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Losing Millions….

April 7, 2017 by Lamisha

I have a confession to make and it’s probably something you might not be able to guess about me, though after I share the whole story, it will make total sense.

My secret guilty pleasure is that I LOVE watching documentaries about where Lottery winners are now.

—> It’s not because I play the lottery, though I do on occasion.
—> It’s not because I want to be up to date with the latest high ticket items to purchase.
—> And it’s not even because I want to use it as a way to envision myself as a millionaire.

Honestly, I watch it because I am incredibly fascinated by the MINDSET behind each winner and how it ties into where they are now. (I’m a mindset nerd, I know!)

I’ve watched a ton of these shows and what’s amazing is I can see a common thread in all of them as it relates to who still has their money (or even more) and who has squandered it away and is now broke. Can you guess what it is?

It’s all about their growth mindset and upper limit set point.

You see, every one of us has an upper limit set point based on our current mindset. Based on our past experiences and the mindset work we have done (or not done) we have a certain amount of love, joy, peace, abundance, health, excitement etc. that we can comfortably allow in our lives.

Once we approach that upper limit, our ego gets a bit frightened and feels unsafe. It immediately wants to bring us back down to our “normal” range, even if what’s been normal for us is incredibly uncomfortable.

Imagine for a moment you want to lose 50 lbs but in reality you only imagine that you can really lose about 25. As you approach that 25lb marker or a bit beyond that, your ego gets a bit snarky and scared and you find some reason (usually subconsciously) to sabotage your progress to bring you back down to what is “normal” for you.

The same thing happens with money (or anything else for that matter). The reason many lottery winners go bankrupt after winning millions of dollars is because their mindset didn’t change when they won that money.

Their reality shifted dramatically, but their mindset didn’t and so they had to go back to what was “normal” for them.

It seems a bit crazy, I know, but think back to your life for a moment.

Have you ever noticed that there are times when things are going really good for you, it feels a bit uncomfortable? Or maybe when things get too good you find yourself sabotaging it in some way, shape, or form and before you know it you are back to where you started?

Maybe it’s with money, weight, relationships, your career, or something else entirely, but no matter what the topic is…the issue is the same. You’ve hit your upper limit.

So what do you do to make sure you don’t lose your proverbial millions?

It boils down to these three things…

Become aware of your upper limit set point
Understand your sabotaging behavior when things get too good
Actively grow your mindset so as you approach that upper limit, it actually transforms to a new level

Believe me when I say that the upper limit problem that Gay Hendricks discusses in his book The Big Leap is a very real thing. I’ve experienced it over and over again with each new level I’ve reached in my life and business and understanding how it works and actively working on your mindset is the key to limiting the effects of the ULP in your life.

And you know what? It’ ALL leads back to MINDSET.

Yes, I know. I talk about mindset until I’m blue in the face, but I promise it is more important than you know and it is where all your power lies. It’s also why I decided to put together this FREE 5-Day Mindset Challenge for my tribe starting Monday.

Starting Monday, we are going to help you understand what is going on in that beautiful mind of yours and give you some tools to transform those thoughts so you can continue to grow and expand your life in truly magical ways with or without your upper limit.

If you sign up, everyday next week you are going to be receiving the challenge step of the day in your inbox with an exercise for you to complete that day.

If you choose, you can also join us in the MindPower Collective group on Facebook to share your experiences and enter yourself to win some 1:1 coaching and free entry into the next round of the Miracle Mindset Immersion group program coming soon!

The challenge kicks off on Monday! Are you ready?

Join us over in the MindPower Collective group and remember to post your exercises in the challenge threads to enter yourself to win some awesome goodies!

Getting Back 2 Basics

February 10, 2017 by Lamisha

I know I don’t normally drop a post on Friday mornings, but I wanted to share with you a quick note about the amazing training we had the other night and something awesome that is starting next week that you can be a part of.

To be completely honest, I’ve been floating on Cloud 9 ever since that call and I’ve received so much positive feedback about how that call was exactly what so many people needed to hear in order to move forward and I couldn’t be happier.

Whenever I have an opportunity to connect with my clients 1:1 or teach in a bigger group setting I feel my purpose and passion shining through. I get in the zone and when I know that my message has truly landed in the hearts of those who needed to hear it, I am completely fulfilled.

