Lamisha Serf-Walls

The Key to Your EVERY Desire is Closer than You Think…

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If I had a magic wand and I could deliver your every desire right this second, what would you ask for?

More money?  A better job?  New opportunities?

To meet your soul mate and live happily ever after?  More wishes like this?

What if I asked you WHY you wanted all of those things to begin with, what would you say?

Is it because you’d have more freedom?  More joy?

More peace of mind?  More happiness?

I’ve got some truly magical news for you.  Are you ready?

The key to ALL of those things you desire and everything you could ever want for the rest of your life is so much closer than you think.

(It’s not in my magic wand either.)

The KEY is YOU.

That’s right.  The key to unlock every single opportunity, desire, want, wish, or big dream of yours lies WITH YOU.

And more importantly the joy, happiness, freedom, and peace you are ready to experience once all of your wishes come true BEGINS and ENDS with you.

The thing is most people don’t understand that.  They don’t know how to access the key nor do they know what to do with it.

The truth is, the key appears when you…

  • Stand in your power.
  • Own your truth and live it unapologetically.
  • Give yourself permission to be brilliantly, YOU.
  • Open yourself to endless opportunities in this life.

AND…When you get rid of all the stories, beliefs, sabotaging behaviors, and blocks that keep you from being the strong, unique, and powerful soul you came into this life to BE.

Isn’t it funny how quickly we forget how powerful and magnificent we truly are?  I mean, we came from the very thing that created the world.  We are made of this incredible, universal energy that allows the world to spin, the sun to rise, and the waves to ebb and flow.

Do you think the Sun ever wonders if it’s GOOD enough, WORTHY enough, or even STRONG enough to shine bright and provide the powerful energy for all its living inhabitants?

Do you think Mother Earth ever questions her ability to go through the cycles of growth, death, and rebirth throughout the seasons?

Do you think the Ocean ever once worries about what we think of it as it does its thing?

Hell no!

All of the above simply ARE what they are.  No worries.  No fear.  No stories. No sabotage.

They are strong, powerful, beautiful, and they have a PURPOSE…as do YOU.

So why do we allow the past stories and what others think get in the way of what we are put here to do?

Why do we question ourselves in what we are capable of?

Why aren’t we JUST DOING IT already?

It’s because many of us have forgotten that we have the key to unlock incredible power, potential, and creative force that knows NO bounds and it all begins within your mind.

How you think and feel about yourself, your abilities, and the world all contribute to whether or not you use the key.

And depending on how you were raised, it’s safe to say you may not have been brought up with the proper tools to manage this incredible creative power you wield.

Let’s be honest…you want to be happy.  We all do. But the source, the fuel, the power that makes all things possible and your every desire worth creating LIES WITHIN YOU.

Your job is to…

  • Simply learn to tap into that creative power so you can BE, HAVE, & DO anything your heart desires.
  • Rid yourself of the stories, the drama, and the drudgery that creeps up when you set out to accomplish the BIG things you desire.
  • Build a belief system that KNOWS and never questions your ability to make magic happen in your life.

It’s that simple.

And contrary to popular belief, mindset work isn’t just for the entrepreneurial world, it’s for anyone who wants to stretch themselves outside their comfort zone and make their dreams come true.

Mindset work is for YOU and it will change your life…guaranteed.

So, if you don’t have a mindset practice or you don’t even know where to begin, I invite you to join me TODAY for my Miracle Mindset: Creating Your New Normal call.  It starts at 2pm EST and you can get all the details about how to join us by signing up to my VIP list.

Don’t worry if you can’t make it live for the call, it will be recorded and I’ll be sending out some awesome tools right after the call so you don’t want to miss this!

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Do you want to be truly happy? Do this!

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For far too many people ‘happiness’ is an ever-elusive future possibility.

With more money, love, success, adventure, ____(fill in the blank) we think we will have more joy and happiness in our lives, but I don’t believe that to be true.

What I now know, from many years of going against the grain of my own soul is that happiness is not only an inside job, but it requires a few key components…none of which you have to wait for.

You want to be truly happy?  Follow these simple steps.

  • Speak your truth.  Stop allowing others to stifle your essence as they tell you who to be and how to act.  Lean into your natural flow of living, breathing, and being and give yourself permission to speak your truth.  Know what you want out of life and go get it, unapologetically.  Stop following the herd and doing all the things everyone else is doing because you think you’re supposed to.  Find your truth and then live it, every.single.day.
  • Find your flow. I talk about this all the time with my clients and it’s SO important when it comes to being happy.  Finding your flow is all about leaning into what works for you.  Stepping into the path that while it might be a challenge is exciting, invigorating, and inspires you.  It’s about finding what you do naturally instead of following all the ‘traditional’ how-to guides.  Oh and one more thing…stop judging yourself for NOT ‘fitting in’ with the status quo.  You weren’t meant to fit in my dear…you were meant to find what works for you and do it beautifully.
  • Know what you want…then go get it.  Sounds simple enough right?  Unfortunately there are far too many people not willing to be honest with themselves about what it is they truly want out of life.  Speak it into reality.  Know it. Own it. Live it. Love it. And while you are at it…love YOURSELF.  

