Developing positive habits has been on my mind recently and I’m realizing more and more how mindset is really just a habit.
The thoughts you think, the beliefs you have, and the truths you are living every single day are all related to your mindset habits.
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The scenario is one I see my clients struggle with every single day and yet, I had been so far removed from it myself I almost forgot what it felt like…until last week.
Recently I’ve been feeling the call to get back to writing on a regular basis. To write from the heart and share my message authentically and with purpose. Over the past few months it hasn’t felt like the right time or the right moment to write and to be honest, I didn’t have a ton of inspiration to do so, yet I made the commitment in my mind and I knew the time would come for me to write again…and it did.
Last week, our world was hit with more violence and protests that brought up a TON of emotion for so many people, myself included. I had a visceral response to it all and I felt called to write about it, only I was afraid.
You see, this work that I do…it’s more than just a career for me. It’s my mission. It’s my calling. It’s my gift to the world and when I see that the world is crumbling in turmoil and I feel inspired and called to speak, write, or share on the topics, I can’t ignore it.
My business is my platform in a way and from day one I’ve committed to using that platform to promote peace, understanding, compassion, non-judgement, love, and joy in all areas. But, it also means sometimes I have to do things that are uncomfortable for me to do. Say things I’m uncomfortable to say, and share a message that may not be popular and last week I did just that.
I wrote an article that came directly from my heart and soul. The words poured out of my fingers and onto the computer with ease. There was no question of what needed to come through, but a part of me was afraid to write it.
To be honest, an even bigger part of me was afraid NOT to write it. So, I continued writing and when I was finished I submitted it for publication.
When I first wrote it, I wasn’t exactly clear on where it would end up. All I knew was that I needed to write it. Once it was complete, the next step seemed obvious and after I hit “submit”, the fear set in.
“What will people think?”
“It’s so different from what I write! What if people hate it?”
“What if people hate me?”
“What if…”
The FEAR just wouldn’t go away and yet there was a part of me that knew it was all going to be ok.
I followed my inspiration and I knew that it would be ok. I just knew it.
After a few hours or so, I forgot about the fear of ‘what if’ and honestly forgot I had submitted the article completely. A few hours later, I received an email letting me know my piece was accepted for publishing and that I would be notified once it had been published.
I was shocked. Afraid. Worried. And funny enough I was proud.
I was proud that I had once again followed my intuition and inspiration and I had not let fear win.
I was proud that I was walking my talk and doing the things that scare me, even when I’m unsure of how it will all work out, but even more so, because I listened, I took action, and I let go.
The actual article has yet to be published, but as soon as it is, I’ll update this post for you so you can read it in all it’s glory.
My question for you today: What is it that you are MOST afraid to do, but you know you NEED to do?
My advice…go do that!
MOST people aren’t willing to do what it takes to make their dreams come true.
I’m not talking about blood, sweat, tears, “hard” work and hours of sleep lost either.
I’m talking about breaking out of the safe, secure, and let’s be honest, a bit too predictable-comfort zones we find ourselves in just before we realize we MUST break free.
You see, most people FEAR the unknown.
I know I did…hell I STILL do!
I’m equally terrified by the thought of big changes and completely stifled when I don’t have enough change.
BUT, I’ve learned to DANCE with it. I’ve learned to get comfortable with the discomfort and TRUST that the path forward will always end up with something amazing, mind-blowing, and soul expanding for ME.
It ALWAYS leads to a greater lesson, bigger purpose, longer-lasting joy and alignment…always.
In fact, the more I fought the idea of change and leaping outside my comfort zone, knowing good and well that is exactly what I needed, the harder it got.
The very foundation upon which my identity was built began to crumble, one brick at a time.
I lost myself, my vision, my safety net and was all of a sudden blessed with this incredible desire that scared the shit out of me.
Who the hell did I think I was???
I didn’t think I was anything special and yet, I couldn’t let this feeling go.
I tried to ignore it for years, but you see that’s the thing about your purpose…when it’s your purpose…I mean REALLY your purpose, you can’t hide from it, no matter how hard you try.
So, I had nothing else to do but step into the unknown one inch at a time and trust as much as I could.
NOW…well now taking risks and stepping into the unknown is a bit easier.
It’s definitely still uncomfortable, but now I know the reward that comes from what feels like a huge risk and I know it’s worth it.
The life you desire, the career you crave, the pure joy that you know is possible yet still slightly out of reach—> all of that lies just outside your comfort zone and you must be willing to take the risk to step into the unknown in order to experience the amazing expansion your soul craves.
That’s just how it is.
So…tell me what’s more comfortable for you?
Continuing on the path of certainty and settling for the mediocre experience you’ve grown used to?
OR
Stepping out, with maybe wobbly knees and butterflies in your stomach onto a path that is a risk, but the reward is oh so sweet you can almost taste it now?
I chose the risk.
What do YOU choose?
Are YOU willing to do what it takes to step out of your comfort zone and into your zone of purpose and genius?
