Lamisha Serf-Walls

The World of Infinite Possibilities…

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I live in a world of infinite possibilities and you do too.

You may not think you do, but I assure you for everything you want to create, be, have, or do, there are an infinite number of ways to get there.  The only thing holding you back from the many paths is you.

Now, this isn’t a blame game where I tell you it’s all your fault, because honestly it’s not.  We have been taught a lot of things that aren’t true and the idea that there are only a handful of ways to get from point A to point B is but one.

It’s time to learn something new.

It’s time to see the bigger picture and all the amazing ways your dreams can come true and to allow the forces of the Universe to work for you, not against you.

It’s time to break free from your monkey brain that is running 100 miles a minute in order to make things happen for you.

It’s time to accept the truth that there are an infinite number of ways your dreams can come true.

I’ll use myself as an example.

When I set out on this path to becoming a life coach, I did what any responsible and logical person would do.  I googled how.

I found a ton of information on various programs, certificates, coaches, professionals, organizations, books, etc. that were sure to help me get from where I was (in a job I hated) to where I wanted to be (and incidentally where I am now).  I decided that the fastest way from point A to point B would be to find a program, get certified, and start my practice.

It seemed simple enough, but I quickly learned it wasn’t.

I had some road blocks that were popping up all over the place.  For 2 years I was struggling to find the right program at the right price, with the right focus and I was desperate to get on with my plan.

No matter how hard I tried to make this one way work, it didn’t.  The programs were too expensive, not close enough, too long, or just plain off.  And while I was given every indication that this was not the way to do it, I kept pushing.  I kept trying.  I kept forcing it to be that way because it had to be, right?  I mean let’s be honest, google is rarely wrong.

It was the thought that there was only one way to get there that was holding me back.  That’s it.

I couldn’t see another way.  All I could think about was how to get the money, find the program, and get certified already.

What I ignored was my innate talent, knowledge, and expertise that I used every single day.  I was using it with co-workers, friends, and family members.  In fact, I even had my Masters in Psychology and still didn’t believe it was enough.

Once I was willing to see another way and entertain the idea that I hadn’t exhausted all possibilities, my eyes were open and I was ready to leap.  I started my coaching practice within just a few months of this realization and have been working at it ever since.

The same goes for you.

In fact, when you take your hands off the wheel and let go of the one track mind of ‘how’ your dreams will come true, you allow the Universe to work its magic to bring you amazing opportunities you never thought possible.  

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And by simply brainstorming other ways you can reach your dream, you put energy out into the world that opens the door to some truly magical experiences.  The things that happen as a result will blow your mind.  They will seem too good to be true, but I promise they aren’t.  They will be the result of you opening your mind and your heart to the infinite possibilities that lie before you.

We are only human and as such, we can only imagine a few ways our dreams can become reality and if you are like most, you are likely looking at the logical or realistic paths to what you desire.

Action Step:  Today I want you to do something a little different.  I want you to grab your journal or a notebook and write your big dream at the top.  Below that I want you to get creative and think of all the amazing ways your dreams can come true.  Try to quiet the logical mind that is sure to try to get in the way.  Write them all down and then lean back a bit and watch the magic occur in your life.  I promise you will be amazed. 

P.S. Are you having a little trouble getting outside of your logical brain?  I know it’s not always that easy for us to do, but lucky for you I am really good at brainstorming and helping clients break free from reality and dive head first into the magical ways you can create the life of your dreams.  In fact, I’ve created a community on Facebook to keep you motivated and inspired so you can Love Your Life.  Join us!  And if you are interested in working with me one-on-one, but aren’t exactly sure what you need, feel free to schedule your 30-Minute Consultation here.  I have a few spots open this week so let’s chat!

A Look Into Your Future…

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Where will you be in 2015?  I know it’s an odd question for the middle of October 2014, but think about it. 

Imagine where you will be.  What will you be doing?  What doors are opening for you? What dreams are you achieving?

For you, it might look like the unveiling of your new business website or booking your very first client.

Or maybe the book you’ve always wanted to pitch is now being sent to the publishers for a final edit.

Maybe you find yourself booking your flights & accommodations for spending 6 months traveling the world.

Or you see yourself quitting that job you hate and stepping into the career of your dreams with more money, more purpose, and passion than ever before.

Maybe you just signed the lease for the brick & mortar shop of your dreams and are filling it up with all kinds of creative goodies that people will love.

Or you see yourself drawing, painting, writing, and creating amazing pieces that people are just breaking down your door to buy.

Maybe you are doing what you have always dreamed and that is spending time at home with your children while your creative business takes flight.

