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Have You Identified Your B.S. (It’s not what you think.)

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Hey Lovely!

I know you.

You’re the kind of woman who knows what she wants and has no problem making shit happen.  Your vision is clear and you are no stranger to putting in the effort to make your dreams come true.  That’s how you got to be where you are.

People look at you and are in awe.  Your power, energy, magic, and positive vibes make people come out of the woodwork to connect with you.

It’s no surprise really, I mean you exude success at every turn and people are taking notice.  You are a force to be reckoned with for sure and there are tons of people who admire you.  Truth be told, they want what you have so they can make that magic happen in their own lives.

Passion pours from your soul and whether you are writing, designing, coaching, crafting, singing, dancing, performing, selling, speaking, consulting, organizing, healing, teaching, or anything else that happens to be your gift, you are simply fantastic….

At least that’s how they see it right?

But you and I know the truth, we know the WHOLE story.

Beyond the magic, miracles, success, drive, passion, and purpose there is something that you just don’t want to think about (let alone discuss with your admirers).

It’s the challenge that keeps rearing its ugly head no matter what you do.

That area of your life that can at times cause you to forget about all of the other amazing things that you bring to the table because that one thing is off.  And try as you might, you have not been able to tick that box.

You’ve read the books, repeated the affirmations, and maybe even tried to wrestle that damn thing to the ground, but to no avail.

You know what I call that?

That my dear, is your BLIND SPOT (or rather a symptom of your blind spot) and before you worry your pretty little head about it, I want you to know that we all have one (or two or three).

Your Blind Spot is the thing you can’t quite see that is holding you back.

Have you ever wondered why life coaches have their own coaches?  It’s because of that dreaded Blind Spot.

When you are immersed in your own life or business, you are simply too close to see what you are unconsciously saying, doing, believing, etc. and you likely aren’t aware of what is holding you back.  And knowing what isn’t working in your life or business (i.e. the symptom) is the first step in identifying and clearing your Blind Spot.

The truth is this: Our Blind Spots bull shit us. 

They make us believe we aren’t good enough in some capacity and can leave us feeling frustrated, sad, angry, and at times worthless which causes us to ignore our greatness.

Tell me this: What is your Blind Spot costing you?

Happiness? Money? Clients? Bliss? Your dreams? Love? Romance? Adventure? Time?

Is it worth it?

I can tell you from experience it’s not.  Life is too short to go on with a block that can be illuminated and cleared with a bit of assistance.

Lucky for you, I am the Blind Spot Expert and have recently been through my own clearing that has taught me some amazing lessons that I will be sharing with you along with information on how I can help you identify and clear your own Blind Spot.

But for today I want to know this:

What is that thing that isn’t working in your life or business and what is it costing you right now? (I’ll give you a hint.  It’s the first thing that you thought of when you read that line.)

Share your answer in the comments below.  We are in this together because I guarantee we all have one! Let’s get it out in the open so we can clear it and take your life, your business, and your dreams to amazing new heights!

Mindset, Keeping Score, & How to Make Them Work for You!

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Just recently I decided to jump-start my fitness routine again in an attempt to get healthy and create a bit of structure for my workday.  I have to say it’s been pretty great…for the most part.

Growing up I was fairly active.  I danced from 8th grade through high school and into college so I never really had to worry about getting to the gym and making time to work out.  It just happened.  I took dance classes and loved it so it hardly ever felt like ‘work’.  Just a couple of hours a week doing something I love.

This time is a bit different.

I get up every morning and do the ‘work’.  Despite how much it burns in my abs or in my quads, I know that I will feel better having done it.  I just have to get through the 30 minutes.  The work out I am doing is a Beachbody program and it uses 1 minute increments for each exercise and I can’t tell you how many times I have looked at the time left and wished I hadn’t.  Just when I think I am close to being finished, I look up only to realize I am only half way there.  For some reason it makes the second half of the minute seem so much longer!

Well last week I decided to try something a little different.  I decided that instead of looking at the clock or counting the number of squats or mindsetcrunches I am able to complete,  I would just focus on a spot on the wall in front of me through the entire minute.  Funny enough, it seemed like the minute passed by so much faster AND it didn’t feel so hard.

This is a perfect example of how holding your vision while not ‘keeping score’ can help your mindset.

