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From “Meant To Be” to “Maybe Not”

November 18, 2013 by Lamisha

I had a realization today and it is one that I have been struggling with for a while now. You see, when I found out I only had 3 months left of my full-time job, I took it as a sign from the Universe that my coaching business was ready to take off. I thought I was going to have some amazing space and time to create, write, and build an ever-growing business that would sustain me. I had stars in my eyes, a heart full of hope, and no one could tell me otherwise.

I absolutely believed that this was happening and that the reason my job was ending was so I could move into my purpose more fully. But then, after 2 months passed and business didn’t explode I began questioning things. I hadn’t even thought of getting another full-time gig. I thought it was working out perfectly and that it was meant to be for me to work from home, building, creating, and expanding my ever-growing business.

But, that’s not how it has happened thus far. To be honest with you, my month of giving has really become my month of offering what I believe to be a great deal, but with no takers.

Bummer.Big Bummer.

Not only did I not want to entertain the idea of taking a full-time gig (because hello why else would I be losing my job just as I was starting my own business-terrible logic), but I was also dealing with a dwindling dream. I had gotten excited about something that I thought was meant to be, even though it might not work out that way. The funny thing is had you asked me a month before I found out my full-time job would be ending when I planned on taking my new coaching business full-time, I would have most certainly told you that I wouldn’t consider it until I had built a solid foundation. And yet after I found out about position being eliminated, I thought it was a sign just to jump! Funny how we see things so differently in varying circumstances huh?

So, what’s my point?

My point is that things happen for a reason and while we might think we know what that reason is while it is happening, we may not ever really know until the dust settles later. So instead of wishing, hoping, and standing on the belief that we always know why things work out the way they do, why not stand in a place of faith. Faith that things are working out exactly how they should without placing constraints on the situation trying to make it fit into a logical stream of thinking. If I know anything about my journey to coaching, I know that the path isn’t always logical and it is very rarely linear. My path has been more about following the inspirational nuggets along the way. Being inspired to do one thing that leads to another etc. That is how things have worked out for me and many of my clients and I know that is how it will continue to work out.

In this case that means not discounting another full-time gig or feeling badly about services and offers that go no where. Not only am I allowing myself to be open to what comes, but I am also following my own coaching advice and going where my inspiration takes me. I am readjusting my focus and seeing the bigger picture. I may not know what is next for me, but I am sure that it is going to be great.

In the mean time I am going to continue working on my business ideas, tweaking my website, and creating content that is inspiring, useful, and uplifting for you lovely readers. I am also going to continue to build a solid foundation for my business. I am learning, growing, and evolving every day as a business woman and that will never stop. So as I work on my services, offerings etc. my focus is on providing the best services I can for my clients. It also means being open to where, how, and how my next clients will be and trusting the process.

As for the job front, I’m not sure what will happen. I am following my inspiration and going where it leads me, if that means I end up in another full-time job, so be it.

As one of my dear friends has reminded me over and over again…I am letting it flow, letting it flow, letting it flow. 🙂

Where Is Your Focus???

November 15, 2013 by Lamisha

This week I have been a little MIA on my blog and for that I apologize, but I promise I had a good reason. I decided to take some time to really reset my focus for the rest of this year and into the new year. Re-focus sort of suggests I have been making plans and outlining my strategy, but what I did was a bit different from that.

I realized in the last two weeks especially, I have allowed the details of the future get the best of me. Mostly, the unknown details and the many questions that come with them. Questions about business success (or lack there of), questions about where I am headed, and what is on my path. I have spent much of the last two weeks trying to desperately solve problems, figure things out, set plans, and FOCUS on what is coming when I have no clue what that might be.

Up until a few weeks ago I was okay with the not knowing. In fact, I was more than okay with it…I was flowing with it and things were good. It wasn’t until I received comments from someone else on what I “should” be doing, that I began this crazed focus on what is going wrong.

