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What do YOU want?

March 31, 2014 by Lamisha

With the release of the Unleash Your Personal Power e-course that starts tomorrow, I have had this consistent question come up for myself and my clients over and over again. And if you know me, you know that when I see a theme appear, I take notice.

The theme this time boils down to one question: “What do YOU want?”

It seems like a simple enough question, but when was the last time you asked yourself that? It seems we are far more tapped into what we think we need as opposed to what we want in life. Add to that questions like: What do you want…to feel, to see, to experience, to be, etc., and the question can get a bit convoluted.

I know on any given day, I am more likely to share with someone what I ‘need’ to get done rather than what I actually need or want for that matter. Ask me what I want and I might be stumped for a moment if I am so far entrenched in my ‘have to’ list.

Why is that?

There seems to be a general perception that giving and doing are far more important than allowing and being. So when we take the time to see what we

really want, it feels foreign and often uncomfortable. It is of course necessary to feel the discomfort in order to move through it and identify what it is we truly want.

The truth is this: You have the ability and power to make your life happy, just as you have the ability and power to make your life less than happy. You can choose to thrive or simply survive. The choice is yours to make. However, if you are merely surviving what life throws your way then you are not really harnessing the unlimited power you have within to make this life amazing and magical. It may be that you don’t have the tools, practices, confidence, or knowledge you need to use that power. And if you fall into that boat then I assure you the Unleash Your Personal Power is the course for you.

This course isn’t just about getting what you want in life, it’s so much more than that. This course will teach you effective and life-changing tools and practices to live the best life possible all the way around. It is being offered by myself and three other talented women who have collectively coached and taught hundreds of people to harness and utilize their own power. If ever you have thought about how to live the best life possible starting now, this course is for you.

This self-paced e-course begins tomorrow and to make it even easier for you to join us, we are offering a payment plan option so it is affordable for everyone. This course is transformational, inspirational, and full of power.

You already have the power within to make your life amazing, we simply want to introduce you to it. Are you ready to join us? If so you can sign-up, learn more about the teachers of the program and try out a free meditation here. Life is far too short to merely survive what life throws at you. This is your chance to thrive!

Dream Changer-Featuring Lisa Sharp from Clear Calm Space Organizing

March 5, 2014 by Lamisha

***This week I am honored to share with you the funny and inspiring Dream Changer post from an incredibly creative and passionate dreamer, business woman, and professional organizer extraordinaire, Lisa Sharp. When asked about her ‘Dream Changer’, this is what she shared with me.
Enjoy!***

Ever since I was a kid, I have tended to do things in my own way. If you tell me I have to do something in a particular way, there’s a pretty good chance that I’m going to do it, well, differently. So I guess it’s no big surprise that I am where I am today, running my own business doing what I love to do as a Professional Organizer, on my own terms. But it wasn’t easy to get to that point, and I certainly don’t have everything figured out. I don’t think you ever really do.

One of my first jobs as a teenager was as a project manager in a psychologist’s office. I organized things, inventoried them, deleted redundancies and made things pretty. That’s sort of what I do now and I enjoyed (some of) the work but I disliked working for someone else and I really hated wearing panty hose and having an hour commute to work every day. I have a vivid memory of sitting in rush hour traffic, sweating up a storm (it was May in Phoenix, Arizona so that’s like a zillion degrees), feeling myself getting more and more pissed off at being so uncomfortable both physically and mentally. I took off my panty hose and threw them out the window while sitting at a red light (I can only imagine what the guy sitting next to me thought) and I vowed to never put myself in that sort of situation again. I put in my two weeks notice the next day. Turns out, that experience dictated most of my career.

Since that time, I earned a Bachelor’s degree in Social Work and a Master’s degree in Library and Information Science and have carefully and strategically avoided wearing panty hose and driving long commutes. I am never more lit up and heart centered than when I am of service to others, helping to remove emotional blocks and finding resources that can help them. So being a librarian and a social worker felt like I was in the ballpark. But, working for other people? Not being able to call my own shots? I wasn’t too crazy about that. There was always this little voice saying, “Wouldn’t it be great to run our own business? Make our own decisions? Come on, try it!” Hearing that voice would do two things: get me sweaty palmed, lit up and super excited and then, so uncomfortable it felt like someone dumped ice water down my back. Ugh, that Ego sure doesn’t like to be uncomfortable. So I listened to my Ego for years and year, a near constant diatribe of negativity.

Has your Ego told you any of these lies too?

-It’s too hard.

-You don’t have enough education, experience, money or time. (All of the above? Uh huh. Me too.)

-Most businesses fail. Yours will too.

-Look at those other things you did and they didn’t work. Why should this one succeed?

-This couch is super comfortable. Let’s stay here. We’ll do that other stuff tomorrow.

Eventually, I started realizing that was a bunch of crap and that people succeed doing amazing stuff every single day. And then one day, last August, I saw this little sign and everything changed for me.I realized that I was playing it safe, researching business practices, marketing, you know, getting a plan. Because that’s smart, right? But I realized that I had been making a plan to strike out on my own for years. I had already read dozens of books, spent hours on YouTube and walked miles in my neighborhood listening to business podcasts. I had done the research, I had the experience helping people and I had the intuitive understanding of what my business should look like and who my clients were going to be. So I stepped out on faith, typed up a Facebook update that said I was taking new clients starting that day and I pushed “Post.”

