Lamisha Serf-Walls

What really changes your life isn’t Motivation, it’s Inspiration

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I used to think that I needed the motivation to do things-you know things like working out and eating better.

I’d look to my super-fit friends and think “Gosh if only I was motivated to do those things…”

Turns out it’s not about motivation at all…it’s ALL about inspiration.

Here’s why…

When we are motivated to do something, it’s likely from some external source.  We follow in someone else’s footsteps because we see the results they are getting and we want the same for ourselves.

Seems logical, but the problem with motivation is that it doesn’t last.  The fire we initially feel may last a few days, but then slowly our energy wains and we are back where we started.

Now inspiration is something entirely different.

Inspiration in my experience has always been that quiet voice or nudge I feel inside that says “Oh yeah that’s a great idea.”  It may not have as much fuel and fire as motivation does initially, but it lasts much longer.

Not only that, it also is typically connected with other inspirational thoughts and nudges that keep you going.

Imagine for a second you are an author writing a book.  Do you look for the motivation to write the book or do you have the inspired thoughts come through that cause you to begin writing?  Chances are it’s the inspiration that sends you back to the page.

The same thing works with how we create a life we love.  It’s not about being motivated to get stuff done or to move forward on our path.  It’s the sometimes whispers of inspiration that lead us to take action.

Does motivation work?  Yes to get you started, but if you are forcing yourself to keep going then it likely won’t last long.  And it will be a long, hard road to get to where you going and nobody wants that.

Inspiration on the other hand feels natural, much easier, and it flows.  At times when I am following my inspiration, it just feels like a no-brainer thing to do.  No stress, worry, or struggle.  Just EASE.

Now, doesn’t that sound better than working, pushing, and forcing things after your motivation wears off?

For some it sounds too good to be true, but I guarantee that inspiration works and it’s the best way to make your dreams come true.

It’s what I teach all of my clients and what I’d love to teach you.

So, tell me what is it that you feel inspired to do right now?  Share in the comments below.  And if you are interested in learning more about this easy, fun, freeing, and flowing way of doing things, schedule a FREE 30-Minute Consultation now and let’s chat!

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5 Things You Need To Create A Life You LOVE

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Everyone wants a life they love right?

But, how many are actually willing to do the work that is required to make that life a reality?

Far too many people are sitting on the sidelines, wishing, waiting, and wondering when their time will come.

If you are one of those people-today is your day, but you have to be willing to do just a few things to create a life you love.

Below are 5 things you absolutely need to do to create a life you love.

  • Get honest with yourself.  Take an honest inventory of your current life and look at what is working really well and what isn’t.  Don’t just pigeon hole yourself into one area of your life.  Look at everything.  See how well your self-care is doing, your health, relationships, career, family life, hobbies, etc.  How are your finances? How are you feeling most of the time?  Take an honest look at it all and figure out where you want to make improvements that will make you FEEL better.  How you feel is the key to this inventory and make sure you don’t ignore what IS working.  That is incredibly important as we always need to see that there are things that are working in our lives.

 

  • Learn to say ‘no’.  As women this can be a difficult one.  We are naturally service-oriented and want to help, nurture, and care for others, many times leaving whatever is left for ourselves.  We will make sacrifices to no end and happily put others before ourselves even if that means we are doing things we really don’t want to do. Learning to say no is imperative to making sure you are focusing on things that light you up and keep your cup full.  If your cup isn’t full, you have nothing left to give anyone else.

 

  • Start small.  As they say: Rome wasn’t built in a day and neither is your dream life.  Don’t start making big swooping changes in every area of your life as it can be quite jarring and can create a ton of anxiety and overwhelm.  Start small with implementing more of what you truly love and enjoy.  Remember to focus on the things that make you feel good.  The more you do that, the easier the transition and changes will be.  As a side note if you were going to start anywhere first, I’d start with your mindset because your mindset is EVERYTHING.

 

  • Dare to take risks.  Once we reach a certain age, we tend to get comfortable with our lives even if they aren’t exactly how we want them to be.  We allow our comfort zone to become like a cocoon wrapping over us and keeping us safe from harm and disappointment.  But, all those things you desire for your dream life are right outside your cocoon.  You can’t get to them when you are all wrapped up.  You have to be willing to break free from your comfort zone and take risks every now and then.  Start now, write down 3 things that are a bit scary that will take you out of your comfort zone and will help create a life you love.

 

  • Take action.  This one seems a bit obvious, but there are so many women out there who know exactly what they need to do, but they aren’t.  Maybe it’s fear, worry, anxiety, or just plain procrastination that keeps them paralyzed, but they just aren’t moving in the direction they know they want to go.  It isn’t until we work together and they have the accountability and push that they really begin moving forward.  If you are one of these people, stop stalling and get busy!  Take action now.  Your dream life depends on it.

So there you have it.  5 things you need to do in order to create a life you love.  Which will you start with this weekend?

If you are looking for some support during this process to help you stay in action or to take the risks you need to move you forward, I’d love to chat with you more about it.  I have a few spots open in the coming weeks for you to schedule a FREE 30-Minute Consultation. Simply click the button below to get signed up.

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Penny For Your Thoughts & Free Coaching

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Spring is officially here and with that comes more sunshine, flowers, and new growth.

Are you a Spring Cleaner around this time of year?  I have to tell you at least with my physical space, my spring cleaning urges come in waves and right now my focus is on my business.

Every week I write 2 blog posts and at least 1 email to my VIP list (if you aren’t on the list you can join it here) and I want to make sure I am providing articles and information that is of interest to you.

My passion is serving you and helping you create a life you love because despite what you may think…you deserve it.

