Lamisha Serf-Walls

The World of Infinite Possibilities…

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I live in a world of infinite possibilities and you do too.

You may not think you do, but I assure you for everything you want to create, be, have, or do, there are an infinite number of ways to get there.  The only thing holding you back from the many paths is you.

Now, this isn’t a blame game where I tell you it’s all your fault, because honestly it’s not.  We have been taught a lot of things that aren’t true and the idea that there are only a handful of ways to get from point A to point B is but one.

It’s time to learn something new.

It’s time to see the bigger picture and all the amazing ways your dreams can come true and to allow the forces of the Universe to work for you, not against you.

It’s time to break free from your monkey brain that is running 100 miles a minute in order to make things happen for you.

It’s time to accept the truth that there are an infinite number of ways your dreams can come true.

I’ll use myself as an example.

When I set out on this path to becoming a life coach, I did what any responsible and logical person would do.  I googled how.

I found a ton of information on various programs, certificates, coaches, professionals, organizations, books, etc. that were sure to help me get from where I was (in a job I hated) to where I wanted to be (and incidentally where I am now).  I decided that the fastest way from point A to point B would be to find a program, get certified, and start my practice.

It seemed simple enough, but I quickly learned it wasn’t.

I had some road blocks that were popping up all over the place.  For 2 years I was struggling to find the right program at the right price, with the right focus and I was desperate to get on with my plan.

No matter how hard I tried to make this one way work, it didn’t.  The programs were too expensive, not close enough, too long, or just plain off.  And while I was given every indication that this was not the way to do it, I kept pushing.  I kept trying.  I kept forcing it to be that way because it had to be, right?  I mean let’s be honest, google is rarely wrong.

It was the thought that there was only one way to get there that was holding me back.  That’s it.

I couldn’t see another way.  All I could think about was how to get the money, find the program, and get certified already.

What I ignored was my innate talent, knowledge, and expertise that I used every single day.  I was using it with co-workers, friends, and family members.  In fact, I even had my Masters in Psychology and still didn’t believe it was enough.

Once I was willing to see another way and entertain the idea that I hadn’t exhausted all possibilities, my eyes were open and I was ready to leap.  I started my coaching practice within just a few months of this realization and have been working at it ever since.

The same goes for you.

In fact, when you take your hands off the wheel and let go of the one track mind of ‘how’ your dreams will come true, you allow the Universe to work its magic to bring you amazing opportunities you never thought possible.  

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And by simply brainstorming other ways you can reach your dream, you put energy out into the world that opens the door to some truly magical experiences.  The things that happen as a result will blow your mind.  They will seem too good to be true, but I promise they aren’t.  They will be the result of you opening your mind and your heart to the infinite possibilities that lie before you.

We are only human and as such, we can only imagine a few ways our dreams can become reality and if you are like most, you are likely looking at the logical or realistic paths to what you desire.

Action Step:  Today I want you to do something a little different.  I want you to grab your journal or a notebook and write your big dream at the top.  Below that I want you to get creative and think of all the amazing ways your dreams can come true.  Try to quiet the logical mind that is sure to try to get in the way.  Write them all down and then lean back a bit and watch the magic occur in your life.  I promise you will be amazed. 

P.S. Are you having a little trouble getting outside of your logical brain?  I know it’s not always that easy for us to do, but lucky for you I am really good at brainstorming and helping clients break free from reality and dive head first into the magical ways you can create the life of your dreams.  In fact, I’ve created a community on Facebook to keep you motivated and inspired so you can Love Your Life.  Join us!  And if you are interested in working with me one-on-one, but aren’t exactly sure what you need, feel free to schedule your 30-Minute Consultation here.  I have a few spots open this week so let’s chat!

I’ll be your Coach on Call for November (Exclusive Offer!)

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I have traveled the sometimes lonely road that you often travel while chasing your dream.  A dream that you aren’t even 100% sure is possible….

