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The day FEAR almost won…

September 26, 2016 by Lamisha

photo credit: "Fear" in stone via photopin (license)
photo credit: “Fear” in stone via photopin (license)

The day FEAR almost won, happened just last week.

The scenario is one I see my clients struggle with every single day and yet, I had been so far removed from it myself I almost forgot what it felt like…until last week.

Recently I’ve been feeling the call to get back to writing on a regular basis.  To write from the heart and share my message authentically and with purpose.  Over the past few months it hasn’t felt like the right time or the right moment to write and to be honest, I didn’t have a ton of inspiration to do so, yet I made the commitment in my mind and I knew the time would come for me to write again…and it did.

Last week, our world was hit with more violence and protests that brought up a TON of emotion for so many people, myself included.  I had a visceral response to it all and I felt called to write about it, only I was afraid.

You see, this work that I do…it’s more than just a career for me.  It’s my mission.  It’s my calling.  It’s my gift to the world and when I see that the world is crumbling in turmoil and I feel inspired and called to speak, write, or share on the topics, I can’t ignore it.

My business is my platform in a way and from day one I’ve committed to using that platform to promote peace, understanding, compassion, non-judgement, love, and joy in all areas.  But, it also means sometimes I have to do things that are uncomfortable for me to do.  Say things I’m uncomfortable to say, and share a message that may not be popular and last week I did just that.

I wrote an article that came directly from my heart and soul.  The words poured out of my fingers and onto the computer with ease.  There was no question of what needed to come through, but a part of me was afraid to write it.

To be honest, an even bigger part of me was afraid NOT to write it.  So, I continued writing and when I was finished I submitted it for publication.

When I first wrote it, I wasn’t exactly clear on where it would end up.  All I knew was that I needed to write it.  Once it was complete, the next step seemed obvious and after I hit “submit”, the fear set in.

 

“What will people think?”

“It’s so different from what I write! What if people hate it?”

“What if people hate me?”

“What if…”

The FEAR just wouldn’t go away and yet there was a part of me that knew it was all going to be ok.

I followed my inspiration and I knew that it would be ok.  I just knew it.

After a few hours or so, I forgot about the fear of ‘what if’ and honestly forgot I had submitted the article completely.  A few hours later, I received an email letting me know my piece was accepted for publishing and that I would be notified once it had been published.

I was shocked. Afraid. Worried. And funny enough I was proud.

I was proud that I had once again followed my intuition and inspiration and I had not let fear win.

I was proud that I was walking my talk and doing the things that scare me, even when I’m unsure of how it will all work out, but even more so, because I listened, I took action, and I let go.

The actual article has yet to be published, but as soon as it is, I’ll update this post for you so you can read it in all it’s glory.

The moral of this story is this:

 

Fear may try to stop you from doing the very thing that will move you closer to your vision.  Don’t let it. Follow your intuition, take that big action and trust that it’s all working out in your favor, even when you can’t see the entire path.

My question for you today: What is it that you are MOST afraid to do, but you know you NEED to do?

My advice…go do that!

 

Filed Under: Authenticity, Challenges, fear, Intention, Life Tagged With: action, fear, inspiration, intention, intuition

Confession Time: I Didn’t Listen To My Heart…and I Failed (sort of)

August 20, 2014 by Lamisha

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To be honest with you, I have been dreading writing this post.  Part of me knew I had to do some processing mentally and emotionally before I could put anything in writing and the other part of me was just plain embarrassed.

Embarrassed of looking like a fraud, a scam, a loser and my worst fear…a FAILURE.

So what did I fail at exactly?

I failed at listening to my intuition when it told me something wasn’t a good fit.

I failed at recognizing the signs that reinforced something wasn’t a good fit.

I failed at standing in my power to declare to myself and YOU that it’s ok to pull the plug on something that isn’t a good fit.

So what is this elusive ‘thing’ that isn’t a good fit?

The 90-Days To Biz Brilliance program.

Yep, the program I was so excited about (initially before the signs) and the same program I put off releasing twice for various reasons (because I clearly ignored the signs.)