If you didn’t join us for the Master Your Mind: Coping in Chaos training on Wednesday night, I encourage you to hop on over to the MindPower Collective Facebook group to have a listen. I promise you won’t be sorry you did.

I also want to make sure you check it out because it is there that you will get a sneak peak of what is to come in my new Workshop Series called Back 2 Basics. (However, if you truly can’t wait to hear all about it, you can check it out HERE.

But really, if you have some time this weekend and you could use a bit of a pick-me-up, check out the training, it may just be what you need to hear right now.

Have a great weekend friends!

Do YOU have a Money Mind???

August 22, 2016 by Lamisha

27144585820_f16bc6f85c — photo credit: UK Pounds Sterling and US Dollar banknotes via photopin (license)

I am so excited to spill the beans about this FREE event I’ve been cooking up for you.

As you may know, we just wrapped up the latest round of the Miracle Mindset Immersion Program and I have mindset on the brain big time right now!

In fact, as we were finishing the final few weeks of the program, I realized one thing that holds SO many people back from living the life they desire (and to be honest, it held me back for WAY too long) is something I haven’t ever really talked about.

It’s been such a huge part of my journey and yet, I’ve been pretty hush-hush about it until now. To be honest, I suspect it’s because I have my own blocks around talking about it openly, even though it is something I work with about 90% of my clients on in some way.

What is it???

$$ MONEY $$

Now, just looking at the word can be enough to give people anxiety and stress. Money is a word that brings up a multitude of emotions depending on your current relationship with it right?

Do me a favor right now and check in with your own emotions. When you think about money, what do you feel?

Excited?
Anxious?
Worried?
Curious?
Scared?
Terrified?

I’ve felt all of those emotions and then some! In fact, for most of my life I struggled to even think about money in any positive way.

To be honest, I didn’t like it, didn’t trust it, I never had enough, and I thought that’s the way it was always going to be. In my mind it was just a fact of life.

I grew up to believe that money was hard to make, difficult to keep, and believed that if I got a ‘good job’ and worked really hard, I might eventually get ahead, but it wasn’t likely.

Talk about a shitty money mindset! (It’s no wonder I always lived paycheck-to-paycheck and had a mountain of debt no matter how much money I made.)

Turns out, I was actually CREATING the lack in my life by what I thought. Back then, I had no idea what mindset work was and never once considered that I had any control over the situation. Other than working multiple jobs (which I did for many years) of course.

I didn’t know what I didn’t know.

I wanted more money, but didn’t know how to make it happen.
I craved more adventure, but didn’t have the money to make it happen.
I hated my job, but felt bound by the pittance I was receiving because…hey a girl’s gotta eat!

It wasn’t until I began to really embrace this whole professional development work that I learned I had more control than I realized and it all started with what I THOUGHT.

My money journey has evolved over the years and each year I up-level my belief system around money, my income increases.

I’ve gone from working multiple jobs to (barely) make ends meet, to working in my own business (doing what I love) and doubling my income in the last year.

I’ll be completely honest, I’m not nearly where I’d like to be, but I’m a hell of a lot better off than I was before and it’s all because I up-leveled my money mindset.

Mindset is everything when it comes to anything, money included.

Money mindset in particular tends to take mindset work to an entire new level. We tend to have so many stories, truths, beliefs, and blocks weaved into our money experiences that it often requires special focus. To be honest, it’s why I decided to put together a special FREE Money Mindset Masterclass for YOU.

I know what it’s like to feel limited by your bank balance and to feel completely stuck in creating the life experience you desire and DESERVE.

So, if you could use a Money Mindset adjustment to bring in more cash and open yourself to more abundance in your life, mark your calendar for this THURSDAY August 25th @ 8pm EST.

This Thursday I’ll be hosting a FREE Money Mindset Masterclass to help you shift your beliefs and stories around money so you can increase the flow of abundance into your life.

In this masterclass I’ll be sharing with you:

The simple TRUTH about MONEY that will change everything for you
The single most POWERFUL belief that will transform your money mindset (and bring you more cash)
My all time favorite TOOL for clearing out your old limiting beliefs around money & creating new ones that foster amazing wealth
PLUS an amazing exercise that has helped many of my clients attract unexpected income within days!!!