Without these 3 things, happiness will always feel just outside your reach.  The reality is that only YOU have the power to make yourself happy.  Don’t play victim to your circumstance any longer and allow yourself to be FREE knowing that you deserve to think, feel, and experience happiness every day.

And one more thing….

If the steps above feel a bit too difficult or you are rolling your eyes say ‘yeah right, that’s all you have to do!?’, hit the button below and let’s chat.

Your happiness is priceless and you shouldn’t be spending another minute living in uncertainty wondering when and if you will ever be happy.  Helping clients find it within themselves is my specialty, so let’s talk.

 

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The When/Then Manifesting Pitfall

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When you think of your happiness and what it takes for you to live a happy life, do you find that you mostly feel that way in the present?

Or, do you find yourself falling into what I call the When/Then Manifesting Pitfall.

We all know that when we want to create or manifest a specific thing (be it a career, money, a relationship etc.) it is because we think it will make us feel good.  We search for happiness and want certain things in our lives to feel fulfilled, worthy, and blissful.  But when we are in the process of creating or manifesting those things, we often find ourselves feeling antsy, uncomfortable, and impatient.

We might look around asking “Well where is it?”. 

And if you are like me you might be saying…“When I have the money/car/relationship/career/body I want…THEN I’ll be happy/grateful/fulfilled etc.”

Unfortunately, that’s not how it works.

When you are in manifesting mode, you have to first know that it is coming and enjoy the process.

I have one too many times fallen into the habit of taking score of what I want and how long it takes to get here.  All the while I am missing all of the amazing things around me.  At times in my life I have been a conditional happy person, meaning under certain conditions I would be happy.  (Mostly when things were going really well.)

Falling into the When/Then Pitfall is so easy in our world.  We are constantly on the look out for the next thing to bring about joy that we miss the very thing in front of us that could make us happy now.  And the crazy thing is that in order to manifest what you want, you have to be happy first.

What the career of your dreams? Make peace with the job you have.

What more money? Be grateful for the money you have and enjoy where you are.

What a better relationship? Appreciate the positive aspects your partner brings to the table and simply be happy.

The best thing you can do when you are trying to manifest anything, is start by focusing on what brings you joy in all aspects of your life. 

Find your joy with the in-between time.  As the details are coming together and you haven’t yet reached the ultimate manifestation, know that it is coming and choose joy, happiness, and bliss now.  After all life is to be lived and enjoyed in the present as opposed to some arbitrary moment in the future.

Life is meant to be loved, enjoyed, and appreciated in the moment…always.  Don’t wait for the future to live the life of your dreams…start now with the little moments.

Your action step for the day is to be mindful of all the joy, happiness, and blissful moments you have right in front of you.  Notice them, appreciate them, and welcome them with open arms.  When you do that, I guarantee all those things you have been wanting to manifest will come that much quicker. 🙂

Are You In Danger of This? (And how not to sacrifice your happiness.)

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What if someone could tell you without a shadow of a doubt the way your future will likely unfold if you continue on the exact course you are on this very minute?

Would you be interested?

No, I’m not switching businesses and becoming a psychic 🙂

I ask you that because I know something that you might not be aware of and again I’m no psychic, but I have seen this enough to know that you might be in danger.

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Meet Joni* (Names have been changed for privacy sake.)

Joni is an incredibly talented entrepreneur.  She’s sweet, charismatic, caring, compassionate and people adore her!  She’s married to her soul mate, has a gorgeous home, and is blessed with creativity that flows like an open faucet.  Her business is booming and her calendar is booked out 9 months!

BUT…

She’s got a problem and it’s a BIG one.

She is having a hard time finding balance amongst all the awesomeness that is her life.

When she is in work mode, she’s hard-core.  She works long hours, stays up late, and often burns the candle at both ends.

When she manages to find time to focus on her ‘home’ life with her hubby, she is constantly trying to make up for lost time.

She’s lost on the teeter-totter of two extremes and no matter what she does she can’t quite find the happy medium.

The result:

She’s frustrated and cranky most days.  When she’s focused on her business, she worries about her relationship and the many things at home that feel half-assed or un-done.  When she’s at home, she worries about being at work. She thinks: “What if my clients need me?  What about the next deadline?  The next launch? Did I return all important emails?”

She’s stuck, overwhelmed, and feels guilty about not being where she needs to be and often feels like a failure.

She frequently discounts her successes or over looks them completely because she becomes hyper-focused on the things that aren’t working (aka not being able to find balance).

What on the outside looks like an awesome life, on the inside feels unbalanced and incomplete.  She frequently thinks that “if only” she could find the balance between her two very important worlds, she could finally ease into relaxation mode and actually enjoy the magnificent life she has created.

But without being able to see the core issue (which is not the lack of balance in her life), she is destined for a life of exhaustion, fear, frustration, and stuck-ness. She is blind to the belief that is holding her back because she is simply too close to see it.  What she thinks is a simple fix that centers around time management and taking a break every now and then is really just a symptom of a deeper issue.