Or you see yourself putting the finishing touches on your home art studio and getting ready for your very first art showcase.

Maybe your dream is something else.  Maybe it’s a bit smaller or much bigger than any of the things I’ve listed above, but the common denominator in all of those examples is that they are all possible.  Every single detail.  Anything you can imagine for your ideal life is possible.

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But, you must first take the leap.

I want you to take a moment today and look at where you are.  Not where you have been or what opportunities you have missed in the past.  Look at where you are today.

Without the leap you will stay where you are.  Where life is ‘ok’ and you settle for what you have.  Your heart will push you and your desires will pull you, but without that leap, you stay exactly where you are. Dreaming of…one day, when all the pieces fit together and your dream is delivered magically to your front door.

But it doesn’t happen like that.  You have to decide to take the first step.  To utilize your freedom of choice to decide to stay where you are where it’s “safe” or leap out of your comfort zone and embrace the life you have always wanted.

I want you to ask yourself this question:  What do I want most out of life? What is my vision for the future?  Think about it. Paint the picture. Enjoy the feeling of having it already done.

And then ask yourself this: Am I ready? Am I ready to do what needs to be done?  To take the leap and trust that the how will be revealed to me?  Am I ready?

And if you answered “YES” then I invite you to schedule a 30-minute clarity call to find out how we can make that happen and the options that are available to you for getting started on that amazing dream of yours now.  Not when the clocks strikes 12am on December 31st and we enter a new year, but right NOW.

You have the chance to move into 2015 living your dream, but you have to take the first step.  I have a few coaching spots open for 2014, so if you are ready to get moving and live the freedom that the life of your dreams will bring, schedule your 30-minute clarity call below. 

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Stuck on What you REALLY Want? Try this.

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photo credit: Helga Weber via photopin cc

If you don’t know what you want in life, how the world do you think you are supposed to get it???

The first step to creating an amazing life is knowing what that means to you. 

In fact, it’s the first thing I ask every person I work with (and something I’ve been asking friends & coworkers for years) only to find more people have no clue what they want in life.

They are either too stuck in reality to even flex their creative muscles a bit or they don’t really believe they can have what they truly want.

But here’s the thing.

Your dream life isn’t going to just appear out of thin air.  You aren’t going to wake up one day to a life you never envisioned, never imagined, and never thought about.

It’s just not how it works.

So let’s figure out what it is you want so you can get moving on making those amazing dreams a reality, shall we?

  1. Know that you can be, have, or do anything you want.  This step is paramount!  When you know that, you unlock the block in your mind that wants you to play safe and think small.
  2. Think about what you wanted as a child. When you were younger you didn’t know there was this thing called reality that had rules and regulations you had to abide by.  You used your imagination effortlessly and came up with some incredible visions, stories, and desires for who you wanted to be when you grew up.  Revisit those thoughts and think about what you wanted to be as a child. Write it down.
  3. Create a love list.  If you are struggling to figure out what you want in your life as a whole it might be helpful to make separate lists for relationships, family, career, fun, etc.  What you are going to do is make a list of all the things you love (or have loved) over the years in each category.  For instance, in career you might put something like ‘using my creativity’ or ‘helping people’.  Be as specific as possible for each list and see what comes up.  Don’t edit or censor what you write down.  This is simply a list of all the things you love so just let it flow.
  4. Brainstorm with others.  Sometimes talking to someone can help you get clear on what it is you want.  The natural flow of a conversation can be helpful as you get feedback from someone else.  This is also a great way to bounce ideas around and to simply verbalize some of the things you are thinking.  Talking it out is one of the amazing benefits of having a coach.  They ask questions you never thought to ask yourself.
  5. Put it all together.  Take a look at some of the things you have written or what came up in your conversations, what themes do you see?  You might find there is a theme in regards to your career or in the relationship department.  Maybe you find ‘freedom’ to be a theme and you want to create your own business.  Maybe creativity is a theme and you want to do something with your art or writing.  Once you find the theme, the rest of the picture appears almost effortlessly.  But, if you still find yourself stuck with what you want in life, take a moment to imagine your perfect day.  What are you doing? Who are you with? What do you see? Where are you?  How much money are you making? How do you spend your time?  Etc.

Once you know what you want to create you can move onto visualizing it and allowing the next step to come to you.  Don’t be hard on yourself if after following steps 1-5 you are still confused about how everything fits together to create the dream life for you.  Just know that it can and will come together for you.

