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Top 5 limiting beliefs that may be holding you back…

April 28, 2017 by Lamisha

 

When it comes to our mind habits and limiting beliefs, there’s likely not a belief I haven’t seen or heard at this point.  In fact, there are quite a few that I hear over and over again and today I’m sharing them with you.

To be honest, many of these I’ve struggled with a lot over the years so I completely understand how difficult it can be to shift them…but it IS POSSIBLE.  I’m living proof and so are my clients.

Top 5 Limiting Beliefs (that may be holding you back)

  • I’m not enough.  This is your run of the mill belief that can stop any new venture, decision, opportunity, or potential success in its tracks.  It’s likely the one I hear the absolute most from people (many women in particular) and it runs DEEP.  The not enough-ness many times has no basis other than feeling like you aren’t good enough, smart enough, ready enough, strong enough, prepared enough, thin enough, rich enough…you name it.  It’s also the belief that keeps people playing small and ultimately paralyzed by fear of failure.
  • I’m not worthy.  This one runs a close second to the one above.  Somehow, somewhere along the lines many of us have internalized the message that we aren’t worthy of amazing things happening to us and for us.  We often believe that somehow we are ultimately flawed and thereby don’t deserve the riches, success, joy, love, excitement, adventure, ease, and flow that we desire.  And if by chance we allow a little bit of that into our lives…we feel guilty and shut that shit down, because who are WE to have all the good stuff?
  • It has to be hard.  Likely drilled into us from past generations, far too many of us struggle with the belief that anything worth doing has to be hard and if it comes easily, it’s just not worth it.  Easy feels like cheating.  Hard is where you prove to yourself just how strong, powerful, and worthy you are because isn’t that what life is all about? (Spoiler alert: No, it’s not.  Life is meant to be enjoyed.). Yes, there are times on your path that may feel difficult, but that’s not the way it always has to be.
  • It’s not meant for me. When it comes to success, love, money, and happiness, many people believe that they are somehow different from the next guy.  Sure they can have the success, adventure, and ultimately happy life, but it’s just not in the cards for me.  I’m meant to suffer.  (Wrong!) This belief causes us to believe that somehow we are so different in who we are that the miracles and magic of the world are set aside for a select few and we just aren’t a part of that crowd.
  • You can’t have it all.  This belief has been one of my biggest struggles by far.  For a long time I believed that “having it all” was a myth.  I thought that if you had the riches and success, you couldn’t have true love.  If you had a happy, humble home life, you couldn’t also have the powerful career and money.  You had to simply choose what is most important and allow that to be the “good” you allow into your life.  The truth is that is total BS.  You can have it all, the moment you nip this gnarly belief in the bud.
And let’s not even talk about the Money Beliefs we carry with us…actually, let’s talk about them for a moment!

Money is such a funny topic (not funny-haha, but funny as in weird) for people.

Whether you realize it or not, you likely are carrying some really heavy money-related junk with you from your parents, grandparents, and family.  We all have some money stuff (or had it at some point in our lives) and it has a direct effect on how we view, manage, receive, manifest, earn, and handle money today.

Here are a few common ones that you might resonate with…

  • “Money is hard to make.”
  • “Money doesn’t grow on trees.”
  • “No matter what I do, there’s never enough.”
  • “Rich people are jerks, selfish, and self-serving.”
  • “I don’t have enough.”
  • “Money isn’t important.”
  • “Money is the root of all evil.”
  • “To make a lot of money you have to sacrifice other things.”
  • “I’ll never be rich.”
Do any of these resonate for you?  (If so, I’d love to hear which ones, hit ‘reply’ and share a few that you carry around with you.)

If some of these resonate for you, I’d like you do a little experiment.  Take a look at your financial picture for a moment and notice what you see.  Are the numbers where you want them to be or do you find that you typically hover around a certain number?

Maybe you are like I was…struggling to make it from paycheck to paycheck or always feeling stress when it comes to money.  That was my reality for a very long time, until I started learning about my money mindset and changing the thoughts I was practicing within my mind.

The way you feel about money (and anything else) directly affects how money (or anything else) shows up for you in your life.

YOU have the ultimate creative power over your life when you accept that your mindset is what helped you to create where you are.  It’s nothing to be ashamed of, it’s just where you are now.  The key is deciding what you are going to do about it.

