Lamisha Serf-Walls

Shift Your Mindset With a “Love List”

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With Thanksgiving coming tomorrow, I’ve been thinking a lot about gratitude, giving, and sharing.  I’m so very grateful for all of you that have read my posts, followed me on Facebook or Twitter and have taken the time to allow me into the sacred space of your inbox.  Before I go any further, I just want you to know I appreciate you.

Today I bring you a tip that I have been offering to many of my clients lately and thought you might find it useful as you move through the rest of your week and the final days of the year.

You may have heard of the Gratitude List to raise your vibration and to shift your mindset to the good things in your life, but I like to do something a bit different.

I make a “Love List”.

It’s a similar concept really, but sometimes it’s easier for people to write an extensive list when they think of all the things they love.  Simply grab a pen and paper and get writing.  As you make your list, you will begin seeing the images of what you love in your mind and immediately feel the shift in your energy and vibration.  You don’t have to have that thing directly in front of you at the moment to feel the shift.  You can simply imagine having it or experiencing it and it works in the same way.

My list often goes like this: I love…naps, rainbows, the smell of rain, fresh cut grass, hot baths, good wine, snuggling with my son, the ocean, coffee… Just doing that now has put me into a state of bliss and boy does it feel good!

Try it out for yourself and see how you feel.

I recommend this exercise to anyone that is having trouble imagining the good or shifting their energy to a more positive state of mind.  Manifestations and creating the life of your dreams require you to be open to all the amazing ideas and next steps that are coming your way.

You have to be in a state of flow in order to allow and receive the things you are wanting to manifest.  Many times that is the only block holding people back. 

Give it a try and let me know how you feel afterwards.  Do you find it easier to make a love list or a gratitude list?

P.S.  If you are in the U.S. and celebrating the holiday tomorrow, Happy Thanksgiving.  If you are one of my lovely followers overseas, Happy Hump day. 🙂

P. P. S. Are you on my VIP List?  If so, have you seen the Super Secret Offer that I sent out earlier this week? If not, check your email (and spam folder) as the offer expires on Sunday.  I want to make sure you get in early if this opportunity resonates with you. And if you aren’t on my list join it today and you too can get the info. ‘Tis the season, ya know.

Don’t Settle…

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Have you bought the myth that you can’t have everything you want?

That if you have a fabulous career you love, your relationships have to suck?

OR if you have an amazing relationship, you can’t have all the riches your heart desires?

OR even if you have all the money you desire, you might have to enjoy it all alone?

I’m calling bullshit.

I want to know… Who are you not to have it all?

Who are you not to have the love, the riches, the joy, the career, the family, the fame and anything else your heart desires?

Believing anything less feels like lack. It feels like maybe we think we don’t deserve it.

Because the truth is happiness is not just the stuff in fairytales.

Life is about living, loving, sharing, expanding and experiencing everything.

That’s why I created the Blind Spot Discovery Sessions, laser-focused one-on-one calls where we identify and clear the blocks holding you back – for good.

So you can go on to experience, expand and enjoy the life you’ve always wanted.

We’ll identify and clear the blind spot that’s been in the way for too long.

The Blind Spot Discovery Session includes:

  • 30-minute consult to help me understand where you are and where you want to be.
  • 90-minute call (phone or Skype) so we can dig in. We’ll identify the blind spot, uproot it and arm you with the tools you need to clear it once and for all.
  • 30-minute follow-up to keep you on track.
  • Unlimited email support between calls and for two weeks after our follow-up.

Do you know what happens when you believe you can’t have it all?

You settle.

You settle for the parts of your life that aren’t working because you believe if most of your life is going well, you shouldn’t complain.

Let’s not do that. Let’s knock this blind spot out so you can get on with your amazing life.

Investment: $549 or two payments of $300

Because you don’t have to settle, and you certainly don’t have to accept anything in your life isn’t working the way you want it to.

I have a few slots left this year for Blind Spot Sessions. Contact me at lamisha@lifeoncedreamt.com and we’ll get you back to fabulous NOW.

Why I SUCK at “Business” & Choose the Heart-Centered Path Instead

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Image from enlightenedbusinessacademy.com
Image from enlightenedbusinessacademy.com

So it might sound strange to you to read that a life & biz coach sucks at ‘business’ especially when she helps her clients expand their business and make more money and just launched a program for business owners right?

Allow me to explain.