Your heart tells you it is, but the reality you see in front of you scoffs at the idea of getting up every day and doing what you love.

Because really? Who gets to do that besides the posh superstars of the world making millions of dollars?

But something keeps you going.  Maybe it’s the dream or the whisper of your soul that pushes you forward and reminds you that you must keep going.

When I started down this road, I had NO idea what I was in for.  I didn’t know anyone that was kicking reality to the curb in order to dive head first into a life they truly wanted.  Hell, I didn’t know many people that even questioned what they wanted let alone were willing to go after it.

Looking back, if I knew then what I know now, I would have jumped at the opportunity to have a coach by my side to help me start and to remind me to keep going when my mind got overwhelmed with reality.

It took me 7 years to figure out what I wanted and another 4 to actually go after it.  And now that I am in it, I am surrounded by some of the most amazing, supportive women and coaches that help me stay focused to just keep going when it feels rough.

Action. Accountability. Mindset Magic.

Those are the things I needed & still need on this path & I would venture to guess you need them too.

Whether you are just starting out or are taking your dream life to the next level I’ve got a very special one-time offer for you.

For the month of November, I will be your Coach On Call.

What you get:

  • 2- 45-Minute Minute Coaching sessions via phone or Skype
  • Unlimited e-mail coaching/support for the month of November
  • An outline of action steps to keep you focused
  • Mindset adjustment where you need it most

You get exactly what I needed most when I started. A foundation of support that will pave the way for progress and success as you move forward.

Your investment: $350

This is a one-time offer good until next Friday (October 31st) and because it involves such intensive support (email coaching & 2 sessions) I am limiting it to a select few.  I have released it to my VIP list already so if you are interested, snag your spot now (by clicking the image below).  I guarantee these spots will go fast.

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So what do you say? Are you going to wait another week, month, or year to get started on the amazing life you have always wanted?

A Look Into Your Future…

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Where will you be in 2015?  I know it’s an odd question for the middle of October 2014, but think about it. 

Imagine where you will be.  What will you be doing?  What doors are opening for you? What dreams are you achieving?

For you, it might look like the unveiling of your new business website or booking your very first client.

Or maybe the book you’ve always wanted to pitch is now being sent to the publishers for a final edit.

Maybe you find yourself booking your flights & accommodations for spending 6 months traveling the world.

Or you see yourself quitting that job you hate and stepping into the career of your dreams with more money, more purpose, and passion than ever before.

Maybe you just signed the lease for the brick & mortar shop of your dreams and are filling it up with all kinds of creative goodies that people will love.

Or you see yourself drawing, painting, writing, and creating amazing pieces that people are just breaking down your door to buy.

Maybe you are doing what you have always dreamed and that is spending time at home with your children while your creative business takes flight.

Or you see yourself putting the finishing touches on your home art studio and getting ready for your very first art showcase.

Maybe your dream is something else.  Maybe it’s a bit smaller or much bigger than any of the things I’ve listed above, but the common denominator in all of those examples is that they are all possible.  Every single detail.  Anything you can imagine for your ideal life is possible.

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But, you must first take the leap.

I want you to take a moment today and look at where you are.  Not where you have been or what opportunities you have missed in the past.  Look at where you are today.

Without the leap you will stay where you are.  Where life is ‘ok’ and you settle for what you have.  Your heart will push you and your desires will pull you, but without that leap, you stay exactly where you are. Dreaming of…one day, when all the pieces fit together and your dream is delivered magically to your front door.

But it doesn’t happen like that.  You have to decide to take the first step.  To utilize your freedom of choice to decide to stay where you are where it’s “safe” or leap out of your comfort zone and embrace the life you have always wanted.

I want you to ask yourself this question:  What do I want most out of life? What is my vision for the future?  Think about it. Paint the picture. Enjoy the feeling of having it already done.

And then ask yourself this: Am I ready? Am I ready to do what needs to be done?  To take the leap and trust that the how will be revealed to me?  Am I ready?

