Lamisha Serf-Walls

Ready to change your life? (Read this.)

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If you’ve never had a session with me, you may not know that during my calls with clients I am totally in the zone.  I’m asking questions, taking notes, and sharing insights and nudges I get from my intuition.  (Of course if you asked me ‘how’ I do what I do, I wouldn’t have an answer for you.  I just do it.)

Many times, amazing gems fly out of my mouth before I ever realize just how profound it is and last week I happened to catch this amazing wisdom I’m going to share with you today.

I was having a chat with one of my clients who is making some massive shifts in her mindset, career, and life in general and last week she was bumping up against her fear of the unknown.

With questions popping up all over the place like: “What if it doesn’t work out?  How can I be sure? But what if I fail?” (and many more), I asked her a question that changed everything.

It may not be a question you’ve thought to ask yourself, but here it is:

Are you willing to give up the HOPE of what can be, in order to stay in the discomfort of what is?

Basically, are you willing to stay where you are (even if you are uncomfortable, frustrated, pissed off, and just down right tired), in order to avoid the fear and incidentally the hope of what may be?

If so, then I can tell you exactly what will happen for you in the next 6 months (and I don’t need any oracle cards for this one).  You will stay exactly where you are because you are allowing FEAR to lead the way.

You see….

CHANGE happens when you are willing to take the next step forward and ACT on the inspiration you receive.

CHANGE happens when you exchange your frustration, anger, and discomfort for HOPE & the knowing that YOU have the power to create the life you desire.

CHANGE does not happen by you staying the same, being the same, and refusing to take responsibility of your future to make change happen.

Ouch!  (That’s some tough stuff to swallow, but you need to hear this.)

Where you are today and what has happened in your past is not your FAULT, but it is your responsibility TODAY to make a change if you want to see a different future.

YOU (and only you) are responsible for making the decision to leap.
YOU (and only you) are responsible for taking the next step, seeking support, investing in yourself (when needed) and doing the work to make your life what you want it to be.
YOU (and only you) are responsible for shifting your mindset and setting the wheels in motion for magic to unfold in your life.
YOU (and only you) get to make that decision.  Today and forever more.

So what do you choose?

Are you more fond of the fear that has gotten you nothing but the same, uncomfortable results or are you willing to take the leap (whatever that looks like for you) and do something different?

The truth is, you know where fear will lead you, but do you know where HOPE will lead?  I’ll tell you where.  To an amazing world of possibilities, opportunities, and CHOICES.

Believe me when I say this..I’ve been on both sides of the tracks and the HOPE side is much more comfortable.

Sure, there are times when I am really afraid of moving forward and my ego tries to convince me to stay in the cozy comfort of sameness, but the expanded part of me knows better, so I leap.  Consistently.  I walk my talk and own up to the work I teach because this shit works!

I’m sharing all of this with you because I don’t want you to move into the new year (it’s coming up pretty fast and furious) doing the SAME things over and over again with zero results.  You deserve better than that, and it’s time to step into the KNOWING of what WILL be versus the “fear” of what has been.

If you are ready to step into CHANGE with purpose, vision, and hope here are a few things you can do to get you started.

  • Make a list of 20 things you can do NOW to move you forward out of sameness and into the life you want to live.
  • Set a goal to do at least 1-2 things from that list each week from not until the end of the year (and beyond)
  • Shake things up!  Do something that is totally out of the norm for you to shake up your creativity and inspiration.  You never know what may come from it.
  • Invest in your personal development (when appropriate) with a coach, course, program, or books that will stretch your thinking and being.
  • Get an accountability buddy.  In addition to the coach I just started working with, I have a few mindset and accountability buddies I connect with almost daily.  It makes a huge difference.
  • Above all else, make a commitment to YOURSELF that you are worthy and deserving of creating change in your life.  It’s so important and goes a long way!

Last, but not least-I encourage you to sign up for my 2017 Cards & Coaching offer that is available for another 24 hours.  This is an incredible opportunity for you to get the inside scoop on what you can do starting now to pave the way for 2017 being the best year yet for just $111!!

It includes:
✨ 1-Oracle Card Reading (via email with pictures of the cards) that will provide insight into where you are now and how to use your intentions and energy to start 2017 strong.
✨ 1-45 Minute Coaching Session with me to clear the most prominent block that is holding you back as we head into 2017.

Your investment: $111 (love that magical number & it’s over 50% off what the regular rate would be!)

