Lamisha Serf-Walls

2015 Lessons: The things I learned so you don’t have to

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As 2015 begins to wind down, I’ve found myself reflecting on some of the major life (and business) lessons I’ve learned this year, many of which have brought me to a new level as an entrepreneur and coach.  In fact, one of the things we are doing over in the 2016 Planning Party is taking stock of what we have accomplished and the lessons we have learned over the past year before we move forward into creating our vision for 2016 (using the 2016 Create Your Shining Year Workbooks).

To be honest it’s one of the most eye-opening exercises I’ve ever done.

2015 has taught me a variety of things but the most important lessons I’ve shared below.

  • All the answers I need lie within.  Now, this is an obvious lesson for many people, but it’s one I tend to learn over and over again.  While many of us want someone to tell us what we should do in life, we really have all we need to make those decisions for ourselves.  This year, I’ve learned to tap into my intuition a lot more than I have in the past and have really begun trusting that inner voice that tells me when to relax and when to take risks.  It’s not always second nature, but I think I have finally learned that whatever answer I am looking for…going within is always the first step.
  • I am a powerful manifest-star!  I’ve always known that manifesting is amazing and that we all have the ability to manifest our desires with ease and grace, but this year has shown me just how powerful I am.  In the last 12 months, I’ve manifested 4 of my best months, $3K in 5 days, $3K in 24 hours and so much more.  It’s really not about the money as much as it’s about understanding that we all have the power to create my own reality instantly and the power lies within our thoughts.
  • My mindset practice is non-negotiable.  As I teach my clients what we think and believe is directly related to what we manifest in our reality and on the days when I skip my mindset practice…all hell breaks loose.  My mindset practice is my anchor.  It’s all about building new beliefs and visualizing the future I am creating everyday and it’s imperative that I take that time for myself.  If you don’t already have a mindset practice, I highly recommend creating one asap.  It’s the most valuable tool I use.
  • There’s never just ONE way. We live in a world of infinite possibilities.  For a long time I tried to do the things that the ‘successful’ coaches and entrepreneurs were doing because obviously it worked for them, but after trying things and not getting the results, I realized there are so many other ways of doing things.  My way will always be more fun, in alignment with who I am and who I serve and that’s what matters anyway.  As long as I do what I love and keep moving forward.  It’s always going to work out.
  • It can always be easy…so let it be.   I often have a tendency to make things more difficult than they need to be and this year I’ve learned that everything can truly be easy…if I allow them to be.  By simply letting go and allowing things to unfold with faith and trust, I’ve seen miraculous things happen from helping amazing women all over the world to finding simple solutions to some of my biggest challenges.  And I’ve learned that if it starts to feel a bit hard or I’m ‘efforting’ too much, it’s time for a break.

I am deeply grateful for the lessons of 2015 and am looking forward to the insights and wonders that are awaiting me in 2016.

P.S. I have just a few more spots left to help women like you Break Free From Stuck and if you are ready to start 2016 with passion, purpose, and SOUL then schedule your FREE 30-Minute Consultation below and let’s chat.

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I just turned 2 and Things I Learned Along the Way

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August 1, 2013 I did something I never imagined I’d do.

I started a business.

Not only did I surpass the 1 year mark when most business die a quick, painful death, but I have just hit the 2 year mark and I’m pretty freakin’ proud of myself.

Not because of the money I’ve made, but because I’ve stuck with it and have met, coached, and supported so many amazing souls.  Thinking back on it , I’ve learned some pretty amazing lessons that I want to pass along to you.

  • You can do more than you think you can. As if the fact that my business is still alive isn’t enough proof, I’ve done way more than I ever thought I could.  I’ve run marketing campaigns, group coaching programs, webinars, and coached countless women as I worked to get my message out into the world.  If you would’ve told me 10 years ago that this is what I’d be doing…I’d probably laugh in your face.  Wherever you are and whatever you are doing, know that you can do more than you think.

 

  • Your intuition is an amazing gift…use it! There have been LOTS of moments when I thought other people knew better than me when it came to what I should do next, except they didn’t.  We all have an inner GPS that is more powerful, more aware, and better equipped to support us in figuring out the next step than anyone else, we just have to learn to listen to it.  This is a muscle I am still working, but I can tell you I am far more tuned in now than I ever was before I started this journey.  Listen to your heart, it will never steer you wrong.

 

  • You don’t need to know the ‘how’. As a recovering control freak here, I sometimes forget this detail and I usually regret it.  As much as the world tells us we need a plan, an outline or a blueprint for our success, the truth is you really don’t.  If you follow your heart and act on the inspiration it provides, that will be enough.  The only thing having a blueprint does is make you feel more secure while also cutting you off from the amazing opportunities that are out there for you.  The Universe has far more resources available than we do…so why would you cut yourself off from that?  Follow the next step and trust that you’ll always figure out what is next because you will.

