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3 Secrets to the Life of Your Dreams

November 5, 2014 by Lamisha

Living the life of your dreams is one of those things we all want to do, but how many believe it’s actually possible? It might even seem a bit far-fetched to believe you can live a life you love right now. I’m here to tell you it’s totally possible when you decide you will no longer settle.

It seems there is this BS notion running rampant in the world that says we have to merely survive the life we have been given and do the best with the hand we’ve been dealt. And if you are one of many who have bought into that, you are likely settling for a life that feels a bit ho-hum, when what you really deserve is a life you simply adore. We’ve all been taught in some form or fashion that being logical, realistic, and responsible is how you are supposed to live life.

But being an airy-fairy, head in the clouds kind of gal, it sounds a bit boring to me.

I want you to know that you can have it all. The money, the relationships, the joy, the career, the family, and enjoy every bit of it starting right now. It all starts with these 3 secrets.

Get clear on what you want. Get dreamy and begin painting a picture of what the life of your dreams looks and feels like. Remember to use your imagination and have fun. You can even create a vision board with pictures and words that remind illustrate your dream. Remember this is the life of your dreams so nothing is off-limits.
Believe you can have it. If you don’t believe you deserve it or that it is possible, the next step will be futile. Believe you can have it. Use affirmations or affirmations if you have to but truly believe it is possible. And if you get stuck with feeling worthy and believing, start getting rid of those self-limiting beliefs with EFT Tapping or journaling. Your mind is powerful, let it work for you not against you.
Take inspired action. Instead of taking ‘logical’ action, do what feels most inspiring for you. Get quiet and clear your mind and feel your way forward by listening to your heart. What action lights you up most? Go do that and let it lead yo to the next step. All the steps combined will lead you to the life of your dreams.

Lamisha Serf-Walls is a life coach for women who are ready to live an amazing life on their own terms, but feel held-back and frustrated in how to make that happen. Her mission is to create a community of empowered, free-flowing, lovers of life who live a life of freedom with ease and inspire others to do the same. Her signature Breakthrough program is set up to empower women as they gain clarity about their dream life and break free from the beliefs that leave them feeling stuck.

Living the Dream…What You Really Want

October 21, 2014 by Lamisha

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One of the first things I ask people about when I am working with them is what they want in life.

Usually I get a list of items, dollar amounts, places they want to travel to, and a whole slew of other ‘stuff’ that comes with their dream life. Whether it’s the career of their dreams, the relationship they have always desired, or their health, there is always ‘stuff’ that they want.

And when I ask them why they want what they want, I am often met with a pause in the conversation.

It’s not about proving that you are worth having the life of your dreams, because you are already worthy enough to have it. Remember you can be, do, or have anything that your heart desires.

The reason I ask why, is because like the blocks that are holding us back, there is something that lies beneath the desire to be, have, or do anything

Take me for example. When I took the leap to live the life of my dreams, I did so with the intention of creating my own business that I loved. I wanted to help people know they too could craft a life they have always wanted and I absolutely adored the work. But, after some insightful questions and a bit of digging from a coach I was working with at the time, I realized it’s something far deeper for me.

Underneath the sparkly dream of owning my own business and helping people are three values that are extremely important to me.

Freedom, family, and service.

I want to feel free in the work I do.

I want to have the flexibility and freedom to support my family from anywhere in the world and since I am a military spouse that is even more important to me.

And I want to be of service to my clients.

I want to help people do the things they never thought possible and live the life they have always wanted.

So, I have set out on a path to design a life that does just that. That is what I am after. Those are things that are important to me. The extra “stuff” is just icing on the cake.

One of my clients has been working with me for several months and in that time we have worked on identifying what it is she truly wants out of life, giving herself permission to live that life, and helping her achieve it. One of her core values is freedom. She wants to have the freedom to choose to live the life of her dreams. To travel, to learn, to grow, and to be who she wants to be, not who others perceive her to be.

In fact, most of my clients have freedom as one of their underlying values in the work we do together. Whether it is freedom to spend their time & money how they want or the freedom to choose to live life on their own terms.

They want freedom.

So, why is knowing your underlying values important when you are creating the life of your dreams?

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It’s simple, because when you let go of the specific outcomes and focus on the values that are important to you, you loosen your grip on how it must happen and allow the energy of the Universe to work on your behalf to deliver all those values with beautiful circumstances wrapped up with a pretty bow. And you realize you just created a life you never thought was possible.

