Lamisha Serf-Walls

This or That: What To Do At a Crossroad

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Happy Tuesday Lovely readers!

How many of you have been in a situation lately or in your life when you have had to make a decision?  I’m not talking “what shall I have for dinner tonight” although for some of us this can prove to be a pretty challenging decision.  I am talking about the BIG decisions.

For instance: Taking one job over another.  Moving ‘there’ or staying right where you are.  Follow your dreams or stay where it’s secure.

In the course of my life I have made many seemingly big decisions and every time I sat down to think them through, I got anxious.  I wanted to make the right decision!  My thoughts were clouded by all the pros and cons and I was overwhelmed by the options and how they would play out in the future.

I was at a crossroads and I didn’t know which way to go.

What I didn’t know then (but I know now), is that we all have an internal-decision-maker.  It’s called the heart.  Ok, maybe not the physical, blood pumping heart, but it’s the intuitive “heart” that can feel its way through situations.  The problem is we forget we have it because we have grown so accustomed to thinking our way through issues, we immediately try to do what is logical.  If you are like me, you may have found the logical route to be more than a bit rocky and instead downright miserable.

The work I do with clients is to help get them out of their heads and into their hearts.  Instead of thinking through the pros and cons of a situation, I want them to feel their way forward.  Our bodies are amazing and they can provide a lot of information about the decisions and choices we make on a daily basis.  I find that the ‘wrong’ choices (or at least not the best choice for me in the moment) feels restrictive to me.  My chest tightens and things just feel heavy overall.  However, when I make a choice from my heart and it is the ‘right’ choice, I feel expansive and an opening occurs in my chest.  I feel uplifted and light.  Those are my markers, but you may feel differently.  The key is tapping into your body every now and again (I suggest daily) to get to know the feelings that come up as you make your decisions.  It could help you immensely as you move forward along your path.

Now, I don’t believe in making ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ choices (even though sometimes it feels like there is one or the other).  I believe that every choice we make along our paths is an opportunity for growth, learning, and experience.  Whether you feel you have made the ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ decision, there is always an opportunity for you to move forward and make your dreams a reality.  Always.

But, in order to get there and enjoy it to the best of your ability, you must learn to tap into your intuitive heart and feel your way forward.  And that is why I have created something called Crossroad Coaching.  

Crossroad Coaching is for when you have those moments of uncertainty and you are unsure of which way to go.  You have a decision to make and are having trouble discerning what is best for you, right now.  That is where I come in.  I can help you tap into your intuitive heart and help you work out where the kinks might be, so you can feel good about your decision.  I want you to feel comfortable and confident in the decisions you make and I want you to step boldly into your future with the light, bright, and expansive feeling you have when you know everything is working out exactly as it should.  If you are interested in how Crossroad Coaching works, feel free to contact me and we can chat about your specific situation.

And should you find yourself questioning whether to follow your dreams now or later, take a look at this awesome video from Marie Forleo where she gives some insight to a reader who has a decision to make of her own.

Find Your Tribe

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When you finally take the leap into making your dreams a reality, everything seems so delicate.  Your ideas can be crushed by a simplest of things.  Confidence flies out the window when you are met with even the slightest challenge that can send your thoughts spiraling out of control.  The inner mean person comes out to play and tells you all the reasons you can’t win, won’t succeed, or shouldn’t even try.

In moments like these you need your tribe of supporters to remind you why you began in the first place.

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Get one asap!

They say it takes a village to raise a child and I strongly believe that it takes a few good minds to help keep your dreams alive.  Sure you could do it on your own, but you might be met with more false starts than you care to have.

So who do you include in your tribe of inspiration and support?

Truth be told, you can include anyone that fits the description of loving, compassionate, supportive, and a good communicator to talk you off the edge when things get hairy.

While it might seem easy to include loved ones like family members and spouses in our tribe, sometimes that opens a can of worms in and of itself.  You see, those people already know you and your stories.  They have known you for years (in some cases your entire lives) and while their intentions might be good, they might inadvertently remind you of times you have tried and failed.

Some people use a mastermind group of people with similar interests to bounce ideas around with.  You might even find a few good groups on Facebook that you can find inspiration and support from.  The key is to find a group of people with who you can safely speak about your heart’s desires and receive the support you need when those negative thoughts come in.

Blogs are a good place to connect with like-minded individuals and so are online workshops or other interest groups.  You can also find similar support in a meet-up group or at places like a local yoga studio.  Get out there and get curious, you never know who you might connect with.  I have found many amazing groups on Facebook as well and they have proven to be invaluable in the amount of support they have provided.

Have you already found your tribe?  If so, how did you meet?

Would you be interested in a circle of support for your amazing dreams? Answer in the comments, I would love to know!

And the Winner Is……

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Thank you, to everyone who entered the Inspired & Unstoppable giveaway!  I am so happy that I am able to share one of my favorite books with you all and am able to pass a bit of inspiration onto one lucky winner.  I love sharing inspiring and motivational resources with you and am so excited to send a copy off to the winner of my first official giveaway!