 

  • Just keep swimming.   In moments when I’ve wanted to give up (and there have been plenty), I had friends tell me to “just keep swimming” and as much as I didn’t want to hear it, I knew they were right.  Had I quit when I wasn’t booking any new clients for 4 months or when I had lost all confidence in my ability to actually run a successful business, I’d never have made it to the point I am now.  Now I know that I not only can make it, but I AM…every single day. Whatever your dream is or what your end vision may be…just keep swimming.  Trust your vision and purpose and let it guide you, but never give up…unless of course you no longer feel the passion for what you are doing.

I am in awe of how far I’ve come from the time this was only a dream.  In fact, this week I recorded this video reflecting on what prompted me to take the leap in the first place.

Listen, I know that whatever your BIG LEAP is, it feels scary right now.  That business, new career, or stepping into your true purpose feels bigger than life right now.  The steps to get there feel overwhelming and you aren’t quite sure how to make it all come together. You might even feel a little stuck…

You are not alone and you don’t have to figure it all out by yourself.  The truth is you have the power to create ANY life you desire.  I want to help you make your dream life a reality.  Not tomorrow, next week, or next year when you feel more prepared.

I want to help you NOW.

If you are feeling the call of your soul to take the leap now…let’s chat.  I’ve got something special for you and I only have room for 4 people so if you are ready to dive in and make your dreams come true finally…hit the button below and let’s schedule a free chat.

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What’s in your toolbox?

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photo credit: Free space fantasy universe time warp pulsar texture for layers via photopin (license)

Before I get to today’s post, have you completed my brief survey?  If not, I’d love it if you would take a few minutes to share your thoughts with me for a chance to win one of 5 free coaching sessions I will be giving away on Thursday.

I remember many years ago in college I was seeing a mentor/counselor to chat a bit about a relationship I was in and on more than one occasion she asked me what was in my toolbox?

When I was met with a problem or a challenge in my relationship or in my life in general, she wanted to know what tools I was using to cope and help solve those problems.

It was a funny idea as I wasn’t quite sure what type of tools I had at that time, but it was also the beginning of me filling my toolbox with practices, rituals, activities, mindset strategies etc. to help me not just cope and survive life, but to THRIVE.

As it turns out, I’ve done so much research in the last 10 years that I’ve collected a TON of tools and practices that I share with my clients to help them continue to grow and evolve and create a life they ultimately love.

One of the misconceptions about coaching (or at least my style of coaching) is that by hiring a coach you are entering into a long-term relationship where the coach will give you the answers you have been seeking.  That’s actually the exact opposite of what I do.

My mission is to help women like you fill your toolbox with the practices, strategies, knowledge, and other tools that are available to us all to help empower you to be more of who you really are and do more of what you really love.

In a sense, I suppose I’m more of a teacher than a coach, though it doesn’t really matter what you call me. What matters is that you know you don’t have to get the answers from anyone else.  All the answers you are seeking lie within you and it is my job to teach you how to access them.

Is that a business-killer?  I don’t think so.

I like to think of it as me being in the business of empowerment.  I want you to learn the tricks of the trade so you can ride off into the sunset and live that crazy amazing life you’ve been dreaming of.  You don’t need me holding your hand for years to come.  All you need is a toolbox stocked full of tools you can use to tap into the wealth of knowledge that you have lying within you.

I guarantee that in this very moment you have a few things that work for you.  Maybe communication, journaling, art, or writing are some of the tools you use.  That’s perfect!  But, I want to teach you more…a lot more.

In fact, I want to teach you a new tool every week for the rest of the year and the ONLY people that are getting access to this amazing wealth of information right now are my 90-day Breakthrough & 6-Month VIP clients.  For the next month, anyone who registers to work with me in either of those programs will automatically gain access to this Special Bonus that includes a wealth of knowledge that I am calling the Universal Toolbox.

In it you will learn all sorts of tools to help you focus on what you want, shed the layers that are no longer serving you, and tap into the amazing power you have within.

You are going to learn tools and concepts like vibration, energy healing, tapping into your intuition, visualization, forgiveness, gratitude, mantras, affirmations, law of attraction skills, and so much more!

Not only will you learn how to use these tools each week, but you will be able to connect with others learning the same things and you will be invited to an exclusive weekly call to help you implement those tools.  This is a HUGE bonus that will catapult your vibration and manifesting abilities to another stratosphere.

So, are you interested in learning more about this bonus and possibly working together?  If so, let’s schedule a FREE 30-Minute Consultation to chat a bit about how I can help you.

