.

What happened to collaborating, community, and compassion for one another?

What about sharing, supporting, and uplifting one another in our desires? I want to celebrate everyone’s success because I know that we are all capable of creating the life of our dreams doing work we love. And each time I see another soul-sister’s dreams come true, I am inspired to keep going, keep dreaming, and keep following my heart.

I just wish everyone felt the same way.

Purchase your own copy here: www.azureassurances.com

The fire and passion I feel as I write this stems from reading a not so nice comment about an extremely talented and amazing woman (also one of our guest teachers for the group program) Crystal Davis. Recently one of Crystal’s amazing dreams came true and she published her book Azure Assurances. ( You can check out an awesome article about their work here.) This book is a collaboration with an equally talented artist Kylie Fogarty to create a masterpiece of poetry and art that is nothing less than gorgeous. I had the opportunity to check it out and as a poet myself, I can tell you it is simply fabulous.

Not only do I love their work, but I also am so incredibly inspired by the powerful collaboration between two talented women with an amazing vision. It reminds me why I am creating a space for community, collaboration, and support for business-minded women to come together. THIS is exactly the kind of thing we need more of in the world.

More sharing, celebrating, and supporting one another.

With that said I want you to know that there is enough room in the world for everyone to succeed. There are infinite possibilities of how your vision can come together and collaboration is the way of the future. We are not on our paths alone and surely aren’t meant to create the thriving life of our dreams by ourselves. They say it takes a village to raise a child and I say the same goes for cultivating a community of dreamers and achievers. Join me in celebrating the success of others and congratulate, connect, and commune with other like-minded souls.

I also encourage you to check out Crystal and Kylie’s masterpiece, Azure Assurances. Buy it, give it as a gift, and support two amazingly talented women who have made their dreams come true.

Where Is Your Focus???

November 15, 2013 by Lamisha

This week I have been a little MIA on my blog and for that I apologize, but I promise I had a good reason. I decided to take some time to really reset my focus for the rest of this year and into the new year. Re-focus sort of suggests I have been making plans and outlining my strategy, but what I did was a bit different from that.

I realized in the last two weeks especially, I have allowed the details of the future get the best of me. Mostly, the unknown details and the many questions that come with them. Questions about business success (or lack there of), questions about where I am headed, and what is on my path. I have spent much of the last two weeks trying to desperately solve problems, figure things out, set plans, and FOCUS on what is coming when I have no clue what that might be.

Up until a few weeks ago I was okay with the not knowing. In fact, I was more than okay with it…I was flowing with it and things were good. It wasn’t until I received comments from someone else on what I “should” be doing, that I began this crazed focus on what is going wrong.

I am sure you have been there before too right? Instead of basking in the wonderful things that are going on in life, we have a tendency to hone in on the one (or two) things that are lacking. We allow those one or two things to be the main focus, main theme, and our primary concern, until we realize it is getting us nowhere.

That is why this week I spent some time changing my focus. Instead of focusing on all the things I feel aren’t quite up to par, I have set the intention to practice flowing with what is good, abundant, beautiful, and magnificent in my life. Does that mean I won’t ever notice when my glass is half-empty? No, but it does mean that I am making a bit of an extra effort to soothe myself and know that it is okay for a glass to be half-empty some of the time, because when it is we appreciate the full glass so much more.So, I ask you lovely readers. Where has your focus been as of lately? Have you been enjoying and appreciating the magnificence that surrounds you or are you honing in on the things that are still missing? If you fall into the latter category, I invite you to change your focus up a bit. You may not have all the answers right now, but by enjoying the little things and the big things that are going well, you somehow find the answers you were looking for not only much faster, but also in the most amazing places.I hope you have an amazing weekend and turn your focus to the abundance and beauty all around you. As always, thanks for reading!

Gratitude: Transformation & Positivity

March 8, 2013 by Lamisha

This week I was struck by how much I am changing in various ways. I am growing, transforming, and moving into a new chapter in my life bit by bit and I must say in all the years I thought change was scary, I am finding it to be such a good thing. Sure it isn’t always easy, and I have come to face some parts of myself that I don’t particularly like, but I am grateful for those parts too. I am happy for the purpose they served in my life and I am grateful for the courage to move into a new me. The truth is I have always been transforming in one form or another. I think we all are. But there is something about conscious transformation that feels different. A good different. A proud different. And so I am grateful this week for transformation.

I am also grateful for the power of positivity. Not just the arbitrary thought that positive is better than negative, but the power it has in my life (and yours too if you practice it). I have consciously made an effort to let go of my resistance to life and believe that all will be fine. Things will work out and be happy where I am right here, right now. I have made lists of things that make me smile and things about my partner I adore just so I can build on top of my good vibes. All-in-all it has allowed me to see and experience a different aspect of life. The good that is in life no matter what is going on in ours. I am finding that even when things feel less than hopeful or down right disastrous, a little bit of positivity goes a long way.

So my dear readers, I wish you well as you head into the weekend. May you embrace whatever changes are lurking around the corner and find the positive in every single, delicious moment of this life. It is all so good, even when it’s not.