The short story is this.  I fell into the trap of thinking that other people know me better than myself and while some of my clients are female entrepreneurs, I am not a ‘business coach’.  Here’s where it gets a little confusing even for me.  The biz brilliance program is actually full of amazing content, support, information, and practices to handle the stuff that comes up when you are creating a business, but it is also good for people NOT in business.

I was excited about the program.  I shared it with you and in various other networks happily.  I loved the feeling of the program, but something I couldn’t quite put my finger on felt off.  The more I shared, the more off it felt.  And when the feeling got to be too much, I knew that it wasn’t going to fly, but I was too afraid to pull the plug for fear of looking unprofessional.  I didn’t want anyone to think any less of me and to see me the way I was seeing me in that moment…a failure.

But despite all of that this is what I have learned:

  • I now know what the off feeling feels like in my body and I can use that in the future
  • I took a HUGE step to create a program that has good bones and can be used in another way…later
  • I am not a failure
  • I now have more clarity about what isn’t a good fit for me, which is equally as important as knowing what is
  • Life (and my business) goes on despite this bump in the road
  • Listening to my intuition and inner wisdom is always the best way

It is imperative to trust that tiny whisper within that tells you something isn’t right and the nudge you get to go in a particular direction.  Learn to listen to yourself and let go of the other stuff that doesn’t feel right for you.  Tap into your intuition on a daily basis and allow it to guide you forward.  It takes practice, I know especially when you are in business and there are so formulas for ‘success’.  Your success will come to you in a way that feels right and fits your path.

Another big thing this experience taught me is that trying is succeeding in its own right, so keep trying.  Keep experimenting and keep going.  Do you know how many times Albert Einstein ‘failed’ in his experiments before he got one ‘right’?  If one of the most amazing scientific geniuses in history can ‘fail’ a few times to get to something incredible, then don’t you think we can too?

Life is about experience, so remember that as you try and try (and try) again.  Don’t forget to trust too.  Trust is a big part of the process.  Knowing that you will get to where you are going as long as you keep going.

 

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P.S. We are entering the last 4 months of the year (where does the time go!) and I know there are dreams and goals that you have been procrastinating on.  It’s time to get a Jump Start don’t you think? My 1-month Jump Start package is available to help you take big action and get moving immediately toward your dreams.  Haven’t you waited long enough?  Get signed up for your free 30-minute consultation to get started for September. 

Filed Under: Authenticity, Being, Challenges, Coaching, Decisions, Goals, Intention, Lessons, Perfection, Reflection Tagged With: believe, coaching, failure, fear, frustration, inner voice, inner wisdom, intuition, keep going, lessons, listen, listen to your heart, listening, no failure, practice, reflection, success, trust, wisdom

Getting Back to Basics

June 26, 2014 by Lamisha

I recently realized how I have been distracted by all the shiny new programs, coaches, gurus, and the like lately.  It was a nice reminder to get back to basics in my business.  Today I share with you what that means and invite you to look at your own life to see where you might be able to get back to basics.

 

 

What does getting back to basics mean to you? Post in the comments below!

Filed Under: Authenticity, Being, Coaching, Inspiration, journey, Life, Perfection, Planning Tagged With: back to basics, basics, beginning, biz, bizbeauties, business, Entreprenuer, heart centerted, inspiration, intuition, Life Once Dreamt, Life Purpose, next step, passion

Investing in Yourself

April 4, 2014 by Lamisha

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Another theme I keep coming across in my own life and the lives of my clients is self-care.  More specifically how difficult it is to invest the time, money, and space to really support ourselves in the way we need.

Is self-care a pain point for you?

Do you often find yourself overly exhausted, worried, frustrated, or saying ‘yes’ to everyone else but yourself?

It’s time to stop all that nonsense and begin investing in yourself.

I know there are a million reasons not to do it and to be honest, the ones I hear the most comes down to money and time.

