Lamisha Serf-Walls

Losing Millions….

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I have a confession to make and it’s probably something you might not be able to guess about me, though after I share the whole story, it will make total sense.

My secret guilty pleasure is that I LOVE watching documentaries about where Lottery winners are now.

—> It’s not because I play the lottery, though I do on occasion.
—> It’s not because I want to be up to date with the latest high ticket items to purchase.
—> And it’s not even because I want to use it as a way to envision myself as a millionaire.

Honestly, I watch it because I am incredibly fascinated by the MINDSET behind each winner and how it ties into where they are now.  (I’m a mindset nerd, I know!)

I’ve watched a ton of these shows and what’s amazing is I can see a common thread in all of them as it relates to who still has their money (or even more) and who has squandered it away and is now broke. Can you guess what it is?

It’s all about their growth mindset and upper limit set point.

You see, every one of us has an upper limit set point based on our current mindset.  Based on our past experiences and the mindset work we have done (or not done) we have a certain amount of love, joy, peace, abundance, health, excitement etc. that we can comfortably allow in our lives.

Once we approach that upper limit, our ego gets a bit frightened and feels unsafe.  It immediately wants to bring us back down to our “normal” range, even if what’s been normal for us is incredibly uncomfortable.

Imagine for a moment you want to lose 50 lbs but in reality you only imagine that you can really lose about 25.  As you approach that 25lb marker or a bit beyond that, your ego gets a bit snarky and scared and you find some reason (usually subconsciously) to sabotage your progress to bring you back down to what is “normal” for you.

The same thing happens with money (or anything else for that matter).  The reason many lottery winners go bankrupt after winning millions of dollars is because their mindset didn’t change when they won that money.

Their reality shifted dramatically, but their mindset didn’t and so they had to go back to what was “normal” for them.

It seems a bit crazy, I know, but think back to your life for a moment.

Have you ever noticed that there are times when things are going really good for you, it feels a bit uncomfortable?  Or maybe when things get too good you find yourself sabotaging it in some way, shape, or form and before you know it you are back to where you started?

Maybe it’s with money, weight, relationships, your career, or something else entirely, but no matter what the topic is…the issue is the same.  You’ve hit your upper limit.

So what do you do to make sure you don’t lose your proverbial millions?

It boils down to these three things…

  • Become aware of your upper limit set point
  • Understand your sabotaging behavior when things get too good
  • Actively grow your mindset so as you approach that upper limit, it actually transforms to a new level

Believe me when I say that the upper limit problem that Gay Hendricks discusses in his book The Big Leap is a very real thing.  I’ve experienced it over and over again with each new level I’ve reached in my life and business and understanding how it works and actively working on your mindset is the key to limiting the effects of the ULP in your life.

And you know what?  It’ ALL leads back to MINDSET.

Yes, I know.  I talk about mindset until I’m blue in the face, but I promise it is more important than you know and it is where all your power lies.  It’s also why I decided to put together this FREE 5-Day Mindset Challenge for my tribe starting Monday.

Starting Monday, we are going to help you understand what is going on in that beautiful mind of yours and give you some tools to transform those thoughts so you can continue to grow and expand your life in truly magical ways with or without your upper limit.

If you sign up, everyday next week you are going to be receiving the challenge step of the day in your inbox with an exercise for you to complete that day.

If you choose, you can also join us in the MindPower Collective group on Facebook to share your experiences and enter yourself to win some 1:1 coaching and free entry into the next round of the Miracle Mindset Immersion group program coming soon!

The challenge kicks off on Monday!  Are you ready?

Join us over in the MindPower Collective group and remember to post your exercises in the challenge threads to enter yourself to win some awesome goodies!

Update + A few of my FAVORITE things

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Hey Friends!!

It’s been a pretty busy few weeks and I am SO excited to share an update with you of some exciting things that I’ve been working on and other things to come in 2017.

First, let me say that I am TOTALLY pumped about the fact that we are officially in planning mode and I am waiting anxiously for the last blissful week of the year that I have officially deemed my “planning time” to dig into my goals, projections, and intentions for the year ahead.

If you don’t know this by now, I LOVE all of the newness that comes with a new week, month, and the ultimate new year and while I have absolutely zero plans of going out partying to ring in 2017 in a few weeks, I am still super pumped with what’s to come.