So, without further ado, the winner is…….

Jean H.

Congratulations!  For those of you who didn’t win, I still encourage you to read the book as it is one that will change all your thoughts about success, inspired action, and truly living your purpose from the heart.

Are you still wondering how you can live more from the heart and accomplish those BIG dreams you have swirling in your head?  Well you are in the right place because I am an expert at untangling the overwhelm and helping you create clarity and implement action steps to get to where you are going.  Contact me now to sign up for your consultation session for more information about how I can help you begin to live the life you once dreamt.

What Inspiration Really Is

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In the last few weeks I have had a few clients question what inspiration really is and how it shows up in life.

My ‘oh so knowledgeable coaching self’ responded with: “It depends”.

The truth is that inspiration is different for everyone.  What inspires one person might completely deter someone else from doing what they need to do.  Our likes and dislikes are so very unique that telling you what form inspiration can take for you would likely not be entirely true.

The same goes for how it shows up in your life.  Some people get inspired in a way that makes them excited, uplifted, and running to the canvas, the page, the computer, or whatever they are inspired to do.  For others, it comes as a faint whisper that can easily go unnoticed.Dandelion

I can’t speak for everyone, but I can tell you what I have noticed from myself and from clients regarding the many ways inspiration can show up.

I am often inspired by quotes, books, lines in movies, articles, music, nature, conversations with others, and oddly enough, water.  I get some of my best ideas when I am in the shower and my mind is on auto-pilot with no real rhyme or reason to the direction my thought process in the moment.  I also notice that when a great idea for a blog post, offering, quote, or something else comes to me, if I am not open to it, then it will vanish as quickly as it came.  So, as a result I have learned to be open to the ideas that come and to write them down as soon as I can, even if I have no idea where it might lead. (Take a glance at my brainstorming notebook and you will find a collection of ideas, words, titles etc.)

In my coaching, I talk a lot about inspired action and following your inspiration to the next step, but I have found that there seems to be a misconception about what inspiration actually feels like.  For most people it is simply a heightened awareness or thought that leads to another thought, that might lead to doing something etc.  One thing leads to another and before you know it you have followed the breadcrumbs to an amazing destination that might manifest itself as wonderful opportunities, a book, a course, a piece of art, etc.

What is interesting is that inspiration doesn’t always result in a fire-in-your-belly-run-as-fast-as-you-can-back-to-your-workspace feeling.  Sometimes it comes as a whisper.  A faint thought that peaks your interest and gets you thinking about something in a different way.  It may not seem all that important in the moment, but I am here to tell you those faint whispers hold a ton of power and punch if they are used the right way.

In fact, the name of my blog, my coaching model, numerous blog posts, a new offering I will be rolling out next week, and a future workbook I want to put together all came to me in faint whispers.  Some came a few words at a time, others came as full-fledged titles and images, but the one thing they all have in common is the speed with which they came to me.  One moment I was doing something (like washing my hair) not related to my business or writing work and BOOM there it was.

Inspiration is an amazing thing and sometimes all it takes is the ability for you to be open to it and not try to force it into being.  Simply noticing moments that peak your interest and lead you to something else (an action or a string of thoughts), is a great way to learn more about your process of creating and living the life of your dreams.  It’s a simple step that will likely be a game-changer in how you live and is something I do with all of my clients.

Have you experienced big inspirational movements or do you generally get the gentle whispers that lead you to the next thing?  How does inspiration show up for you?  Share in the comments below, I would love to hear how you are inspired!

Start Where You Are

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It’s a new year and you finally know what you want to do.  Your dreams are big, your inspiration is on fire, but your confidence is a little lacking.

You aren’t quite sure where to start.  Maybe you have some doubts about if you have what it takes to begin.

You wonder:  Do I have enough money?  Time?  Experience?  Do I even know how to get started? I mean if you had all that wouldn’t you have started already?

Maybe not.

The truth is, very few people have everything they need to accomplish their dreams up front.  Sure, you may have an idea of what you need to get started, but what if inspiration is all you need to get started?  What if, deciding what you want to do is the only thing you need to begin?

What if that were true?

I have a secret.  That is all you need to get started, but chances are you know more than just that.

You have inspiration, ideas, imagination, and you already know some of what is needed to get started and there is something you can do now to move you in the direction of your dreams.

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Don’t wait until you have the money, the time, the steps, the certification, and the perfect plan.  Start now, with what you have.

There is always something you can do to get you moving in the right direction and I promise it doesn’t have to be hard or frustrating.  It can be fun, exciting, and inspiring.  Not sure how to start?  Need a little nudge or a creative pow wow?

I can help.  I can meet you where you are with all that inspiration in your soul and help you find that first step.  That first simple, fun, and exhilarating step that together, we can build on through our coaching together.  It’s time for you to respond to the call and make your dreams a reality.

Interested? If so, contact me today and we can get you scheduled for your intro session to discuss your beautiful dream.  Together we can make some incredible things happen.  What are you waiting for?