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The Conditional VS Creative Life

April 22, 2016 by Lamisha

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If there is anything I have learned in this life it is that we have an incredible creative power to make our lives what we want, regardless of any external conditions.

I’ll be honest, though. It took me a long time to get to that place.

For most of my life, I thought life was kind of a toss up. You win some, you lose some and for most people, life was a jumble of the good, the bad, and the ugly.

Sure, there were people telling us we could be whatever we wanted to be, but the reality I lived in was so powerful, I’m not sure I believed it.

You can probably relate to this idea of ‘conditional living’ right?

There have probably been times when you allowed your external circumstances to dictate how you think and feel.

Bank account dipping close to zero=really crappy feelings and constant worry.

Relationship woes=feeling badly about yourself and your romantic future.

Struggling your way through a sucky job=suck it up buttercup, that’s just life.

But is that TRUE?

Do we just have to suck it up and hope for a better tomorrow or is there something we can actually do to create a better life?

The truth is, there is another way.

There is the infinite, powerful, creative way of living that changes everything.

Believe me…it changed my life.

Once I realized that *I* had control over how I think and feel and that those very thoughts and feelings had the power to shift and change my outer reality…magic happened.

I did things I never thought possible like start my business and help my clients change their lives.

I made more money.

I met my soulmate.

I bought a dream house.

Now, if you would have asked 16 year old me if this would ever be my future, I would have laughed at you because at that time, I didn’t think very highly of myself and I was living, eating, and breathing a life of lack.

I was merely trying to survive life…never mind THRIVING in life.

It’s actually kind of sad to think of, but it’s true.

My default setting was “I can’t…” and it didn’t matter what followed those words.

I didn’t think I could do anything. I didn’t think I was worthy of love, abundance, joy, or very much really.

BUT…that all changed, when I began shifting my mindset.

It took a few years of searching for the key to happiness before I landed in the world of personal-development and began doing some of the internal work necessary to change my life.

If ever you’ve wanted to change your life for the better, I can tell you first hand it all starts with your mindset.

We all have thoughts, beliefs, and old programming that we carry with us about ourselves, our lives, and how we interact with the world. Our mindset powers our beliefs which powers what we expect to experience. From there our reality is created.

But, what if with a bit of awareness, reprogramming, and a commitment to your new life, you could create instant shifts that would make you happier?

Would you be interested?

A huge portion of the work I do with my clients is based around mindset and helping them get out of the stinkin’ thinkin’ that keeps them stuck and unfulfilled and into the empowered, enlightened, life-giving space that creates miraculous shifts in their lives.

It’s also what inspired me to create a transformational Miracle Mindset Immersion program for YOU.

This is a 4 week group journey that has the potential to change your life forever. Mindset work is something we all need, especially if you aren’t exactly where you’d like to be in your life right now.

It all begins May 2nd and I’d love for you to join us! Early Bird pricing expires Monday April 25th at 11:59pm EST so if you are interested, get signed up asap! Click the button below for more details!

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7 Ways to Cope When Life Just SUCKS

April 5, 2016 by Lamisha

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Sometimes life just sucks and no matter how much you know you ‘should’ slap on a happy face, shift your thoughts, and get into the feeling place of a great life…you’d much rather scream, rant, and complain.

I get it. Believe me I do!

Over the past few months, I’ve had my moments of zen-calm-peaceful-warrior as well as my moments (more like weeks) of everything-is-falling-apart-before-my-very-eyes-and-life-sucks.

Yep, I’m human.

And I just so happen to be a human who is a mother, wife, business owner, and I’m selling a house at the moment. (There’s more to the story, but I’ll just leave it at that.)

To put it simply, things haven’t felt exactly easy. They’ve been challenging and chaotic and to be honest…sometimes life has been rather sucky.

But, as I am beginning to see the light at the end of the tunnel, I’m realizing that if I had to do it all over again, there are a few things I’d like to remember. (You know, in case things ever feel like this again. I mean it is life after all and while I’d love to be lotus-posed-zen-calm-peaceful-warrior all the time, I’m not.)

How to cope when life just SUCKS:

Feel the feels. I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again, I’m a BIG believer that emotions are generally better out than in. I’m a heart-felt, emotional person so when I’m frustrated, angry, sad, depressed, or even happy I tend to cry. It’s the overwhelm of emotion that tends to get to me and I have to let it out! So, when life sucks…feel what you feel and own it. By allowing it to flow, you let go of any resistance and things begin to look up much faster than you thought possible.