I never really thought of myself as the ‘business’ type. I mean, when I finished college I was just focused on getting a J-O-B (any job really) to pay the bills.  I wasn’t in business school and really didn’t aim to be my own boss.  Heck I even went so far as to say that I couldn’t be a contracted employee or be commission based because I needed to have a steady income.  And the idea of being in sales made my stomach turn.  I just didn’t want to be that scummy used car salesman that was trying to get any Tom, Dick, and Sally in the door to make a buck.

It just wasn’t my style and yet I found myself working for not one, but TWO organizations that had a main focus on numbers.  More specifically I worked in proprietary education.  And while I don’t believe ALL organizations like this operate with one thought in mind, I found myself in two that were very similar.

Getting butts in seats meant I still had a job.  It just so happened that some of the people responsible for getting butts in seats weren’t necessarily concerned with if they were the right fit.

For almost 6 years I dealt with this internal and sometimes ethical dilemma of working in an organization that operated with this very hard to swallow way of doing ‘business’.  (You know like some of the unethical Wall Street Bankers etc.)  Set a goal, meet the goal by whatever means necessary, and don’t worry about the rest.

I hated it.  Hated that many students were treated like numbers and not individuals.  Hated the fact that despite the curriculum and expedited programs not being a good fit for many students, no one said anything.  That’s not entirely true.  We did speak up, but ultimately it wasn’t our decision to make.

So, after watching this dance occur over many years, I decided I didn’t want to be a part of that type of ‘business’ strategy.  I promised I wouldn’t get pushy, treat people like numbers, and spam my followers with ‘GET THIS NOW’, ‘SALE, SALE, SALE’ emails because let’s be honest, that shit is just annoying, not to mention it’s just not my personality.

Now you may be saying, “But what about all the business coaches out there that say you have to create urgency, get your products in front of a billion people, and throw statistics at you about sales funnels and landing pages?  Are they WRONG?!”

Maybe, maybe not.  I’m sure those tactics work to some degree since so many people employ them, but I have found another way to do business that feels better.

It’s what I call the heart-centered way.  sales

The heart-centered path is about connection, communication, compassion, and honesty.  It’s about sharing your journey with your tribe and being genuine with your words.  It’s about giving what they want and need while still understanding they are individuals.  It’s about serving your community and helping.  It’s empowerment. It’s service.  It’s grace.

It’s a different road for sure and it is also the premise behind Tama Kieves book Inspired & Unstoppable (a book I recommend to every heart-centered business owner I know).  Follow your heart and do what feels right.  If it feels unnatural and like a used car salesman just trying to make a buck, well that feeling is going to come through to your tribe.

I have found (pretty recently) that even when I am trying to loosely use the advice from the ‘pros’ who are making millions of dollars, it doesn’t always come across in the most authentic way.  It feels forced and what’s worse is my message doesn’t connect to the souls I am meant to work with.  When I am thinking about selling, products, and numbers the waters get a bit murky for me.  I get a bit uncomfortable and my message comes out disjointed and a bit ‘salesy’ which is not my intention.

However, when I focus on my intention of changing lives and helping people do what they love and succeed at it…it comes across as love and service.  THAT feels lighter, brighter, and much more inspiring and incidentally I find I connect with more of my tribe.  (Funny how that happens right?)

So, if you have a business or are thinking of starting your business, the best advice I have for you is this.  Choose to communicate, act, and serve from your heart.  If it feels like you are playing a role or wearing a mask, it probably isn’t right for you.  Connect with your purpose, why you started to begin with, and who you want to serve, that is where your heart-centered business will thrive.  With love.

If you are unsure of where to begin with this heart-centered path and are prone to ditch the traditional ‘business’ plan that can feel a bit icky, there is still time to get signed up for the 90-Days to Biz Brilliance program and receive the bonus gift of my self-study Invest in Yourself program ($97 value) before you can buy it.  If it feels like the right program to take your business to another level (with love), I invite you to join this community of amazing heart-centered entrepreneurs who are changing the world with their work.  The world needs you and your biz to shine and I want to help you make that happen. 

 

Dream Changer-Featuring Isis Arjeta

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***I am a little behind with posting the latest Dream Changer feature this week, however this one is worth the wait.  I am so excited to present to you the amazing transformative journey of a dear friend, co-teacher of the Unleash Your Personal Power course, overall amazing healer and soul sister, Isis Arjeta.  I know you will leave this post feeling anything is possible and I encourage you to check Isis out online and on her Facebook page to learn more about what she can do to help you grow, heal, and evolve into the abundant and amazing soul you are meant to be.***

“You may say that I’m a DREAMER….”