So, I’m asking for less than 5 minutes of your time today to complete a survey to help me serve you better.

I want to make sure I am not only creating great content, but also crafting packages and offers that you want and need.

And in exchange for your highly valuable time, I will be giving away up to 5 free coaching sessions, but you only stand a chance of winning if you complete the survey.

Winners will be announced next Thursday, so what do you say?  Can you do me a solid and complete this survey?

In other news, I have a new post over at the Huffington Post titled: 6 Reasons You’re Settling for a Lackluster Life (& What To Do About It) if you are interested, check it out.  And as always feel free to share it with anyone you think might benefit.

We are in this thing together!

Your Limitless Life

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It took me many years to come to the realization that I am capable of creating my life experience.

I wasn’t always like this.  It took me many years of believing I was bound by my circumstances and experiencing that in my everyday life before I started looking for another way.

You see, on the inside I knew that I had the power, but there was a part of me that doubted it.  I thought I was destined for the mediocrity that is adulthood.

Work, bills, responsibility and that’s it.

The creativity I craved and the joy I knew was waiting for me was at one time just a pipe dream.  A figment of my imagination that I created to get through each day.

What I know now is that we are each given a limitless life.

One that allows us to create, craft, form, build, and enjoy anything we desire.  We have the power to manifest amazing experiences and that is what life is all about.  It’s about growing, evolving, becoming more of who we are.

We peel back the layers to uncover more false beliefs that are holding us back and more authenticity in how we live, connect, and share with one another.

YOU have this same limitless life.

YOU have the power to change.

YOU are tapped into a universal grid of power that with a bit of intention and focus, will change your life and the world.

YOU have all you need, right here and right now.

The fear, anxiety, worry, frustrations, and doubts that tell you, you don’t…well they are lying to you.

I speak from experience when I say…anything is possible.

I never dreamed of creating a business empowering women to create a life of passion, purpose, and joy.  I couldn’t fathom ever working on my own, being my own boss, AND loving what I do.  I didn’t think I had the energy, focus, or  knowledge to make it happen.  I just didn’t know what was possible…until I did.

Until one day my heart and soul screamed so loudly I couldn’t ignore it another moment.  For years I settled.  For years I succumbed to what I was ‘supposed’ to do and ignored what I was meant to do.

Until one day when everything clicked and I knew, I had to leap.

Everyday I am blessed to work with women with their own vision.  They are led to me because they have listened to the call of their soul and they respond.  They are ready.  They are inspired and awake enough to receive the support that I am able to provide and everyday I get to do this work I am forever grateful.  Because with every limitless life I help to change, I am changing my own.

Today I ask you this…what are you doing with your limitless life?  Are you answering the call of your soul or are you trying to cancel it out by listening to what you think you ‘should’ do instead of what you are meant to do?

It’s time to answer the call and make a change.  You have a limitless life with so many gifts to share with the world and it’s time you shared them.

If you are feeling the call of your soul and you are ready to respond, let’s schedule a 30-minute consultation to chat a bit more about your vision and how I may be able to support you.  This is my life’s work and I am honored to be able to do it. I want you to feel the same about your limitless life.

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The Truth About Living the Life of Your Dreams

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When I talk about living the life of your dreams, it comes with a certain spark and twinkle about what may be.  Having a beautiful life full of amazing people, love, abundance, joy, and for me a career that I adore doing what I love.  But, something I don’t often talk about is the not so sparkly stuff…you know the ‘life’ stuff.

I may have set up a pre-conceived notion that when you finally attain the life of your dreams then life is nothing but rainbows and sunshine.  That money flows, your health is amazing, and your love life-well it’s better than ever before.  And while yes that may be part of your story, it’s not all made up of rainbows and sunshine.

The truth is…shit happens.

I was reminded of this fact just last week.

My internet was down, my modem died, my dryer wasn’t working properly, and I ended up late to a client appointment because I mis-read my schedule…all on the same day.

The old me would have pitched a fit, complained, and made an annoying situation even worse by turning it into a bad day.

The new-growing-living-and-learning-me responded differently.

I handled all of the glitches with as much ease as I could and then I took the rest of the day off.

I like to think that I am living the life of my dreams.  I am doing work I love, from home, and I have a beautiful family that I love with all my heart.  Sure I have new goals and big things I want to accomplish this year and I know I will, but for now, I’m happy.

The difference between my pre-dream life living and now is that I used to allow my outer circumstances dictate how I think and feel about everything. 

I am growing in that way because now I don’t do that nearly as often.  Sure, there are times when I forget and have a moment or two where my vision is blurred and I react as opposed to respond to life, but I am still learning.

So, why am I telling you all this?

I’m telling you because there are SO many wonderful changes that come with living the life of your dreams aside from the ‘stuff’.  Your mental shifts are worth more than the money, the house, the car, the job etc.  Your mental shifts are incidentally what help you create the life of your dreams and help you when shit happens afterward.

In addition to ‘having it all’, you will:

  • Learn to respond to life in a loving way
  • Enjoy life so much more even with the ups and downs
  • Know that when shit happens, it doesn’t last forever
  • Be the example for others to do the same

And when I think back to those very important details about living this life, I find them to be far more valuable than the ‘stuff’.

There is so much to be gained in living the life of your dreams and if you aren’t currently living a life you love, what are you willing to change?

0001-23099893I currently have 2 spots left in my Breakthrough Program for February!  This is my signature program that will not only shift your mindset, but help you create the life you’ve always wanted.  If you’ve been thinking about how to take the next step toward your dream life, this is it!

Schedule your 30-Minute Consultation today to see if we are a good fit.  I look forward to connecting with you!