I get it. There are moments when we feel lost, frustrated, and just plain stuck in life.
Believe me I’ve been there more times than I care to admit, but about 8 months ago I realized something that shifted my mindset entirely and today I’m sharing that with you.
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If you would have told me that about 8 years ago, I would have very adamantly explained how wrong you were.
You see, before I knew what I know now, I played victim to my circumstances more often than not.
I thought for sure that being ‘stuck’ in a dead end job that made my mind numb was unfair and I couldn’t see a way out.
The truth is, I had a way out all along, but I was too afraid to do anything about it. I was afraid to quit, to try something different and to go after what I really wanted in life.
I made excuses and argued for my limitations which only kept me in the comfort of complaining about just how ‘stuck’ I really was. It took awhile, but finally I managed to see what was possible beyond the mental restrictions I had playing at any given moment.
That was the day I began to dream of something better and now I’m living it.
I know that when you are feeling ‘stuck’ it feels as real as a cut on your hand. You FEEL it, talk about it, maybe even cry about how stuck you really are, but I’m here to tell you that you have the power!
In fact, that’s what the Break Free From Stuck: Group Edition program is all about. Helping you see that you have choices and the power to break free once and for all.
I’ve been getting lots of questions about the program itself and decided to put together a little video to explain a bit more.
It all begins February 1st and I currently only have 2 spots open for participants to sign up and receive a FREE 1:1 coaching session in addition to the additional support you receive for the program. If you are interested in learning more about the program and want to claim one of those spots, you can do so here.
If ‘stuck’ is how you feel, it’s time to break free and this program is just the thing you need!
I cringe every time I hear the words “try harder”. For some reason it sends the message that you just aren’t doing enough to make it (whatever it seems to be at the moment) happen. It also suggests that if you are giving your all, it just isn’t enough.
Ick! Just writing that makes me cringe.
I am not the kind of coach that is going to tell you to push through the pain and “try harder”. I won’t tell you to power through or work harder at whatever you are doing.
Why?
Because honestly, I care more than that and I don’t believe our dreams come true with blood, sweat, and tears (at least it doesn’t have to be that way).
I believe in a better way.
When clients come to me and say they are feeling stuck or in a standstill with the progression of their dreams, I try to tap into what they mean by “stuck”. Are they stuck on ideas, actions, motivation, clients, or forward movement? Do they need logistical assistance or is it an internal block we need to address?
Understanding where the glitch lies is paramount in helping them work through it. Unlike how some sports coaches might tell players to work through the pain and “power through”, I just don’t believe in telling someone to “try harder”.
I like to actually suggest the opposite.
Instead of pushing and fighting for the next step, what if you were able to take a step back and simple allow it to come to you? What if you could relax, regroup, and trust that you don’t have to fight, claw, and force the answers to come. What if right here, right now, you didn’t have to do anything? What if they could simply flow….
In our society that is a big what if because we aren’t taught that growing up. In school we are taught that if our grades aren’t high enough or if we aren’t doing well enough in a particular area, then we must try harder. But what happens when we are giving our all and we still feel blocked? What then?
Sometimes trying too hard pushes the thing we want to achieve, further away. By forcing it and trying desperately to make it work, we cut off the flow of inspiration and energy. We allow the frustration to settle in and when that happens, the fight gets harder.
Take writer’s block for instance. For those of you who have ever experienced the Achilles heal of writing, you know the harder you try to force your words to flow, the harder it gets. But, when you are able to step away, change your focus, get some fresh air, and then come back to it, it seems as if the clouds part and the heavenly writing angels sing. Your thoughts turn into beautiful words that when weaved together create a tapestry of creative-awesomeness. 
I believe the sweet spot for your dreams to become reality is in your inspiration. When it feels hard, sticky, frustrating, or like your progress has reached a plateau, the answer is not to try harder.
The answer lies in letting go of the reins and creating the space for your next step to appear.
How do you do that? Here are a few things that I find helpful.
You may find that your sticking points are scattered along your path as things grow and evolve, but if you can remember to flow instead of forcing the next step to come, you will not only soon be celebrating your dreams becoming reality, but will also find that you had fun along the way!