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3 Things I No Longer Believe About Money Thanks to Denise Duffield-Thomas

July 7, 2015 by Lamisha

Money is always a funny topic to talk about and for so many people it’s wiggle in their seat uncomfortable.

I used to feel the same way before I had done any mindset work around the topic.

In fact, for a long time my relationship with money was…well tumultuous.

I had a love/hate relationship with it.

Never really knowing what it felt like to always have more than enough, I was anxious at the thought of money for anything. Spending it, making it, asking for raises, and dealing with debt made me cringe. I thought having just enough to get by was a good thing and never dreamed that one day I would be an entrepreneur who’s only income was based on my gifts and talents.

(GASP)

Parts of me believed money was always hard to get and keep. Growing up in a single parent household, money was tight most of the time and I learned never to ask for much more than what I actually needed because I didn’t want to add to the stress and anxiety of making ends meet.

As soon as I was old enough to work, I got multiple jobs because I thought that is what I had to do to survive and contribute in the world.

What I didn’t realize is that it was all in my head and that my thoughts were creating my reality.

Since then, I’ve made some big shifts to my mindset to really dig in and change my relationship with money and one of the BIGGEST things I have done is make an investment in myself by way of Denise Duffield-Thomas and her Lucky Bitch Money Bootcamp.

In the last year I have learned SO much about my money mindset and how to shift it and it’s changed everything for me.

Thanks to Denise the top 3 things I no longer believe about money are:

1. Money is a limited supply and if I have more, you get less. I used to live with the atrocious belief that if I have more it means you get less or vice versa. I thought that somewhere there was a big vat of money that was in circulation and if I had more than my ‘fair’ share, then someone else had to have less because….math. But what I have learned is that not only is there MORE than enough to go around, I have the ability and control to manifest as much or as little as I want…when my mindset is in the right place.

2. Money is hard. From the time I started working, I thought I had to work long hours and several jobs to make enough money to live. I pushed hard and at one point was working 3 jobs just to have a bit of extra spending money. It wasn’t fun and no matter how many hours I worked or how much overtime I volunteered for, it seemed like I could never get ahead. After working through the bootcamp (and soon moving through it a second time), I found that money didn’t have to be hard. That with the right mindset and focus, money could flow to me with ease and grace and it does on a regular basis.

3. You can’t do what you love AND make a boatload of cash. When I graduated college I didn’t know anyone who was doing what they loved and making money doing it. Honestly everyone I knew (adults included) was working in a job they didn’t necessarily hate (though some totally did) to make ends meet. They chose the path of least resistance so they could work, live, and save for retirement when they were finally ready to live a life they loved. I followed suit until my passion became louder than my logic and I decided to follow my heart. Starting my business I still had no idea how I would make enough money to replace a full-time income, but what Denise showed me is that it is not only possible, but 100% probable when your mindset is in the right place. (Do you see a theme here?)

Now, I’ve taken what I have learned over the years about money and mindset and I use it to help other women do the things they once thought were impossible. And I openly and honestly share my journey because I want you to know that this didn’t happen overnight. I made an investment in changing my relationship with money by investing in Denise’s Lucky Bitch Money Bootcamp.

It’s been a game changer for me as a woman, a mother, a wife, and an entrepreneur. But the truth is you don’t have to be all of those things for this to help you. The insight and support Denise provides in her program is unlike anything I’ve ever done and this month she is closing out the old program and will be releasing the new program at a new, higher rate.

If shifting your mindset around money is something you feel called to do, I encourage you to check her out. (Full-disclosure: I am an affiliate for Denise’s program only because I 100% believe in what she is doing and I am a part of her amazing community. So, any purchases you make through the links I share with you will result in me being compensated. )

And if this is the first time you have ever heard about Denise, she is hosting a FREE webinar tonight at 7pm EST to discuss Mindset Shifts You Need to Create Passive Income. It’s free and if you can’t make it live, sign-up using the link so you will get the recording.

You can also check out more info about the bootcamp here or check out her amazing free resources that I share with all of my clients because they are awesome!