Are you ready to jump start the process and gain clarity around what you want in your life?  If so, schedule your 30-minute consultation and let’s make it happen.  There really is no reason for you to continue to wait for the life of your dreams to simply appear.  You have to know what you want first.  So what are you waiting for?

Your Dream Life In 3 Simple Steps

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Your dream life is a mere 3 steps away…

Sound too good to be true?

It’s not.

Take a moment and evaluate your life right now.  Would you say you are living the life of your dreams or do you feel stuck?

Maybe you are like a lot of people and have the dream floating around in your head as an ‘if only’ thought.

But I’m here to tell you it doesn’t have to be that way.  It can be your reality right now.

Here’s how.

Step 1:  Know what you want.  Do you know what your dream life looks like for you?  Have you taken the time to get clear on what you truly want out of life? I’m not talking about what seems realistic or logical.  I’m talking about what you really want.  What gets you excited about life? What lights your fire? What is it that you want out of life?  Is it freedom? A career you are passionate about? Family time? Travel? Writing? What is your dream? Identify that and the rest is easy.

Step 2: Clear the junk.  To live the life of your dreams you have to know without a shadow of a doubt it is possible.  Any thought or belief that contradicts that fact must be cleared.  Any block or barrier in your thoughts about your worthiness or value to live the life you deserve, must be released and getting help identifying your blind spot is more valuable than you know.

Step 3: Listen with your heart and take inspired action. There is no doubt you have to take action to move along your path, but the key is allowing your intuition and inspiration to guide you.  This isn’t about setting the most logical plan of action.  This is about getting out of your head and into your heart and allowing that to be your guide which isn’t always easy.  Following the logical steps or trying to outline your entire journey will result in the blood, sweat, and tears kind of hard work we have been taught.  But the heart path feels effortless and almost too easy.  It’s fun, inspiring, and will lead to more expansion and growth than you have ever known.

Here’s my challenge to you today.  Look at the steps and see where you are, but better yet, what you are going to do about it.

If you aren’t living the life of your dreams it is likely because you are stuck in one of the 3 steps and it really doesn’t matter where you are stuck as much as much as it matters what you are going to do about it.

Don’t know what you want? I can help.

Got some junk to clear? I can help.

Need to learn the inspired way? I can help with that too.

If you are ready to drop the excuses so you can live the amazing life you were made for, do yourself a favor and invest in yourself.

So? What are you going to do?

I have a few spots left in my 3-Month Program and in my Blind Spot Discovery Sessions so if you want in, now is the time!

Not sure you are ready to take the leap? Schedule a 30-Minute Consultation to find out.

My BS: Who Am I To Help?

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Earlier this week I shared this post with my VIP tribe and while it’s a bit of a vulnerable post, I realized how important it is for me to share it with you as well.  May you find comfort in knowing that you are not alone and join me in facing your BS head on, because honestly it’s hard to change anything with that junk holding you back.

Ok, it’s time for me to get something off my chest.  It’s something I’ve been thinking about a lot recently as I have been facing the BS (aka Blind Spot) that has been holding me back and I’m done with it!

The past two months have been pretty tough.  The positive side of me wants to tell you all about the growth, the lessons, and the beautiful blessings in disguise and while there was a lot of that going on that’s not always how it felt. There is another part of me that remembers the worry, the fear, the frustration, and at times the overwhelming tears.In the midst of chaos at home, schedules being thrown out the window, and lots of change going on both personally & professionally, I was forced to face my BS…head on.

The BS I’m talking about is both bull shit & something you may know as my Blind Spot.Yep, in the middle of sharing with you how your BS can hold you back, mine was there waiting for me, trying desperately to get me to not only play small, but quit playing all together. (Funny how that happens right?)  And once I realized what it really was that was holding me back in my business (with the help of another coach), I knew I had to share it with you.

So, here is my most recent experience coming face-to-face with my BS.  My hope is that when you hear my story, you leave with a deeper understanding of how imperative it is to identify and clear your own Blind Spot and you have a bit more compassion for yourself.  Regardless of who you are, what you do, or what area of your life is affected, we all have thoughts & beliefs that are holding us back in our careers, love, relationships, and life in general.  And the best part of all: there is a way to identify and clear it!

Coming face-to-face with your BS isn’t fun or all that comfortable, but I assure you it is the first step to living that amazing, free-flowing, ever expanding life of your dreams.  It is almost as if we believe we can’t or shouldn’t have it all, but as one of my favorite quotes says:

“We ask ourselves: Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?  Actually, who are you not to be?” 

~Marianne Williamson

Go be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous and clear the BS that is in your way!  You have an amazing life of freedom and flow to live so hop to it!

I believe in you,