Flip the script. When shit hits the fan and life gets a bit sucky, it can be all to easy to ask “Well what’s gonna happen next?” I beg you to NEVER ask this question. When you do, life (ahem and the Universe) shows you exactly what else can happen next. A better question to ask is…’How can it get any better than this?’. Even if you are feeling a bit snarky and ask it sarcastically, the Universe WILL show you how it can and will get better.

Find the miracle. (Putting my zen-cap back on.) One of the most simple ways of shifting your mindset when things really suck is to find the miracles and magic all around you. I don’t care how small it might seem in the moment. A miracle is a miracle and it can be something as simple as finding a penny on the ground or seeing a sunset. Notice it. Write it down and keep looking for more. Eventually the miracles will multiply and life will go from being sucky to lucky. (ya see what I did there?)

Screw “reality”. I say this a lot and for some it’s a bit confusing, but let me explain. When things in life feel a bit or just down right shitty, the LAST thing you want to do is keep focusing on the very things that make you feel bad. For instance, looking at your bank balance when you know that it’s teetering around zero (or when it’s in the red) or reading the statistics about health conditions, job statistics, or whatever people deem to be ‘hard-core-facts’ about your given situation. Allowing your outer reality to set your inner vibration is a surefire way to keep attracting more of the same. Focus on the problem, you get more problems or in the least more crappy feelings that then attract equal vibration problems. You don’t need that kind of negativity in your life, so ignore reality for a bit. Shift your focus completely and go back to finding the miracles around you. I promise the sooner you do, the easier things will become.

Own the manifestation & shift it. This one hurts a bit, but it’s true. YOU are a powerful creator and as such, you have the power to manifest the best of things and the worst of things. Your thoughts, feelings, inner dialogue, beliefs, experiences etc. all feed into the overall vibration of who you are and it creates your reality. YOU manifest for yourself…not anyone else, so when life gets sucky, it’s best to own it and shift it. In fact, anytime you begin to feel a bit of negative emotion or when things get challenging check-in and see how you’ve been feeling overall. What are your dominant thoughts? Then shift them. The sooner you do, the sooner life shifts too!

Activate your mindset practice. If you don’t already have a mindset practice, now is the time to create one and use it! While it is typically best used as a daily practice, using it during times when you desperately need to shift your mindset and beliefs to something a bit more positive can be just the thing you need. Your mindset practice may include reading/writing affirmations, meditating, visualization, using EFT tapping or something else entirely, but when you use it as a daily practice AND as an anchor to raise your vibration when you need it most, it’s priceless! If you don’t already have a mindset practice, create one today!

Reach out and ask for help. Listen, you weren’t meant to live life on your own nor were you meant to solve all the problems by yourself. Sometimes reaching out to a friend, mentor, coach, or family member to vent can be just what you need to see that things really aren’t as bad as you think. You don’t have to go it alone. Reach out and ASK for help.

I want to hear from YOU! How do you cope when life gets a bit sucky? What is your go-to method for turning the corner and getting yourself back on track? Post in the comments below!

5 Reasons You Aren’t Living the Life You Truly Desire

August 26, 2015 by Lamisha

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Every single day I speak with women all over the world who are feeling just plain stuck in life. They dream of an amazing life with lots of love, abundance, beautiful experiences, and adventure only to find they have no clue how to make it happen.

When we first chat, they list all the things they’ve tried to make their dreams a reality. They’ve pushed, pulled, planned, and done everything they can think of to make their desires real, but find that something is stopping them along the way.

The thing I notice about all of these scenarios is that the reasons these amazing women aren’t living a life they absolutely love has nothing to do with action and has everything to do with things they just can’t see.

If you are in the same boat or have found yourself in a similar situation before it’s likely because of one of these 5 reasons.