Every year around this time, I get really excited about receiving one of my FAVORITE planners of all time- Leonie Dawson’s Create Your Shining Year planners.  She has been creating these beautiful pieces of art to help wildly creative and soulful souls like me, set intentions, get clear on what you want to create and embrace in the new year and this year’s edition is GORGEOUS!

In fact, I was so excited about getting these that when she launched the pre-sale option in the summer, I jumped at the chance to get these little gems in my hand sooner rather than later.  Now, to be honest, I have yet to crack them open and dig in (that’s what the last week of the year is really going to be used for), but I have been thumbing through them and I couldn’t wait to share these with you!

A few of my favorite bits in these beauties:

  • She has 2 versions! A Life & Biz planner so if you are just getting started with all this intention stuff and you don’t have a business, no worries- snag the LIFE Planner and be on your way
  • The added desk diary!  She added this piece last year and I have to say that I’ve NEVER managed to use the same calendar/diary for an entire year until I used this one.  It comes fully equipped with a gratitude section, goal setting for each month, money goals and extra doodling space.
  • 100 Things to do in 2017!  In each of the planners you can create a list of 100 things you want to do in that year.  There’s no thing too big or small to include here so think of it as your individual annual bucket list if you will.  I always have a ton of fun coming up with new things I’ve never done before.  So cool!
  • Lots of lists!  In addition to the 100 things list, there are also sections for books you want to read, new things you want to try, ways to shift/change your body, mind, and soul and so much more.  She really includes all kinds of fun stuff.
  • It’s totally balanced!  I love how Leonie really focuses on balance for your life.  While I lean more toward the business planner, both have a wide variety of topics in the life version including creativity, soul, mind, body, family, relationships, finances, and home.  The business version includes sections for finances, creating a shining team, systems, boundaries, education, customers, marketing etc.

So, I think it’s safe to say these beauties are by FAR my favorite planners.  I’ve used them consistently over the last 3 years in my business and I plan on continually purchasing them.

If you know anything about the MOST successful people around the world you know that they set goals, measure them, focus on them, and have some sort of system in place to set their intentions to begin with.  THIS is my secret weapon and I’m sharing it with you!

I highly recommend these to my clients and am currently offering a special bonus for anyone who purchases them through my affiliate link.  By doing so, I may receive a small commission and YOU get free entry into my 2017 Vivid Visioning course starting in January.

The truth is I love these planners and if you are in my tribe, I know you will too so take a look and grab yours NOW before they are all sold out!

Order by December 15th and get yours by Christmas.

Order by the 20th and get your BONUS 2017 Vivid Visioning program FREE!

 

Check out the Create Your Shining Year Planners Here

5 Things to do to start your 2016 off right

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photo credit: Holiday Illuminations! via photopin (license)
photo credit: Holiday Illuminations! via photopin (license)

The New Year is coming, are you ready?

Over the last few days I’ve been in hard-core planning mode.  I LOVE this time of year.

There is nothing better than the fresh feeling you get when a new year rolls around.  It makes you feel like anything is possible huh?

In addition to getting super clear on what I desire for 2016, I’m doing a few other things to start the year off right.  I’ve gone through a series of various ways to prep for the New Year over the last few years, but I’ve gotten to a point where I’ve found what works best for me.

Is 2016 YOUR year to kick ass and take names?

Is it the year you finally let go of the excuses and make your dreams a reality?

Ready to up-level?

Of course you are, but first…do these 5 things.