All of the beliefs I’ve listed above are things that have impacted my life and it was only when I was willing to do the work (the mindset work that is) to clear them out and began building positive habits in their place was I able to see the changes happening in my life.

Mindset work isn’t “magic”, but it sure feels that way once you begin.  You’ll ask yourself why you ever waited.

I don’t want you to wait anymore.
I don’t want you to struggle anymore.
And I certainly don’t want you to have regrets about not getting support when you needed it most.

So…if any or all of the beliefs above resonate for you then the Miracle Mindset Immersion Program is absolutely the program for you.
You’ve got nothing to lose and everything to gain.

So what do you say?  Are you in? If so, hit the info below and get signed up!

Regular Program  = $197

or

VIP (Includes 4 week program + 1- 45 Minute Coaching session) = $297

Sending massive love your way!

Filed Under: Authenticity, Being, Challenges, Inspiration, Intention, Life, Mindset, Planning Tagged With: beliefs, coaching, limiting beliefs, mindset, money, program, truths

Do the dirty work…

July 21, 2016 by Lamisha

photo credit:  via photopin (license)
photo credit: via photopin (license)

 

When it comes to doing mindset work, it’s a two pronged process.

MOST people know it as “thinking happy thoughts” and “being more positive”, but that only lasts a little while before the mindset gremlins jump in and attack all the positive thinking you’ve been doing.

You see, most people don’t think about doing the dirty work of mindset transformation.

Digging into the old, worn out, sabotaging beliefs that are holding you back.  They forget they are there and think that they can simply cover them with more positive thoughts to balance things out.

That’s simply not true.

In order to transform your life, you have to be willing to do the dirty work.

The digging. The uncovering. The illuminating.

Often times just giving those thoughts and gremlins a voice, you can weaken their power over you and your path.  By simply recognizing them, you open up the awareness to begin the shift.

The true shifts occur as you realize the ONLY reason your old beliefs were true is because you BELIEVED them.

So, what if you believed something else?

What if you could step into a new reality and believe the exact opposite of what you believe now?

What would that look like for you?

It would look like a new life, new reality, and new experiences born seemingly instantly.  It would appear as though your new reality was manifesting before your very eyes and the only way to keep it that way is to reprogram your beliefs to EXPECT this new reality to remain normal for you.

You can’t shift beliefs you don’t know you have.

  • If you are having money issues (not enough, lots of debt etc.) then you must look at what you think and believe about money.
  • If you are having issues with love and relationships (cheating partners, always feeling lonely etc.) then you must look at what you think and believe about love and relationships.

You can’t change what you are unaware of so doing the dirty work of mindset transformation is KEY.

Have you done it lately?

If you are reading this, you probably haven’t because it’s uncomfortable and scary.  No one willingly goes into the dark cave to excavate the sleeping bears and bats do they?

They do if they want to create a new space filled with light, love, and joy.

Has your mindset work consisted mostly of “thinking happy thoughts” and “being more positive?”

If so, you likely aren’t seeing huge shifts in your life.  Unless you are willing to do the knitty gritty work that comes with mindset transformation, you aren’t going to see lasting changes in your life.

BUT…if you are brave enough to do the dirty work AND the light work then you will see instant shifts in your life.

If you’ve never done mindset work and you are completely fed up with being and feeling stuck in a rut then I invite you to join us for the Miracle Mindset Immersion program.

This program is designed to not only do the dirty work of mindset transformation, but it also allows you to develop a mindset that is life giving, supportive for your new reality.  Through this 4 week program you will uncover, delete, disprove and transform your beliefs in ways you never thought possible, but beyond that you will begin to see instant shifts in your current reality and that is priceless.

The program begins on Monday and I’ve just added an extended payment option that makes it an easy yes. So what do you say?  Are you in?

Miracle Mindset Immersion Registration

Filed Under: Authenticity, Coaching, Inspiration, Mindset Tagged With: beliefs, mindset, mindset work, transformation, truth

Chronic Self-Sabotage: What’s “too good” for you?

February 17, 2016 by Lamisha

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What happens when life gets “too good”?

You know the moments when everything feels so easy and effortless.

You lose those 10 lbs with ease and blow your income goal out of the water without even breaking a sweat.  And it just so happens to be the same day you hit all green lights going to work, stop by your favorite coffee shop to find that you are the 1000th customer and win free coffee for life! (My dream!)  With a perma-grin on your face you float into work and find that you just got a huge bonus and you can’t help but ask…”How does it get any better than this?!”

