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There are lots of reasons you shouldn’t give up, but only 1 reason you should.

July 31, 2015 by Lamisha

In the last two years of my business there have been moments when I seriously thought about throwing in the towel. Moments when I thought I’d be better off dropping my dream all together and jumping back into the work force.

It wasn’t because I didn’t love what I was doing. Not at all.

It was because things got hard, I got frustrated, and I felt lost.

I felt stuck and instead of listening to my intuition, I ignored it entirely.

Instead of asking for help or allowing it in, I thought I had to do it all by my little lonesome.

In short, it sucked!

And as I write this I am getting ready to celebrate my 2 year anniversary in my business in just a few days and I couldn’t be happier! I can’t believe I made it this far and what was once only a dream is now my current reality.

I had a TON of reasons I could’ve quit before. I could’ve quit because:

Money wasn’t flowing
Potential clients were saying ‘No thanks’
Things got really hard
I didn’t know how to move forward
I was afraid I’d put all of my passion and it wouldn’t ‘work’

But despite it all, ultimately, I loved what I was doing.

When I get calls from clients telling me they took their big leap into something they never thought possible, I remember my why.

When I cry with clients as they have amazing breakthroughs and aha’s because I can relate to them so much, I remember my why.

And when I have that first call with a potential client who is sharing with me their hopes and desires for what they hope their life will become with my help, I remember my why.

The truth is this work that I do is far more than just a business. It’s my passion and purpose and despite the fact that things have at times looked as though they weren’t ‘working’, that passion has never ceased.

When you are moving in the direction of your dreams with passion in your heart and purpose in your soul, there will be lots of moments of learning, growing, and evolving.

There will be times when you want to quit. Times when everything on the outside looks broken and you wonder if it will ultimately work.

There will be many, many, many reasons to throw in the towel as you wonder if you are strong enough, smart enough, or if you are doing enough to make your dreams come true.

And the ONLY time you should quit, is if that passion and purpose have gone.

When your heart isn’t in it and the love for your vision transforms into something else as it may, that is the only time you should ‘quit’.

But honestly, that isn’t even quitting in my book. That is simply a transformation of a dream into another vision that lights you up and sets your soul on fire and that can never be deemed a failure nor are you a quitter.

Dreams unfold and transform as much as we do and while you may have many reasons to ‘quit’, don’t do it unless your heart truly isn’t in it.

Keep going. Keep reaching. Keep dreaming and trust in the passion in your heart. When you do…magic happens.

In other news, August is a HUGE month for me and my business. Not only is August 1st the second anniversary of my business, but my birthday is on the 13th and with that comes BIG celebrations & gifts for YOU.

Introducing the 13 Days & 13 Ways of Giving!!!

For 13 days I am giving gifts, services, paying it forward, and creating very special offers for my tribe and allowing that to filter over into the community. I’d love for you to be a part of this amazing vision and you can do that in a few ways.

Join my Love Your Life Tribe for exclusive gifts for my tribe members only
Sign up for my VIP List to get access to special giveaways for VIP’s only
Follow me on Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram to stay up to date on how, when, and where I am gifting for all 13 days.
Share in the giving by posting your own 13 Ways of Giving using the #13WaysOfGiving on social media

Paying it forward, sharing the love, and really creating a community of love, joy, and good will has always been near and dear to my heart and I’m so excited to share what I am cooking up for you!

What Dead Grass Taught Me About Abundance

March 25, 2015 by Lamisha

A few years ago we were blessed enough to manifest an amazing house on a corner lot. My wife was beside herself and just couldn’t wait to create a lush, green, well-manicured lawn that would be the envy of all the neighborhood.

Within a few short months our lawn was hands down the best lawn on our block and easily the best in our neighborhood as a whole. Every time someone walked by, they wanted to know our secret to keeping the grass so green and abundant. My wife just smiled and said she had the magic touch. Which she totally did until…she didn’t.

After about a year or two life happened and 1 missed fertilization quickly turned to 2 and with an extra rainy season followed by a scorching summer and an injury that caused my wife to be bed-ridden for a few months-the grass began to wither away.

What used to be lush green grass was now brown, dying patches that made use cringe at the sight. It was bad. We knew people were still seeing our yard, but now it was for a different reason. The best yard on the block quickly became the worst, but we didn’t give up.