  1.  Release your beliefs.  There is no better time to get rid of the thoughts and beliefs that are no longer serving you than now.  In fact, it’s time to remove ‘can’t’, ‘lack’, ‘not enough’, ‘never’, and any other variation of those words that create a negative feeling for you.  YOU have the power to create your reality and you are, every single day, but first you must clear out your mindset to make room for the abundant and life-giving thoughts that will catapult your life to the next level.  Write down all the beliefs, feelings, memories etc. that you are ready to release on a piece of a paper.  Send them love and then burn that sucker.  Out with the old…in with the new.
  2. De-clutter your space.  I go through various fits and starts of de-cluttering throughout the year, but I love doing one big purge at the end of the year.  A little trick I learned from my good friend Lisa Sharp over at Clear Calm Space is to set a timer for each are of your home you are de-cluttering and then get to work.  Books you are no longer interested in or won’t read again, old papers and notes, clothes and shoes that don’t fit or you don’t wear anymore all must go.  Donate what you can and trash the rest.  Clearing out your space creates a physical peace that does wonders for your energy and paves the way for new opportunities and ideas to flow.
  3. Get clear on what you want for the New Year.  You’ve heard me talk about the 2016 Create Your Shining Year workbooks by Leonie Dawson and you know how much I love brainstorming brilliant ideas and this workbook is awesome.  In the past few weeks I’ve been getting clear on the feelings, opportunities, programs, offers, and experiences I desire for 2016.  I’m not talking about ‘how’ I’m going to do it just yet and you don’t have to either.  Just getting clear on WHAT you desire is a huge first step.  Whether you use these planners or something else entirely, it’s extremely important to decide what you wish to bring to fruition in the New Year.  (P.S. The Planning Party is still open so if you want to join us, you can purchase your workbook above and I’ll get you added to the group.)
  4. Choose your WORD for the year.  Every year I choose a word or phrase as a theme for the year ahead.  In 2014 I chose “Show up” and in 2015 I chose “Go Pro”.  This year I decided to go with one word and instead of thinking it through logically, it sort of chose me.  For 2016 my word is FLOW.  I desire more flow in abundance, ideas, creativity, and in fun experiences.  Being in the flow feels amazing and that is my guidepost for all that I do in 2016.  I encourage you to select a word for yourself.  Use it to make decisions for the year, to set your goals and to keep you focused on what is important for the year ahead.
  5. Take action.  So many people start with an amazing vision for what they want to accomplish for the year ahead, but fail to actually take action to move them toward their goals.  I encourage you to select a few things that feel a bit scary, but totally exciting to jump start your year.  Big action (in spite of your fear) is really what will make the difference between staying stuck where you are now and moving into the future your soul is craving for you.

I’d love to hear your thoughts on what you want to create for the year ahead.  Share your word of the year or your action in the comments below and let’s make 2016 magical and full of wonder!

I also encourage you to reach out for help with making your dreams come true.  Hiring a coach is hands down one of the best ways to take serious action and jump start your year.

If you have been feeling:

  • Stuck in a rut
  • Lost in life
  • Confused about what to do next
  • Frustrated with your lack of progress

It’s time to reach out for help.  Schedule your FREE 30-Minute Consultation below to chat about how I can help support you in creating the future your soul desires.

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2016 Planning Party & 6 Beliefs You Need to Release Right Now

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EVERYTHING YOU'VE EVER WANTED IS ON THE OTHER SIDE OF FEAR

2016 is upon us and as we work our way forward to finish the year strong, I am setting up a fun and fabulous planning party for my tribe and I’m inviting YOU to be a part of it.

Last week I gave away 2 of the 2016 Create Your Shining Year Workbooks that I absolutely adore and the winners are also winning access to our 2016 Planning Party!

What is it?

It’s a private Facebook group where we get to connect, plan, share, and inspire one another to create the absolute BEST year ever!  It kicks off in December and will run through the end of January (unless of course we are having so much fun we can’t possibly shut the party down).

In addition to the fabulous planning and fun, you also get access to FREE Coaching threads where you can ask questions, get guidance and support in whatever area you may be struggling in.  It’s sure to be a free-flowing adventure for everyone!

If you are interested all you need to do is purchase your 2016 Planner HERE.  Once you’ve made your purchase, please email me at (lamisha@lifeoncedreamt.com) and I will confirm the purchase and send you the link to join the party.  Easy-Peasy!

If you want one of the physical planners you must purchase yours SOON.  I got word that the business planners are just about sold out and once they are gone, they are gone!  You can also purchase one of the digital planners if you prefer and have access to send one to a friend! What a great gift to give. 🙂

2016 here we come!!!

6_silver-line6 Beliefs You Need To Release Right NOW

I’m on a bit of a mindset rampage right now and beliefs are coming up BIG time in my 1:1 work right now.  How you think and feel about life and yourself is everything when it comes to living a happy life and these are some of the biggest most hairy, scary beliefs that I find are holding folks back.

  • It has to be hard.  Says WHO?  Says us apparently.  There are so many sayings that convince us that if we don’t work hard, try hard, or trudge through the tough stuff it’s not worth it, but I have seen a better way in action.  The easy way.  The way that feels magical and wondrous and so much fun!  It only has to be hard if you THINK it has to be.  That includes money, finding a career you love or finding your soulmate.  Decide right now that you deserve ease and grace and flow and I promise you are one step closer to it.