Then…

Reality sets in and you start thinking about how perfect everything has been lately and you wonder why it’s all changed.  What’s up?  What’s new?

You get nervous.  Anxiety strikes and your vibration immediately shifts and you almost don’t know how to handle this new found luck.

It feels foreign, unnatural for you, and while it’s been the best week of your life, you can’t quite shake this uneasy feeling.

Then…

You drive home worried, only to hit every single red light, get caught in traffic for hours and pull into the driveway to find not one, but two nails in your tires.  You walk in the door, stub your toe, trip over the rug and do a giant face plant on the floor just before you hobble into the kitchen to find your pipes have burst and water is running all over your beautiful wood floors.

Your magical wonderland of a day has turned to shit in the matter of hours and you can’t quite figure out what has happened.

This is a wildly over exaggerated example of classic self-sabotage.

These are exactly the kinds of things you might see happen when life gets too good.

You might also experience things like, excessive bills after making quite a bit of money or quickly gaining back all the weight you recently lost.  You might even find yourself manifesting fights with friends or loved ones or losing things you recently purchased.

And the list goes on.

What is self-sabotage & why do we do it?

As creatures of habit, human beings thrive on routines and knowing what to expect for the most part.  When we start doing or experiencing things that are outside of what we have come to expect and what has been comfortable for us (even if it’s uncomfortable and we want to change it.), we tend to create situations (subconsciously) to bring our experiences back to ‘reality’.

Have you ever noticed how you tend to hit a limit when it comes to your income, weight loss, or another similar goal?  You hit that magic number and can’t seem to break through the ceiling?

You may have hit what Gay Hendricks in his book The Big Leap calls an upper limit problem.

When things get too good, too fast, we tend to unconsciously (and energetically) pump the breaks and sabotage our success.

Logically it doesn’t make sense, but it’s something we all do from time-to-time.  It’s also what tends to happen when we expand our experience without also expanding our mindset.

Your mindset is the key to overcoming (and limiting) the self-sabotaging behavior that might come up as you continue to grow and evolve.  By clearing the blocks and limiting beliefs we have about what is normal for us, we open our minds and lives to endless possibilities, therefore limiting any future self-sabotage.

The moral of the story is this: When you do your mindset work, you will not only create amazing experiences in your life, but you’ll also continue expanding beyond your current limits.

Want to learn more about how to create a mindset practice that works for you?  Get on the VIP list here if you aren’t already on it, as I’ll be sharing more info on how to do just that…absolutely free. <3

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Filed Under: Authenticity, Being, Coaching, Inspiration, Life Tagged With: beliefs, Blocks, mindset work, sabotage

Beliefs become your reality. What do you believe?

February 12, 2016 by Lamisha

One of the core pieces of breaking free from being stuck in any situation is identifying the beliefs that are creating your current reality and shifting them immediately.

Too often we use our outer reality to be the proof that we base our beliefs and inner truths on, when in actuality it should be the opposite.

What you believe CREATES your reality, not the other way around.  So, when you find yourself struggling financially, in relationships, in your career, or in any other area of your life, it’s key to understand what beliefs you have that might be holding you back.

Are you arguing for your limitations?  Ready to shift the shit and move on with your amazing life already?  Check out the video below.

 

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Filed Under: Authenticity, Being, Coaching, Intention, Life, Stuck Tagged With: belief, beliefs, life coach, limited beliefs, LOA, shift, truth

2016 Planning Party & 6 Beliefs You Need to Release Right Now

November 24, 2015 by Lamisha

EVERYTHING YOU'VE EVER WANTED IS ON THE OTHER SIDE OF FEAR

2016 is upon us and as we work our way forward to finish the year strong, I am setting up a fun and fabulous planning party for my tribe and I’m inviting YOU to be a part of it.

Last week I gave away 2 of the 2016 Create Your Shining Year Workbooks that I absolutely adore and the winners are also winning access to our 2016 Planning Party!

What is it?

It’s a private Facebook group where we get to connect, plan, share, and inspire one another to create the absolute BEST year ever!  It kicks off in December and will run through the end of January (unless of course we are having so much fun we can’t possibly shut the party down).