You don’t believe it’s possible. We all have had some bullshit story about why what we desire isn’t possible. It might be so far outside what you’ve actually accomplished in your life that you just don’t see any way that what you desire could come to fruition and even though you dream of it becoming your reality, there is a bit of doubt about whether it can actually happen. The answer is this: Yes it can and will happen, but ONLY when you decide it’s possible.
You’re letting fear lead the way. Fear is a f–king liar and it will try to convince you more often than not that what you are attempting to do is not safe or smart. It will try and convince you of all the reasons it won’t work instead of highlighting all the magical ways it will. Fear feeds off your insecurity (see #1) and the best way to combat that is to take a step forward despite the fear and prove to yourself over and over again that it’s not as scary as you think.
You think you need to know all the steps from where you are to where you are going. As much as you would like to believe that you are 100% in control at all times and have the power to find the best possible route to your dream life, the truth is you don’t. All you need to do is take the next step and trust that the Universe is going to inspire the one after that. You only have the capacity to see 1 possible way your dreams can become reality and it’s likely not even the best way. The Universe on the other hand has so many amazing resources at its disposal and can orchestrate connections, opportunities, and chance meetings you never imagined. Let go of the how and just listen to your intuition.
You are stuck in your current reality. Your current reality is merely an indication of where your thoughts have been in the past. It in no way means that what you desire is impossible or improbable unless you decide to continually reflect on what is right in front of you instead of focusing on where you want to be. When you stop playing the victim to your current ‘reality’ you make a new reality possible and the Universe paves the way for you to make your life amazing.
You think it has to be hard and self-sabotage when things get too good. You likely were taught that everything comes with a price tag and if you want to live the life of your dreams you have to work hard. That’s a lie. Do you have to be persistent? Yes. Do you have to be willing to believe in yourself when others don’t? Yes, but that in no way means it has to be hard. When things get easy and you manifest circumstances that feel amazing with ease, you may also find yourself sabotaging the situation to shake things up a bit. Because honestly, who are we without problems to solve and challenges to overcome? Let the good things be good and the easy things be easy. I guarantee there will be other problems for you to solve, so don’t mess with the good stuff to make yourself feel more comfortable.

The truth is there are lots of reasons we aren’t always creating the life experience we want and if you are finding yourself struggling with one or more of the above, it’s time to get some support.

Reach out and schedule a FREE 30-Minute Consultation below and let’s have a chat about how I can help you clear the junk holding you back and help you step more fully into the amazing life you deserve.

I just turned 2 and Things I Learned Along the Way

August 12, 2015 by Lamisha

August 1, 2013 I did something I never imagined I’d do.

I started a business.

Not only did I surpass the 1 year mark when most business die a quick, painful death, but I have just hit the 2 year mark and I’m pretty freakin’ proud of myself.

Not because of the money I’ve made, but because I’ve stuck with it and have met, coached, and supported so many amazing souls. Thinking back on it , I’ve learned some pretty amazing lessons that I want to pass along to you.

You can do more than you think you can. As if the fact that my business is still alive isn’t enough proof, I’ve done way more than I ever thought I could. I’ve run marketing campaigns, group coaching programs, webinars, and coached countless women as I worked to get my message out into the world. If you would’ve told me 10 years ago that this is what I’d be doing…I’d probably laugh in your face. Wherever you are and whatever you are doing, know that you can do more than you think.

Your intuition is an amazing gift…use it! There have been LOTS of moments when I thought other people knew better than me when it came to what I should do next, except they didn’t. We all have an inner GPS that is more powerful, more aware, and better equipped to support us in figuring out the next step than anyone else, we just have to learn to listen to it. This is a muscle I am still working, but I can tell you I am far more tuned in now than I ever was before I started this journey. Listen to your heart, it will never steer you wrong.

You don’t need to know the ‘how’. As a recovering control freak here, I sometimes forget this detail and I usually regret it. As much as the world tells us we need a plan, an outline or a blueprint for our success, the truth is you really don’t. If you follow your heart and act on the inspiration it provides, that will be enough. The only thing having a blueprint does is make you feel more secure while also cutting you off from the amazing opportunities that are out there for you. The Universe has far more resources available than we do…so why would you cut yourself off from that? Follow the next step and trust that you’ll always figure out what is next because you will.

Just keep swimming. In moments when I’ve wanted to give up (and there have been plenty), I had friends tell me to “just keep swimming” and as much as I didn’t want to hear it, I knew they were right. Had I quit when I wasn’t booking any new clients for 4 months or when I had lost all confidence in my ability to actually run a successful business, I’d never have made it to the point I am now. Now I know that I not only can make it, but I AM…every single day. Whatever your dream is or what your end vision may be…just keep swimming. Trust your vision and purpose and let it guide you, but never give up…unless of course you no longer feel the passion for what you are doing.

