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Chronic Self-Sabotage: What’s “too good” for you?

February 17, 2016 by Lamisha

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What happens when life gets “too good”?

You know the moments when everything feels so easy and effortless.

You lose those 10 lbs with ease and blow your income goal out of the water without even breaking a sweat. And it just so happens to be the same day you hit all green lights going to work, stop by your favorite coffee shop to find that you are the 1000th customer and win free coffee for life! (My dream!) With a perma-grin on your face you float into work and find that you just got a huge bonus and you can’t help but ask…”How does it get any better than this?!”

Then…

Reality sets in and you start thinking about how perfect everything has been lately and you wonder why it’s all changed. What’s up? What’s new?

You get nervous. Anxiety strikes and your vibration immediately shifts and you almost don’t know how to handle this new found luck.

It feels foreign, unnatural for you, and while it’s been the best week of your life, you can’t quite shake this uneasy feeling.

Then…

You drive home worried, only to hit every single red light, get caught in traffic for hours and pull into the driveway to find not one, but two nails in your tires. You walk in the door, stub your toe, trip over the rug and do a giant face plant on the floor just before you hobble into the kitchen to find your pipes have burst and water is running all over your beautiful wood floors.

Your magical wonderland of a day has turned to shit in the matter of hours and you can’t quite figure out what has happened.

This is a wildly over exaggerated example of classic self-sabotage.

These are exactly the kinds of things you might see happen when life gets too good.

You might also experience things like, excessive bills after making quite a bit of money or quickly gaining back all the weight you recently lost. You might even find yourself manifesting fights with friends or loved ones or losing things you recently purchased.

And the list goes on.

What is self-sabotage & why do we do it?

As creatures of habit, human beings thrive on routines and knowing what to expect for the most part. When we start doing or experiencing things that are outside of what we have come to expect and what has been comfortable for us (even if it’s uncomfortable and we want to change it.), we tend to create situations (subconsciously) to bring our experiences back to ‘reality’.

Have you ever noticed how you tend to hit a limit when it comes to your income, weight loss, or another similar goal? You hit that magic number and can’t seem to break through the ceiling?

You may have hit what Gay Hendricks in his book The Big Leap calls an upper limit problem.

When things get too good, too fast, we tend to unconsciously (and energetically) pump the breaks and sabotage our success.

Logically it doesn’t make sense, but it’s something we all do from time-to-time. It’s also what tends to happen when we expand our experience without also expanding our mindset.

Your mindset is the key to overcoming (and limiting) the self-sabotaging behavior that might come up as you continue to grow and evolve. By clearing the blocks and limiting beliefs we have about what is normal for us, we open our minds and lives to endless possibilities, therefore limiting any future self-sabotage.

The moral of the story is this: When you do your mindset work, you will not only create amazing experiences in your life, but you’ll also continue expanding beyond your current limits.

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Ask the Coach: Q & A part 2

December 2, 2015 by Lamisha

Q: What are the steps to manifestation, i.e. from Intention to actual Manifestation?

This is a question I get a lot and it’s one of my favorite things to talk about! So, the basic steps to manifestation are as follows: Set your intention or desire, TRUST it and let it go. Now that’s the easy explanation of course and there are lots of things that can get in the way.

Many people ask about taking action and what it is that we have to ‘DO’ to make our desires manifest. The truth is you just follow the next inspired step, but you typically don’t do it as a way to manifest. Meaning, you are simply taking action because you feel inspired to, not because you feel you need to do it to manifest that thing you desire. So, the EASIEST way to manifest is to be clear about what you desire and feel good about it. Raise your vibes and do what you love while letting go of the outcome.

Your vibration and energy matter more than anything you can say or do so if you are feeling good then you are in the right space to manifest.

And also, what types of blocks are possible + what to do to unblock and pursue?

There are all kinds of beliefs or blocks that can get in the way of manifesting some of which are:

Thinking it has to be hard
Not fully trusting or believing
Not letting go of the outcome
Micro-managing the ‘how’
Allowing your current reality to set your vibration

MOST people get caught up in not fully believing that they can manifest their desires or getting caught up in ‘how’ it will happen. The thing to remember with manifesting is that the Universe doesn’t operate using logic like humans do. It uses the path of least resistance based on what we can allow. Anything is possible with the power of the Universe, but you have to know that is true and let go of ‘how’ you think it ‘should’ come to you and what you think is most realistic. The Universe doesn’t care about reality. It’s an unlimited source of all knowledge, resources, and abundance.