You see, it’s when we get our hands too far into the mix that we can often make things harder for us to achieve. But when you focus on values like freedom, flexibility, support, service, family, etc. you find that it’s much easier to welcome in the unexpected surprises that make life interesting & exciting. You tend to go with the flow a lot easier and trust that everything you want in life can and will be yours.

So, when you think about the investments you are making into self-growth & expansion, don’t ask yourself if the ‘stuff’ is worth it. Ask yourself if the freedom, flexibility, comfort, peace, etc. is worth it because that is what you are truly after. It’s not about how you get to those feelings that is as important as the feeling itself. Just like it’s not money you are after, it’s the amazing experiences that money allows you to buy that is what you are after.

Today, I invite you to take a look at your values. What lies beneath the external ‘stuff’ you want in life? Are you building the life of your dreams on a foundation of physical things or are you building it on a foundation of experiences and values like family, support, stability, flexibility, and freedom?

Know how you want to feel and what is truly important to you and you open the doors for those feelings to flow to you instantly.

And to take it a step further, what is one thing you can do today that will help you tap into those values. Do it now, not sometime in the future.

I’d love to know what your #1 value is and what you can do today to cultivate that feeling. Share in the comments below to get the energy moving.

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A Look Into Your Future…

October 17, 2014 by Lamisha

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Where will you be in 2015? I know it’s an odd question for the middle of October 2014, but think about it.

Imagine where you will be. What will you be doing? What doors are opening for you? What dreams are you achieving?

For you, it might look like the unveiling of your new business website or booking your very first client.

Or maybe the book you’ve always wanted to pitch is now being sent to the publishers for a final edit.

Maybe you find yourself booking your flights & accommodations for spending 6 months traveling the world.

Or you see yourself quitting that job you hate and stepping into the career of your dreams with more money, more purpose, and passion than ever before.

Maybe you just signed the lease for the brick & mortar shop of your dreams and are filling it up with all kinds of creative goodies that people will love.

Or you see yourself drawing, painting, writing, and creating amazing pieces that people are just breaking down your door to buy.

Maybe you are doing what you have always dreamed and that is spending time at home with your children while your creative business takes flight.

Or you see yourself putting the finishing touches on your home art studio and getting ready for your very first art showcase.

Maybe your dream is something else. Maybe it’s a bit smaller or much bigger than any of the things I’ve listed above, but the common denominator in all of those examples is that they are all possible. Every single detail. Anything you can imagine for your ideal life is possible.

But, you must first take the leap.

I want you to take a moment today and look at where you are. Not where you have been or what opportunities you have missed in the past. Look at where you are today.

Without the leap you will stay where you are. Where life is ‘ok’ and you settle for what you have. Your heart will push you and your desires will pull you, but without that leap, you stay exactly where you are. Dreaming of…one day, when all the pieces fit together and your dream is delivered magically to your front door.

But it doesn’t happen like that. You have to decide to take the first step. To utilize your freedom of choice to decide to stay where you are where it’s “safe” or leap out of your comfort zone and embrace the life you have always wanted.

I want you to ask yourself this question: What do I want most out of life? What is my vision for the future? Think about it. Paint the picture. Enjoy the feeling of having it already done.

And then ask yourself this: Am I ready? Am I ready to do what needs to be done? To take the leap and trust that the how will be revealed to me? Am I ready?

And if you answered “YES” then I invite you to schedule a 30-minute clarity call to find out how we can make that happen and the options that are available to you for getting started on that amazing dream of yours now. Not when the clocks strikes 12am on December 31st and we enter a new year, but right NOW.

You have the chance to move into 2015 living your dream, but you have to take the first step. I have a few coaching spots open for 2014, so if you are ready to get moving and live the freedom that the life of your dreams will bring, schedule your 30-minute clarity call below.

Stuck on What you REALLY Want? Try this.

October 7, 2014 by Lamisha

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If you don’t know what you want in life, how the world do you think you are supposed to get it???

The first step to creating an amazing life is knowing what that means to you.

In fact, it’s the first thing I ask every person I work with (and something I’ve been asking friends & coworkers for years) only to find more people have no clue what they want in life.

They are either too stuck in reality to even flex their creative muscles a bit or they don’t really believe they can have what they truly want.

But here’s the thing.

Your dream life isn’t going to just appear out of thin air. You aren’t going to wake up one day to a life you never envisioned, never imagined, and never thought about.

It’s just not how it works.

So let’s figure out what it is you want so you can get moving on making those amazing dreams a reality, shall we?