Holy crap was that a big moment for me. I was sort of shocked that I finally did it. That I had started this thing that I had dreamed about for over twenty years. It felt amazing. Like AMAZING, AMAZING. I started booking clients that day and within a month I saw 10 clients. I learned and earned (not much, but more than I had not doing anything) and it was, and still continues to be, a total blast.

So I encourage you, my new friend, to just start. Start small, start huge, it doesn’t matter. Take a step. Make a call, put yourself out there, be vulnerable. Today is the day and remember, you are building something beautiful with each step you take. What can YOU do today to start making your dream a reality? I’d love to hear about it in the comments below. You can do it, you are ready.

Namaste

xo-

Lisa

Lisa Sharp gets excited setting up household paperwork systems, cleaning out closets and downsizing households. You’d think she’d be a tad Type A and super anal retentive to do that, but you’d be wrong. She loves connecting with clients, carefully and compassionately listening to their issues with their stuff, their time, and their energy. She loves to find the blocks. Then she helps them to find more space, time, energy and JOY by de-cluttering their excess stuff, organizing their schedules and helping them to get clear on their life’s priorities. Lisa’s clients always say they breathe easier after working with her and often tell her that all kinds of good stuff started happening after their work together.

Lisa lives in Atlanta, Georgia with her hilarious husband and (mostly) delightful two kids. She works both hands on and virtually with her clients.

If you need help creating a clear, calm space to invite more joy and peace into your life you can find Lisa at Clear Calm Space, on Facebook, Twitter, or by emailing her at lisa@clearcalmspace.com.

What’s Your ‘But’ Statement?

February 19, 2014 by Lamisha

If you ever meet me out in public and we start chatting about your career, work, or hobbies, beware! I might just ask you the question I love to ask and found myself asking to almost every person I have worked with in the last 10 years and that question is this:

If you could do anything in the world (and money weren’t an issue), what would you do? (Sometimes the question is phrased differently depending on if I am speaking to someone about their career or just a general hobby.)

It doesn’t matter what answer you give, I will most certainly follow it up with this:

So why aren’t you doing it?

After a string of answers like : “Because I have a family to support.” or “It’s too late.” or “I don’t know where to begin.”

I get to the nitty-gritty of why people aren’t accomplishing their dreams and it goes a little something like this.

“I would love to start my own non-profit activity center for children, BUT I just don’t have the money to do it. I mean I do have bills to pay!”

“I would love to sit in a little cabin in the woods somewhere and write books all day, BUT what if I can’t do it?”

“I would love to open my own bookstore/coffee shop/literary center for the community, BUT I’m broke and I have to keep my crappy job because it’s all I have.”

The truth is we all have a ‘but’ statement and what that is, is the reason we feel we can’t/shouldn’t/will never/won’t accomplish the life of our dreams. For many of us it boils down to dollars and cents. For others, it’s simply knowing how to get started, but I think it’s more than that.

You see, I am finding more and more that your ‘but’ statement (no matter what it is) is really another form of fear. For the person that says they don’t have enough money, they may fear losing what they have on their dream that feels so risky. For the person that just doesn’t know how to start, it could be fear of failure. For the person afraid of whether they can do it or not, it could be fear of ridicule both self-induced and the ridicule of others.

Regardless of what form your ‘but’ statement takes, what it really is, is a form of fear manifesting as an excuse. If you would have asked me 2 years ago why I wasn’t on my path to coaching already I would have told you I didn’t have the money to do it. I couldn’t afford the training programs I thought I needed to succeed. It took a long time for me to even entertain the thought of doing things differently.

Today, I encourage you to identify your ‘but’ statement. The truth is, you probably have more than one, so write them down and face them. Get them out of your head and utilize your amazing imagination to think of all the ways those fears can become irrelevant.

If lack of money is one of your fears, then think of all the ways money can flow into your life. Some examples might be gifts, a raise, a new job, selling old stuff, refunds, rebates, unexpected checks in the mail etc. There are an abundance of ways for money to flow and for your dreams to come true. Don’t limit yourself to the singular road you ‘think’ will lead you to what you desire. There is so much more out there if you open your mind to the possibilities.

The first step is identifying your ‘but’ statement. So, if I asked you about your dreams, what would you say?

” I would really love to _____________, BUT _______________.” Fill in the blanks.

If you are ready to talk more in-depth about your ‘but’ statement and what is really holding you back from the life of your dreams, contact me to schedule your consultation. I would love to hear more about what lights you up and how I can help make your dreams a reality. The truth is, if more people were doing the things they love the world would be a much happier place, so let’s do our part.

This or That: What To Do At a Crossroad

February 18, 2014 by Lamisha

Happy Tuesday Lovely readers!

How many of you have been in a situation lately or in your life when you have had to make a decision? I’m not talking “what shall I have for dinner tonight” although for some of us this can prove to be a pretty challenging decision. I am talking about the BIG decisions.

