Lamisha Serf-Walls

Life Upheaval = An Opportunity to Up-level

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So, life’s been pretty…interesting lately.

There have been moments when everything feels in alignment, on purpose, and totally flowing and other times where it feels like the ground I am standing on is shifting under my feet.

It’s an interesting place to be since each feeling is totally different than the other, but it’s also a feeling I know well, though often forget.

I’m seeing this happen in many of my friend’s and client’s lives too.  Life feels so overwhelming and things feel like they are coming apart at the seams.  Perfectly laid plans are crumbling and it feels like we are being forced to purge so many beliefs, fears, and even physical stuff.

I’m no astrologer, but I totally believe in the power of the planets and their alignment and it feels like this life upheaval is a Universal affair.

Lucky us.

From some of my favorite spiritual teachers and intuitives, I am hearing that this is an opportunity for us to release what no longer serves us and welcome in new opportunities and new energies.  Makes sense right?  We are getting so close to Spring and this is similar to a life Spring cleaning.

I’ve felt this type of thing before.  As I said, it’s not new to me at all as I have had several big life upheavals that have opened the door to more living, learning, growing, and ultimately new opportunities.

The life upheaval can show up in a variety of ways-losing a job, moving cross country, or even just little disagreements and blow outs with friends and family.  I’ve done all of these in various times in my life and they all have lead to new opportunities.

Here’s how I see it.

We have moments in our lives when we are moving right along with no worries.  There are changes we need to make, but we don’t make them because things are running fairly smoothly and it often isn’t until life forces us to make that change or take action that we finally oblige.

This is something similar.  As we continually move through life there are life experiences we want to make and in order to manifest them, we have to level up our energy.  Doing so often means we have to release and let go of the baggage that is holding us back.  This can come in the form of physical things like clothes, shoes, old books, papers etc. or in the form of beliefs, thoughts, feelings, and memories that are ready to be processed.

If you are feeling a similar life upheaval I want you to know this…

You are NOT crazy and this process IS leading you to bigger, better things.  Things that you WANT in your life. I promise.

My last big life upheaval came in the form of me losing my full-time employment which was scary and frustrating, but it led me to be able to do what I love full-time.

Before that, my wife got assigned to a new military base and we had to find a home and move 9 hours away from where we previously lived, but that led us to amazing new friends, new opportunities, and our beautiful home.

The best thing you can do during moments like these is go with the flow and feel the feelings (or as I like to call them the feels) that come along with the changes.  Be open to the changes and move through them with a curious mind and open heart. 

I’ve also found journaling, meditation, EFT, and connecting with friends and coaches can be very helpful.

You are getting ready to experience some amazing growth unlike any other!  Shine baby shine!

If you are looking for some support around the upheaval that is happening for you right now, reach out and schedule a free 30-Minute consultation and let’s have a chat.  I’d love to help support you and help you shine baby shine!

The Truth About Living the Life of Your Dreams

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When I talk about living the life of your dreams, it comes with a certain spark and twinkle about what may be.  Having a beautiful life full of amazing people, love, abundance, joy, and for me a career that I adore doing what I love.  But, something I don’t often talk about is the not so sparkly stuff…you know the ‘life’ stuff.

I may have set up a pre-conceived notion that when you finally attain the life of your dreams then life is nothing but rainbows and sunshine.  That money flows, your health is amazing, and your love life-well it’s better than ever before.  And while yes that may be part of your story, it’s not all made up of rainbows and sunshine.

The truth is…shit happens.

I was reminded of this fact just last week.

My internet was down, my modem died, my dryer wasn’t working properly, and I ended up late to a client appointment because I mis-read my schedule…all on the same day.

The old me would have pitched a fit, complained, and made an annoying situation even worse by turning it into a bad day.

The new-growing-living-and-learning-me responded differently.

I handled all of the glitches with as much ease as I could and then I took the rest of the day off.

I like to think that I am living the life of my dreams.  I am doing work I love, from home, and I have a beautiful family that I love with all my heart.  Sure I have new goals and big things I want to accomplish this year and I know I will, but for now, I’m happy.

The difference between my pre-dream life living and now is that I used to allow my outer circumstances dictate how I think and feel about everything. 

I am growing in that way because now I don’t do that nearly as often.  Sure, there are times when I forget and have a moment or two where my vision is blurred and I react as opposed to respond to life, but I am still learning.

So, why am I telling you all this?

I’m telling you because there are SO many wonderful changes that come with living the life of your dreams aside from the ‘stuff’.  Your mental shifts are worth more than the money, the house, the car, the job etc.  Your mental shifts are incidentally what help you create the life of your dreams and help you when shit happens afterward.

In addition to ‘having it all’, you will:

  • Learn to respond to life in a loving way
  • Enjoy life so much more even with the ups and downs
  • Know that when shit happens, it doesn’t last forever
  • Be the example for others to do the same

And when I think back to those very important details about living this life, I find them to be far more valuable than the ‘stuff’.