And if you answered “YES” then I invite you to schedule a 30-minute clarity call to find out how we can make that happen and the options that are available to you for getting started on that amazing dream of yours now.  Not when the clocks strikes 12am on December 31st and we enter a new year, but right NOW.

You have the chance to move into 2015 living your dream, but you have to take the first step.  I have a few coaching spots open for 2014, so if you are ready to get moving and live the freedom that the life of your dreams will bring, schedule your 30-minute clarity call below. 

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Stuck on What you REALLY Want? Try this.

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If you don’t know what you want in life, how the world do you think you are supposed to get it???

The first step to creating an amazing life is knowing what that means to you. 

In fact, it’s the first thing I ask every person I work with (and something I’ve been asking friends & coworkers for years) only to find more people have no clue what they want in life.

They are either too stuck in reality to even flex their creative muscles a bit or they don’t really believe they can have what they truly want.

But here’s the thing.

Your dream life isn’t going to just appear out of thin air.  You aren’t going to wake up one day to a life you never envisioned, never imagined, and never thought about.

It’s just not how it works.

So let’s figure out what it is you want so you can get moving on making those amazing dreams a reality, shall we?

  1. Know that you can be, have, or do anything you want.  This step is paramount!  When you know that, you unlock the block in your mind that wants you to play safe and think small.
  2. Think about what you wanted as a child. When you were younger you didn’t know there was this thing called reality that had rules and regulations you had to abide by.  You used your imagination effortlessly and came up with some incredible visions, stories, and desires for who you wanted to be when you grew up.  Revisit those thoughts and think about what you wanted to be as a child. Write it down.
  3. Create a love list.  If you are struggling to figure out what you want in your life as a whole it might be helpful to make separate lists for relationships, family, career, fun, etc.  What you are going to do is make a list of all the things you love (or have loved) over the years in each category.  For instance, in career you might put something like ‘using my creativity’ or ‘helping people’.  Be as specific as possible for each list and see what comes up.  Don’t edit or censor what you write down.  This is simply a list of all the things you love so just let it flow.
  4. Brainstorm with others.  Sometimes talking to someone can help you get clear on what it is you want.  The natural flow of a conversation can be helpful as you get feedback from someone else.  This is also a great way to bounce ideas around and to simply verbalize some of the things you are thinking.  Talking it out is one of the amazing benefits of having a coach.  They ask questions you never thought to ask yourself.
  5. Put it all together.  Take a look at some of the things you have written or what came up in your conversations, what themes do you see?  You might find there is a theme in regards to your career or in the relationship department.  Maybe you find ‘freedom’ to be a theme and you want to create your own business.  Maybe creativity is a theme and you want to do something with your art or writing.  Once you find the theme, the rest of the picture appears almost effortlessly.  But, if you still find yourself stuck with what you want in life, take a moment to imagine your perfect day.  What are you doing? Who are you with? What do you see? Where are you?  How much money are you making? How do you spend your time?  Etc.

Once you know what you want to create you can move onto visualizing it and allowing the next step to come to you.  Don’t be hard on yourself if after following steps 1-5 you are still confused about how everything fits together to create the dream life for you.  Just know that it can and will come together for you.

Are you ready to jump start the process and gain clarity around what you want in your life?  If so, schedule your 30-minute consultation and let’s make it happen.  There really is no reason for you to continue to wait for the life of your dreams to simply appear.  You have to know what you want first.  So what are you waiting for?

Are You In Danger of This? (And how not to sacrifice your happiness.)

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What if someone could tell you without a shadow of a doubt the way your future will likely unfold if you continue on the exact course you are on this very minute?

Would you be interested?

No, I’m not switching businesses and becoming a psychic 🙂

I ask you that because I know something that you might not be aware of and again I’m no psychic, but I have seen this enough to know that you might be in danger.

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Meet Joni* (Names have been changed for privacy sake.)

