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Why are you settling??? It’s time to break FREE.

September 2, 2015 by Lamisha

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***Before I get into today’s post, I want to invite you to check out my latest article that has been a huge hit over at The Huffington Post titled : 6 Ways to Find Your Passion & Live Your Purpose. ***

Now for today’s post.

I’ve noticed something over the last few years and it’s really getting under my skin. In fact, it has become so prevalent and obvious in the last few months I want to set the record straight

Somehow, we have become a culture that believes that while you can have a mostly awesome life, you can’t have everything you want no matter how how hard you try.

There are many people who have come to accept that if you have a fabulous career you love, your relationships have to suck.

OR If you have an amazing relationship, you can’t have all the riches your heart desires.

OR If you have all the money you desire, you might have to enjoy it all alone. (The list goes on. )

It’s as if they believe they are undeserving of having it all and living the life of their dreams is some myth that only happens in fairy tales.

Well I call bullshit.

Who are you not to have it all?

Who are you not to have the love, the riches, the joy, the career, the family, the fame, and anything else your heart desires?

That is what life is all about. Living, loving, sharing, expanding, and experiencing all that life has to offer.

Do you know what happens when you believe that you can’t have it all?

You settle.

You settle for the parts of your life that aren’t working because you believe that if most of your life is going well, who are you to complain?

But I’m here to tell you this; You don’t have to settle and you certainly don’t have to accept that because 80% of your life IS working that the remaining 20% has to remain a struggle.

Now, I’ll be honest and say that I USED to think that way.

I thought that if my business was booming and money was flowing that my relationship had to take a fall. Or if things were really amazing in my love life, then my business and income had to tank.

And you know what happened? I manifested those very things.

When things were running smoothly in my relationship and in life in general, I somehow sabotaged things in my career. And when I had a really amazing month in my business, I’d start an argument with my partner.

It as as if I just couldn’t handle all the good at once and I had to have something to worry about.

It took a few years of learning, growing, and lots of life lessons to get to this point, but now I see it and can make changes in my mindset and in my beliefs when I start feeling myself settling.

The truth is, you CAN work through the BS that is holding you back no matter how long you’ve struggled with it…but it’s difficult to do alone.

Lucky for you, this is my specialty and is the EXACT reason I set up the 30-Day Break Free From Stuck program.

If you feel:

Like you are settling in your career, relationship, or life in general
STUCK in one area of your life that just isn’t working for you
Like you’ve done all you can and still can’t make that last 20% of your life work for you

It’s time we had a chat. I am a firm believer in reaching out and asking for help and I’ve seen amazing miracles happen when I’ve done that myself.

If you are ready to break free and make magic happen in your life once and for all, schedule a free 30-Minute Consultation to chat about what’s going on.

My word is FREEDOM…What’s yours? (Plus a free invitation for YOU.)

July 1, 2015 by Lamisha

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It feels like forever since my last post and that’s because I’ve been on vacation and piecing together my next steps. The good news is I am back and I have a lot of GREAT things up my sleeve for you. But, before I share all of that with you (soon I promise), I want to share some of my most recent realizations.

All this traveling I’ve been able to do this year so far, I realized I have had a theme bubbling up my entire life and it is exactly the kind of life I want to create.

That theme is FREEDOM.

Many (many) moons ago, I wouldn’t have known what it was because I was dealing with so much turmoil and strife, but today I can honestly look at my life as a whole and say what I truly desire is freedom in ALL forms.

I want to experience freedom in love (thank you SCOTUS for making that possible in all 50 states in the US finally).

I want to experience freedom in my finances (thank you Denise Duffield-Thomas for helping me clear my blocks to be open to more abundance.)

I want to experience freedom in my time and how I choose to spend my time on a daily basis (thanks boss-aka me!).

And I am finally embracing the fact that I want to experience freedom in what I create and share with YOU.

You see over the years, I’ve tried to make all of my desires fit nicely into little square boxes even though the contents were hanging out in odd (and fun) shapes and sizes. I realized this weekend that the only thing clean, tidy, square boxes are good for are moving- you know when you have to pack a moving truck and feel like you are playing Tetris to make everything fit.