Since I can remember I’ve known that I am destined for an amazing life… to change the world for the better, and really make a difference in people’s lives. The how has never been clear, but a dream is all you need, right? In following my dreams,I’ve flung myself wholeheartedly on so many life paths I can no longer count them. I attended college for 6 years, and achieved the glorious Associate of Arts they give to people who don’t know what they want to DO with their lives. I’ve changed directions and dreams so many times that it has become a magical, colorful tapestry of experience and growth.

In the process of weaving this tapestry, I worked in a busy ER and collected some wild stories about the crazy things humans do. I’ve processed paperwork, I hung out with alter-able adults, and became a massage therapist. I sold books on amazon, I moved cross country in a home-made caravan, and I learned what it means to be a New Age Hippy. I’ve had a mohawk, long shiny blonde hair, and several sets of dreadlocks. I’ve worn high end pumps, and been barefoot and broke. I’ve crossdressed, been a nudist, and I’ve sold my dirty laundry online to fetish lovers. I stepped out of societies labels and boxes and altered my consciousness in ways most people can’t even imagine. But it still didn’t satisfy my dreams of radical success and happiness.

The real shift in my life happened when I decided it was time to actually manifest what I’ve been dreaming. No matter what I do, I want it to be EASY. Yes, you heard it, easy. I was always told that life is hard, nothing is easy, and certainly you never get anything for free. Inside I always laughed, because something in me KNEW that it was a lie. It doesn’t make any sense to me that with all the resources and incredible talent present in a world filled with 7 billion creative souls, anyone would be destined to suffer and work hard.

Yet every time I tried to build a business, make a name in the world, or just be happy, something went wrong. It wasn’t easy, and I had to work very very hard. It left me with a rage and hatred that the world could be so cruel… and deep self-loathing that I couldn’t figure out how to make my dreams real. How does one small human being change the world?

One day I gave up. I screamed a desperate prayer at God (which I hadn’t done since I was a teenager) that said something like “F*ck you, I give up. What am I supposed to do? I believe in an easy, blissful, and abundant life for all beings, but everytime I try to make it real, something is in my way. What gives?”

For the first time since I was little, I actually received a full-on answer from Spirit. A Voice spoke to me and said “You are the only one standing in your way. Get your sabotaging beliefs and all those angry emotions out of your mind and heart, and the world you see will change before your eyes.” So I thought, “I need some help with that, I don’t even know where I’m stuck.” The Universe kept answering me, and the perfect teacher showed up – I could literally see her bright angel wings outlined behind her head. So yet again, I took a wild leap of faith, and signed up for an EFT and Hypnotherapy training class at The Miracle Center of California. “My dream is so big, I need a Miracle to make it happen,” I thought.

“…But I’m not the only one…”

My first day of class, everything changed. Robin Duncan, my angel teacher, used EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and Hypnotherapy to help me release trauma and angst from my childhood as well as lifetimes of experiences, and she encouraged my dreams. For the first time EVER, I met others who also believed that life can be easy and beautiful in every single moment. It requires a complete shift in how you perceive the world, but with access and tools to clear to the subconscious, it is EASY!

According to A Course in Miracles (my FAVORITE life guide), a Miracle is defined as a shift in perception from fear to love. Who doesn’t want to do that, right? Sometimes our subconscious and emotional beliefs make that difficult though, and learning EFT and Hypnotherapy gave me the ability to shift my perceptions on all levels. It became so simple to shift my experiences on a daily basis that I am now living in a whole new way – with ease and grace, no matter what challenges I seem to face. I had never realized how much of my time and energy was wasted on fear, complaining, and trying to figure out the details.

“…I hope someday you’ll join us…”

I couldn’t believe how fast that initial shift happened. I literally looked like I had a facelift after that first session – and I felt 20 paradiseyears younger. Within months I had quit my spa job and was running my own home-based massage and healing business. Nearly two years later I am now living the life I always dreamed of, filled with ease and daily Miracles. My lifelong dream of living in the tropics came true this year when I moved to Maui, Hawaii where I play and dance and swim in the ocean every day. I am able to share the gift of EFT and Hypnotherapy with clients from all over the world, in person and through the internet. I have created e-courses to help others make the same kind of shift into an easy and fulfilling life, and I teach in-person certification courses in EFT and other energy healing modalities. I am truly blessed that my dreaming world is now my waking life. I wake up every morning in Paradise, with the awareness that my DREAM is my REALITY.

