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Are You In Danger of This? (And how not to sacrifice your happiness.)

September 4, 2014 by Lamisha

Danger

 

What if someone could tell you without a shadow of a doubt the way your future will likely unfold if you continue on the exact course you are on this very minute?

Would you be interested?

No, I’m not switching businesses and becoming a psychic 🙂

I ask you that because I know something that you might not be aware of and again I’m no psychic, but I have seen this enough to know that you might be in danger.

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Meet Joni* (Names have been changed for privacy sake.)

Joni is an incredibly talented entrepreneur.  She’s sweet, charismatic, caring, compassionate and people adore her!  She’s married to her soul mate, has a gorgeous home, and is blessed with creativity that flows like an open faucet.  Her business is booming and her calendar is booked out 9 months!

BUT…

She’s got a problem and it’s a BIG one.

She is having a hard time finding balance amongst all the awesomeness that is her life.

When she is in work mode, she’s hard-core.  She works long hours, stays up late, and often burns the candle at both ends.

When she manages to find time to focus on her ‘home’ life with her hubby, she is constantly trying to make up for lost time.

She’s lost on the teeter-totter of two extremes and no matter what she does she can’t quite find the happy medium.

The result:

She’s frustrated and cranky most days.  When she’s focused on her business, she worries about her relationship and the many things at home that feel half-assed or un-done.  When she’s at home, she worries about being at work. She thinks: “What if my clients need me?  What about the next deadline?  The next launch? Did I return all important emails?”

She’s stuck, overwhelmed, and feels guilty about not being where she needs to be and often feels like a failure.

She frequently discounts her successes or over looks them completely because she becomes hyper-focused on the things that aren’t working (aka not being able to find balance).

What on the outside looks like an awesome life, on the inside feels unbalanced and incomplete.  She frequently thinks that “if only” she could find the balance between her two very important worlds, she could finally ease into relaxation mode and actually enjoy the magnificent life she has created.

But without being able to see the core issue (which is not the lack of balance in her life), she is destined for a life of exhaustion, fear, frustration, and stuck-ness. She is blind to the belief that is holding her back because she is simply too close to see it.  What she thinks is a simple fix that centers around time management and taking a break every now and then is really just a symptom of a deeper issue.

She has a choice.  She can continue to try to treat the symptom (i.e. the lack of balance in her life) and experience the brief reprieve that it provides for her or she can choose to seek help.  And to be honest, she must first understand and be aware of the consequences of not clearing this issue.

Examples:

  • A stressed work life can result in physical illness
  • A stressed home life can result in relationship trouble
  • A stressed inner life can result in incredible fear, lack of confidence, self-sabotage, and even worse…an unhappy, unfulfilled life.

Getting to the end of her rope and being truly ready to move through this challenge once and for all, Joni reaches out for help.  She knows the magnificence that lies on the other side of this struggle and she’s ready to identify and clear the belief that is holding her hostage in exhaustion, fear, and frustration.

The question is are YOU?

happinessMany of you may be able to directly relate to the specific challenge or symptom that Joni has struggled with or you have your own issue that manifests itself in your life or business in your relationships, self-care, time management, procrastination, marketing (or lack thereof), or maybe it is something different.

The point is we all have that one thing that keeps showing up for us over and over again that leaves us feeling drained, frustrated, and just plain stuck.  There are some of you who are ready to throw in the towel and accept that ‘this is just the way life is’ and you may even believe ‘you just can’t have it all’.

But I am here to tell you, there IS a solution to your problem and it starts with this first step: You must first know the consequences of continuing on the path you are on and refuse to sacrifice the joy and fulfilling life you are destined for any longer.

That’s it.

Life is supposed to be amazing and you are meant to work through the lessons, beliefs, and challenges that hold us back from that incredible joy.  It is part of your journey, but you get to choose if you are ready to move forward and clear it and some of the biggest challenges are those we can’t see directly because we are simply too close.

With that I ask you:

What amazing-ness are you sacrificing by staying stuck? AND Are you ready to take the first step to free yourself from the struggle and frustration?

If so, I invite you to schedule a 30-Minute Consultation to chat with me about your challenges and to see if (like Joni) you are ready to clear them once and for all.  No strings attached.  So what do you say? Are you ready?

P.S. Don’t forget that the 7-Day Resolution Refresh challenge begins on Monday so if you are in need of some inspiration to get some of those amazing goals knocked off your to-do list, get signed up so you don’t miss a beat!