Are YOU ready to stop trying to hide from the inevitable and get on with it already?
Are YOU done settling once and for all and committed to making the rest of your life the absolute best?
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My heart hurts.
My soul is saddened and my mind can’t make sense of the world in which we live where violence and hatred are all over the news at any given moment.
Tears fall as I try desperately to hold onto the little light that I can see as souls from all over the world come together to mourn, love, support, and share their alliance with the LGBT community following the tragic event in Orlando this weekend.
You see, not even 12 hours prior to the deadly massacre, I was walking with my family in the Pride Parade for the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention to raise awareness for the souls who feel suicide is their only choice.
The amount of love, support, appreciation, joy, and community I felt as a lesbian woman walking during that parade is unparalleled. It’s the same kind of support, joy, and love you feel when you are in a room full of people who honor you for YOU…ALL of you. And likely the SAME feeling the men and women felt as they entered their safe haven for the evening at Pulse in Orlando.
I have cried puddles of tears in confusion and sadness because I could have been one of the victims of such a heinous act, but beyond that- it could be anyone of us for any reason, difference, or distinction.
I’m ANGRY.
I’m angry that those lives were taken.
I’m angry that I could have been one.
I’m angry that there is so much darkness in the world and that so many amazing souls feel the need to hide their light for fear of persecution and judgement.
I’ve LIVED in the darkness, hiding my truth because I was afraid of what others might think.
I’ve LIED my way through life, going through the motions of what other people wanted me to do and who they wanted me to be until one day I couldn’t do it anymore.
I’ve been FEARFUL of what might happen to me if anyone ever found out the truth and to be honest, there is a part of me that wants to creep slowly back into the closet where it’s “safe” because I don’t want to be a victim.
But there’s a bigger part of me that says FUCK that.
Hiding isn’t what we need right now. Fear isn’t want we need right now. Retaliation isn’t what we need right now.
What we need is the courage to stand up in our TRUTH and to HONOR who we are AS we are.
We need LOVE, LIGHT, PEACE, COMMUNITY, and CONNECTION.
We need EACH OTHER.
Despite the darkness, I DO believe LOVE will always win, but I want it to win NOW, not later.
This incident is but one example of how hatred, separation, and fear are keeping us apart and yet there are SO many other issues that are born from the same hatred and fear.
This isn’t about hate against one community or another, it’s merely an example of a bigger problem we are facing and one that we will NEVER solve with the same thoughts, energy, and focus that created it.
This is about YOU and I.
This is about HUMANITY.
This is about getting back to the spark of the DIVINE that we were ALL born with and that connects us all.
This is about creating a world of LOVE…period.
I REFUSE to allow accept this way of life as “normal”.
I REFUSE to live in FEAR.
I REFUSE to return to the DARKNESS.
Love will win and I will continue to do my part to empower, uplift, and inspire my tribe to speak, honor and LIVE their truth in LOVE.
That’s what this life is all about.
My hope is that you will stand with me.
Consider this your TRUTH BOMB for the day—>
Your PAST doesn’t MATTER…unless of course you wish to repeat it!
The mistakes you’ve made, relationships you’ve been in, the money mishaps, crappy careers, and horrific failures you’ve had in the past DON’T FREAKIN’ MATTER…
THOSE things are NOT you. They are merely reflections of the thoughts, beliefs, and emotions you had streaming at the time.
That’s it!
It’s like opening a book and reading one page and thinking the entire book is about what you saw on that one page…that’s now how it works folks.
UNLESS of course you WANT that!
If you want more mistakes, money mishaps, dwindling bank accounts, shitty relationships, crappy careers, then by all means keep ranting, raving, and revisiting the past and telling anyone who will listen about your story of how you’ve been STUCK for so many years. (By the way if you’ve been stuck for that long, it’s time to get some support and I have JUST the program for you. )
The ONLY thing that will get is you is back in the SAME sinking boat with more stories to tell in the future.
Seems obvious right?
Unfortunately too many of us get stuck in the story of who were were, how we were raised and what has stopped us that we can’t actually SEE that we are in fact perpetuating the same thing over and over again.
If you want to change your reality…both current and future…START NOW.
Consider this your action plan:
That is how you create positive #change folks…it’s not by focusing on the problem.
For some it’s easier said than done…believe me, I know. That’s why I DO this work.
In the past I allowed myself to get so caught up in the bullshit story in my head about why it wasn’t working, what had happened to me, and pointing the finger to everyone and every thing else that I lost my power completely!
I really, truly thought life was happening TO me rather than me LIVING it and thriving. I thought this was just my luck and when asked, I’d gladly bring up all the old baggage, proof, and evidence that supported my claim.
Many years later, knowing what I know now…I was simply STUCK in the past and repeating it in my future.
Lucky for me, I didn’t wait too long before owning my power and allowing it to work FOR me instead of against me.
You don’t have to do it alone, but if you choose to, you can totally use the action plan above.
You’re more powerful than you realize and that POWER comes from THIS moment…not rehashing your past.
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