When you have blocks like these there are a few ways to clear them. One of my favorites is EFT-Emotional Freedom Technique. This allows you to release the negative thought and the energy within it to make room for a better, higher vibration to help you manifest.

You can also build new beliefs by using affirmations, mantras, meditation, etc. that basically rewire your brain to see infinite possibilities and know that anything is possible.

The key ingredient to releasing blocks and manifesting with ease and race is to just let go…I know it’s easier said than done sometimes, but it is KEY.

I’ll be teaching more about this in my upcoming Instant Manifesting program in January, so if you are interested in learning more about how this works, please sign up to my VIP list to gain access first!

Got questions you want answered?

Drop them in the comments below and I’ll be sure to get them answered.

You don’t know, what you don’t know…

June 3, 2015 by Lamisha

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A few years ago when I was still working in the corporate world, I had a boss that used to say “They don’t know, what they don’t know and it is our job to teach them”.

At the time it didn’t really make sense and since I didn’t care much for this particular boss and how she ran the company, I just let it go.

But, just the other day I was chatting with my wife and that quote came to mind and it totally resonated.

It was like a light switch had turned on and I finally understood what she meant and it 100% applies to what I do in my work every single day.

Truth be told, I’m more than a coach. I am much more of a teacher and the coaching work I do helps to bring to light the things that my amazing clients can’t quite see.

I help them tune into the things they can’t tune into.

I help them break through the mental blocks they didn’t know they had.

And then I TEACH them how to do all of that themselves (using tools like the ones I teach in the Grow, Evolve, Become program) because my work is all about EMPOWERMENT.

Now, does this mean I can help everyone in the world? No.

And even if it did mean that, it’s really not my purpose.

The women who are destined to work with me are already undergoing a transformation. They know that there is something out there that they don’t quite know and subconsciously they are seeking a way to find the answer. They may not even know it until it pops up in their newsfeed or they stumble upon one of my articles.

In fact this very thing happened for one of my recent clients:

“There is an expression that “when the student is ready, the teacher will appear.” How grateful am I that Lamisha was that teacher and the Universe literally put her in my path, because that is what happened: Lamisha appeared in my Facebook feed and, through conversation, we found each other.” ~ V.F.

That is the true magic of this work. When you are ready for change (and you are open), the person, group, network, or resource you need just pops up seemingly from out of nowhere and when you follow your inspired action-magic happens.

So what kinds of things don’t people know?

Some people:

Don’t know that THEY are the creators of their own reality and have the ability to create a life they LOVE.
Aren’t aware of how important how they FEEL is to creating that amazing life
Don’t know about the Law of Attraction
Aren’t clear on the ways they are blocking what they desire from coming into their lives
Don’t know that it can be EASY
Just don’t know HOW to make it all happen

Do any of those things resonate for you?

Today, I want you to ask yourself a few questions:

What do I LOVE about my life?
What do I ACHE for in my future?
What don’t I know that might change my life and future forever?
What do I need to DO right now to move me forward?

It may be hard to figure out what it is you don’t know right now because, well you don’t know it, but you might just get an answer that surprises you. Be open to what may come up and LISTEN.

And if you are feeling the pull to reach out for help, why not schedule a Free 30-Minute Connection Call? I’d love to chat with you and learn a bit more about you and help in any way I can.

Get Your Mind Set for a Positive Mindset in 3 Easy Steps

January 20, 2015 by Lamisha

One of my super powers is helping women get really clear on the BS that is holding them back. Let’s be honest, we all have some thought or belief that keeps us hiding in the shadows afraid to share our light with the world.

I’m not good enough…

I’m not smart enough…

I won’t do it as well as them….

I don’t have the money to….

Whatever lies you are hearing in your head every time you think about taking the BIG LEAP into the life of your dreams…they are wrong.

100% Bullshit.

So, how do you reverse them and get our mind ready for success?

You do it with these 3 steps.

Tell a different story. It’s time to let the old story go and rewrite it. Instead of harping on the woes that you keep believing are true, tell the story as you wish it to be. Affirmations work wonders so start there. For instance, I’m AMAZING at what I do. People love connecting with me! I have a set of unique skills that connect with the right people. I have more than enough money to take care of all of my wants and needs.

Focus on the good…daily. You have control over your mindset every single day. You decide what you focus on and that determines how you feel and what you create in your life. Don’t like how things are going? Shift your focus to something better. Develop a practice that feels good to you and do it on a daily basis. Whether that is keeping a gratitude journal or writing a list of all the things you love about life, focus on the good and more good will flow to you.

