Lamisha Serf-Walls

There are lots of reasons you shouldn’t give up, but only 1 reason you should.

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In the last two years of my business there have been moments when I seriously thought about throwing in the towel.  Moments when I thought I’d be better off dropping my dream all together and jumping back into the work force.

It wasn’t because I didn’t love what I was doing.  Not at all.

It was because things got hard, I got frustrated, and I felt lost.

I felt stuck and instead of listening to my intuition, I ignored it entirely.

Instead of asking for help or allowing it in, I thought I had to do it all by my little lonesome.

In short, it sucked!

And as I write this I am getting ready to celebrate my 2 year anniversary in my business in just a few days and I couldn’t be happier! I can’t believe I made it this far and what was once only a dream is now my current reality.

I had a TON of reasons I could’ve quit before.  I could’ve quit because:

  • Money wasn’t flowing
  • Potential clients were saying ‘No thanks’
  • Things got really hard
  • I didn’t know how to move forward
  • I was afraid I’d put all of my passion and it wouldn’t ‘work’

But despite it all, ultimately, I loved what I was doing.

When I get calls from clients telling me they took their big leap into something they never thought possible, I remember my why.

When I cry with clients as they have amazing breakthroughs and aha’s because I can relate to them so much, I remember my why.

And when I have that first call with a potential client who is sharing with me their hopes and desires for what they hope their life will become with my help, I remember my why.

The truth is this work that I do is far more than just a business.  It’s my passion and purpose and despite the fact that things have at times looked as though they weren’t ‘working’, that passion has never ceased.

When you are moving in the direction of your dreams with passion in your heart and purpose in your soul, there will be lots of moments of learning, growing, and evolving.

There will be times when you want to quit.  Times when everything on the outside looks broken and you wonder if it will ultimately work.

There will be many, many, many reasons to throw in the towel as you wonder if you are strong enough, smart enough, or if you are doing enough to make your dreams come true.

And the ONLY time you should quit, is if that passion and purpose have gone.

When your heart isn’t in it and the love for your vision transforms into something else as it may, that is the only time you should ‘quit’.

But honestly, that isn’t even quitting in my book.  That is simply a transformation of a dream into another vision that lights you up and sets your soul on fire and that can never be deemed a failure nor are you a quitter.

Dreams unfold and transform as much as we do and while you may have many reasons to ‘quit’, don’t do it unless your heart truly isn’t in it.

Keep going.  Keep reaching.  Keep dreaming and trust in the passion in your heart.  When you do…magic happens.

In other news, August is a HUGE month for me and my business.  Not only is August 1st the second anniversary of my business, but my birthday is on the 13th and with that comes BIG celebrations & gifts for YOU.

Introducing the 13 Days & 13 Ways of Giving!!!

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For 13 days I am giving gifts, services, paying it forward, and creating very special offers for my tribe and allowing that to filter over into the community.  I’d love for you to be a part of this amazing vision and you can do that in a few ways.

  • Join my Love Your Life Tribe for exclusive gifts for my tribe members only
  • Sign up for my VIP List to get access to special giveaways for VIP’s only
  • Follow me on Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram to stay up to date on how, when, and where I am gifting for all 13 days.
  • Share in the giving by posting your own 13 Ways of Giving using the #13WaysOfGiving on social media

Paying it forward, sharing the love, and really creating a community of love, joy, and good will has always been near and dear to my heart and I’m so excited to share what I am cooking up for you! 

5 Things You Need To Create A Life You LOVE

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Everyone wants a life they love right?

But, how many are actually willing to do the work that is required to make that life a reality?

Far too many people are sitting on the sidelines, wishing, waiting, and wondering when their time will come.

If you are one of those people-today is your day, but you have to be willing to do just a few things to create a life you love.

Below are 5 things you absolutely need to do to create a life you love.

  • Get honest with yourself.  Take an honest inventory of your current life and look at what is working really well and what isn’t.  Don’t just pigeon hole yourself into one area of your life.  Look at everything.  See how well your self-care is doing, your health, relationships, career, family life, hobbies, etc.  How are your finances? How are you feeling most of the time?  Take an honest look at it all and figure out where you want to make improvements that will make you FEEL better.  How you feel is the key to this inventory and make sure you don’t ignore what IS working.  That is incredibly important as we always need to see that there are things that are working in our lives.

 

  • Learn to say ‘no’.  As women this can be a difficult one.  We are naturally service-oriented and want to help, nurture, and care for others, many times leaving whatever is left for ourselves.  We will make sacrifices to no end and happily put others before ourselves even if that means we are doing things we really don’t want to do. Learning to say no is imperative to making sure you are focusing on things that light you up and keep your cup full.  If your cup isn’t full, you have nothing left to give anyone else.

 

  • Start small.  As they say: Rome wasn’t built in a day and neither is your dream life.  Don’t start making big swooping changes in every area of your life as it can be quite jarring and can create a ton of anxiety and overwhelm.  Start small with implementing more of what you truly love and enjoy.  Remember to focus on the things that make you feel good.  The more you do that, the easier the transition and changes will be.  As a side note if you were going to start anywhere first, I’d start with your mindset because your mindset is EVERYTHING.