I don’t fit into one clean and tidy box and I bet you don’t either.

I’m a bit messy and oddly-shaped at times, but it’s what makes me unique. What I desire today may change form in a few months, but that’s the true beauty of evolution and growth isn’t it?

Your desires, wishes, and dreams are as diverse as your experiences in this life and I want you to know it’s OKAY to have all those (sometimes conflicting) desires because in the end it’s all a part of YOU.

You will at times drop the things that are no longer serving you. You will de-clutter your dreams, desires, and wishes and peel back the layers to reveal what is really important to you right here and right now. And despite what gets left on the editing room floor, life will feel amazing for you because in the end YOU get to choose what stays and what goes.

My biggest realization over the last 2 weeks is the freedom that I not only desire and am now totally embracing, but also the freedom I help my clients attain.

And let’s be clear, freedom means something different to everyone. For me it might be about time and money and for someone else it might be entirely about their career. But, what I want YOU (and every other woman walking this planet) to know is that YOU have the FREEDOM to choose the life you live. You have the FREEDOM to break free from whatever has you stuck and to choose differently. But most of all you have the FREEDOM to decide the kind of life you live and experience while you are in this blessed body of yours.

And I want to help you get to that FREEDOM, whatever it means to you because I know that you have an amazing life to live and it’s time to make your dreams come alive starting NOW.

The Facebook Tribe I created a few months ago is under construction and with it comes a new name (TBA) and lots of awesome tools, tips, and challenges to help empower YOU to live that amazing life you want…right now. And instead of waiting for all the new pieces to be in place, I’m inviting you to join us today, before everything is perfect and the new name is revealed.

In this group you will get access to free information, special offers, free coaching threads, inspiration, and lots of additional life-changing information that will empower you in truly beautiful ways. This is phase 1 of the amazing new things to come, so hop on over and be one of the first people to know about what else is coming down the pipe.

Joining is simple just click here and request entry into the group.

P.S. I have a super fun and life-changing challenge coming up soon for people in the group only so make sure you join!

Living the Dream…What You Really Want

October 21, 2014 by Lamisha

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One of the first things I ask people about when I am working with them is what they want in life.

Usually I get a list of items, dollar amounts, places they want to travel to, and a whole slew of other ‘stuff’ that comes with their dream life. Whether it’s the career of their dreams, the relationship they have always desired, or their health, there is always ‘stuff’ that they want.

And when I ask them why they want what they want, I am often met with a pause in the conversation.

It’s not about proving that you are worth having the life of your dreams, because you are already worthy enough to have it. Remember you can be, do, or have anything that your heart desires.

The reason I ask why, is because like the blocks that are holding us back, there is something that lies beneath the desire to be, have, or do anything

Take me for example. When I took the leap to live the life of my dreams, I did so with the intention of creating my own business that I loved. I wanted to help people know they too could craft a life they have always wanted and I absolutely adored the work. But, after some insightful questions and a bit of digging from a coach I was working with at the time, I realized it’s something far deeper for me.

Underneath the sparkly dream of owning my own business and helping people are three values that are extremely important to me.

Freedom, family, and service.

I want to feel free in the work I do.

I want to have the flexibility and freedom to support my family from anywhere in the world and since I am a military spouse that is even more important to me.

And I want to be of service to my clients.

I want to help people do the things they never thought possible and live the life they have always wanted.

So, I have set out on a path to design a life that does just that. That is what I am after. Those are things that are important to me. The extra “stuff” is just icing on the cake.

One of my clients has been working with me for several months and in that time we have worked on identifying what it is she truly wants out of life, giving herself permission to live that life, and helping her achieve it. One of her core values is freedom. She wants to have the freedom to choose to live the life of her dreams. To travel, to learn, to grow, and to be who she wants to be, not who others perceive her to be.

In fact, most of my clients have freedom as one of their underlying values in the work we do together. Whether it is freedom to spend their time & money how they want or the freedom to choose to live life on their own terms.

They want freedom.

So, why is knowing your underlying values important when you are creating the life of your dreams?