I will be the first to admit that when it comes to my goals or intentions, I am a score-taker.  I like to monitor where I am and how far I am from my goal and while that doesn’t seem like a bad thing, I find it to be discouraging at times.  It can often make it feel like I’m just never going to make it...there.

It’s like saying I want to go to California and all along the way being discouraged that I’m not there yet.  Or wanting to work with 100 clients in 2014 (a true goal of mine for this year) and feeling discouraged when I count I have only worked with 40.

It is ALL about mindset.

If you instead celebrate the progression from where you started to where you want to be AND keep your focus on your vision, something magical happens.  Things feel better, run more smoothly, and you get there much faster.

The same works for whether you are working out, wanting to lose weight, or make a certain dollar figure during the year.

3 Key Steps:

  • Know where you started
  • Celebrate your progression (no matter how small)
  • Keep your ultimate goal/vision alive through focus

startnowAs long as you are consistently taking inspired action and keeping your mindset positive, you will get there.  It just takes a bit of patience, focus, and sometimes accountability.  And if you are finding yourself struggling with getting started or need help to keep going, think about getting yourself a coach.  I have opened 5 individual spots for the month of August for my 1-Month Jump Start program and while I had previously decided not to run this program again until November, I changed my mind because I know how much can happen in 1 month.  I would love to help support you as you envision and create the life & business of your dreams so if this is something you are interested in you can schedule your 30-min. consultation here.  We have 5 months left in 2014 what haven’t you started that you wanted to do this year?  It’s not too late to get started, I promise working with me for 1 month can make all the difference in you creating the life of your dreams.  Are you ready?

Bold Declarations to the Universe & Potential Aftermath

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As you know last week I made some pretty bold declarations about not having a Plan B.  Well, as I am quickly finding, when you make big, bold declarations to the Universe, there can be a bit of an aftermath effect that comes.  It’s a recent theme I am seeing not only with myself, but with my clients as well.  Click the link below to find out what I am talking about and let me know, have you experienced something similar?  If so, how did you handle it?

 

P.S.

If you made a recent declaration to get your business into brilliant shape in a heart-centered way, then I encourage you to check out the 90 Days to Biz Brilliance group coaching program.  This is an opportunity to connect, share, and grow your business with other heart-centered women who know what it’s like to be where you are.  There is also still time to get signed up for the bonus self-study program Invest in Yourself before it is available for purchase.  Are you ready?

Worst-Case Scenarios & Why I Have No Plan ‘B’

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Throughout my life I learned early on that if I could plan for the ‘worst-case scenario’ then I would be fully prepared for anything.  If something better happened, I would be delighted, but if the worst case actually occurred, well then I would have a plan of action.  Or in the least, I wouldn’t be disappointed.

It worked for a while (and by ‘worked’ I mean life went on and I didn’t question my thoughts too much).

Looking back now, I realize by planning for the worst case scenario, I actually created it.

I’ll give you an example.

Several years ago I was planning a big move for love (I’m such a romantic and lucky for me it worked out because we are now happily married).  Being the planner that I was, I didn’t want to move to a new place without a job lined up especially since I was moving 300+ miles away from home and I had no idea what the employment situation was like.

For months I searched from afar and got little to no feedback.  I was discouraged and distraught until I finally decided to move anyway.  I decided that if I couldn’t find a job right away, my worst-case scenario was that I would simply get a job at Starbucks.

I repeated those same words over and over again to my friends and family members.

“Oh it’s fine. Worst-case scenario I’ll just get a job at Starbucks.”

(You know where this is going right?)

While it wasn’t an absolutely terrible worst case situation, I manifested it exactly.

After a month or so of applying with no luck, I got a job at Starbucks.

Depending on how you look at it you can view this as an incredible manifestation.  I fully believed that if all else failed, I would just work at Starbucks…which I did for 6 months.

What’s my point?

Planning for worst-case scenarios have the power to actually create the situation you ‘planned’ for.  But do you really want to create a ‘worst case’?

I have learned from that very clear example of my manifestation abilities and no longer plan for those types of situations.

At this stage in my life and business, it means having no Plan B.

There is no ‘worst case scenario’ or alternate plan if my business doesn’t work.  It’s not even a thought in my mind because I know that by planning for it, I am giving my very specific and creative power to something I don’t want.

My plan is to succeed and have my business continue to flourish and thrive.  That’s my plan…all of it.

