Lamisha Serf-Walls

The Doubt Factor: The real reason other people doubt you

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It’s not YOU, it’s THEM.

That’s the easy answer.  But let me back up a moment.

Have you ever had an experience where you share your biggest, brightest, most expansive dream with a loved one only to have them crap all over it?

What started out as a celebratory conversation turns into a self-loathing, dream-crushing, doubt-filled experience that sends you back to the “logical” drawing board for your life.

I have had this experience more times than I can count and recently I had a client share with me her experience.

Hit the link below to find out what I told her.

 

Are you ready to build a solid, unshakeable belief system and mindset within yourself?  Schedule a free 30- minute consultation below and let’s chat about how we can do that together.

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Feeling STUCK? You may be missing these 2 key ingredients

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photo credit: Had a bad day via photopin (license)

If you’re NOT where you want to be in LIFE you’re likely missing 1 of 2 things…and maybe even BOTH.

There are 2 KEY ingredients to creating the life you desire and they might not be what you think.

It’s not money…

It’s definitely not luck…

It’s not who you know (though in some cases that doesn’t hurt)…

It’s MINDSET & ACTION…

In the work I do, I find that MOST of the women I work with are missing one of the two and there are quite I few who are missing BOTH.

MINDSET—>

If you can’t fathom your life being any better than it currently is…how can you think it will ever change?

If you can’t see your dreams coming true in the best possible way, how in the world are they supposed to?

Not sure it’s ok, acceptable, and you are worthy of living the life you desire?

Then how the hell are you going to ever make it happen?

You HAVE to be in ALIGNMENT mentally with your vision. You have to BELIEVE..TRUST…HAVE FAITH..and keep going!

And you know what trips most people up beyond anything else—->the HOW.

If you struggle with this remember, that’s not your job.

Your job is to CHOOSE your dreams, your new reality and your new normal and step into your reality daily through your mindset practice and when you do that you are half-way there.

You don’t need a map or a blueprint or a step-by-step outline of what you need to do.  The truth is, that would limit you more than you ever realize!

Get your mindset, SET for success, joy, peace, happiness, abundance, and anything you need and desire.  That is the first step!

ACTION—>

This is the OTHER part people often forget that is far more obvious but without the initial MINDSET work…seems impossible.

You don’t have to know the HOW as I said…that’s not your job.

But you DO have to take INSPIRED ACTION toward your vision and TRUST it. Entirely.

Staying paralyzed because you’re afraid you might not make it or maybe you will.

 

Maybe you will fail or maybe you will succeed beyond your wildest imagination and the thought absolutely terrifies you!

<—- FYI: These thoughts will NOT get you to where you are going. —>

 

Fear is going to be there anyway. Might as well make friends with it and the discomfort of expansion too.

When you step into the new reality you want to live, there will be expansion, discomfort, and stretching yourself to achieve the thing you were put here to do…YOUR PURPOSE.

That’s all there is to it and without these 2 incredible pieces of the puzzle…you won’t get anywhere.

 

So where are you on the spectrum?

Got your mindset work in order?

Taking inspired action toward your vision EVERY day?

If so, congratulations you’ve hacked the code and figured out the big ‘secret’ that has so many scratching their heads.  Also know that your success is inevitable.

 

However, if you are missing one or both of the key components above…it’s time for a great, big, massive overhaul of a change and it starts with the button below.

Now, I’ll be the first to tell you that you most certainly don’t NEED a coach to get to where you want to be in life, however if you want to get there faster, some support is definitely the way to go.

 

Hit the button below and let’s talk.

Remember it’s TIME to live the life your soul craves.

The question is…are you ready?

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What to do when no one believes in you…

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I am currently about half way through our Miracle Mindset Immersion program and I have to tell you how amazing it is to watch these participants rocking their mindset work like the rock stars that they are!

Today I had a participant as me an incredibly powerful question that I think we all could learn from and it got me so fired up Facebook actually kicked me off of my live stream!

The question was: What do you do when no one believes in you?

The truth is what people believe or don’t believe to be true about you has nothing to do with YOU.

It has everything to do with THEM and the fear, anger, frustration, disappointment, and any other emotion that lies within them.  What they think and feel about YOU is a direct reflection of what the belief they are capable of doing.

HOWEVER…

It is also a direct reflection of what shifts need to occur within you to get back into alignment.  The truth is if you were 100% on your mindset game and you never once were fearful or worried or wondered if XYZ would work, you wouldn’t be in the same vibration to hear that someone doesn’t believe in what you are doing.  In fact, you’d be vibrating so high that even if they did feel that way, they’d never say anything to you AND they may actually shift their vibration because yours is so strong.

So, what do you do when someone doesn’t believe in you and who should you get help from instead????

Watch my latest LIVE stream on Facebook HERE to find out.

Check it out and let me know what you think!

Why me? – Why NOT you?

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I shared this message with my newsletter folks this week and it was such a powerful message that I was inspired to share it (and the special offer) with you.

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photo credit: Cloud Pyramid via photopin (license)

There is a huge problem I am seeing lately and it’s stealing joy, spark, and the potential for dreams to come true from so many amazing women it makes me ill.

It’s an epidemic and I’m here to set the record straight.

The problem: Feeling unworthy of creating and living the life of your dreams.

Everyday I chat with women who somehow feel like they don’t measure up to the amazing visions they have in their minds about what they want their lives to be.

They make excuses about how they can’t have this or that because ‘Who am I to have the love, riches, community, joy, compassion, adventure etc. that I desire?‘

Who are you NOT to?

