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Top 5 limiting beliefs that may be holding you back…

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When it comes to our mind habits and limiting beliefs, there’s likely not a belief I haven’t seen or heard at this point.  In fact, there are quite a few that I hear over and over again and today I’m sharing them with you.

To be honest, many of these I’ve struggled with a lot over the years so I completely understand how difficult it can be to shift them…but it IS POSSIBLE.  I’m living proof and so are my clients.

Top 5 Limiting Beliefs (that may be holding you back)

  • I’m not enough.  This is your run of the mill belief that can stop any new venture, decision, opportunity, or potential success in its tracks.  It’s likely the one I hear the absolute most from people (many women in particular) and it runs DEEP.  The not enough-ness many times has no basis other than feeling like you aren’t good enough, smart enough, ready enough, strong enough, prepared enough, thin enough, rich enough…you name it.  It’s also the belief that keeps people playing small and ultimately paralyzed by fear of failure.
  • I’m not worthy.  This one runs a close second to the one above.  Somehow, somewhere along the lines many of us have internalized the message that we aren’t worthy of amazing things happening to us and for us.  We often believe that somehow we are ultimately flawed and thereby don’t deserve the riches, success, joy, love, excitement, adventure, ease, and flow that we desire.  And if by chance we allow a little bit of that into our lives…we feel guilty and shut that shit down, because who are WE to have all the good stuff?
  • It has to be hard.  Likely drilled into us from past generations, far too many of us struggle with the belief that anything worth doing has to be hard and if it comes easily, it’s just not worth it.  Easy feels like cheating.  Hard is where you prove to yourself just how strong, powerful, and worthy you are because isn’t that what life is all about? (Spoiler alert: No, it’s not.  Life is meant to be enjoyed.). Yes, there are times on your path that may feel difficult, but that’s not the way it always has to be.
  • It’s not meant for me. When it comes to success, love, money, and happiness, many people believe that they are somehow different from the next guy.  Sure they can have the success, adventure, and ultimately happy life, but it’s just not in the cards for me.  I’m meant to suffer.  (Wrong!) This belief causes us to believe that somehow we are so different in who we are that the miracles and magic of the world are set aside for a select few and we just aren’t a part of that crowd.
  • You can’t have it all.  This belief has been one of my biggest struggles by far.  For a long time I believed that “having it all” was a myth.  I thought that if you had the riches and success, you couldn’t have true love.  If you had a happy, humble home life, you couldn’t also have the powerful career and money.  You had to simply choose what is most important and allow that to be the “good” you allow into your life.  The truth is that is total BS.  You can have it all, the moment you nip this gnarly belief in the bud.
And let’s not even talk about the Money Beliefs we carry with us…actually, let’s talk about them for a moment!

Money is such a funny topic (not funny-haha, but funny as in weird) for people.

Whether you realize it or not, you likely are carrying some really heavy money-related junk with you from your parents, grandparents, and family.  We all have some money stuff (or had it at some point in our lives) and it has a direct effect on how we view, manage, receive, manifest, earn, and handle money today.

Here are a few common ones that you might resonate with…

  • “Money is hard to make.”
  • “Money doesn’t grow on trees.”
  • “No matter what I do, there’s never enough.”
  • “Rich people are jerks, selfish, and self-serving.”
  • “I don’t have enough.”
  • “Money isn’t important.”
  • “Money is the root of all evil.”
  • “To make a lot of money you have to sacrifice other things.”
  • “I’ll never be rich.”
Do any of these resonate for you?  (If so, I’d love to hear which ones, hit ‘reply’ and share a few that you carry around with you.)

If some of these resonate for you, I’d like you do a little experiment.  Take a look at your financial picture for a moment and notice what you see.  Are the numbers where you want them to be or do you find that you typically hover around a certain number?

Maybe you are like I was…struggling to make it from paycheck to paycheck or always feeling stress when it comes to money.  That was my reality for a very long time, until I started learning about my money mindset and changing the thoughts I was practicing within my mind.

The way you feel about money (and anything else) directly affects how money (or anything else) shows up for you in your life.

YOU have the ultimate creative power over your life when you accept that your mindset is what helped you to create where you are.  It’s nothing to be ashamed of, it’s just where you are now.  The key is deciding what you are going to do about it.