We all have money stuff.  We either believe there isn’t enough or what we have is all we will ever make, but that’s not true.  There is plenty to go around and investing in yourself is one of the best ways to bring more into your life.  Sounds a bit backwards I know, but when you are stressed, frustrated, angry, and living in a mindset of lack, do you find you are met with even more lack?  It’s likely you are.  But, what if you took some time for yourself to relax a bit.  Get a massage, treat yourself to a manicure, purchase a course that can change your life, or hire a coach to help you reach the next level of your dreams?  Wouldn’t that feel good?

At first the thought of spending money on things that aren’t ‘needs’ can scare the pants off some people and create anxiety especially if money seems to be a bit tighter than usual.  And while I am not a ‘money coach’ per se, I do a lot of work with my clients on their money stuff because it’s a part of the beliefs and blocks that hold us back.  Our relationship with money can be quite stressed depending on how we grew up, what we were taught, and the messages we heard and in turn believed about it.  The same goes for spending money on seemingly frivolous things.

The truth is that investing in yourself is not frivolous or irresponsible.  It is a necessary part of self-care and life in general.  We aren’t here to simply survive and live paycheck to paycheck or to scrimp and save every penny we have.  We are supposed to enjoy life, feel good, and take care of ourselves, but I often find some people just aren’t ready to take the leap.  If that is you, then I invite you to start small.

Treat yourself to coffee every once in a while if that is your thing.  Or go buy a good book that you have been dying to read and know that it’s OK to invest in yourself.  And should you find yourself wondering about hiring a coach or enrolling in a course that is calling to you, do it!

There are always reasons not to invest in yourself and your dreams.  Money is tight, the car might need fixing, the kids college fund needs to be bigger, or you just don’t believe it will make a difference, but I assure you that you will be better off if and when you do.

I am not asking you to dump your responsibilities and quit your job to invest in yourself, but I am asking you to get in touch with what you really want and need right now and allow your intuition to guide you.  I believe wholeheartedly in the powers of the Universe guiding us to the people, articles, books, quotes, tools etc. that we need in the moment so you being here is not a fluke. Listen with your heart and get busy enjoying this amazing gift we have called life!

You know what’s funny?  I get many of the same complaints and excuses when it comes to the time factor too.  There seems to never be enough time to invest in yourself, but the truth is you just haven’t made it a priority.  I invite you to make yourself, your self-care, your growth, and your dreams a priority.  The world needs to see your light shine and you deserve to live a life of excitement, abundance, and joy.

So I ask you, what can you do right now to invest in yourself? 

 

If you have thought about working with a coach and haven’t taken the leap just yet, I would love to chat with you.  I am taking on new clients for April and I want to hear about your dreams and goals.  If I am not a good fit for you, I will help you find a coach that works for you.  I want you to get what you need to make your dreams come alive, it’s as simple as that.  Let’s schedule a 30-minute consultation to chat about what I do and what you want to achieve.  Simple, free, and totally worth the time.  Contact me today to get your consultation scheduled.  I look forward to chatting with you!

Filed Under: Coaching, Goals, Inspiration, Life, Practices Tagged With: beliefs, clients, coaching, inspiration, intuition, investing, investing in self, lack, life coaching, money, Self care, time

When Inspiration Fails…Or Does It?

February 28, 2014 by Lamisha

Happy Friday Dreamers!

I talk a lot about following your inspiration and not questioning the feeling when you feel the need to act.  I have even stressed the point that when you follow your inspiration there tends to be something special waiting for you that ultimately leads you to the very next step.  But, what happens when the very next step you thought you were moving toward, doesn’t work out?

Did your intuition fail you?

No it didn’t. Click the video below to hear a story about my own inspired action and how I realized my intuition really didn’t fail me.


Can you remember a moment when you thought your intuition/inspiration had failed you, but you realized things turned out for the better?  If so, I would love to hear about it in the comments below!

P.S. Get ready because you are going to be seeing a lot more videos in the months to come.  Stay tuned!

Filed Under: Inspiration, Intention, Reflection, Tips Tagged With: dreams, inspiration, intuition, life coach, when inspiration fails

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