She has a choice.  She can continue to try to treat the symptom (i.e. the lack of balance in her life) and experience the brief reprieve that it provides for her or she can choose to seek help.  And to be honest, she must first understand and be aware of the consequences of not clearing this issue.

Examples:

  • A stressed work life can result in physical illness
  • A stressed home life can result in relationship trouble
  • A stressed inner life can result in incredible fear, lack of confidence, self-sabotage, and even worse…an unhappy, unfulfilled life.

Getting to the end of her rope and being truly ready to move through this challenge once and for all, Joni reaches out for help.  She knows the magnificence that lies on the other side of this struggle and she’s ready to identify and clear the belief that is holding her hostage in exhaustion, fear, and frustration.

The question is are YOU?

happinessMany of you may be able to directly relate to the specific challenge or symptom that Joni has struggled with or you have your own issue that manifests itself in your life or business in your relationships, self-care, time management, procrastination, marketing (or lack thereof), or maybe it is something different.

The point is we all have that one thing that keeps showing up for us over and over again that leaves us feeling drained, frustrated, and just plain stuck.  There are some of you who are ready to throw in the towel and accept that ‘this is just the way life is’ and you may even believe ‘you just can’t have it all’.

But I am here to tell you, there IS a solution to your problem and it starts with this first step: You must first know the consequences of continuing on the path you are on and refuse to sacrifice the joy and fulfilling life you are destined for any longer.

That’s it.

Life is supposed to be amazing and you are meant to work through the lessons, beliefs, and challenges that hold us back from that incredible joy.  It is part of your journey, but you get to choose if you are ready to move forward and clear it and some of the biggest challenges are those we can’t see directly because we are simply too close.

With that I ask you:

What amazing-ness are you sacrificing by staying stuck? AND Are you ready to take the first step to free yourself from the struggle and frustration?

If so, I invite you to schedule a 30-Minute Consultation to chat with me about your challenges and to see if (like Joni) you are ready to clear them once and for all.  No strings attached.  So what do you say? Are you ready?

P.S. Don’t forget that the 7-Day Resolution Refresh challenge begins on Monday so if you are in need of some inspiration to get some of those amazing goals knocked off your to-do list, get signed up so you don’t miss a beat!

 

Training The Happy

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I began my day today noticing various aspects about the world, my son, and myself that put a smile on my face and gratitude in my heart.  My son is turning 3 this weekend and I am so grateful that he is healthy, vibrant, and quite the entertainer.  Life is good, I am loved, healthy, and in a good place.  It seemed that nothing could ruin my mood today and it was quite lovely.  Until…

Well that’s the thing, there wasn’t anything in particular that happened to dull the vibrant happy I was feeling, it just sort of wore off a bit.  Don’t get me wrong, I didn’t fall to the other end of the emotional spectrum and feel upset, angry, or sad.  I just wasn’t on the same cloud I was on earlier in the morning.  It got me wondering what happened and how can I get that feeling back?

Just before the happy seemed to fade I had written a poem/greeting card about happiness and the words spoke to me so much that I think I had my answer before the question was formed in my mind.  I realized the idea of “happiness” for many people (me included) stems primarily from a future point in time.  The good feeling comes with thinking of what is coming down the pike or what we are looking forward to.  I know I have always had a tendency to look into the future for the best things to come and incidentally I miss the good stuff that is all around me.  Not only that, but the good stuff around me doesn’t seem to compare to the future event that I have created in my mind.  And yet when that moment comes, I may feel happy it is here, but it is only momentarily until I am waiting for the next future moment to be happy about.

As I was pondering this thought, I realized the importance of not only being happy in the moment, but training the happy.

What is that?

Training the happy simply means doing things in the moment that remind you of the good stuff here and now.  Seeing the beauty around you and being grateful for it.  Finding the positive aspects of life in each and every situation.  Sure it may seem difficult at first, but the more you practice it, the more you train yourself to be happy now, the easier it is to let go of the idea that you will be happy when…whatever happens.  You can be happy now, you just have to train yourself to see the good.

So, as my jovial feeling was dulling, I began thinking of the things that make me happy and I wrote some of them down.  My son’s smile.  His laughter.  The silly things he says and how happy he is to see me when he gets home.  The fact that we found the cake he wanted for his birthday after thinking it wasn’t available.  The sunshine.

I then found my happy factor increasing and the positive thoughts multiplying in my head.  One thought led to another etc.  And while it may seem amazing in the moment, it’s no rocket science.  The process is simple.  Think of what makes you feel good and keep that going.  Sooner or later you will find yourself looking for the good feelings on a regular basis and your happy mood will be the new normal for right now.  And when the future moment comes that knocks your happy socks off, you will savor it fully in the moment and the next because you know there are many happy moments to be celebrated.

So, the next time you find yourself feeling less than joyful, use it as an opportunity to train your happy.  In fact don’t wait for that moment.  Start right now!  Make a list of 20 positive aspects about you, your life, your surroundings, your job, your spouse, etc., and watch your happy factor multiply.

What else do you do to increase your happy?