For instance: Taking one job over another. Moving ‘there’ or staying right where you are. Follow your dreams or stay where it’s secure.

In the course of my life I have made many seemingly big decisions and every time I sat down to think them through, I got anxious. I wanted to make the right decision! My thoughts were clouded by all the pros and cons and I was overwhelmed by the options and how they would play out in the future.

I was at a crossroads and I didn’t know which way to go.

What I didn’t know then (but I know now), is that we all have an internal-decision-maker. It’s called the heart. Ok, maybe not the physical, blood pumping heart, but it’s the intuitive “heart” that can feel its way through situations. The problem is we forget we have it because we have grown so accustomed to thinking our way through issues, we immediately try to do what is logical. If you are like me, you may have found the logical route to be more than a bit rocky and instead downright miserable.

The work I do with clients is to help get them out of their heads and into their hearts. Instead of thinking through the pros and cons of a situation, I want them to feel their way forward. Our bodies are amazing and they can provide a lot of information about the decisions and choices we make on a daily basis. I find that the ‘wrong’ choices (or at least not the best choice for me in the moment) feels restrictive to me. My chest tightens and things just feel heavy overall. However, when I make a choice from my heart and it is the ‘right’ choice, I feel expansive and an opening occurs in my chest. I feel uplifted and light. Those are my markers, but you may feel differently. The key is tapping into your body every now and again (I suggest daily) to get to know the feelings that come up as you make your decisions. It could help you immensely as you move forward along your path.

Now, I don’t believe in making ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ choices (even though sometimes it feels like there is one or the other). I believe that every choice we make along our paths is an opportunity for growth, learning, and experience. Whether you feel you have made the ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ decision, there is always an opportunity for you to move forward and make your dreams a reality. Always.

But, in order to get there and enjoy it to the best of your ability, you must learn to tap into your intuitive heart and feel your way forward. And that is why I have created something called Crossroad Coaching.

Crossroad Coaching is for when you have those moments of uncertainty and you are unsure of which way to go. You have a decision to make and are having trouble discerning what is best for you, right now. That is where I come in. I can help you tap into your intuitive heart and help you work out where the kinks might be, so you can feel good about your decision. I want you to feel comfortable and confident in the decisions you make and I want you to step boldly into your future with the light, bright, and expansive feeling you have when you know everything is working out exactly as it should. If you are interested in how Crossroad Coaching works, feel free to contact me and we can chat about your specific situation.

And should you find yourself questioning whether to follow your dreams now or later, take a look at this awesome video from Marie Forleo where she gives some insight to a reader who has a decision to make of her own.

It’s All About Love

February 14, 2014 by Lamisha

I love all things ‘love’. As a Leo I am a hopeless romantic who enjoys all the traditional valentines gifts. You know, chocolate, flowers, candles, perfume etc. I enjoy it all. I cry at happy endings to amazing love stories and anything that has a heart or the word ‘love’ on it you can bet your bottom dollar I want it. But Valentines Day (and every other day of the year) isn’t just about romantic love. We are moving into a world that offers a spirit of universal love in all forms and I LOVE that!

Not only are more people practicing random acts of kindness and sharing their love for humankind with one another, but we are moving into a period where more and more people are doing the work that they love. More people are accepting their bodies, personalities, and true gifts each and every day. More people are lending a helping hand when they see someone is in need and standing up for those who can’t speak for themselves.

It’s All About Love…

Today and everyday, love yourself, treat yourself, and stop all that negative-dream-crushing-self-talk that keeps you playing small. Be kind to others and to yourself! Do more of what you love. Find your gifts. Love them and embrace them and for goodness sakes give them to the world! Listen to your heart and follow the call to do work that you absolutely adore. That passion you have burning in your soul, use it! Support one another in struggles and successes. Share, care, and collaborate when you can. Uplift and motivate. Inspire and ignite the fire that has been dormant for too many of us for far too long.

We are provided 24 amazing hours each day to live the best way we know how and I can’t think of a better way than to practice love in any way we can. It’s simple to do if we can break away from our monkey minds, computers, smart phones, and get off of autopilot that we tend to be operating from most days. Be conscious, aware, and open to how love may present itself to you. You just might be surprised at how often you see, feel, and share it when you become aware.

And should you find yourself wondering where to begin, start with yourself. Go out and do the things that bring you joy. Paint, sing, write, crochet, dance, draw, read, take pictures, work out, create, or whatever it is that you haven’t given yourself the permission to do. Go do that!

I truly believe life is meant to be enjoyed and love is meant to be shared, so get out there and do it! And should you find yourself stuck, confused, or in a rut and unable to figure out how to move forward with your amazing passion, purpose, and dreams. Know that I would be honored to be a part of your journey by sharing my gift of coaching with you. There is nothing I love more than sharing in the excitement and wonder of my clients….except maybe chocolates and roses.

Now is your time to shine and do more of what you LOVE and I want to help you do that. Contact me today to sign up for free consultation and find out how I can help you infuse your life with more love, inspiration, and joy. You deserve it!