Lamisha Serf-Walls

Why it’s SO hard to keep the faith when life gets tough.

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photo credit: Why? via photopin (license)

Have you ever wondered why it’s so damn hard to keep the faith when things get rocky in life?

Well last night I had a really powerful conversation with my mindset buddy via text about this very topic.

We were chatting about our individual paths and how even though we do this work for a living, it’s still difficult at times to keep the faith and BELIEVE in the magic and wonder of our dreams.

When the going gets tough and shit hits the fan in life, we often lose sight of all that we know, trust, and teach.  We doubt ourselves and forget all the wonderful things that have happened in our lives.

I realized during that conversation that is something many of YOU are dealing with too, because after all we are all human right?

But why?

Why do we get so caught up in the messed up reality before us when we know that all we have to do is shift our thoughts and things will improve?

Today I did a live stream on my Facebook Page that you absolutely have to see.  It’s my explanation as to why we do this and how to break free from the illusion that you are indeed stuck in some ‘reality’ or another.  You ALWAYS have the power to change it and it’s closer to you than you think!

Check out the live stream by clicking the image below and let me know your thoughts!

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I REFUSE to accept this violence as ‘normal’

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photo credit: heArt via photopin (license)

My heart hurts.

My soul is saddened and my mind can’t make sense of the world in which we live where violence and hatred are all over the news at any given moment.

Tears fall as I try desperately to hold onto the little light that I can see as souls from all over the world come together to mourn, love, support, and share their alliance with the LGBT community following the tragic event in Orlando this weekend.

You see, not even 12 hours prior to the deadly massacre, I was walking with my family in the Pride Parade for the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention to raise awareness for the souls who feel suicide is their only choice.

The amount of love, support, appreciation, joy, and community I felt as a lesbian woman walking during that parade is unparalleled.  It’s the same kind of support, joy, and love you feel when you are in a room full of people who honor you for YOU…ALL of you.  And likely the SAME feeling the men and women felt as they entered their safe haven for the evening at Pulse in Orlando.

I have cried puddles of tears in confusion and sadness because I could have been one of the victims of such a heinous act, but beyond that- it could be anyone of us for any reason, difference, or distinction.

I’m ANGRY.

I’m angry that those lives were taken.

I’m angry that I could have been one.

I’m angry that there is so much darkness in the world and that so many amazing souls feel the need to hide their light for fear of persecution and judgement.

I’ve LIVED in the darkness, hiding my truth because I was afraid of what others might think.

I’ve LIED my way through life, going through the motions of what other people wanted me to do and who they wanted me to be until one day I couldn’t do it anymore.

I’ve been FEARFUL of what might happen to me if anyone ever found out the truth and to be honest, there is a part of me that wants to creep slowly back into the closet where it’s “safe” because I don’t want to be a victim.

But there’s a bigger part of me that says FUCK that.

Hiding isn’t what we need right now.  Fear isn’t want we need right now.  Retaliation isn’t what we need right now.

What we need is the courage to stand up in our TRUTH and to HONOR who we are AS we are.

We need LOVE, LIGHT, PEACE, COMMUNITY, and CONNECTION.

We need EACH OTHER.

Despite the darkness,  I DO believe LOVE will always win, but I want it to win NOW, not later.

This incident is but one example of how hatred, separation, and fear are keeping us apart and yet there are SO many other issues that are born from the same hatred and fear.

This isn’t about hate against one community or another, it’s merely an example of a bigger problem we are facing and one that we will NEVER solve with the same thoughts, energy, and focus that created it.

This is about YOU and I.
This is about HUMANITY.
This is about getting back to the spark of the DIVINE that we were ALL born with and that connects us all.

This is about creating a world of LOVE…period.

I REFUSE to allow accept this way of life as “normal”.
I REFUSE to live in FEAR.
I REFUSE to return to the DARKNESS.

Love will win and I will continue to do my part to empower, uplift, and inspire my tribe to speak, honor and LIVE their truth in LOVE.

That’s what this life is all about.

My hope is that you will stand with me.

Feeling STUCK? You may be missing these 2 key ingredients

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photo credit: Had a bad day via photopin (license)

If you’re NOT where you want to be in LIFE you’re likely missing 1 of 2 things…and maybe even BOTH.

There are 2 KEY ingredients to creating the life you desire and they might not be what you think.

It’s not money…

It’s definitely not luck…

It’s not who you know (though in some cases that doesn’t hurt)…

It’s MINDSET & ACTION…

In the work I do, I find that MOST of the women I work with are missing one of the two and there are quite I few who are missing BOTH.

MINDSET—>

If you can’t fathom your life being any better than it currently is…how can you think it will ever change?

If you can’t see your dreams coming true in the best possible way, how in the world are they supposed to?

Not sure it’s ok, acceptable, and you are worthy of living the life you desire?

Then how the hell are you going to ever make it happen?

You HAVE to be in ALIGNMENT mentally with your vision. You have to BELIEVE..TRUST…HAVE FAITH..and keep going!

And you know what trips most people up beyond anything else—->the HOW.

If you struggle with this remember, that’s not your job.

Your job is to CHOOSE your dreams, your new reality and your new normal and step into your reality daily through your mindset practice and when you do that you are half-way there.

You don’t need a map or a blueprint or a step-by-step outline of what you need to do.  The truth is, that would limit you more than you ever realize!

Get your mindset, SET for success, joy, peace, happiness, abundance, and anything you need and desire.  That is the first step!

ACTION—>

This is the OTHER part people often forget that is far more obvious but without the initial MINDSET work…seems impossible.

You don’t have to know the HOW as I said…that’s not your job.

But you DO have to take INSPIRED ACTION toward your vision and TRUST it. Entirely.