Joni is an incredibly talented entrepreneur.  She’s sweet, charismatic, caring, compassionate and people adore her!  She’s married to her soul mate, has a gorgeous home, and is blessed with creativity that flows like an open faucet.  Her business is booming and her calendar is booked out 9 months!

BUT…

She’s got a problem and it’s a BIG one.

She is having a hard time finding balance amongst all the awesomeness that is her life.

When she is in work mode, she’s hard-core.  She works long hours, stays up late, and often burns the candle at both ends.

When she manages to find time to focus on her ‘home’ life with her hubby, she is constantly trying to make up for lost time.

She’s lost on the teeter-totter of two extremes and no matter what she does she can’t quite find the happy medium.

The result:

She’s frustrated and cranky most days.  When she’s focused on her business, she worries about her relationship and the many things at home that feel half-assed or un-done.  When she’s at home, she worries about being at work. She thinks: “What if my clients need me?  What about the next deadline?  The next launch? Did I return all important emails?”

She’s stuck, overwhelmed, and feels guilty about not being where she needs to be and often feels like a failure.

She frequently discounts her successes or over looks them completely because she becomes hyper-focused on the things that aren’t working (aka not being able to find balance).

What on the outside looks like an awesome life, on the inside feels unbalanced and incomplete.  She frequently thinks that “if only” she could find the balance between her two very important worlds, she could finally ease into relaxation mode and actually enjoy the magnificent life she has created.

But without being able to see the core issue (which is not the lack of balance in her life), she is destined for a life of exhaustion, fear, frustration, and stuck-ness. She is blind to the belief that is holding her back because she is simply too close to see it.  What she thinks is a simple fix that centers around time management and taking a break every now and then is really just a symptom of a deeper issue.

She has a choice.  She can continue to try to treat the symptom (i.e. the lack of balance in her life) and experience the brief reprieve that it provides for her or she can choose to seek help.  And to be honest, she must first understand and be aware of the consequences of not clearing this issue.

Examples:

  • A stressed work life can result in physical illness
  • A stressed home life can result in relationship trouble
  • A stressed inner life can result in incredible fear, lack of confidence, self-sabotage, and even worse…an unhappy, unfulfilled life.

Getting to the end of her rope and being truly ready to move through this challenge once and for all, Joni reaches out for help.  She knows the magnificence that lies on the other side of this struggle and she’s ready to identify and clear the belief that is holding her hostage in exhaustion, fear, and frustration.

The question is are YOU?

happinessMany of you may be able to directly relate to the specific challenge or symptom that Joni has struggled with or you have your own issue that manifests itself in your life or business in your relationships, self-care, time management, procrastination, marketing (or lack thereof), or maybe it is something different.

The point is we all have that one thing that keeps showing up for us over and over again that leaves us feeling drained, frustrated, and just plain stuck.  There are some of you who are ready to throw in the towel and accept that ‘this is just the way life is’ and you may even believe ‘you just can’t have it all’.

But I am here to tell you, there IS a solution to your problem and it starts with this first step: You must first know the consequences of continuing on the path you are on and refuse to sacrifice the joy and fulfilling life you are destined for any longer.

That’s it.

Life is supposed to be amazing and you are meant to work through the lessons, beliefs, and challenges that hold us back from that incredible joy.  It is part of your journey, but you get to choose if you are ready to move forward and clear it and some of the biggest challenges are those we can’t see directly because we are simply too close.

With that I ask you:

What amazing-ness are you sacrificing by staying stuck? AND Are you ready to take the first step to free yourself from the struggle and frustration?

If so, I invite you to schedule a 30-Minute Consultation to chat with me about your challenges and to see if (like Joni) you are ready to clear them once and for all.  No strings attached.  So what do you say? Are you ready?

P.S. Don’t forget that the 7-Day Resolution Refresh challenge begins on Monday so if you are in need of some inspiration to get some of those amazing goals knocked off your to-do list, get signed up so you don’t miss a beat!