 

  • I’m not enough.  We all have these stories in our minds about how we aren’t pretty enough, smart enough, tall enough, rich enough etc. in order to achieve the life of our dreams.  But, here’s a funny thing…you are enough.  You are smart, funny, pretty, intelligent and any other thing you can come up with in order to ‘be’ enough.  And if you don’t have all the pieces, you have the potential and capabilities of getting it so, this belief is just a bunch of BS and it’s one we all hold onto a bit.  You are enough…period.
  • I don’t know ‘how’. This is a big one!  The truth is a lot of people didn’t know HOW to do something before they figured it out.  Thomas Edison and Albert Einstein didn’t know ‘how’ to do all they did, until they figured it out.  The truth is you don’t have to know HOW to do it…you just have to follow the next step and trust.  Sounds a bit elementary, but it’s the biggest thing I’ve learned in all of this work.  Trust that you will know ‘how’ when the time is right.  Always.
  • I’m not worthy.  Another biggie I hear from my clients.  So many people think they have to DO something to be worthy of their dreams.  You don’t.  You just have to have a desire and BOOM you are worthy of having it.  Of course, thinking you aren’t worthy creates feelings of unworthiness which compound in our reality with reasons we are unworthy.  Drop the story about why you aren’t worthy of living the life you desire and get on with living it already.  You are alive. You are breathing. You are here now.  You ARE worthy
  • It’s too late for me. It’s never too late to do the things you want to do or to be the person you want to be.  I don’t care how old you are or how many jobs you’ve had or how many mistakes you’ve made.  It’s never too late…ever.  If you have a desire in your soul to create, experience or live a vision in your mind then you have the power and time to make it happen.  Don’t let time be the limiting factor.  None of us really know how much time we have left right?  So hop to it already.  What are you waiting for my dear?
  • It’s just not in the cards for me.  So many people believe that when we are born we are given a hand of cards.  Some get the really good cards like the Aces and Kings while others get 2’s and 3’s and whatever hand we are dealt is it.  That’s all we get to play with.  Looking at the cards they see their future.  The possibilities or lack thereof and see what is limiting them in creating a life they love.  But, here’s the thing.  What if…you were the designer, developer and artist for your cards?  What if you didn’t actually get a hand of cards, but you get to hand-craft the cards (and possibilities) in your hand with a mere thought?  Good news! You do.  You get to choose what is in the cards for you by the power of your focus and mind, so let go of the BS story that it’s just not meant for you.  We are all cut from the same beautiful fabric and you are indeed the creator of your own reality.  Isn’t it time you started acting like it?

These are just a few of the beliefs I hear over and over again in my 1:1 work and if you have similar beliefs, they are limiting your potential more than you know.  Ditch them, dump them, and rebuild anew.  It’s time to step into your power especially as we enter into a new year.

Interested in getting help kicking your sabotaging beliefs to the curb?  Hit the button below and let’s chat.

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Post-Holiday Giveaway Winners

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2015

Happy New Year!

I hope you had a wonderful holiday season and are ready to rock the new year with amazing joy, peace, and lots of passion.  I am finishing up my intentions for the year and implementing some new practices to help me stay grounded and focused while maintaining a bit of creativity and fun.  In fact, FUN is one of my words for the new year. (I generally select a few themes for the year, since I can’t choose just one.)

I can’t wait to share the things I’m planning for the month, but first I want to announce the winners of the Post-Holiday Giveaway.

The winner of the 2015: Create Your Shining Year Workbook is……Kelly T.

The winner of the book: Inspired & Unstoppable by Tama Kieves is…..Natali C.

And the winner of the Dream 2015 session with me is….Ellen K. 

Congratulations to all the winners & thank you to everyone that registered.

If you didn’t win and would still like to purchase the 2015 workbook, book or Dream 2015 session, you can do so here.

P.S.  January is about new beginnings and making plans for an epic year ahead.  2015 is your chance to make all your dreams come true, but first you have to do something you haven’t done before.  It’s time to reach outside your comfort zone and make the investment that will change your life for the better. I currently have 3 spots left in my 90-day Breakthrough program for January, so if you are interested in making big waves for 2015, schedule your 30-Minute Consultation.  These spots will fill up fast, so don’t miss your chance.