The next spring we tilled up the entire yard and planted new seedlings and within just a few weeks we say some beautiful new grass beginning to sprout up. It took some work and a lot of positive focus, but we were finally able to get back to the beautiful lush grass that we once had…I know because I just cut it last night.

So, why am I talking about dead grass and abundance and how exactly do they relate?

Well, one thing I have found in my own life and in the lives of my clients is the fact that we ALL have experienced our version of the lush green grass. Things flow easily and we don’t have a care in the world. We’ve also ALL experienced a setback. Whether it’s a large bill, an unexpected job loss or something else that didn’t go as planned-we know what it’s like to experience the dead grass.

BUT…

It’s not the lush green or the dead grass that dictates what comes next…It’s YOU.

You make a choice to give up and lose hope or to keep pushing and plant new seeds.

Now I can tell you I didn’t have much hope for our yard when every bit of grass (and even the weeds) died. It was hard to see how it would be what it once was, but looking back we just had to keep moving forward.

And when it comes to abundance you have to do the same thing.

Regardless of how little you have in your bank account right now, you have to keep moving forward and know that it can and will change in the matter of minutes with the right mindset.

Nature doesn’t worry about having too little as it always has what it needs and you will too. Just keep going.

If you are struggling with your abundance right now here are a few action steps to get things moving again:

Take stock of what you DO have and be grateful. The Universe rewards gratitude with more to be grateful for. Get on it!
Make a list of ALL the ways you can think of to bring in money right now. Don’t give me lip about whether you want to do it, just make the list and see what comes up.
Close your eyes and IMAGINE all the ways money can FLOW to you without you doing much of anything. It’s possible I promise. (Just yesterday I opened what I thought was junk mail and found a $5 bill as an incentive to do an online survey.)
Write out your affirmations and shift your mindset. “I am a money magnet.” “Money flows to me with ease and grace.” If you get stuck, download this list I put together just for you.
Last but not least-Plant some seeds!! Reach out to friends and family members for ideas, contact past clients, do a quick search for odd jobs or better yet plan a yard sale. Money is waiting to find you, so welcome it with open arms.

If you want more ideas or help with clearing your mindset around creating more abundance in your life feel free to schedule a free 30 minute consultation where I will help you come up with a personalized plan for you.

Confession Time: I Didn’t Listen To My Heart…and I Failed (sort of)

August 20, 2014 by Lamisha

To be honest with you, I have been dreading writing this post. Part of me knew I had to do some processing mentally and emotionally before I could put anything in writing and the other part of me was just plain embarrassed.

Embarrassed of looking like a fraud, a scam, a loser and my worst fear…a FAILURE.

So what did I fail at exactly?

I failed at listening to my intuition when it told me something wasn’t a good fit.

I failed at recognizing the signs that reinforced something wasn’t a good fit.

I failed at standing in my power to declare to myself and YOU that it’s ok to pull the plug on something that isn’t a good fit.

So what is this elusive ‘thing’ that isn’t a good fit?

The 90-Days To Biz Brilliance program.

Yep, the program I was so excited about (initially before the signs) and the same program I put off releasing twice for various reasons (because I clearly ignored the signs.)

The short story is this. I fell into the trap of thinking that other people know me better than myself and while some of my clients are female entrepreneurs, I am not a ‘business coach’. Here’s where it gets a little confusing even for me. The biz brilliance program is actually full of amazing content, support, information, and practices to handle the stuff that comes up when you are creating a business, but it is also good for people NOT in business.

I was excited about the program. I shared it with you and in various other networks happily. I loved the feeling of the program, but something I couldn’t quite put my finger on felt off. The more I shared, the more off it felt. And when the feeling got to be too much, I knew that it wasn’t going to fly, but I was too afraid to pull the plug for fear of looking unprofessional. I didn’t want anyone to think any less of me and to see me the way I was seeing me in that moment…a failure.

But despite all of that this is what I have learned:

I now know what the off feeling feels like in my body and I can use that in the future
I took a HUGE step to create a program that has good bones and can be used in another way…later
I am not a failure
I now have more clarity about what isn’t a good fit for me, which is equally as important as knowing what is
Life (and my business) goes on despite this bump in the road
Listening to my intuition and inner wisdom is always the best way

It is imperative to trust that tiny whisper within that tells you something isn’t right and the nudge you get to go in a particular direction. Learn to listen to yourself and let go of the other stuff that doesn’t feel right for you. Tap into your intuition on a daily basis and allow it to guide you forward. It takes practice, I know especially when you are in business and there are so formulas for ‘success’. Your success will come to you in a way that feels right and fits your path.