There is so much to be gained in living the life of your dreams and if you aren’t currently living a life you love, what are you willing to change?

0001-23099893I currently have 2 spots left in my Breakthrough Program for February!  This is my signature program that will not only shift your mindset, but help you create the life you’ve always wanted.  If you’ve been thinking about how to take the next step toward your dream life, this is it!

Schedule your 30-Minute Consultation today to see if we are a good fit.  I look forward to connecting with you!

 

What’s Too Good for YOU?

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So, I’ve been thinking a lot about manifesting and creating a life we love and I keep coming up against this common theme.  It’s something I remember thinking about a few years ago in a positivity training for a job I was working at the time.  We were given an exercise to think of our dream car.

As my fellow co-workers were scribbling away on their note cards, I was stumped. I didn’t have a dream car per se.  If it was reliable, had good gas mileage, and didn’t look too bad on the outside, it was a good option for me.  Up until that moment I’d never thought about what my dream car might be.

The facilitator apparently had come across this before and encouraged us to come up with our dream car regardless of how tough it might be.  Once I had an answer down (I don’t even remember at this point what that was), he asked a question that has stuck with me over the years.

What’s too good for you?

When we think about what we want in life, we often imagine what is ‘realistic’ and ‘logical’ for us based on what we know about our lives, income level etc.  When I was thinking of my dream car, a Rolls Royce didn’t quite match my vision.  In my mind that was something that was just too good for me.  (It also isn’t something I would want to drive now anyways.)

Several years later that question has come up in many conversations with clients.  Thinking of the life they would love to live, they begin using their logic to come up with what they desire.  When I tell them to throw logic to the wind, sometimes it’s still difficult to come up with the ideal life because there are things that just feel too good for them.

Why is that?

What is it about a life that feels amazing inside and out that scares us or causes us to pull back a bit?

Is it the fear of disappointment?

The thought we don’t deserve it?

Or maybe it’s just a matter of wondering if it’s possible to really have it all?

For so long we’ve been taught some messed up lessons about abundance, love, and living a happy life that we grow up thinking it’s only meant for some people, but certainly not us.

Lessons like: If you have love, be happy you have it because very few have love AND money.

We’ve been taught that it’s possible for a select few…the rich and famous, the extremely talented people that we see on television every day, but not little ‘ole us.

That’s a LIE.

We all have the same abilities to create and craft the amazing life of our dreams.  With love, abundance, success, joy, family, community, creativity, and freedom.  ALL OF US.

And as soon as you decide that you can have it all and that there is nothing too good for you, you will begin to see shifts happen almost instantly in your life. I promise.

This isn’t about having all the money in the world or driving the most expensive car.  This is about living a life that resonates with YOU.  That illustrates what is most important to you.  THAT is what the life of your dreams is about.

So, today I ask you…what’s too good for you to be, have, or do?

My answer? Nothing.

And if you are willing to make the decision to stand in your creative power to make your life all you have ever wanted, I have two things that may be of interest to you.

Add subtitle text(3)February 1st begins the Magical Manifesting journey where I will be taking a group of like-minded souls on a practical journey to tap into the creative manifesting power we all have within. To learn together, support one another, and to apply the Law of Attraction to craft and create the life of your dreams. 6-weeks together with amazing, magical results.  You can learn more about the program and get signed up here.

 

0001-23099893For those of you looking for a more 1:1 approach, I have a few spots left for my signature Breakthrough Program.  90-Days to dig into what you want and what’s holding you back while providing support as you take the steps you need to begin living the life of your dreams today.  You can learn more about that program and sign up for a free 30-minute consultation here.

There’s no reason to think that you have to settle for a life that doesn’t feel good.  I want to help more women like you show up and embrace the life you deserve and feel good about it.

Now is your time..are you ready?

Walking My Talk & Investing in Me

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photo credit: thinkpanama via photopin cc

A few weeks back I wrote this post about the importance of investing in yourself.  I felt a fire in my belly as I wrote it because I do believe we each deserve to invest the time, effort, and money into who we want to be.  Whether we are treating ourselves to a nice hair cut or coffee or hiring a personal coach to help us get to our goals, we deserve it.  And what I was getting at in that post was that far too many people don’t see the value in doing those things.

Looking back at it now I found, I was one of them.

Even as I wrote the post, I could feel the resistance building within about a particular investment that I knew I needed to make, but was deeply afraid of.  I could feel myself splitting hairs because while I am more likely to treat myself to nice things and invest time into myself, investing large sums of money into my own personal growth hadn’t happened.

So what wasn’t I doing that I knew I needed to do?

I wasn’t hiring the coach I knew I needed.

Here I was a life coach who was asking the amazing women that needed me most to invest in themselves by working with me and I wasn’t willing to do the same thing.