I am in awe of how far I’ve come from the time this was only a dream. In fact, this week I recorded this video reflecting on what prompted me to take the leap in the first place.

Listen, I know that whatever your BIG LEAP is, it feels scary right now. That business, new career, or stepping into your true purpose feels bigger than life right now. The steps to get there feel overwhelming and you aren’t quite sure how to make it all come together. You might even feel a little stuck…

You are not alone and you don’t have to figure it all out by yourself. The truth is you have the power to create ANY life you desire. I want to help you make your dream life a reality. Not tomorrow, next week, or next year when you feel more prepared.

I want to help you NOW.

If you are feeling the call of your soul to take the leap now…let’s chat. I’ve got something special for you and I only have room for 4 people so if you are ready to dive in and make your dreams come true finally…hit the button below and let’s schedule a free chat.

My word is FREEDOM…What’s yours? (Plus a free invitation for YOU.)

July 1, 2015 by Lamisha

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It feels like forever since my last post and that’s because I’ve been on vacation and piecing together my next steps. The good news is I am back and I have a lot of GREAT things up my sleeve for you. But, before I share all of that with you (soon I promise), I want to share some of my most recent realizations.

All this traveling I’ve been able to do this year so far, I realized I have had a theme bubbling up my entire life and it is exactly the kind of life I want to create.

That theme is FREEDOM.

Many (many) moons ago, I wouldn’t have known what it was because I was dealing with so much turmoil and strife, but today I can honestly look at my life as a whole and say what I truly desire is freedom in ALL forms.

I want to experience freedom in love (thank you SCOTUS for making that possible in all 50 states in the US finally).

I want to experience freedom in my finances (thank you Denise Duffield-Thomas for helping me clear my blocks to be open to more abundance.)

I want to experience freedom in my time and how I choose to spend my time on a daily basis (thanks boss-aka me!).

And I am finally embracing the fact that I want to experience freedom in what I create and share with YOU.

You see over the years, I’ve tried to make all of my desires fit nicely into little square boxes even though the contents were hanging out in odd (and fun) shapes and sizes. I realized this weekend that the only thing clean, tidy, square boxes are good for are moving- you know when you have to pack a moving truck and feel like you are playing Tetris to make everything fit.

I don’t fit into one clean and tidy box and I bet you don’t either.

I’m a bit messy and oddly-shaped at times, but it’s what makes me unique. What I desire today may change form in a few months, but that’s the true beauty of evolution and growth isn’t it?

Your desires, wishes, and dreams are as diverse as your experiences in this life and I want you to know it’s OKAY to have all those (sometimes conflicting) desires because in the end it’s all a part of YOU.

You will at times drop the things that are no longer serving you. You will de-clutter your dreams, desires, and wishes and peel back the layers to reveal what is really important to you right here and right now. And despite what gets left on the editing room floor, life will feel amazing for you because in the end YOU get to choose what stays and what goes.

My biggest realization over the last 2 weeks is the freedom that I not only desire and am now totally embracing, but also the freedom I help my clients attain.

And let’s be clear, freedom means something different to everyone. For me it might be about time and money and for someone else it might be entirely about their career. But, what I want YOU (and every other woman walking this planet) to know is that YOU have the FREEDOM to choose the life you live. You have the FREEDOM to break free from whatever has you stuck and to choose differently. But most of all you have the FREEDOM to decide the kind of life you live and experience while you are in this blessed body of yours.

And I want to help you get to that FREEDOM, whatever it means to you because I know that you have an amazing life to live and it’s time to make your dreams come alive starting NOW.

The Facebook Tribe I created a few months ago is under construction and with it comes a new name (TBA) and lots of awesome tools, tips, and challenges to help empower YOU to live that amazing life you want…right now. And instead of waiting for all the new pieces to be in place, I’m inviting you to join us today, before everything is perfect and the new name is revealed.

In this group you will get access to free information, special offers, free coaching threads, inspiration, and lots of additional life-changing information that will empower you in truly beautiful ways. This is phase 1 of the amazing new things to come, so hop on over and be one of the first people to know about what else is coming down the pipe.