All of the beliefs I’ve listed above are things that have impacted my life and it was only when I was willing to do the work (the mindset work that is) to clear them out and began building positive habits in their place was I able to see the changes happening in my life.

Mindset work isn’t “magic”, but it sure feels that way once you begin.  You’ll ask yourself why you ever waited.

I don’t want you to wait anymore.
I don’t want you to struggle anymore.
And I certainly don’t want you to have regrets about not getting support when you needed it most.

So…if any or all of the beliefs above resonate for you then the Miracle Mindset Immersion Program is absolutely the program for you.
You’ve got nothing to lose and everything to gain.

So what do you say?  Are you in? If so, hit the info below and get signed up!

Sending massive love your way!

I Got The Message, “Let Go and It Will Grow”

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In light of being completely and 100% authentic with you lovely readers I wanted to share something that happened a few weeks ago.  It is something that I have only shared with 2 people for fear others might think I’m crazy and while the “crazy” part is likely true,  I think it’s an important message to share with you.

A few weeks ago I was dealing with some major fear, anxiety, and frustration around what was or wasn’t happening in my business.  I created my business Facebook page, I set up a pay what you can offer and created my mailing list sign-up and they were going nowhere.  Add to that the anxiety of what may or may not be coming next for me job-wise and you can imagine I was a mess.  Even as a life coach, I still find myself fighting back the doubt sometimes.

So there I was, trying desperately through anxious-action to make things happen.  (When will I ever learn??) I was researching, reading, writing, and trying to come up with a plan.  A solid, no-nonsense, fool-proof plan to bring in the right clients.  I could feel the stress building and my Dream Crusher was coming in loud and clear.

I heard her say, “You have NO idea what you are doing.”, “You don’t know anything about business.”, “You should really just find another job and be done with it.”, “You have a family to help take care of for goodness sake.” “You are a fraud!”

She wasn’t being very nice and while I could have continued to let that voice take over my thoughts and cause me to give up, I didn’t.  Instead I meditated.

I knew I had to quiet the fearful thoughts that were flowing through my mind so I sat down, closed my eyes, and let them go.

My 15 minute meditation felt much longer and much deeper than what I am used to and I was not at all prepared for what happened next.  Just as my thoughts floated away, I saw a beautiful butterfly in my mind’s eye with two fingers holding onto one of the wings.  The other wing was furiously flapping as the butterfly was trying to get away.  In that moment I heard “Let go and it will grow.”

What?!butterfly

I meditate at least 5 times a week, sometimes more and during my morning meditations, I very rarely hear or see anything.  I have heard experiences where some people get great inspiration and insight from their meditations, but I don’t experience it quite as clear.  That is until that moment.

A few days later, after hearing the message 2-3 more times (not in meditation), I really felt the significance.

The fluttering and frantic butterfly was me and the fingers holding one of the butterflies wings was also me.  I was the one holding myself back.  Instead of following my intuition and inspiration and allowing that to lead me to the next thing (the way I coach others), I was trying too hard to make something happen.  I was acting out of fear instead of inspiration.  I allowed the doubt, fear, and frustration to send me into a tizzy that resulted in a lot of needy action.

I wasn’t thinking clearly.

I wasn’t following my own advice.

I wasn’t listening to my intuition.

Until that moment.

The message “Let go and it will grow.” has come back to me time and time again.  When I find myself struggling to find a solution or plan right this moment, I know I am trying too hard.  When I am trying to force things to work a very specific way, I know I have lost my faith.  When I am too focused on what I feel is going wrong instead of seeing what is going right, I have lost my way.  When I am too focused on blog views, new followers, new likes on Facebook, and the lack of clients, I am forgetting what is important.

My intuition tells me that letting go of the outcome and detaching from whatever I believe should be the end result is going to help things along.  When I let go of the butterfly and allow it the freedom to fly, I free up energy that can be used for other things.  I know this to be true because I have seen it happen over and over again in other areas of my life.

With a strong vision, belief in myself, and my work, things will keep moving forward. 

Do you have something you need to be easy about instead of trying so damn hard?  Take a step back for a while and do things you truly enjoy.  You just might be amazed at what happens next.