If there is one thing I have learned in the years I have been on this planet it is that we are here to experience life and enjoy it.

We are here to connect, serve, help, learn, love, and share our lives with others.

We are human beings for goodness sake! We have incredible senses that allow us to enjoy a multitude of experiences including food, sex, entertainment, and everything else life has to offer and yet there are far too many women denying themselves of the very dreams that keep them going because they feel unworthy.

I’ll give you that we often live in a warped reality where people think you must do something to earn your joy, but that’s a reality I’m not buying into.

I don’t believe in the idea that you have to work for 50 years in a job you hate to be able to spend a few years doing what you love.

I don’t believe that you must sacrifice your happiness now for more happiness later or that you have to work ‘hard’ for money to make a living.

I don’t believe you have to DO something in order to be worthy of the very desires that set your soul on fire.

Despite what you may have been taught by parents, teachers, society and the like, you are enough.

Let me say that again… YOU. ARE. ENOUGH.

You are worthy of your dreams simply by the air that you breathe and no I don’t particularly care about the past mistakes, mishaps, or misfortunes you’ve had because they don’t matter.  What matters is your determination to move forward.

YOU get to decide what this life experience will be for you.

YOU get to decide when you take the leap and when you don’t.

And YOU get to decide if and when you are worthy to move forward and truly make a change in your life.

The truth is the only way you wouldn’t be worthy of being, having, and doing all the things you want to do in this life is simply by thinking that you are unworthy.  That’s it.

Clearly this is a topic I am deeply passionate about and I know there are so many women dealing with this very issue that I want…better yet, I NEED to help.

So from now until the end of September, I am offering one-time single 60-minute sessions for $97. 

These sessions are best used for one particular issue/struggle you have right now.  If you need help around this idea of being ‘worthy’, a pep talk, uplifting, mindset work, need help making a decision, or you’ve been thinking of working with a coach and just want to give it a try, this is for you.

Now I don’t do this often and I’m not sure if/when I’ll do it again, so if this speaks to you then get on this before the offer goes away.

Want in?  Hit the button below and grab your spot and I look forward to chatting with you soon!

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5 Reasons You Aren’t Living the Life You Truly Desire

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photo credit: model on the beach via photopin (license)

Every single day I speak with women all over the world who are feeling just plain stuck in life.  They dream of an amazing life with lots of love, abundance, beautiful experiences, and adventure only to find they have no clue how to make it happen.

When we first chat, they list all the things they’ve tried to make their dreams a reality. They’ve pushed, pulled, planned, and done everything they can think of to make their desires real, but find that something is stopping them along the way.

The thing I notice about all of these scenarios is that the reasons these amazing women aren’t living a life they absolutely love has nothing to do with action and has everything to do with things they just can’t see.

If you are in the same boat or have found yourself in a similar situation before it’s likely because of one of these 5 reasons.

  1. You don’t believe it’s possible.  We all have had some bullshit story about why what we desire isn’t possible.  It might be so far outside what you’ve actually accomplished in your life that you just don’t see any way that what you desire could come to fruition and even though you dream of it becoming your reality, there is a bit of doubt about whether it can actually happen.  The answer is this: Yes it can and will happen, but ONLY when you decide it’s possible.
  2.  You’re letting fear lead the way.  Fear is a f–king liar and it will try to convince you more often than not that what you are attempting to do is not safe or smart.  It will try and convince you of all the reasons it won’t work instead of highlighting all the magical ways it will.  Fear feeds off your insecurity (see #1) and the best way to combat that is to take a step forward despite the fear and prove to yourself over and over again that it’s not as scary as you think.
  3. You think you need to know all the steps from where you are to where you are going.  As much as you would like to believe that you are 100% in control at all times and have the power to find the best possible route to your dream life, the truth is you don’t.  All you need to do is take the next step and trust that the Universe is going to inspire the one after that.  You only have the capacity to see 1 possible way your dreams can become reality and it’s likely not even the best way.  The Universe on the other hand has so many amazing resources at its disposal and can orchestrate connections, opportunities, and chance meetings you never imagined.  Let go of the how and just listen to your intuition.
  4. You are stuck in your current reality.  Your current reality is merely an indication of where your thoughts have been in the past.  It in no way means that what you desire is impossible or improbable unless you decide to continually reflect on what is right in front of you instead of focusing on where you want to be.  When you stop playing the victim to your current ‘reality’ you make a new reality possible and the Universe paves the way for you to make your life amazing.
  5. You think it has to be hard and self-sabotage when things get too good.  You likely were taught that everything comes with a price tag and if you want to live the life of your dreams you have to work hard.  That’s a lie.  Do you have to be persistent? Yes.  Do you have to be willing to believe in yourself when others don’t? Yes, but that in no way means it has to be hard.  When things get easy and you manifest circumstances that feel amazing with ease, you may also find yourself sabotaging the situation to shake things up a bit.  Because honestly, who are we without problems to solve and challenges to overcome?  Let the good things be good and the easy things be easy.  I guarantee there will be other problems for you to solve, so don’t mess with the good stuff to make yourself feel more comfortable.

The truth is there are lots of reasons we aren’t always creating the life experience we want and if you are finding yourself struggling with one or more of the above, it’s time to get some support.

Reach out and schedule a FREE 30-Minute Consultation below and let’s have a chat about how I can help you clear the junk holding you back and help you step more fully into the amazing life you deserve.

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