I am still in awe of the transformation that occurs when we access the subconscious patterns we’ve accepted as our identities and shift them into what we truly desire. I believe that every person on earth has a very special purpose and mission – to make an impact, to change the world, and to be filled with love and gratitude in every moment. What is holding YOU back from living a life of ease, while changing the world for the better?

If you are ready to make a radical shift in your life and allow your dreams to become your everyday reality – to live on easy street and be filled with radical joy and excitement – I want to hear from you! Please comment on this blog post, and head over to my website and Facebook page to stay in touch! I want to hear what YOU are dreaming into reality!

 “…and the world will live as One!” ~ John Lennon, Imagine

IsisArjetaIsis Arjeta is a radical mystic who loves to laugh, play, and surf the waves of life – or the gorgeous Maui coastline that serves as her backyard. She uses her wide variety of skills and experience to help you uncover the brilliant being you already ARE. A session with Isis feels like a conversation with your best friend, and always includes laughter and spot-on insight. She blends an irreverent sense of Spirituality with deep love, and creates a safe space for transformation wherever she goes. You can find Isis at www.facebook.com/OneSoulution or www.isisarjeta.com to stay updated on her latest Miracle adventures!

 

The Love Rant

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It’s not Valentines Day or Sweetest Day, however love is on my mind.

Why?

Because I just got married, like yesterday.

And while I am very much the romantic, swooning, wear my heart on my sleeve kind of gal, I enjoy love in all forms, not just the romantic kind.

I have said this before and I am going to say it again so bear with me while I go on a little love rant.

I have lived the life of just getting by in my work.  Doing a good job, but not really loving what I do.  While it was manageable for several years, I knew there was something bigger and more soul-satisfying out there for me.  When I found coaching, I knew.  Now that I am living my dream, doing work I absolutely freakin’ LOVE, I can’t imagine doing anything else.  Life is amazing. Truly.

I have also lived the life of doing things that others expect of me.  Fitting into a mold, life, and expectation of the world and not allowing myself to take care of my own needs and do more things I love.  Simple things like reading, writing, and spending time in the sun.  Things like taking vacations, going to yoga, or taking a nap when I feel like it.  Now that I am giving myself permission to do more of what I LOVE, life is a lot better.  I’m healthier, happier, and find myself enjoying each moment far more than I have in the past.

The next thing on my love list is kind of a big one.  I have lived the life of judgement.  Judgement of others (which I am certainly not proud of).  Jealousy for what I felt I was missing in my life and a general lack of love for others.  Now don’t get me wrong, I wasn’t a mean person per se, and I didn’t feel this way about all people, but what I realized was my outward judgement for others was really an inward judgement of myself.  I wanted a life that I felt I didn’t have and didn’t have the ability to create for myself.  All that has changed.  I have realized that not only are we all connected, but that love is the most important thing that connects us all.  Instead of comparing where I am and judging myself for not being as far as someone else, I try to remember we are all on our own journey and in celebrating the success of another, I am able to see them as an example of where I can be.

So what is this little love rant all about?  It’s about infusing your life, every part of your life with a little bit more love.  Everything from showing yourself some extra love and care to doing kind things for others.  Allow your soul to sing by doing more of what you love.  Share your gifts with the world.  Smile at strangers and make their day.  Love yourself and each other and by golly if you are spending 40+ hours a week struggling through a job that ‘just isn’t that bad’, take some time to explore what you truly want to do.  Now is the time to do it!

I’ve said it before and this isn’t likely to be the last time (in case you were wondering).  You deserve to do what you love, to have more fun, and live a joyful, amazing, and abundant life.  You don’t have to only pick one thing to make you happy and let the rest go.  YOU have the ability to create an amazing life and but you have to first make the decision to do so.  So what are you waiting for?

Are you ready to take the first step to creating and living the life of your dreams?  Let’s chat about your biggest, boldest, most amazing dreams you have processing. I am opening up several new client consultations for anyone who might be interested now through the end of April, so contact me ASAP to grab your spot.  I am also launching a wonderful group coaching opportunity for those of you that might not be ready for full-on individual coaching.  Sign-up for my VIP list so you don’t miss the special launch info and additional gift for the first 5 sign-ups.