Staying paralyzed because you’re afraid you might not make it or maybe you will.

 

Maybe you will fail or maybe you will succeed beyond your wildest imagination and the thought absolutely terrifies you!

<—- FYI: These thoughts will NOT get you to where you are going. —>

 

Fear is going to be there anyway. Might as well make friends with it and the discomfort of expansion too.

When you step into the new reality you want to live, there will be expansion, discomfort, and stretching yourself to achieve the thing you were put here to do…YOUR PURPOSE.

That’s all there is to it and without these 2 incredible pieces of the puzzle…you won’t get anywhere.

 

So where are you on the spectrum?

Got your mindset work in order?

Taking inspired action toward your vision EVERY day?

If so, congratulations you’ve hacked the code and figured out the big ‘secret’ that has so many scratching their heads.  Also know that your success is inevitable.

 

However, if you are missing one or both of the key components above…it’s time for a great, big, massive overhaul of a change and it starts with the button below.

Now, I’ll be the first to tell you that you most certainly don’t NEED a coach to get to where you want to be in life, however if you want to get there faster, some support is definitely the way to go.

 

Hit the button below and let’s talk.

Remember it’s TIME to live the life your soul craves.

The question is…are you ready?

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Inspiration & Impact: My Why

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photo credit: Diary: 23rd of September 2013 via photopin (license)

Last Friday, I had the honor of being part of a monumental moment for one of my first mentors ever, my high school dance coach.

To paint the picture for you, when I was in school, I wasn’t the most positive person in the world.  I was dealing with a lot of personal pain from family junk of the past and finding it difficult to walk my true path.  I didn’t really know who I was or how I fit into the world.  All I knew is that I loved to dance.  It was my outlet, my passion, and the thing that changed my life forever.

By senior year, I had gone through 3 dance coaches (one per year) and after going a few months without a coach at all, we were lucky enough to find Mrs. Haggard.  The Universe must have known how much I needed her during that year because it was that moment everything in my life changed.

Her guidance, encouragement, and belief in not only me, but so many others on the team shifted the trajectory of my life.

When I heard that she was officially retiring from her long career in being an educator, uplifter, and dance teacher, I knew I had to be a part of it in some small way.  And while I couldn’t be there physically I did have an opportunity to write a letter to let her know how much she has inspired me and impacted my life for the better.  I even had my best friend FaceTime me from the event so I could “be” there.

It was an emotional moment for sure.  Seeing the woman who I haven’t seen in probably 10 years saying her goodbyes to the school that meant so much to her was a bit overwhelming, but it reminded me of why I’m doing what I’m doing.

It reminded me of my why.

I do what I do because I HAVE to.  It’s part of my soul’s calling and really, there’s no better way to put it than that.

This work…

Inspiring, uplifting, teaching, sharing, and helping my clients and tribe heal is a huge part of my path.  It’s how I am changing the world.  One soul, dream, desire, and beautiful client at a time and to be honest, it all began with Mrs. Haggard.

If someone would have told me 16 years ago what I’d be doing now, I’d say they were crazy.

Back then, there was no way I could ever imagine being at this level teaching and help clients create lives they loved.  I didn’t have the confidence or power or belief enough in myself and yet those are the very things I help women with.

It’s pretty amazing right?  How everything comes full circle in life.

The very thing that saved me and helped me build the confidence in myself is also the thing that set me on this path.

Simply put my why boils down to helping, uplifting, and teaching other women how to tap into their inner power that they may not know they have because I understand what it’s like to not understand the power you wield.

And now I know what’s it like to use that power consciously to create amazing experiences and that’s exactly what I want to help you do.

I’ve opened up some spots in my calendar through the end of May to invite in the souls who know they are ready to change their lives for the better, but aren’t exactly how to do that.  If you are ready to take the next step and uplevel your life and invest in YOU, click the link below and let’s chat.

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How bad do you want it???

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photo credit: sensitive noise / obvious 2 via photopin (license)

 

I’m going to shoot straight today and ask you flat out.

How bad do you want it?

It being…change, transformation, abundance, joy, peace, flow, love, compassion, adventure, etc.?

How bad do you want it?

 

Do you want it enough to get a little uncomfortable while you stretch outside your comfort zone?

Do you want it enough to look a the dark parts of your soul that feel a bit icky?

Do you want it enough to take BIG ACTION even when it scares the crap out of you?

Do you want it enough to NOT GIVE UP, no matter what your external circumstances tell you?

 

Well..do you?

If you said yes, then I have good news for you…you will get it.  It will happen for you and you will experience the sweet nectar that comes from standing out and taking ownership of what you desire.

If you said, “ummm, maybe”, I’ve got news for you.

It’s time to OWN it.

It’s time for you to step out and stand in your power for all that you desire and to stop pussy-footing around about what you may or may not be able to achieve.  There is no sugar-coating it friends.  When you want something and I mean REALLY want it…you keep going.

You get knocked down and you get up.  You keep writing, singing, acting, reaching, growing, evolving, living, sharing, and moving forward because you can’t not do it.

Your purpose is a part of you.  It IS you.  It’s who you are and what you were put here to do and if you aren’t owning it…I mean really owning it…what are you doing?

You have a God-given, Divinely inspired, Universally-assigned gift to be truly, magnificently, and unapologetically YOU.

Live it.  Love it.  Share it. Be it. And for the love of all things holy…OWN IT.

There is no one else like YOU and if you know anything about the state of our worldly affairs right now, you know we could use some kickass visionaries following their heart to make this world a better place.

If that is YOU…it’s time.

Your time to shine.

Your time to drop the excuses and step your game up.

And if you HAVEN’T been because you’ve been thinking all the crappy mind-mumbo-jumbo that has you playing small, it’s time for change.

Now.

Today.

Are you ready?

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