Lamisha Serf-Walls

Beliefs become your reality. What do you believe?

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One of the core pieces of breaking free from being stuck in any situation is identifying the beliefs that are creating your current reality and shifting them immediately.

Too often we use our outer reality to be the proof that we base our beliefs and inner truths on, when in actuality it should be the opposite.

What you believe CREATES your reality, not the other way around.  So, when you find yourself struggling financially, in relationships, in your career, or in any other area of your life, it’s key to understand what beliefs you have that might be holding you back.

Are you arguing for your limitations?  Ready to shift the shit and move on with your amazing life already?  Check out the video below.

 

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Permission to be happy: Granted

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photo credit: The butterflies in the stomach... via photopin (license)
photo credit: The butterflies in the stomach… via photopin (license)

I’m going to tell you a little secret about life that I’ve come to learn.

YOU have the ability to BE HAPPY right here, right now, no matter what your outer reality looks like.

All you have to do is give yourself permission to be.

That’s it!

Sure, it might feel a bit better to have more money in the bank, a loving partner who adores you, and a puppy who is delighted when you come home, but you don’t need all of that to be happy right now.  That’s just icing on the cake!

In fact, if you want to manifest any of those beautiful experiences (including the career, car, or vacation of your dreams) you must be happy first.

Like attracts like and in order to have more things that bring you joy, you must first radiate joy.

It’s just how it works.

Unfortunately many of us have gotten sucked into the idea that we will finally be happy when we get….there.  (Where ever “there” is anyway.)

As human beings we are blessed with amazing desires for incredible experiences that we can savor with every one of our senses and there is nothing wrong with that at all.  However, when we make any situation, opportunity, experience, or thing that isn’t currently in our reality to be the source of our joy…we lose our power completely.

No person, job, bank account, car, house, or anything else has the power to make you unhappy…unless you allow it.

Period.

And only YOU can cultivate the joy, peace, bliss, and pure happiness within yourself regardless of what is going on around you.

How?

By deciding to be.

By doing the things that light you up (no matter how small).

By giving yourself permission to feel the joy, love, and beauty that is all around us at any given moment despite what hasn’t manifested for you…yet.

And if you are like me, right now your mind is saying…BUT, But, but…there has to be more!  What else can I do?  Just tell me already!

Here’s your action step:

Grab a pen and piece of paper and start what I call a Love List.  Write down all the things that you LOVE about yourself, your life, spouse, job, the world etc.  List all the things you love…even if you don’t have them in your experience right now.  By simply reflecting on the things you love, you raise your vibration and I guarantee you will not only feel happier, but you will begin to manifest your desires with ease.

Happiness is an inside job and it’s time we got back to tending to our inner garden and stop making excuses about why we can’t be happy right now.

Life is too short not to feel the joy of the world and especially around this time of year when there seems to be a little bit of magic everywhere.

If ever you needed permission to be happy where you are, with what you have, as you are.

Consider your permission to be happy: GRANTED from now until forever more.

Don’t go into the New Year playing victim to the world.  You have the power to create anything you desire, you simply have to decide to do just that.

What’s holding you back right now?  Fear? Worry? Something else?

If you are ready to kick ass in 2016 and claim your happiness and everything else your soul desires, I want to chat with you.  Schedule your free 30-minute consultation below and let me help you make next year the best one yet!

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Ask the Coach: Q & A part 2

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Q: What are the steps to manifestation, i.e. from Intention to actual Manifestation?

 

This is a question I get a lot and it’s one of my favorite things to talk about!  So, the basic steps to manifestation are as follows: Set your intention or desire, TRUST it and let it go.  Now that’s the easy explanation of course and there are lots of things that can get in the way.

Many people ask about taking action and what it is that we have to ‘DO’ to make our desires manifest.  The truth is you just follow the next inspired step, but you typically don’t do it as a way to manifest.  Meaning, you are simply taking action because you feel inspired to, not because you feel you need to do it to manifest that thing you desire.  So, the EASIEST way to manifest is to be clear about what you desire and feel good about it.  Raise your vibes and do what you love while letting go of the outcome.

Your vibration and energy matter more than anything you can say or do so if you are feeling good then you are in the right space to manifest.

And also, what types of blocks are possible + what to do to unblock and pursue?