Mindset work isn’t magic, but it will certainly FEEL that way once we start shifting beliefs.

Join me on Thursday August 25th at 8pm EST for this fabulously enlightening masterclass that will change how you THINK & ATTRACT money forever.

And I’m doing this Masterclass a bit different. Instead of doing the typical webinar style class, I’ll be hosting this masterclass in our very own private Facebook Group. I’ll be going LIVE at 8pm EST on Thursday and I’ll be available to answer all of your questions & give you a bit of coaching leading up to the event.

Want in? Join the group HERE.

It’s FREE and is guaranteed to shift how you THINK & ATTRACT money now and forever more, why wouldn’t you want in?

3 Things I No Longer Believe About Money Thanks to Denise Duffield-Thomas

July 7, 2015 by Lamisha

Money is always a funny topic to talk about and for so many people it’s wiggle in their seat uncomfortable.

I used to feel the same way before I had done any mindset work around the topic.

In fact, for a long time my relationship with money was…well tumultuous.

I had a love/hate relationship with it.

Never really knowing what it felt like to always have more than enough, I was anxious at the thought of money for anything. Spending it, making it, asking for raises, and dealing with debt made me cringe. I thought having just enough to get by was a good thing and never dreamed that one day I would be an entrepreneur who’s only income was based on my gifts and talents.

(GASP)

Parts of me believed money was always hard to get and keep. Growing up in a single parent household, money was tight most of the time and I learned never to ask for much more than what I actually needed because I didn’t want to add to the stress and anxiety of making ends meet.

As soon as I was old enough to work, I got multiple jobs because I thought that is what I had to do to survive and contribute in the world.

What I didn’t realize is that it was all in my head and that my thoughts were creating my reality.

Since then, I’ve made some big shifts to my mindset to really dig in and change my relationship with money and one of the BIGGEST things I have done is make an investment in myself by way of Denise Duffield-Thomas and her Lucky Bitch Money Bootcamp.

In the last year I have learned SO much about my money mindset and how to shift it and it’s changed everything for me.

Thanks to Denise the top 3 things I no longer believe about money are:

1. Money is a limited supply and if I have more, you get less. I used to live with the atrocious belief that if I have more it means you get less or vice versa. I thought that somewhere there was a big vat of money that was in circulation and if I had more than my ‘fair’ share, then someone else had to have less because….math. But what I have learned is that not only is there MORE than enough to go around, I have the ability and control to manifest as much or as little as I want…when my mindset is in the right place.

2. Money is hard. From the time I started working, I thought I had to work long hours and several jobs to make enough money to live. I pushed hard and at one point was working 3 jobs just to have a bit of extra spending money. It wasn’t fun and no matter how many hours I worked or how much overtime I volunteered for, it seemed like I could never get ahead. After working through the bootcamp (and soon moving through it a second time), I found that money didn’t have to be hard. That with the right mindset and focus, money could flow to me with ease and grace and it does on a regular basis.

3. You can’t do what you love AND make a boatload of cash. When I graduated college I didn’t know anyone who was doing what they loved and making money doing it. Honestly everyone I knew (adults included) was working in a job they didn’t necessarily hate (though some totally did) to make ends meet. They chose the path of least resistance so they could work, live, and save for retirement when they were finally ready to live a life they loved. I followed suit until my passion became louder than my logic and I decided to follow my heart. Starting my business I still had no idea how I would make enough money to replace a full-time income, but what Denise showed me is that it is not only possible, but 100% probable when your mindset is in the right place. (Do you see a theme here?)

Now, I’ve taken what I have learned over the years about money and mindset and I use it to help other women do the things they once thought were impossible. And I openly and honestly share my journey because I want you to know that this didn’t happen overnight. I made an investment in changing my relationship with money by investing in Denise’s Lucky Bitch Money Bootcamp.

It’s been a game changer for me as a woman, a mother, a wife, and an entrepreneur. But the truth is you don’t have to be all of those things for this to help you. The insight and support Denise provides in her program is unlike anything I’ve ever done and this month she is closing out the old program and will be releasing the new program at a new, higher rate.