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A Lesson in Leaning Back

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photo credit: symphony of love via photopin cc

I’ll be the first to admit when I want something, I can become hyper-focused on it. (Ok maybe a little obsessed.)

I think about it.  I visualize it. I analyze it. I talk about it.

I often jump into action mode quickly and can sometimes forget to listen to my heart.

When it comes to my business and my goals, I often lunge forward when what I truly need to do is lean back and trust.

Today I was reminded of the importance of leaning back.

I’ve been working a bit on expansion in my life and in my business and part of that means reaching outside my comfort zone.

I’m taking risks and stepping into the spotlight so much more than I have before.  It’s exciting, exhilarating, and honestly it feels so right. 

But, in the midst of taking inspired action and clearing my own BS, I sometimes come to a point when I get too focused on the outcome.

I want results and I want them…last week.

The result?

Lots of resistance, disappointment, feelings of lack, and taking forced action as opposed to inspired. (It’s not pretty.)

But, lucky for me I have an amazing support system including my own business coach who reminds me when it’s time to just lean back.

So, what is leaning back really?

To put it simply, it’s trusting the process and staying the course.  It’s detaching from the results and knowing that everything is working out perfectly.  It also means that you know that whatever it is you are trying to manifest or achieve is already done.

It’s happening now.  The money, relationship, career, and clients you want are on the way.  When you stay the course and know it is all coming to you now, you don’t have to worry. You can just enjoy the ride.

I’ll give you another example of what happens when you lean back.

A friend of mine was having a few slow weeks in her business.  She was doing the work and trying hard to figure things out.  She was in action all the time, until one day when she decided she needed a break.  Both her mind & body needed a reprieve from all the action so she took a few days off. She lounged around in her comfy clothes and allowed herself some time to just rest.  In the middle of her second day of rest, she gets a call from a new client.

Leaning back allows the energy you have put into motion to do the work for you. 

No more pushing, prodding, or forcing things to happen.

So if you find yourself feeling anxious and are being busy for the sake of being busy.  Try a different approach.

Just lean back. Let go. Let it flow, and remember you have the power to create & enjoy the life of your dreams.  Sometimes that means letting go of the reins so the powers of the Universe can work for you.

Do you feel like you are forcing a particular area of your life right now?  If so, what is it? Share in the comments below and commit to leaning back for a few days.

P.S.  Have you signed up for my VIP list?  If not you can do so here.  I have some fun giveaways & exclusive offers that I am working on for the next few months that are only accessible to my VIP List so get signed up so you don’t miss out. 

My BS: Who Am I To Help?

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Earlier this week I shared this post with my VIP tribe and while it’s a bit of a vulnerable post, I realized how important it is for me to share it with you as well.  May you find comfort in knowing that you are not alone and join me in facing your BS head on, because honestly it’s hard to change anything with that junk holding you back.

Ok, it’s time for me to get something off my chest.  It’s something I’ve been thinking about a lot recently as I have been facing the BS (aka Blind Spot) that has been holding me back and I’m done with it!

The past two months have been pretty tough.  The positive side of me wants to tell you all about the growth, the lessons, and the beautiful blessings in disguise and while there was a lot of that going on that’s not always how it felt. There is another part of me that remembers the worry, the fear, the frustration, and at times the overwhelming tears.In the midst of chaos at home, schedules being thrown out the window, and lots of change going on both personally & professionally, I was forced to face my BS…head on.

The BS I’m talking about is both bull shit & something you may know as my Blind Spot.Yep, in the middle of sharing with you how your BS can hold you back, mine was there waiting for me, trying desperately to get me to not only play small, but quit playing all together. (Funny how that happens right?)  And once I realized what it really was that was holding me back in my business (with the help of another coach), I knew I had to share it with you.

So, here is my most recent experience coming face-to-face with my BS.  My hope is that when you hear my story, you leave with a deeper understanding of how imperative it is to identify and clear your own Blind Spot and you have a bit more compassion for yourself.  Regardless of who you are, what you do, or what area of your life is affected, we all have thoughts & beliefs that are holding us back in our careers, love, relationships, and life in general.  And the best part of all: there is a way to identify and clear it!

Coming face-to-face with your BS isn’t fun or all that comfortable, but I assure you it is the first step to living that amazing, free-flowing, ever expanding life of your dreams.  It is almost as if we believe we can’t or shouldn’t have it all, but as one of my favorite quotes says:

“We ask ourselves: Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?  Actually, who are you not to be?” 

~Marianne Williamson

Go be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous and clear the BS that is in your way!  You have an amazing life of freedom and flow to live so hop to it!

I believe in you,