Know that you can be, have, or do anything you want. This step is paramount! When you know that, you unlock the block in your mind that wants you to play safe and think small.
Think about what you wanted as a child. When you were younger you didn’t know there was this thing called reality that had rules and regulations you had to abide by. You used your imagination effortlessly and came up with some incredible visions, stories, and desires for who you wanted to be when you grew up. Revisit those thoughts and think about what you wanted to be as a child. Write it down.
Create a love list. If you are struggling to figure out what you want in your life as a whole it might be helpful to make separate lists for relationships, family, career, fun, etc. What you are going to do is make a list of all the things you love (or have loved) over the years in each category. For instance, in career you might put something like ‘using my creativity’ or ‘helping people’. Be as specific as possible for each list and see what comes up. Don’t edit or censor what you write down. This is simply a list of all the things you love so just let it flow.
Brainstorm with others. Sometimes talking to someone can help you get clear on what it is you want. The natural flow of a conversation can be helpful as you get feedback from someone else. This is also a great way to bounce ideas around and to simply verbalize some of the things you are thinking. Talking it out is one of the amazing benefits of having a coach. They ask questions you never thought to ask yourself.
Put it all together. Take a look at some of the things you have written or what came up in your conversations, what themes do you see? You might find there is a theme in regards to your career or in the relationship department. Maybe you find ‘freedom’ to be a theme and you want to create your own business. Maybe creativity is a theme and you want to do something with your art or writing. Once you find the theme, the rest of the picture appears almost effortlessly. But, if you still find yourself stuck with what you want in life, take a moment to imagine your perfect day. What are you doing? Who are you with? What do you see? Where are you? How much money are you making? How do you spend your time? Etc.

Once you know what you want to create you can move onto visualizing it and allowing the next step to come to you. Don’t be hard on yourself if after following steps 1-5 you are still confused about how everything fits together to create the dream life for you. Just know that it can and will come together for you.

Are you ready to jump start the process and gain clarity around what you want in your life? If so, schedule your 30-minute consultation and let’s make it happen. There really is no reason for you to continue to wait for the life of your dreams to simply appear. You have to know what you want first. So what are you waiting for?

Your Dream Life In 3 Simple Steps

September 29, 2014 by Lamisha

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Your dream life is a mere 3 steps away…

Sound too good to be true?

It’s not.

Take a moment and evaluate your life right now. Would you say you are living the life of your dreams or do you feel stuck?

Maybe you are like a lot of people and have the dream floating around in your head as an ‘if only’ thought.

But I’m here to tell you it doesn’t have to be that way. It can be your reality right now.

Here’s how.

Step 1: Know what you want. Do you know what your dream life looks like for you? Have you taken the time to get clear on what you truly want out of life? I’m not talking about what seems realistic or logical. I’m talking about what you really want. What gets you excited about life? What lights your fire? What is it that you want out of life? Is it freedom? A career you are passionate about? Family time? Travel? Writing? What is your dream? Identify that and the rest is easy.

Step 2: Clear the junk. To live the life of your dreams you have to know without a shadow of a doubt it is possible. Any thought or belief that contradicts that fact must be cleared. Any block or barrier in your thoughts about your worthiness or value to live the life you deserve, must be released and getting help identifying your blind spot is more valuable than you know.

Step 3: Listen with your heart and take inspired action. There is no doubt you have to take action to move along your path, but the key is allowing your intuition and inspiration to guide you. This isn’t about setting the most logical plan of action. This is about getting out of your head and into your heart and allowing that to be your guide which isn’t always easy. Following the logical steps or trying to outline your entire journey will result in the blood, sweat, and tears kind of hard work we have been taught. But the heart path feels effortless and almost too easy. It’s fun, inspiring, and will lead to more expansion and growth than you have ever known.

Here’s my challenge to you today. Look at the steps and see where you are, but better yet, what you are going to do about it.

If you aren’t living the life of your dreams it is likely because you are stuck in one of the 3 steps and it really doesn’t matter where you are stuck as much as much as it matters what you are going to do about it.

Don’t know what you want? I can help.

Got some junk to clear? I can help.

Need to learn the inspired way? I can help with that too.

If you are ready to drop the excuses so you can live the amazing life you were made for, do yourself a favor and invest in yourself.

So? What are you going to do?

I have a few spots left in my 3-Month Program and in my Blind Spot Discovery Sessions so if you want in, now is the time!

Not sure you are ready to take the leap? Schedule a 30-Minute Consultation to find out.