Lamisha Serf-Walls

Why are you settling??? It’s time to break FREE.

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photo credit: Butterfly Abstract via photopin (license)
photo credit: Butterfly Abstract via photopin (license)

***Before I get into today’s post, I want to invite you to check out my latest article that has been a huge hit over at The Huffington Post titled : 6 Ways to Find Your Passion & Live Your Purpose. ***

Now for today’s post.

I’ve noticed something over the last few years and it’s really getting under my skin. In fact,  it has become so prevalent and obvious in the last few months I want to set the record straight

Somehow, we have become a culture that believes that while you can have a mostly awesome life, you can’t have everything you want no matter how how hard you try.

There are many people who have come to accept that if you have a fabulous career you love, your relationships have to suck.

OR If you have an amazing relationship, you can’t have all the riches your heart desires.

OR If you have all the money you desire, you might have to enjoy it all alone. (The list goes on. )

It’s as if they believe they are undeserving of having it all and living the life of their dreams is some myth that only happens in fairy tales.

Well I call bullshit.

Who are you not to have it all?

Who are you not to have the love, the riches, the joy, the career, the family, the fame, and anything else your heart desires?

That is what life is all about.  Living, loving, sharing, expanding, and experiencing all that life has to offer.

Do you know what happens when you believe that you can’t have it all?

You settle.

You settle for the parts of your life that aren’t working because you believe that if most of your life is going well, who are you to complain?

But I’m here to tell you this; You don’t have to settle and you certainly don’t have to accept that because 80% of your life IS working that the remaining 20%  has to remain a struggle.

Now, I’ll be honest and say that I USED to think that way.

I thought that if my business was booming and money was flowing that my relationship had to take a fall.  Or if things were really amazing in my love life, then my business and income had to tank.

And you know what happened?  I manifested those very things.

When things were running smoothly in my relationship and in life in general, I somehow sabotaged things in my career.  And when I had a really amazing month in my business, I’d start an argument with my partner.

It as as if I just couldn’t handle all the good at once and I had to have something to worry about.

It took a few years of learning, growing, and lots of life lessons to get to this point, but now I see it and can make changes in my mindset and in my beliefs when I start feeling myself settling.

The truth is, you CAN work through the BS that is holding you back no matter how long you’ve struggled with it…but it’s difficult to do alone.

Lucky for you, this is my specialty and is the EXACT reason I set up the 30-Day Break Free From Stuck program.

If you feel:

  • Like you are settling in your career, relationship, or life in general
  • STUCK in one area of your life that just isn’t working for you
  • Like you’ve done all you can and still can’t make that last 20% of your life work for you

It’s time we had a chat.  I am a firm believer in reaching out and asking for help and I’ve seen amazing miracles happen when I’ve done that myself.

If you are ready to break free and make magic happen in your life once and for all, schedule a free 30-Minute Consultation to chat about what’s going on.

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You’re stuck, but are you LISTENING?

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photo credit: Even If via photopin (license)

Over the years I have been known for being so busy thinking, analyzing, planning, strategizing, and making things happen that I can’t actually hear what I need to do.

I get caught up in the action and doing of life instead of being.

I have often forgotten about the wealth of knowledge and information I have within if only I would listen.

It makes sense that as humans, we often try so hard to make things happen that we also end up making things much more difficult than we need to.

We miss the signs and signals about when it’s time to act and when it’s time to lean back.  We miss the messages that are around us all the time.

I talk a lot about inspired action and how important it is in creating a life you love and I get a lot of questions about what inspired action really is.

Simply put, it’s listening and responding.

Hearing the message and acting on it.

Feeling the inspiration to act and not questioning it…just doing it because it feels right.

And often times that feeling isn’t the most logical thing in the world.  In fact, at times it can seem downright insane, but every time I’ve acted on my inspired thoughts, it’s always worked out. Always.

So, if you feel STUCK and are wondering what the next step is for you, it may be that you just aren’t listening to the messages that are coming through.

Here are a few ways that I’ve found messages to show up for me:

  • Seemingly random thoughts in the shower (the shower is where I often come up with many program ideas or article titles)
  • Billboards with messages that resonate with me strongly
  • Song lyrics or quotes that feel especially powerful
  • Thoughts that float in with ease and feel simple and easy
  • Ideas that come quickly and just click
  • Inspiration that comes through when I am journaling or working with a client
  • Messages for others that I get while I am coaching that are also messages for myself

And sometimes I even get that earth-shattering lightning bolt of a thought that sends me running to find paper and a pen to get it all down before I forget it.  But, most of the time the inspiration flows in and out with ease.  It’s not pushed, pulled, or forced.  It’s just easy.

So, today as you think about a particular area of your life where you may feel stuck, I want you to think about the messages you may not be hearing.  What are you missing?  What feels almost too easy for you? Go do that.

Even if it doesn’t turn out to be THE thing that gets you unstuck in the moment, it will most definitely lead you down the path that will.

And if you are still struggling with feeling stuck and want more info on 5 ways to break free from stuck.  Check out this FREE audio that will help you get unstuck instantly.

Want more info on how to get the answers yourself and to learn how I tapped into the wealth of knowledge I use everyday in my life and business?  Check out the Universal Toolbox.  We still have spots open for you to get into the group AND get the bonus of 1 free 1:1 coaching session with me.

Last but not least- if you missed your chance to schedule a FREE 30-Minute Connection Call, I still have some spots available.  I’ve had SO much fun with these calls that I increased it from the original 25 to a total of 40!  I only have a few spots left, so if you are interested, hit the link below and schedule your call today.

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