 

  • Dare to take risks.  Once we reach a certain age, we tend to get comfortable with our lives even if they aren’t exactly how we want them to be.  We allow our comfort zone to become like a cocoon wrapping over us and keeping us safe from harm and disappointment.  But, all those things you desire for your dream life are right outside your cocoon.  You can’t get to them when you are all wrapped up.  You have to be willing to break free from your comfort zone and take risks every now and then.  Start now, write down 3 things that are a bit scary that will take you out of your comfort zone and will help create a life you love.

 

  • Take action.  This one seems a bit obvious, but there are so many women out there who know exactly what they need to do, but they aren’t.  Maybe it’s fear, worry, anxiety, or just plain procrastination that keeps them paralyzed, but they just aren’t moving in the direction they know they want to go.  It isn’t until we work together and they have the accountability and push that they really begin moving forward.  If you are one of these people, stop stalling and get busy!  Take action now.  Your dream life depends on it.

So there you have it.  5 things you need to do in order to create a life you love.  Which will you start with this weekend?

If you are looking for some support during this process to help you stay in action or to take the risks you need to move you forward, I’d love to chat with you more about it.  I have a few spots open in the coming weeks for you to schedule a FREE 30-Minute Consultation. Simply click the button below to get signed up.

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Survey Winners & Free Gifts of Abundance

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I want to first send out a MASSIVE thank you to everyone who took the time to complete my brief survey last week. (If you haven’t completed the form and would like to share your thoughts please feel free to do so now.)  You have helped me get really clear about what you want, how I can better serve you and I have some new ideas in the works for ways you can work with me on a much smaller scale.  Stay tuned for more info.

I also wanted to let you know that if you indicated that you were interested in a free 30-minute consultation to learn more about how I can help you (and possibly be one of the first to try out my new offers that aren’t listed yet), I have emailed you with a link to get your consultation scheduled.  If you can’t find the email, no worries-simply click the image below and get signed up.  I can’t wait to chat with you!

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In exchange for completing the survey, I have also randomly selected 5 winners who will receive 1 free coaching session!

So, without further ado a big congratulations to:

Karel

Catarina M.

Lisa O.

Virginia W.

Erica

I will be emailing each of you individually to schedule your free session so be on the look out for that.

But that’s not all my loves.  Everyone’s a winner in my book so I also want to share with all of you an opportunity to get some FREE goodies in The Path to Abundance Gift Giveaway.  I’ve joined forces with some amazing women to bring you a list of amazing gifts that will help you create a life of abundance in all ways; health, finances, joy, etc.  So hop on over and sign up for the gifts that speak to your soul and enjoy!

 

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How’s that for a wonderful gift-giving Thursday?  I hope you have an amazing rest of the week and enjoy a relaxing and abundant weekend full of lots of love and joy.  Sending big love your way!

My BS: Who Am I To Help?

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Earlier this week I shared this post with my VIP tribe and while it’s a bit of a vulnerable post, I realized how important it is for me to share it with you as well.  May you find comfort in knowing that you are not alone and join me in facing your BS head on, because honestly it’s hard to change anything with that junk holding you back.

Ok, it’s time for me to get something off my chest.  It’s something I’ve been thinking about a lot recently as I have been facing the BS (aka Blind Spot) that has been holding me back and I’m done with it!

The past two months have been pretty tough.  The positive side of me wants to tell you all about the growth, the lessons, and the beautiful blessings in disguise and while there was a lot of that going on that’s not always how it felt. There is another part of me that remembers the worry, the fear, the frustration, and at times the overwhelming tears.In the midst of chaos at home, schedules being thrown out the window, and lots of change going on both personally & professionally, I was forced to face my BS…head on.

The BS I’m talking about is both bull shit & something you may know as my Blind Spot.Yep, in the middle of sharing with you how your BS can hold you back, mine was there waiting for me, trying desperately to get me to not only play small, but quit playing all together. (Funny how that happens right?)  And once I realized what it really was that was holding me back in my business (with the help of another coach), I knew I had to share it with you.

So, here is my most recent experience coming face-to-face with my BS.  My hope is that when you hear my story, you leave with a deeper understanding of how imperative it is to identify and clear your own Blind Spot and you have a bit more compassion for yourself.  Regardless of who you are, what you do, or what area of your life is affected, we all have thoughts & beliefs that are holding us back in our careers, love, relationships, and life in general.  And the best part of all: there is a way to identify and clear it!

Coming face-to-face with your BS isn’t fun or all that comfortable, but I assure you it is the first step to living that amazing, free-flowing, ever expanding life of your dreams.  It is almost as if we believe we can’t or shouldn’t have it all, but as one of my favorite quotes says:

“We ask ourselves: Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?  Actually, who are you not to be?” 

~Marianne Williamson

Go be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous and clear the BS that is in your way!  You have an amazing life of freedom and flow to live so hop to it!

I believe in you,

3-Simple Steps to Identify Your B.S. (aka Blind Spot)

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So, now that you know what a Blind Spot (B.S.) is, I thought it would be helpful for me to share with you a few tips on how you can identify your own.

While it isn’t always obvious when you are looking at your own life and experience, these three steps will help you get a handle on where your B.S. might be hiding.

Try it out and let me know what you come up with.  I promise while these steps are simple, the outcome paves the way for major clarity and growth so you can clear the blocks and move forward with ease and grace.