 

Filed Under: Authenticity, Awareness, Being, Challenges, Coaching, Decisions, Frustration, Happiness, Inspiration, Intention, Joy, Lessons, Life, Tips Tagged With: barriers, Blind Spot, Blind Spot session, Bliss, Blocks, business, coaching, Complimentary, danger, fear, free, free coaching, guilt, happiness, happy, Lamisha Serf, lessons, life, Life Once Dreamt, overcome, resolution refresh, sacrifice, worry

3-Simple Steps to Identify Your B.S. (aka Blind Spot)

August 28, 2014 by Lamisha

So, now that you know what a Blind Spot (B.S.) is, I thought it would be helpful for me to share with you a few tips on how you can identify your own.

While it isn’t always obvious when you are looking at your own life and experience, these three steps will help you get a handle on where your B.S. might be hiding.

Try it out and let me know what you come up with.  I promise while these steps are simple, the outcome paves the way for major clarity and growth so you can clear the blocks and move forward with ease and grace.

 

Filed Under: abundance, Awareness, Being, Coaching, Happiness, Intention, Joy, Practices, Tips Tagged With: B.S., Barriers to success, Blind Spot, Blocks, career blocks, DIY, Identify your Blind Spot, life coaching, Life Once Dreamt, money blocks, relationship blocks, simple steps, tips, Video, YouTube

When Life Happens…Just Flow With It

August 6, 2014 by Lamisha

No matter what you are doing or how great things are, life happens and during those moments of chaos when we sometimes feel the need to fight the current and get back to the balance we are used to, it’s usually best to just flow with it.

I thought I would share a bit about my current chaos and how I am handling it. 🙂

 

P.S. Don’t forget about the Epic Birthday Giveaway!  You officially have a week to register to win 1 of 13 amazing gifts.  Hop on over to this post check it out. Good luck!

 

 

 

Filed Under: Being, Coaching, Inspiration, journey, Life, Patience, Planning, Reflection, Tips Tagged With: Balance, birthday, chaos, flow, flow with life, gifts, giveaway, life, life coach, life coaching, Life happens, Life Once Dreamt, peace, power, resistance, Video, Vlog

Re-Framing the Green-Eyed Monster

July 24, 2014 by Lamisha

envy

When we are growing into our dreams and taking action in the world to create the life of our dreams, there are times (sometimes many) when we come up against the dreaded green-eyed monster.  We see all these amazing people doing what we want to do and doing it WELL.

Some of us get discouraged and begin to feel ‘less-than’ that other person that is doing it better, faster, and more beautifully than us.  Others feel like giving up because they convince themselves that they won’t ever measure up.

Well I have a re-frame that will turn that green-eyed monster into a joyous, happy, and celebratory friend.

Check out the video below to find out how you can use this re-frame the next time you feel a bit of envy, jealousy, or ‘less-than’ someone else.

 

P.S. If you are interested in some FREE coaching hop on over to my Facebook Coaching Power Hour that I am hosting TONIGHT from 8pm-9pm EST.  I will have a special thread open for your questions and will be offering my insight and coaching for an hour.  Got a burning question about creating the life &/or biz of your dreams? Ask away!  All you have to do is be a fan of my FB page and come with your questions. 🙂 Talk to you tonight!

Filed Under: Authenticity, Awareness, Being, Challenges, Coaching, Frustration, Inspiration, Life, Tips Tagged With: business, challenges, coaching, compare, comparison, competition, dream, Envy, green-eyed monster, jealousy, joy, life, life coach, life coaching, Life Once Dreamt, re-framing, reframe

Bold Declarations to the Universe & Potential Aftermath

July 17, 2014 by Lamisha

As you know last week I made some pretty bold declarations about not having a Plan B.  Well, as I am quickly finding, when you make big, bold declarations to the Universe, there can be a bit of an aftermath effect that comes.  It’s a recent theme I am seeing not only with myself, but with my clients as well.  Click the link below to find out what I am talking about and let me know, have you experienced something similar?  If so, how did you handle it?

 

P.S.

If you made a recent declaration to get your business into brilliant shape in a heart-centered way, then I encourage you to check out the 90 Days to Biz Brilliance group coaching program.  This is an opportunity to connect, share, and grow your business with other heart-centered women who know what it’s like to be where you are.  There is also still time to get signed up for the bonus self-study program Invest in Yourself before it is available for purchase.  Are you ready?

Filed Under: Authenticity, Challenges, Coaching, Decisions, Inspiration, Intention, Lessons, Life, Patience, Planning, Practices, Tips Tagged With: aftermath, belief, Bold Declarations, bold intentions, dreams, faith, focus, intentions, keep going, life coaching, Life Once Dreamt, patience, progress, Universe, Video

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