I am sure you have been there before too right? Instead of basking in the wonderful things that are going on in life, we have a tendency to hone in on the one (or two) things that are lacking. We allow those one or two things to be the main focus, main theme, and our primary concern, until we realize it is getting us nowhere.

That is why this week I spent some time changing my focus. Instead of focusing on all the things I feel aren’t quite up to par, I have set the intention to practice flowing with what is good, abundant, beautiful, and magnificent in my life. Does that mean I won’t ever notice when my glass is half-empty? No, but it does mean that I am making a bit of an extra effort to soothe myself and know that it is okay for a glass to be half-empty some of the time, because when it is we appreciate the full glass so much more.So, I ask you lovely readers. Where has your focus been as of lately? Have you been enjoying and appreciating the magnificence that surrounds you or are you honing in on the things that are still missing? If you fall into the latter category, I invite you to change your focus up a bit. You may not have all the answers right now, but by enjoying the little things and the big things that are going well, you somehow find the answers you were looking for not only much faster, but also in the most amazing places.I hope you have an amazing weekend and turn your focus to the abundance and beauty all around you. As always, thanks for reading!

It’s All Working Out…

November 11, 2013 by Lamisha

My Dear Dreamers,

I wanted to take this moment to let you know that you are on your way to the most amazing future you could ever imagine. It may not be obvious right now, but believe me when I say all the pieces are fitting together perfectly and your journey is unfolding in the best way possible.

Can you feel that spark of inspiration? It will be undeniable and you will be whisked away in a flurry of inspired action as you move along to the very next step of your dream. When you find yourself falling into the dungeon of doubt, remember the last surge of inspiration you had. Do you remember how it felt to jump into action as if your soul was on fire? Do you remember all the amazing ideas that came to you at that time? Do you remember how sure of yourself you were and how confident you were in creating the life of your dreams? No one could tell you otherwise.

Remember that time. Feel it. Embrace it and allow it to take you into other moments just like it where you know without a shadow of a doubt that you will see your dream meet reality and far sooner than you believe.

Trust that while you may not have all the pieces right now that they will come in exactly the time you need them. The contacts you need, the time, the money, the lessons, all of it will appear at exactly the right moment. Just know that to be true and enjoy each and every step of the process.

Your dream life is so much more that the manifested reality you are creating now. It is the goodness, the positive experiences, the lessons, the joy, and the amazing journey you experience on your way to your dream life. That is what it’s all about because just as soon as your dream is complete, another one takes it’s place and you will once again meander your way through a path of awesome unknowns to a place of incredible insight.

So what is your inspiration telling you now? What do you just have to do right this minute? Whatever it is, don’t waste anymore time reading this post, go do it!

🙂

The Real Deal: Part 2

November 7, 2013 by Lamisha

A few months ago I shared a post titled The Real Deal. It was my confession to you (and myself) that I am not perfect and I am in fact human. (Contrary to how I may act sometimes. 🙂 )

Well consider this part two of that post.

Over the last two days I have been struggling with a lot of questions, doubts, concerns, and overall worry about the future. A few comments from a friend that were meant to be helpful actually uncovered some deep insecurities and fear within myself that I thought I was managing by putting on a happy face and staying positive.

You see, when I started this life coaching business venture, I had one plan in mind. I was going to build it from the bottom little-by-little and I fully believed that what I didn’t know about the business end of things I would figure out along the way. When I got word that I would be losing my current job, I took it as a sign that I should dive more fully into my business and continue building it piece-by-piece and that things would rapidly take off. For the first time in my life I wasn’t worried about the future. I didn’t have to know how it was going to happen or what would come next and I certainly wasn’t worried about money. (If you know me personally, you know that is a HUGE thing for me to say.)

I had faith and I was trusting the process.

Then I received some rather blunt, yet constructive comments about my business and all of my faith and trust flew out the window. A million “I can’t…” thoughts flew into my mind accompanied by other dream crushing statements that seemed to multiply by the moment. I was doubting myself, my business, and my future. I was frustrated, stuck, and lost. I didn’t know what action to take (if any) and I felt like a failure.