If shifting your mindset around money is something you feel called to do, I encourage you to check her out. (Full-disclosure: I am an affiliate for Denise’s program only because I 100% believe in what she is doing and I am a part of her amazing community. So, any purchases you make through the links I share with you will result in me being compensated. )

And if this is the first time you have ever heard about Denise, she is hosting a FREE webinar tonight at 7pm EST to discuss Mindset Shifts You Need to Create Passive Income. It’s free and if you can’t make it live, sign-up using the link so you will get the recording.

You can also check out more info about the bootcamp here or check out her amazing free resources that I share with all of my clients because they are awesome!

If you are looking for even more mindset help in general, I am hosting a FREE Mindset Makeover Challenge in my Love Your Life Tribe on Facebook starting Monday July 13th and I’d love for you to join us. This group is full of amazing women like YOU who are looking to create an open, airy, love-filled life of their dreams. You will be in amazing company. 😉

My word is FREEDOM…What’s yours? (Plus a free invitation for YOU.)

July 1, 2015 by Lamisha

photo credit: Sunset Hermosa via photopin (license)

It feels like forever since my last post and that’s because I’ve been on vacation and piecing together my next steps. The good news is I am back and I have a lot of GREAT things up my sleeve for you. But, before I share all of that with you (soon I promise), I want to share some of my most recent realizations.

All this traveling I’ve been able to do this year so far, I realized I have had a theme bubbling up my entire life and it is exactly the kind of life I want to create.

That theme is FREEDOM.

Many (many) moons ago, I wouldn’t have known what it was because I was dealing with so much turmoil and strife, but today I can honestly look at my life as a whole and say what I truly desire is freedom in ALL forms.

I want to experience freedom in love (thank you SCOTUS for making that possible in all 50 states in the US finally).

I want to experience freedom in my finances (thank you Denise Duffield-Thomas for helping me clear my blocks to be open to more abundance.)

I want to experience freedom in my time and how I choose to spend my time on a daily basis (thanks boss-aka me!).

And I am finally embracing the fact that I want to experience freedom in what I create and share with YOU.

You see over the years, I’ve tried to make all of my desires fit nicely into little square boxes even though the contents were hanging out in odd (and fun) shapes and sizes. I realized this weekend that the only thing clean, tidy, square boxes are good for are moving- you know when you have to pack a moving truck and feel like you are playing Tetris to make everything fit.

I don’t fit into one clean and tidy box and I bet you don’t either.

I’m a bit messy and oddly-shaped at times, but it’s what makes me unique. What I desire today may change form in a few months, but that’s the true beauty of evolution and growth isn’t it?

Your desires, wishes, and dreams are as diverse as your experiences in this life and I want you to know it’s OKAY to have all those (sometimes conflicting) desires because in the end it’s all a part of YOU.

You will at times drop the things that are no longer serving you. You will de-clutter your dreams, desires, and wishes and peel back the layers to reveal what is really important to you right here and right now. And despite what gets left on the editing room floor, life will feel amazing for you because in the end YOU get to choose what stays and what goes.

My biggest realization over the last 2 weeks is the freedom that I not only desire and am now totally embracing, but also the freedom I help my clients attain.

And let’s be clear, freedom means something different to everyone. For me it might be about time and money and for someone else it might be entirely about their career. But, what I want YOU (and every other woman walking this planet) to know is that YOU have the FREEDOM to choose the life you live. You have the FREEDOM to break free from whatever has you stuck and to choose differently. But most of all you have the FREEDOM to decide the kind of life you live and experience while you are in this blessed body of yours.

And I want to help you get to that FREEDOM, whatever it means to you because I know that you have an amazing life to live and it’s time to make your dreams come alive starting NOW.

The Facebook Tribe I created a few months ago is under construction and with it comes a new name (TBA) and lots of awesome tools, tips, and challenges to help empower YOU to live that amazing life you want…right now. And instead of waiting for all the new pieces to be in place, I’m inviting you to join us today, before everything is perfect and the new name is revealed.

In this group you will get access to free information, special offers, free coaching threads, inspiration, and lots of additional life-changing information that will empower you in truly beautiful ways. This is phase 1 of the amazing new things to come, so hop on over and be one of the first people to know about what else is coming down the pipe.