Immerse yourself in inspiration. There is nothing more powerful than feeling inspired and allowing that feeling to take you away into the world of doing he impossible. Surround yourself with people, books, quotes, movies, media, music, and anything else that inspires and uplifts your soul. It will not only raise your vibration, but it will also keep your head in the clouds where anything you desire is possible. Build on that every day and before you know it those gremlin thoughts will be packing up their stuff and moving out because they can’t live in the world of magic and miracles.

Your mindset is everything. It’s the breath of your dreams and the thing that will hold you back or catapult your dreams into another stratosphere and the best part of all is you get to control it.

Let your mindset be your greatest manifesting ally and enjoy every moment of your dream life because with a positive mind, you can do anything.

P.S. If your mindset junk is giving you trouble and you need help busting the BS so you can finally manifest the magical life you’ve always wanted schedule a FREE 30-Minute Consultation here.

How Words Can Become Blocks…

October 28, 2014 by Lamisha

I first want to say thank you to everyone who read, commented, shared, and responded to my latest article in the Huffington Post titled: 12 Universal Laws That Will Change Your Life for the Better. I am deeply grateful to everyone for your kindness and am looking forward to connecting with each of you either through my blog, on Facebook, Twitter, or by working with you one-on-one.

It’s long been said that words have power and when you think of that phrase you probably think of ‘positive’ or ‘negative’ thoughts. You might think of words that empower us and uplift versus those that tear us down. And while there are words that generally create a positive or negative feel to them, I want to talk about something a bit different.

I want to talk about words like ’email’ or ‘sales’ or ‘newsletter’ or ‘career’ or ‘money’ or ‘abundance’ or other seemingly simple words that might be thought of as neutral.

Even neutral words can be charged with a positive or negative vibe depending on how we feel about them. One word might resonate positively for me, but for you it might feel a bit negative or heavy.

So, why am I talking about words and vibes?

Because many times the words we use (and the vibes attached to those words) hold us back in some way.

I’ll give you an example:

A few months back I was working with a lovely client who is also an entrepreneur. She is incredible at what she does and is very good about making a list and doing what needs to be done except for when it came to her newsletter. (Those of you in the business world know how much emphasis is put on your list and the newsletters you send to your list.)

My dear client was stuck. No matter how many times that newsletter ended up on her to-do list, it never got done. She procrastinated, avoided it, and would do 100 other things before she would think of taking care of the newsletter.

Why?

Because the idea of it was overwhelming. The importance and power that was placed on the dreaded newsletter made her cringe. She wanted it to be perfect and couldn’t bring herself to sit for the amount of time it would take her to get it to perfect.

After some digging we realized it wasn’t the actual newsletter that was sending her running for the hills. It was the vibration and feeling that was attached to it that was.

I suggested that instead of thinking of it as a newsletter she think of it as just an email. She sends emails every day to her clients so what is one more? Changing the word also changed the vibration that was attached to the activity. She no longer needed to fret about sending perfect emails because she emails were easy for her.

Words can become like brick walls, blocking you from being, having, or doing exactly what you need to get to where you are going.

If negatively charged words are your issue (and I assure you we all have something like that), then it can be as simple as shifting the word a bit which also shifts the vibe.

I’ll give you another example.

Just yesterday I had a conversation with another client who was struggling with doing ‘sales pitches’. Every time she got to the sales part of her call, she would freeze up and stumble a bit. She didn’t want to be pushy or sales-y or sleazy about it and desperately needed to find a comfortable way of dealing with sales.

I noticed the negative charge she gave to the word ‘sales’ and we chatted about changing the idea of a ‘sales pitch’ to simply an invitation, because really that’s all it is. The word invitation instantly feels lighter, brighter, and open. She immediately felt the difference and felt better about inviting clients to make life changes.

Sometimes the blocks you are feeling have very simple fixes. Change the word, you change the vibration. Words like ‘money’, ‘abundance’, ‘prosperity’, ‘rich’, etc. also have the potential to have a ton of vibrational baggage that comes along with them.

Are there any words that feel heavy, dark, or do you feel resistance to? Share in the comments below and let’s see if we can do a simple flip to change the vibes. It can make all the difference in how you feel.

P.S. Friday is the last day to sign up for my Coach on Call offer and I only have a few openings left. If you are interested in signing up, but want to chat a bit first to make sure we are a good fit, schedule your 30-Minute Consultation HERE. I look forward to chatting with you!