In addition to the fabulous planning and fun, you also get access to FREE Coaching threads where you can ask questions, get guidance and support in whatever area you may be struggling in.  It’s sure to be a free-flowing adventure for everyone!

If you are interested all you need to do is purchase your 2016 Planner HERE.  Once you’ve made your purchase, please email me at (lamisha@lifeoncedreamt.com) and I will confirm the purchase and send you the link to join the party.  Easy-Peasy!

If you want one of the physical planners you must purchase yours SOON.  I got word that the business planners are just about sold out and once they are gone, they are gone!  You can also purchase one of the digital planners if you prefer and have access to send one to a friend! What a great gift to give. 🙂

2016 here we come!!!

6_silver-line6 Beliefs You Need To Release Right NOW

I’m on a bit of a mindset rampage right now and beliefs are coming up BIG time in my 1:1 work right now.  How you think and feel about life and yourself is everything when it comes to living a happy life and these are some of the biggest most hairy, scary beliefs that I find are holding folks back.

  • It has to be hard.  Says WHO?  Says us apparently.  There are so many sayings that convince us that if we don’t work hard, try hard, or trudge through the tough stuff it’s not worth it, but I have seen a better way in action.  The easy way.  The way that feels magical and wondrous and so much fun!  It only has to be hard if you THINK it has to be.  That includes money, finding a career you love or finding your soulmate.  Decide right now that you deserve ease and grace and flow and I promise you are one step closer to it.

 

  • I’m not enough.  We all have these stories in our minds about how we aren’t pretty enough, smart enough, tall enough, rich enough etc. in order to achieve the life of our dreams.  But, here’s a funny thing…you are enough.  You are smart, funny, pretty, intelligent and any other thing you can come up with in order to ‘be’ enough.  And if you don’t have all the pieces, you have the potential and capabilities of getting it so, this belief is just a bunch of BS and it’s one we all hold onto a bit.  You are enough…period.
  • I don’t know ‘how’. This is a big one!  The truth is a lot of people didn’t know HOW to do something before they figured it out.  Thomas Edison and Albert Einstein didn’t know ‘how’ to do all they did, until they figured it out.  The truth is you don’t have to know HOW to do it…you just have to follow the next step and trust.  Sounds a bit elementary, but it’s the biggest thing I’ve learned in all of this work.  Trust that you will know ‘how’ when the time is right.  Always.
  • I’m not worthy.  Another biggie I hear from my clients.  So many people think they have to DO something to be worthy of their dreams.  You don’t.  You just have to have a desire and BOOM you are worthy of having it.  Of course, thinking you aren’t worthy creates feelings of unworthiness which compound in our reality with reasons we are unworthy.  Drop the story about why you aren’t worthy of living the life you desire and get on with living it already.  You are alive. You are breathing. You are here now.  You ARE worthy
  • It’s too late for me. It’s never too late to do the things you want to do or to be the person you want to be.  I don’t care how old you are or how many jobs you’ve had or how many mistakes you’ve made.  It’s never too late…ever.  If you have a desire in your soul to create, experience or live a vision in your mind then you have the power and time to make it happen.  Don’t let time be the limiting factor.  None of us really know how much time we have left right?  So hop to it already.  What are you waiting for my dear?
  • It’s just not in the cards for me.  So many people believe that when we are born we are given a hand of cards.  Some get the really good cards like the Aces and Kings while others get 2’s and 3’s and whatever hand we are dealt is it.  That’s all we get to play with.  Looking at the cards they see their future.  The possibilities or lack thereof and see what is limiting them in creating a life they love.  But, here’s the thing.  What if…you were the designer, developer and artist for your cards?  What if you didn’t actually get a hand of cards, but you get to hand-craft the cards (and possibilities) in your hand with a mere thought?  Good news! You do.  You get to choose what is in the cards for you by the power of your focus and mind, so let go of the BS story that it’s just not meant for you.  We are all cut from the same beautiful fabric and you are indeed the creator of your own reality.  Isn’t it time you started acting like it?

These are just a few of the beliefs I hear over and over again in my 1:1 work and if you have similar beliefs, they are limiting your potential more than you know.  Ditch them, dump them, and rebuild anew.  It’s time to step into your power especially as we enter into a new year.

Interested in getting help kicking your sabotaging beliefs to the curb?  Hit the button below and let’s chat.

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Filed Under: abundance, Life, Planning Tagged With: 2016, beliefs, New Year, planning

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