Sure, I had a ton of excuses as to why I couldn’t do it.

  • I don’t have the money.
  • I don’t have the time.
  • Is that what I really need right now?

But what I was really afraid of was this:

I wasn’t 100% sure the coaching would work for me.

Yep, even as a coach that works with clients daily on mindset stuff, I was dealing with my own gremlins.

I was afraid that it wouldn’t work for me. That my business was somehow different from all the success stories I had heard from other women who had worked with this particular coach.  I let fear win.

But then…

A few weeks after I wrote that post about investing in yourself, I felt this intuitive pull to hire an EFT practitioner to help me through some of the gremlins I was working through.  I didn’t think twice, I just signed up and took the leap.  And I have to tell you it was one of the best things I have done for myself AND my business in a long time.

But I didn’t stop there, I also invested in some additional training for social media work I desperately needed.  (cha-ching)

And that wasn’t it either.  A week after investing in that, I invested in the coach I needed to hire to begin with.  She had an offer I couldn’t refuse and to be honest, my intuition was telling me this was something I needed.  Not just for my business and personal growth, but also because it was way past time for me to walk my talk.

In the last month or so of investing in myself and my business, I learned that my fears were unfounded.  After my first investment in the EFT session, I saw immediate results in my business.  I had new clients coming out of the woodwork and was amazed at it all.  After the second investment, more amazing things were happening. More inspiration, clients, and opportunities were flowing and after investing in my coach…well the same thing happened.

It boils down to this.  When you decide to invest time, money, and energy into yourself, the Universe begins to take you more seriously and miraculous things start happening.

So, my dear dreamer…when was the last time you took the leap and invested the $$ into yourself, your dreams, and your goals?

I know it’s scary. I know you wonder if it will work for you.  You wonder if it’s the ‘right’ step for you and I assure you, if you are thinking of hiring a coach, it IS the right step for you.  Listen to your intuition and follow the tug of your heart. Now is your time to shine an I want to help you in any way that I can.

I am only taking 4 more clients for my 90-Day Breakthrough program for 2014, so if you have been thinking about taking the leap, now is your chance.  I’m scheduling 30-Minute Consultations for the rest of the month to fill these spots so if you are interested, schedule yours fast.  

P.S. I also have a free call coming up on November 18th at 8pm EST titled: Ho-Hum to Hell-Yeah: Helping you do more of what you love NOW.  Who says you have to wait until all your dreams come true to live a life you love?  I am going to help you turn your ho-hum life into one that makes you scream ‘Hell Yeah!’ with just a few simple tweaks. Sign up to receive all the call details here! Can’t wait to chat with you. 🙂 

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Moving Through the Storm and Into the Sunrise

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Last week I shared a few videos on how to add a bit more self-care into every single day.  It seems fitting since this week I need not only a little, but it seems quite a lot.

I am moving through a period of transformation not just in my business, but also in my personal life.  I am uncovering another layer of who I am and learning to be with whatever comes up which for me can be a pretty emotional process.  You see, I am realizing that some of the lessons I thought I learned (and incidentally mastered) are resurfacing for deeper clearing and healing.  It’s like going through college and taking Psych 101 and moving onto Psych 205.  More info, more processing, more to integrate into everyday living.

So here I am in the center of what I call for my clients a ‘blissful breakthrough‘ though I am not quite at the bliss yet.  I’m still in the uncovering, releasing, and accepting phase.  Loosening old thoughts that have been lodged in my psyche for as long as I can remember.  Letting go of the crud that has weighed me down over the years and releasing the expectation that the world must shift in order for me to stay present, be successful, and happy.

As far as shifts go, I know them well.  I have gone through many periods of growth followed by long periods of plateau and here I am in the growth phase once again.  And in my experience after the emotional upheaval that may come, the silence, and the shift comes incredible clarity.

It’s almost like being in the middle of a treacherous storm.  Heavy rain, powerful wind, and old debris falling away only to be followed by the most amazing sunrise that only comes after a powerful storm.

The storm is your breakthrough.  The sunrise is your bliss.  Moments like these remind me why I am able to do the work I do.  It’s because I get it.  I’ve been there and am still learning, growing, and evolving.

As for the current lesson, I am allowing and not fighting it.  Accepting it and not resisting it because I know what lies on the other side of this and I have a choice.  I can fight it, hide it, and ignore  it or I can accept it, allow it, and choose to see the sunrise again.  I choose the sunrise.  Because even on the darkest day, with heavy rain, and crazy wind, I know the sun will rise again.

And while I am being a bit tight-lipped about the specifics of the lesson and my current situation, I want you to know this: Lessons in life are inevitable, but even with them all you get to decide how you feel, what you do, and what you want out of life.  So decide what you want and be willing to experience the lessons along the way and heal what needs to be healed.  It is there you will find your bliss.

<3 Lamisha