Another big thing this experience taught me is that trying is succeeding in its own right, so keep trying. Keep experimenting and keep going. Do you know how many times Albert Einstein ‘failed’ in his experiments before he got one ‘right’? If one of the most amazing scientific geniuses in history can ‘fail’ a few times to get to something incredible, then don’t you think we can too?

Life is about experience, so remember that as you try and try (and try) again. Don’t forget to trust too. Trust is a big part of the process. Knowing that you will get to where you are going as long as you keep going.

P.S. We are entering the last 4 months of the year (where does the time go!) and I know there are dreams and goals that you have been procrastinating on. It’s time to get a Jump Start don’t you think? My 1-month Jump Start package is available to help you take big action and get moving immediately toward your dreams. Haven’t you waited long enough? Get signed up for your free 30-minute consultation to get started for September.

Bold Declarations to the Universe & Potential Aftermath

July 17, 2014 by Lamisha

As you know last week I made some pretty bold declarations about not having a Plan B. Well, as I am quickly finding, when you make big, bold declarations to the Universe, there can be a bit of an aftermath effect that comes. It’s a recent theme I am seeing not only with myself, but with my clients as well. Click the link below to find out what I am talking about and let me know, have you experienced something similar? If so, how did you handle it?

P.S.

If you made a recent declaration to get your business into brilliant shape in a heart-centered way, then I encourage you to check out the 90 Days to Biz Brilliance group coaching program. This is an opportunity to connect, share, and grow your business with other heart-centered women who know what it’s like to be where you are. There is also still time to get signed up for the bonus self-study program Invest in Yourself before it is available for purchase. Are you ready?

Your Dream Is Ready…Are You?

November 20, 2013 by Lamisha

Many times in coaching, I come across people who might need my help, but they just aren’t ready to take action. Some of them have absolutely no clue about what they want to achieve and are merely moving from one day to the next trying to survive (and not just financially either). These people are going through their days doing the things they are “supposed” to do (ya know working, paying bills, taking care of their family etc.) and while they feel like something might be missing, they have done very little to figure out what that is. They might be fearful of what is waiting on the other side or simply have forgotten what it feels like to dream again. These are the people who do such a magnificent job living in the moment for what it has to offer, while not thinking too far ahead.

Then there are the dreamers, the visionaries, and the self-development seekers. These are the people who are always working toward something. They have an idea of what they want but may not know how to get there. They are excited for what the future may hold, but they are stuck in fear, anxiety, or lack the confidence to move forward. These are also people who feel that something is missing and are ready to find out what that is. They dream, they envision, they imagine, and more often than not they have stars in their eyes for that moment when they finally feel like they are living their purpose and enjoying the journey of growth and evolution.

Both of these groups are stuck in one form or another, but the latter group feels the pull to move forward into the unknown. They are willing to risk leaving their comfort zone in order to see what else is out there. They are ready for that first step and many times that first step begins when they reach out to me to find out how this coaching thing works. Their interest was sparked just enough to make them wonder and imagine what they can accomplish with a little help.

Have you ever thought about what category you fall into? Both groups have their strengths and regardless of where you may fall, you too have a wealth of potential that you can use in this life.

The question is, when you feel that pull and you wonder what might be missing…are you willing to take the steps to figure it out?

Here is what I have learned since taking the leap of faith into my dreams.

If you feel like you were meant to do something more than what you are currently doing…you are probably right.
Taking the leap is far more exciting than scary
All it takes is a simple, tiny step to get the momentum rolling
Once you are on the path, the pull gets stronger and the inspiration that follows will remind you to just keep going

Will you take that step? Are you ready to drop the excuses, let go of the fear, and dive into your heart’s desire? If so, I would love to chat with you. I am still offering a free full-length 60-minute session to get a jump-start on 2014. Not only is this an amazing opportunity to make progress on your plans for 2014, but it is also a great way for you to see what it is like to work with me with no obligation on your part other than an open mind. Sign-up by contacting me here and we can get your session scheduled ASAP. Seriously, what do you have to lose???