Lamisha Serf-Walls

Stuck is a choice…but so is freedom.

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I know what you’re thinking.  No one chooses to be stuck.  It just happens.

Wrong.

Sure, life happens and there may be certain circumstances that lead you to feeling stuck, but YOU are always in control of how long you stay there.  It’s a choice.

That may sound a bit harsh, but it’s true.

No matter where you are or what your life circumstances are right now, you always have options. 

  • There is no such thing as being “stuck” between a rock and a hard place.
  • There is no such thing as having NO options.
  • There is no such thing as STUCK.

Now, there are some people reading this who would beg to differ.

But Lamisha…

“I’m stuck in a dead-end job that I hate and there are no other options for me.”
“I’m stuck in a loveless marriage, but I don’t see any way out.”
“I’m stuck in debt and I’m so far in, there’s no way I can make enough money to get out.”
“I’m stuck in feeling worthless and hopeless and I’ve tried it all!”
“I’m stuck!!!”
 
 

Stuck is a feeling, but it’s not your reality unless you choose for it to be.  (Go back and read that sentence again…it’s important.)

I know this because I’ve been there.

–> I’ve been in the dead-end job with no options, no hope, and no viable way to escape.
–> I’ve been in the loveless relationship, but didn’t feel like I could leave because I had no self-worth.
–> I’ve felt the dark night of the soul with no vision or hope for the future as far as I could see and you know what…it ALL felt so REAL.

Back then, you couldn’t tell me STUCK wasn’t real.  (In fact, I’d be pretty pissed if you told me that back then, because that’s who I WAS and to me it was as real as it gets.)

I get it.

But, what I now know is that in all of those situations I had choices that I wasn’t willing to make and a mindset that caused me to shrink my thinking to only what I could see in front of me.

Back then, I lived a very small life and it took me YEARS to get out from under my limited view of the world and to do the mindset work to believe in unlimited possibilities and KNOW that no matter where I am or what I am going through, I always have a choice.

I can choose STUCK or FREEDOM.
I can choose to feel HOPELESS or HOPEFUL.
I can choose to be UNWORTHY or  WORTHY.
I can choose DOUBT or FAITH.

And you know what?  NONE of that has anything to do with what is going on outside of me.

Not my relationship, business, bank account, or the man who runs this country, because I always have a choice.

Do I choose to feel stuck, hopeless, unworthy, and doubtful from time-to-time…you bet I do.  I’m human.

But I don’t stay there long because I know it doesn’t yield the life I choose to live.

When I finally figured out what mindset work was all about and what people actually meant by “think happy thoughts” (it’s so much more than that), my life transformed!

  • I had a dream job that literally fell out of the sky and into my lap.
  • I ditched the bad relationship(s) (there were many) and found my soulmate.
  • I climbed out of the dark night and into the light, knowing that while at times I may have feelings of unworthiness creep in, my truth is that I AM worthy of everything I desire.

And that was just the beginning….

There is always an action you can take to move you forward and shake you free from whatever thought habits have you feeling stuck.

That’s what your mindset is ya know…thought HABITS.

You’ve grown so accustomed to telling the same story over and over again that it is now your default setting.  But like any amazing piece of technology, you can always override the default and your mind is no different.

Today do you choose STUCK or do you choose FREEDOM?

Make the choice and follow it up with action because you’ve been “stuck” for far too long.  Am I right?

Wondering what action to take?  How about committing to get your mindset habits on track and break Free From Stuck??

If you’re ready to choose differently and would like some 1:1 support to make that happen, check out my Free From Stuck 30 day program. 

If you’re ready to choose freedom, sign up for your free 30-minute consultation now to see if we are a good fit.  I currently have 2 openings for this program for the month of April, so if you’re interested, let’s chat.

 

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What finding your purpose really means.

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photo credit: Hearts of Osaka, Japan (6) via photopin (license)

Everyone wants a life they love with money, abundance, joy, peace, and passion for what they do right?

Sure! Who wouldn’t want that?