Interested?  Just click the image below and snag yours before time runs out (I guarantee I won’t be doing this again. )

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Gratitude: Compassion & Inspiration

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There are very distinct moments in my life when inspiration hits. Sometimes it is through books, a movie, or simply a statement someone makes that reaffirms my belief that there truly is good in the world. Those moments of inspiration and shared compassion warm my heart and I am grateful for those moments more and more each time I experience them.

I just finished watching the movie Big Miracle. A movie based on a real life whale rescue in Alaska many years ago. A film about hope, faith, and believing in the impossible. A film about compassion and cooperation. I love movies like these, especially when they are based on real events. They remind me that there is good in the world and even the most impossible situation and dream is possible when you believe. And that is what my blog is all about. Believing in your dream until it becomes your reality.

Tonight as I lay my head on my pillow, I am grateful for the compassion I notice around me daily and inspiration reminds me to believe in the impossible. Because the truth is everything is impossible until you try.

May you find a bit of compassion and hope in your weekend, and if you are up for a feel good, inspiring film, check out Big Miracle, it is well worth it.

Raw Reflection

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**Note: This is not something I would normally post on my blog, but in an effort to remain authentic and not give the impression that life is all rainbows and sunshine, I decided to share this.  Some of it has been slightly tweaked from what I originally wrote in an effort to keep some things private. **

I often wonder how many tears a human being can cry before the tears just dry up all together.  I fear (or maybe hope), that I am close to my quota and that one day I will cry no more.  That the tears will not flow as freely as they do now, or better yet that I will have nothing left to cry about.  No more pain to release, no more fear to face, and no more anger to let go of.  Of the millions of tears I have cried in my lifetime, you would think my well would be dry, but it’s not.

Still I cry, sob, and weep for what I wish were different.  For years gone by that I wish I didn’t remember, and other things I wish I did.  For pain that I could understand and leave all together.  I cry for understanding, love, and compassion.  For things I will never receive from the single person that should’ve been there to love me, protect me, and comfort me.  And while my mind knows these things will never come from the source that I have always wished, my heart still aches and breaks for what I will never receive.

Somewhere in life I found comfort in the discomfort.  Safety in the instability.  It is what I knew, what I have always known.  When things feel too stable and the other shoe has yet to drop, I begin rocking my world to the core so it has no choice but to drop, yet my world isn’t the only one that rocks.  I tend to rock those that I care so deeply for, those I love and cherish more than anything.  Maybe it is a way for me to get comfortable again in the chaos, or to recreate the scene with a different outcome. Creating a familiar scene with different players, providing myself once again an opportunity to change the ending.  Maybe I am learning, then again maybe not.  All I know is when I look back at the aftermath of this creation, it doesn’t feel any better than before. The tears still flow, my heart still breaks, as my mind tries to make sense of it all.  Trying desperately to understand how to heal myself and get back to my place of stability.

The things my mind understands don’t always get communicated to my heart and my emotions.  It’s as if they have a life of their own, spinning out of control at times, while other times they lay dormant looking for the right moment to emerge.  My mind understands individuality and the fact that two people deal with things in their own way.  One fights their battle externally, while others fight it internally.  A relationship of opposites, yin and yang, black and white…balance? I’m not so sure. It sometimes feels like being alone on two different islands, close enough to see, but not close enough to reach each other.  Each dealing with her own demons, yet still separated by miles of misunderstanding and confusion. One sitting in solitude with the world on her shoulders never once voicing concern, sadness, or defeat, slowly burying what will have to be released one way or another.  The other very outwardly expressing pain, fear, sadness, and depression as she tries to find the deeper meaning of life.  Looking for peace and acceptance.  Love and compassion. Joy. Wanting nothing more than to fall into the arms of the other, yet feeling so far away.  Blocked by a fortress of protection.

My hope tells me that things will get better, that this too will pass.  It tells me that peace is waiting and that I am making progress.  That I will continue to heal and the tears will become fewer. It tells me that the connection I so deeply want and need will come back and I will be much stronger than before.  That this is part of my journey and love will prevail. It tells me that if something isn’t growing then it is dying out and sometimes there are growing pains and this is but one growth spurt.  That on the other side of this moment of confusion will be clarity.  A clearer understanding of life and compassion for my journey.  That I will be stronger and more connected because of this moment and all the moments before.  That I will not only survive whatever this is, but I will thrive.

Yet in midst of the tears, fear, anxiety, and confusion I find I have more than just hope, I have faith.