There are all kinds of beliefs or blocks that can get in the way of manifesting some of which are:

  • Thinking it has to be hard
  • Not fully trusting or believing
  • Not letting go of the outcome
  • Micro-managing the ‘how’
  • Allowing your current reality to set your vibration

MOST people get caught up in not fully believing that they can manifest their desires or getting caught up in ‘how’ it will happen.  The thing to remember with manifesting is that the Universe doesn’t operate using logic like humans do.  It uses the path of least resistance based on what we can allow.  Anything is possible with the power of the Universe, but you have to know that is true and let go of ‘how’ you think it ‘should’ come to you and what you think is most realistic.  The Universe doesn’t care about reality.  It’s an unlimited source of all knowledge, resources, and abundance.

When you have blocks like these there are a few ways to clear them.  One of my favorites is EFT-Emotional Freedom Technique.  This allows you to release the negative thought and the energy within it to make room for a better, higher vibration to help you manifest.

You can also build new beliefs by using affirmations, mantras, meditation, etc. that basically rewire your brain to see infinite possibilities and know that anything is possible.

The key ingredient to releasing blocks and manifesting with ease and race is to just let go…I know it’s easier said than done sometimes, but it is KEY.

I’ll be teaching more about this in my upcoming Instant Manifesting program in January, so if you are interested in learning more about how this works, please sign up to my VIP list to gain access first!

Got questions you want answered? 

Drop them in the comments below and I’ll be sure to get them answered.  

5 Reasons You Aren’t Living the Life You Truly Desire

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photo credit: model on the beach via photopin (license)

Every single day I speak with women all over the world who are feeling just plain stuck in life.  They dream of an amazing life with lots of love, abundance, beautiful experiences, and adventure only to find they have no clue how to make it happen.

When we first chat, they list all the things they’ve tried to make their dreams a reality. They’ve pushed, pulled, planned, and done everything they can think of to make their desires real, but find that something is stopping them along the way.

The thing I notice about all of these scenarios is that the reasons these amazing women aren’t living a life they absolutely love has nothing to do with action and has everything to do with things they just can’t see.

If you are in the same boat or have found yourself in a similar situation before it’s likely because of one of these 5 reasons.

  1. You don’t believe it’s possible.  We all have had some bullshit story about why what we desire isn’t possible.  It might be so far outside what you’ve actually accomplished in your life that you just don’t see any way that what you desire could come to fruition and even though you dream of it becoming your reality, there is a bit of doubt about whether it can actually happen.  The answer is this: Yes it can and will happen, but ONLY when you decide it’s possible.
  2.  You’re letting fear lead the way.  Fear is a f–king liar and it will try to convince you more often than not that what you are attempting to do is not safe or smart.  It will try and convince you of all the reasons it won’t work instead of highlighting all the magical ways it will.  Fear feeds off your insecurity (see #1) and the best way to combat that is to take a step forward despite the fear and prove to yourself over and over again that it’s not as scary as you think.
  3. You think you need to know all the steps from where you are to where you are going.  As much as you would like to believe that you are 100% in control at all times and have the power to find the best possible route to your dream life, the truth is you don’t.  All you need to do is take the next step and trust that the Universe is going to inspire the one after that.  You only have the capacity to see 1 possible way your dreams can become reality and it’s likely not even the best way.  The Universe on the other hand has so many amazing resources at its disposal and can orchestrate connections, opportunities, and chance meetings you never imagined.  Let go of the how and just listen to your intuition.
  4. You are stuck in your current reality.  Your current reality is merely an indication of where your thoughts have been in the past.  It in no way means that what you desire is impossible or improbable unless you decide to continually reflect on what is right in front of you instead of focusing on where you want to be.  When you stop playing the victim to your current ‘reality’ you make a new reality possible and the Universe paves the way for you to make your life amazing.
  5. You think it has to be hard and self-sabotage when things get too good.  You likely were taught that everything comes with a price tag and if you want to live the life of your dreams you have to work hard.  That’s a lie.  Do you have to be persistent? Yes.  Do you have to be willing to believe in yourself when others don’t? Yes, but that in no way means it has to be hard.  When things get easy and you manifest circumstances that feel amazing with ease, you may also find yourself sabotaging the situation to shake things up a bit.  Because honestly, who are we without problems to solve and challenges to overcome?  Let the good things be good and the easy things be easy.  I guarantee there will be other problems for you to solve, so don’t mess with the good stuff to make yourself feel more comfortable.