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It’s simple, because when you let go of the specific outcomes and focus on the values that are important to you, you loosen your grip on how it must happen and allow the energy of the Universe to work on your behalf to deliver all those values with beautiful circumstances wrapped up with a pretty bow. And you realize you just created a life you never thought was possible.

You see, it’s when we get our hands too far into the mix that we can often make things harder for us to achieve. But when you focus on values like freedom, flexibility, support, service, family, etc. you find that it’s much easier to welcome in the unexpected surprises that make life interesting & exciting. You tend to go with the flow a lot easier and trust that everything you want in life can and will be yours.

So, when you think about the investments you are making into self-growth & expansion, don’t ask yourself if the ‘stuff’ is worth it. Ask yourself if the freedom, flexibility, comfort, peace, etc. is worth it because that is what you are truly after. It’s not about how you get to those feelings that is as important as the feeling itself. Just like it’s not money you are after, it’s the amazing experiences that money allows you to buy that is what you are after.

Today, I invite you to take a look at your values. What lies beneath the external ‘stuff’ you want in life? Are you building the life of your dreams on a foundation of physical things or are you building it on a foundation of experiences and values like family, support, stability, flexibility, and freedom?

Know how you want to feel and what is truly important to you and you open the doors for those feelings to flow to you instantly.

And to take it a step further, what is one thing you can do today that will help you tap into those values. Do it now, not sometime in the future.

I’d love to know what your #1 value is and what you can do today to cultivate that feeling. Share in the comments below to get the energy moving.

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A Look Into Your Future…

October 17, 2014 by Lamisha

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Where will you be in 2015? I know it’s an odd question for the middle of October 2014, but think about it.

Imagine where you will be. What will you be doing? What doors are opening for you? What dreams are you achieving?

For you, it might look like the unveiling of your new business website or booking your very first client.

Or maybe the book you’ve always wanted to pitch is now being sent to the publishers for a final edit.

Maybe you find yourself booking your flights & accommodations for spending 6 months traveling the world.

Or you see yourself quitting that job you hate and stepping into the career of your dreams with more money, more purpose, and passion than ever before.

Maybe you just signed the lease for the brick & mortar shop of your dreams and are filling it up with all kinds of creative goodies that people will love.

Or you see yourself drawing, painting, writing, and creating amazing pieces that people are just breaking down your door to buy.

Maybe you are doing what you have always dreamed and that is spending time at home with your children while your creative business takes flight.

Or you see yourself putting the finishing touches on your home art studio and getting ready for your very first art showcase.

Maybe your dream is something else. Maybe it’s a bit smaller or much bigger than any of the things I’ve listed above, but the common denominator in all of those examples is that they are all possible. Every single detail. Anything you can imagine for your ideal life is possible.

But, you must first take the leap.

I want you to take a moment today and look at where you are. Not where you have been or what opportunities you have missed in the past. Look at where you are today.

Without the leap you will stay where you are. Where life is ‘ok’ and you settle for what you have. Your heart will push you and your desires will pull you, but without that leap, you stay exactly where you are. Dreaming of…one day, when all the pieces fit together and your dream is delivered magically to your front door.

But it doesn’t happen like that. You have to decide to take the first step. To utilize your freedom of choice to decide to stay where you are where it’s “safe” or leap out of your comfort zone and embrace the life you have always wanted.

I want you to ask yourself this question: What do I want most out of life? What is my vision for the future? Think about it. Paint the picture. Enjoy the feeling of having it already done.

And then ask yourself this: Am I ready? Am I ready to do what needs to be done? To take the leap and trust that the how will be revealed to me? Am I ready?

And if you answered “YES” then I invite you to schedule a 30-minute clarity call to find out how we can make that happen and the options that are available to you for getting started on that amazing dream of yours now. Not when the clocks strikes 12am on December 31st and we enter a new year, but right NOW.

You have the chance to move into 2015 living your dream, but you have to take the first step. I have a few coaching spots open for 2014, so if you are ready to get moving and live the freedom that the life of your dreams will bring, schedule your 30-minute clarity call below.