If you are looking for even more mindset help in general, I am hosting a FREE Mindset Makeover Challenge in my Love Your Life Tribe on Facebook starting Monday July 13th and I’d love for you to join us. This group is full of amazing women like YOU who are looking to create an open, airy, love-filled life of their dreams. You will be in amazing company.

Mindset Mastery: Why you need it.

February 6, 2015 by Lamisha

When I was growing up there was a quote that was very popular and it was this:

“You can do anything you set your mind to.” Benjamin Franklin

At the time it felt like just another after school special that was trying to get kids to do the right thing and never give up.

I was a teenager and didn’t really believe it all that much…until now.

Living the life that I have lived and with all the research and focus I have put on the Law of Attraction and living the life of my dreams, I know that those words are completely true, but something is missing.

It’s not just about putting your mind (and action) into something, it’s also about knowing without a shadow of a doubt that you CAN and WILL accomplish whatever you are striving for.

The action comes secondary to what you believe about what you can and cannot achieve. If you don’t believe you can do it, the action is worthless because you won’t make it happen if you don’t believe you can.

“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t–you’re right.” Henry Ford

How you think and feel about your dreams are the MOST important part of the puzzle, in fact it is where it all begins. If you don’t think you can have the career, the love, the joy, the money, and the family you desire all at once…you’ll never have it.

If you don’t think you can make 6-figures in your creative business…you never will.

If you don’t think it’s possible for you to be happy doing work you love while traveling the world…you won’t even try.

If you don’t think that abundance and joy is for you (but apparently is for everyone else around you) then you will always attract the opposite of those things into your life.

Your mindset can be your biggest enemy if you don’t deal with the beliefs that are holding you back now.

One of the most important things I do with clients is to identify the beliefs and mindset issues they never knew they had. In fact they rarely even see them! All they see is that they aren’t manifesting the money they want, the job they desire, or the love of their life. They see the result of a faulty mindset.

That’s where I come in. I not only help you shift the shit that lies in the dark corners of your mind, but I provide action steps to keep those corners light, bright, and dust-bunny-free.

We all have mindset stuff creep in every now and then, but if left unchecked it can and will sabotage every action you take to make things better.

You cannot achieve what you think is impossible.

So my question is what are you willing to do to shift your mindset so you can have all that you desire? If you are struggling to make the shift alone and you have tried many times to make it happen to no avail, it’s time for help.

From now until February 17th I am offering my new Mindset Mastery Sessions at an introductory rate of $150. These sessions will go up to $397 on February 18th. In 1 hour we will get clear on the beliefs that are holding you back, create some simple shifts to clear them up, and provide you with action steps to continue to take so you can move forward and keep your mindset positive and productive. Click the image below to snag your spot!

There’s no reason to let your mindset issues linger and keep you back from everything you desire…it’s time to make a chance.

Moving Through the Storm and Into the Sunrise

June 3, 2014 by Lamisha

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Last week I shared a few videos on how to add a bit more self-care into every single day. It seems fitting since this week I need not only a little, but it seems quite a lot.

I am moving through a period of transformation not just in my business, but also in my personal life. I am uncovering another layer of who I am and learning to be with whatever comes up which for me can be a pretty emotional process. You see, I am realizing that some of the lessons I thought I learned (and incidentally mastered) are resurfacing for deeper clearing and healing. It’s like going through college and taking Psych 101 and moving onto Psych 205. More info, more processing, more to integrate into everyday living.

So here I am in the center of what I call for my clients a ‘blissful breakthrough‘ though I am not quite at the bliss yet. I’m still in the uncovering, releasing, and accepting phase. Loosening old thoughts that have been lodged in my psyche for as long as I can remember. Letting go of the crud that has weighed me down over the years and releasing the expectation that the world must shift in order for me to stay present, be successful, and happy.

As far as shifts go, I know them well. I have gone through many periods of growth followed by long periods of plateau and here I am in the growth phase once again. And in my experience after the emotional upheaval that may come, the silence, and the shift comes incredible clarity.

It’s almost like being in the middle of a treacherous storm. Heavy rain, powerful wind, and old debris falling away only to be followed by the most amazing sunrise that only comes after a powerful storm.

The storm is your breakthrough. The sunrise is your bliss. Moments like these remind me why I am able to do the work I do. It’s because I get it. I’ve been there and am still learning, growing, and evolving.