It sucked. It was ugly. But, it was necessary.

What I now know is that the insecurities and hidden fear that bubbled up were there all along. I was simply trying to cover them up. I didn’t want to admit that there were things I didn’t know and my emotional reaction to a friend and mentors constructive comments gave me the opportunity to face them head on. I had the option to continue to wallow in self-doubt and worry or take a step back and re-evaluate things.

While there are many things that I have yet to learn, I know this: I LOVE coaching and I’m good at what I do because of experiences like this. I know where my clients are coming from when they feel lost, stuck, and unsure of what to do next. I understand how it feels when things don’t go as planned. But, I also know what it means to keep going and to keep your dream alive.

Aside from learning to deal with the fear and insecurities that came up in this situation, I have also learned the importance of standing in your power and trusting your intuition. Just because someone shares their insights and thoughts with you does not mean you have to do anything with it, especially if it doesn’t resonate with you. You get to choose whether to use the information or discard it. It’s your choice.

Trust your dreams. Trust the process, even when it doesn’t go the way you expected. But most of all trust yourself!

Onward and upward!!!

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November Theme: Gratitude & Giving

November 1, 2013 by Lamisha

Happy Friday you Darling Dreamers!

It’s the end of another week and the start of a new month! I can’t believe in 2 months we will be moving into yet another year of wonderful goodness. Can you feel the energy speeding up with the holidays quickly approaching? I sure can!

I have been thinking about 2014 a lot over the last few weeks. While each year feels like an opportunity to start anew, 2014 seems even more like a clean slate. Maybe it has to do with my current job coming to an end and the options for the future still to be determined.

Every year around this time, I get excited for the newness and a fresh opportunity to make huge strides in my life and to make it an even better year than the one before. I tend to do a bit of reflection on the past year to identify the growth, evolution, and lessons learned as well as figure out what I still want to work on. Then, I might sit down to write a letter to myself for the year ahead or create a vision board of what I want to achieve (depending on how I am feeling).

Do you do any type of reflection before you set your intentions for the coming year? I asked around to some of my friends and many of them said they haven’t even begun to think of what they want in 2014. Have you?

If you haven’t, I encourage you to take some time to do just that. Ask yourself the following questions:

What did I accomplish in 2013?

What lessons did I learn?

What didn’t I accomplish that I wanted to?

What was holding me back?

That last question is a big one and it may not be something you can readily identify. Many people would answer that with a simple word : Life.

When it comes to resolutions, intentions, goals, and big dreams there are a number of things that can hold a person back. Maybe you are fearful of failure (who isn’t?). Maybe you have a fear of the unknown. Some people fear success. Others say that lack of motivation, inspiration, and a plan to do what they love is the issue. Maybe it’s time, resources, money, connections, confidence, that is keeping you where you are. Or maybe you have no clue what it is.

Identifying what has held you back from achieving your deepest desires is a step in the right direction. Knowledge is power, so knowing what it is is half the battle. The other half is knowing what to do to get through it.

As we move swiftly into the November and the holiday season, I encourage you to take some time to reflect on 2013 so far. Don’t just identify the marks you missed, but make sure to identify the things you did well. The good, great, and amazing moments of 2013 should be celebrated!

With that said, I wanted to let you know that I have created a theme for November and that theme is Gratitude & Giving. With the holiday season upon us and a new year just around the corner, I wanted to extend some amazing (and FREE) opportunities/gifts for you lovely readers. While I am planning for 2014 to be an incredible-blow-my-mind-adventure, I also want to place my focus on the abundance and beauty that is in my life in this very moment.

So, for your first gift, you can download your copy of my article : 20 Ways To Keep Your Dream Alive! All you have to do is sign up for my newsletter and I promise NOT to send you unnecessary, boring, emails just to send them. This list is truly my VIP list, so you are going to want to take full advantage of the awesome gifts that are coming this month.

I hope you have a magnificent weekend and as always, thanks for reading!