So, the thoughts of getting a ‘real job’ are no more because that isn’t an option.  The ONLY option is my business and you know why?  It’s because it is what I am meant to do.

Sure it’s risky.  It’s scary at times. It’s a bit outside the box. Hell, it’s unpredictable more often than not and I am still learning a ton about myself and my business as I go.

BUT

It’s also freeing, fantastic, and the best thing I have ever done…aside from moving for love.  Every day I wake up with a purpose.  I love my work. I love my clients. And I love the freedom that this journey provides for me.

Yep, this is my purpose and my heart-centered gift to share with the world and despite what seemingly difficult roadblocks I encounter, succeeding in my business is the only option. No more Plan B or worst-case scenarios for this girl.

Nope, I’m putting my all into my business and by doing that there is no way I can fail.

Your Actionable Item: Today I want you to take a look back over your life to see where you might have planned for the ‘worst-case’.  Did it happen?  Are you planning for one now?  Is it something you want to create?  If not, what DO you want to create?

Do you have a Plan B for if your dreams don’t come true? I want to know your thoughts so share them in the comments below.

And if you have a heart-centered business that you are ready to bring a bit of brilliance to, I have good news for you.  My 90-Days to Biz Brilliance group coaching program is open for registration!  The program officially begins August 7th and I am so excited to finally bring this to life.  I know that your work is important to you and if it is feeling less than brilliant at the moment, it’s time for a change.  Why not get together with other amazing souls going through a similar experience to grow and transform your biz?  This is your chance! If you register by July 21st, you are also going to receive my Invest in Yourself self-study program (valued at $97) before it is even available for sale.  

I want this program to reach as many amazing biz beauties as possible so will you help me by sharing this with your network and tribe?

We Need More Of This In The World…

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Being that I am in the business of uplifting and encouraging women to follow their hearts and go for their dreams, I find it extremely difficult to process when I see women (and people in general) poo-pooing on the dreams of others.  It infuriates me because while I know that their comments are not about anyone but themselves, I also know words hold a ton of power and our dreams are like delicate flowers.  Dream crushing comments (no matter how small) can easily cause dreamers to give up all together.

It is also why I created the Group Coaching Program for Business-Minded Women.  I believe women can come together in support of one another without the catty competition and crass comments.  Jealousy that someone has something that we want doesn’t have to be how we connect with one another.  I have felt this sense of competition in a variety of ways and even in some groups I have been in.  One person’s success doesn’t mean another person’s failure.  It also doesn’t mean that two people doing similar work have to compete.

What happened to collaborating, community, and compassion for one another?

CrystalKylieWhat about sharing, supporting, and uplifting one another in our desires?  I want to celebrate everyone’s success because I know that we are all capable of creating the life of our dreams doing work we love.  And each time I see another soul-sister’s dreams come true, I am inspired to keep going, keep dreaming, and keep following my heart.

I just wish everyone felt the same way.

Purchase your own copy here: www.azureassurances.com
Purchase your own copy here: www.azureassurances.com

The fire and passion I feel as I write this stems from reading a not so nice comment about an extremely talented and amazing woman (also one of our guest teachers for the group program) Crystal Davis.  Recently one of Crystal’s amazing dreams came true and she published her book Azure Assurances. ( You can check out an awesome article about their work here.)  This book is a collaboration with an equally talented artist Kylie Fogarty to create a masterpiece of poetry and art that is nothing less than gorgeous.  I had the opportunity to check it out and as a poet myself, I can tell you it is simply fabulous.

Not only do I love their work, but I also am so incredibly inspired by the powerful collaboration between two talented women with an amazing vision.  It reminds me why I am creating a space for community, collaboration, and support for business-minded women to come together.  THIS is exactly the kind of thing we need more of in the world.

More sharing, celebrating, and supporting one another.

With that said I want you to know that there is enough room in the world for everyone to succeed.  There are infinite possibilities of how your vision can come together and collaboration is the way of the future.  We are not on our paths alone and surely aren’t meant to create the thriving life of our dreams by ourselves.  They say it takes a village to raise a child and I say the same goes for cultivating a community of dreamers and achievers.  Join me in celebrating the success of others and congratulate, connect, and commune with other like-minded souls.

I also encourage you to check out Crystal and Kylie’s masterpiece, Azure Assurances.  Buy it, give it as a gift, and support two amazingly talented women who have made their dreams come true.