As for the current lesson, I am allowing and not fighting it. Accepting it and not resisting it because I know what lies on the other side of this and I have a choice. I can fight it, hide it, and ignore it or I can accept it, allow it, and choose to see the sunrise again. I choose the sunrise. Because even on the darkest day, with heavy rain, and crazy wind, I know the sun will rise again.

And while I am being a bit tight-lipped about the specifics of the lesson and my current situation, I want you to know this: Lessons in life are inevitable, but even with them all you get to decide how you feel, what you do, and what you want out of life. So decide what you want and be willing to experience the lessons along the way and heal what needs to be healed. It is there you will find your bliss.

<3 Lamisha

Investing in Yourself

April 4, 2014 by Lamisha

Another theme I keep coming across in my own life and the lives of my clients is self-care. More specifically how difficult it is to invest the time, money, and space to really support ourselves in the way we need.

Is self-care a pain point for you?

Do you often find yourself overly exhausted, worried, frustrated, or saying ‘yes’ to everyone else but yourself?

It’s time to stop all that nonsense and begin investing in yourself.

I know there are a million reasons not to do it and to be honest, the ones I hear the most comes down to money and time.

We all have money stuff. We either believe there isn’t enough or what we have is all we will ever make, but that’s not true. There is plenty to go around and investing in yourself is one of the best ways to bring more into your life. Sounds a bit backwards I know, but when you are stressed, frustrated, angry, and living in a mindset of lack, do you find you are met with even more lack? It’s likely you are. But, what if you took some time for yourself to relax a bit. Get a massage, treat yourself to a manicure, purchase a course that can change your life, or hire a coach to help you reach the next level of your dreams? Wouldn’t that feel good?

At first the thought of spending money on things that aren’t ‘needs’ can scare the pants off some people and create anxiety especially if money seems to be a bit tighter than usual. And while I am not a ‘money coach’ per se, I do a lot of work with my clients on their money stuff because it’s a part of the beliefs and blocks that hold us back. Our relationship with money can be quite stressed depending on how we grew up, what we were taught, and the messages we heard and in turn believed about it. The same goes for spending money on seemingly frivolous things.

The truth is that investing in yourself is not frivolous or irresponsible. It is a necessary part of self-care and life in general. We aren’t here to simply survive and live paycheck to paycheck or to scrimp and save every penny we have. We are supposed to enjoy life, feel good, and take care of ourselves, but I often find some people just aren’t ready to take the leap. If that is you, then I invite you to start small.

Treat yourself to coffee every once in a while if that is your thing. Or go buy a good book that you have been dying to read and know that it’s OK to invest in yourself. And should you find yourself wondering about hiring a coach or enrolling in a course that is calling to you, do it!

There are always reasons not to invest in yourself and your dreams. Money is tight, the car might need fixing, the kids college fund needs to be bigger, or you just don’t believe it will make a difference, but I assure you that you will be better off if and when you do.

I am not asking you to dump your responsibilities and quit your job to invest in yourself, but I am asking you to get in touch with what you really want and need right now and allow your intuition to guide you. I believe wholeheartedly in the powers of the Universe guiding us to the people, articles, books, quotes, tools etc. that we need in the moment so you being here is not a fluke. Listen with your heart and get busy enjoying this amazing gift we have called life!

You know what’s funny? I get many of the same complaints and excuses when it comes to the time factor too. There seems to never be enough time to invest in yourself, but the truth is you just haven’t made it a priority. I invite you to make yourself, your self-care, your growth, and your dreams a priority. The world needs to see your light shine and you deserve to live a life of excitement, abundance, and joy.

So I ask you, what can you do right now to invest in yourself?

If you have thought about working with a coach and haven’t taken the leap just yet, I would love to chat with you. I am taking on new clients for April and I want to hear about your dreams and goals. If I am not a good fit for you, I will help you find a coach that works for you. I want you to get what you need to make your dreams come alive, it’s as simple as that. Let’s schedule a 30-minute consultation to chat about what I do and what you want to achieve. Simple, free, and totally worth the time. Contact me today to get your consultation scheduled. I look forward to chatting with you!