BUT-there are far too many women settling for ‘good enough’ because they aren’t sure how to get to that passionate place and while I work with many women on finding what lights them up and sets their soul on fire…my work is really about helping you tap into your purpose.

What finding your purpose really means is finding the thing that you are meant to do right here, right now.

It doesn’t necessarily mean it will be forever, but it will be something that lights you up and something you do that brings you joy.

And guess what…finding your purpose doesn’t necessarily mean making it your career…that part is entirely up to you.

If you are struggling to figure out your purpose here are a few tips to get you thinking in the right direction:

  • What do you feel called to do?  I’m sure you may be feeling the call to do something specific.  Maybe it’s to spend more time traveling, to do more writing, start a blog, or go volunteer at a local shelter.  What is it that is calling to you right now?  (Hint: The first thing that popped into your mind is IT…write it down.)
  • What do you LOVE to do? What kinds of things do you love to do?  What do you do because it simply brings you joy? What would you do for FREE? Think about it, make a list, and write it down.
  • What do you do with ease already? Think about the things people come to you for help with.  What is it that you do without thinking? What are you good at? What comes naturally to you? (Hint: If you aren’t sure, ask the people who know you best.)
  • What experiences of especially molded your life?  Think about your past and the BIG moments that really shifted things for you.  What did you need in those moments?  What were you looking for at the time?  What kinds of things did you need that you didn’t realize you needed until you got it?  Think about it and see what themes appear.

Once you have all that information together I want you to see if there are any common themes.  What pops up over and over again?  You may very well be thinking…”Why didn’t I think of that???”, because finding your purpose isn’t about locating it outside of yourself…it’s about recognizing what is already there.

And I want you to know that your purpose can change and evolve as much as you do, so don’t get stuck in thinking what you do now is what you will always do.  The beauty of life is that we have an amazing gift of choice and free will.  Use that freedom and enjoy the process because that is what it’s all about.

I want to hear from you.  What is your purpose?  Share in the comments below.

P.S.  If you haven’t signed up for the Soul Desire & Reiki Session giveaway, there is still time to get signed up.  Winners will be announced on June 2nd, so make sure you check out this post and get signed up here.

LOA Tip: Let It Go!

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Over the past 2 weeks I have been doing something that I teach my clients NOT to do when manifesting their desires.  And while I’m not quite sure why this is coming up right now, I did receive the message that it is time for this to change NOW.

Check out the video below to learn how to detach and let go of the thing(s) you are trying to manifest so you can avoid the incessant thoughts like “Dude where’s my stuff???”

For more manifesting tips check out this post.

When Life Happens…Just Flow With It

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No matter what you are doing or how great things are, life happens and during those moments of chaos when we sometimes feel the need to fight the current and get back to the balance we are used to, it’s usually best to just flow with it.

I thought I would share a bit about my current chaos and how I am handling it. 🙂

 

P.S. Don’t forget about the Epic Birthday Giveaway!  You officially have a week to register to win 1 of 13 amazing gifts.  Hop on over to this post check it out. Good luck!

 

 

 

A Feeling of Contentment

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Have you ever had a time when everything felt just right?  A time when you weren’t focused on any struggles, worries, difficulties, or challenges? 

I had that moment today.

Today, I experienced an overwhelming sense of peace and contentment.  A feeling I haven’t known very well in the past few years, but it felt eerily familiar.  Almost like this is how life is supposed to feel.

In that moment I was grateful for the work I have done thus far, for my clients, for my growth, and for the awareness that everything is going to be just fine.  I didn’t worry about my to-do list or the items I have wanted to get done before the launch of my business.  I didn’t worry about how, when, why, or who I would be working with in the future. 

I simply allowed myself to revel in the moment of contentment.

Thinking about it now, the feeling is coming back and it is amazing.

I encourage you to take some time this weekend to simply reflect on the week and bring your awareness to this very moment.  Can you find that space of contentment and gratitude for everything in your life right now?  If you can, enjoy it and embrace it and know that everything is working out exactly as it should.  Know that your dreams will manifest and whatever worries that have plagued your mind will be ok. 

May you find that feeling of contentment and enjoy a peaceful weekend and as always, thanks for reading!