The truth is there are lots of reasons we aren’t always creating the life experience we want and if you are finding yourself struggling with one or more of the above, it’s time to get some support.

Reach out and schedule a FREE 30-Minute Consultation below and let’s have a chat about how I can help you clear the junk holding you back and help you step more fully into the amazing life you deserve.

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7 Movie Messages & Universal Truths

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photo credit: San Diego Comic-Con 2014 – Baymax statue via photopin (license)

Every Friday night in our household is Family Movie Night.

My son gets so excited to run up and grab one of his favorite movies so we can all snuggle up with a big bowl of popcorn and enjoy our end of the week treat.

And every single time we do this, I come away from the movie in utter amazement at the messages I receive and the reminders about how life really works.

So much so, that I have been inspired (time and again) to write a post about the specific messages because they are SO amazingly true.

Now, most of the movies we watch are kid’s movies, but I am always astounded by the wisdom that is sprinkled throughout and I hope that they ring true to you as much as they did for me.

Movie:  The Croods:

Quote: (Dad)”Those rules. They kept us ALIVE.” (Daughter) “That wasn’t LIVING…That was just NOT dying!”

The Universal message: Fear doesn’t just keep you ‘alive’, it also keeps you from truly living.

Food for thought: What have you allowed fear to keep you from truly living?

 

Movie:  Meet the Robinsons:

Quote: “Keep moving forward!”

The Universal message:  You are never done with living life.  With whatever mistakes, mishaps or perceived snafus that happen, keep moving forward is all you need to do and it always works out. 

Food for thought:  Where do you need to keep moving forward?

 

Movie: Charlie and the Chocolate Factory

Quote: “There’s plenty of money out there. They print more every day. But this ticket— There are only five of them in the whole world, and that’s all there’s ever going to be. Only a dummy would give this up for something as common as money.”

The Universal message:  There is MORE than enough money to go around.  The only thing keep us from it is the thought that there is a limited supply.  It is printed every single day and when you focus on the ‘golden ticket’ moments of life, money flows effortlessly.

Food for thought:  Where are you seeing lack in your life and ignoring the ‘golden ticket’ moments of life? Isn’t it time for a change?

 

Movie:  Frozen

Quote: “Let it go!!!”

The Universal message:  Let go of the fear, the worry that you are too powerful and the way others think and feel about you.  The only thing that matters is LOVE.  Let the rest go. Oh, and when you are feeling like life is challenging or you know-you freeze an entire city, just let it go and have fun.  The rest will work itself out.

Food for thought:  What do you need to let go of right now?

 

Movie: Lego Movie

Quote: “Everything is AWESOME!!!”

The Universal message:  YES everything IS awesome when you choose to see it that way! And it’s even better when you give yourself permission to live your dream. 

Food for thought:  How can you choose to see the awesome in life, because everything is indeed awesome.

 

Movie: Big Hero 6

Quote: “I’m not giving up on you. You don’t understand this yet, but people need you. So let’s get back to work.”

The Universal message: Don’t give up.  The world needs you and the Universe isn’t giving up on you or the brilliance you bring to the world.  Keep. Going.

Food for thought:  Where do you need to try again?

 

Movie: The Muppets

Quote: ” Life’s a happy song….I got everything that I need, right in front of me.  Nothing’s stopping me, Nothing I can’t be with you right her next to me.” ( I could keep going but you get the idea.)

The Universal message:  Life is amazing.  Always. And when you focus on the things right in front of you and experience the beauty that is surrounding you, it just gets better and better.  You have everything you need…and then some.  

Food for thought:  What are you focusing on right now? On the beauty, joy, and love of life or something else?

Messages come in a variety of forms and they may mean something different to you.  What messages have you experienced or received recently?

Feel free to share them in the comments below.  They just might be a message someone else needs to read.  🙂

Speaking of messages, have you seen my latest article on the Huffington Post?  If you are feeling a bit lost right now it might be the message you need to read.  Check it out here. 7 Tips to Find Yourself When You are Feeling Lost