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7 Things I’m Afraid to Tell You…

October 13, 2016 by Lamisha

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A few years ago, I came across a blog post by another coach titled “Things I’m Afraid to Tell You”.

At this point, I can’t remember who that was, but I was intrigued by the concept and shared a few things with my tribe that I too was afraid to share and today I’m doing it again.

It’s always incredibly important to me that I be 100% honest and real with you because after all, I am only human. You may read some of these and find that I am no longer a coach you want to follow or find that I am exactly the kind of coach you want to be a part of your life. Either way, I know it’s all for the best.

So, without further ado (and more procrastinating) here we go!

I just pulled the plug on the 60-Day Momentum Mastermind. – You know that new blended program I put together and announced last week that was supposed to begin on Monday? Yep, I pulled the plug. The truth is, it was something I have been wanting to do for a long time (create a blended program), but something didn’t feel quite right about it. So, instead of trying to revive it in some way, I’m pulling the plug. There is a part of me that is slightly embarrassed, yet also incredibly relieved about it because it frees up a bit more time for me to do something else. (More on that soon.)

I’m afraid of what you think of me. There are times when I really overthink what I want to say to you because my intention is never to offend you or rock the boat. There are times when I wonder if I’m “selling” too much and creating too many offers and I wonder what you might think of me because of it. (On a deep level, I guess I just want to be liked.) But, then I remember why I am in business to begin with. I love what I do (most of the time) and if I am creating offers (or pulling the plug) there is a very good reason for it and who am I to keep that from YOU, especially if it’s something that could help you? This is also the reason I was hesitant to share an article I wrote on race that was recently published on ElephantJournal.

Sometimes I get bored with my business. Now let me be clear, I am NEVER bored with the people I work with…ever. But, there have been times (ahem-recently) when I have felt a bit bored with myself and my business. I am the type of person that likes to shake things up and get really excited about new things I am offering in general and if it’s feeling a bit stagnant, my inspiration goes down the tubes and I have to regroup and reset myself. The truth is, I’ve been feeling that way for a bit now and I’m just itching to bring in some fresh new energy to shake things up. (Again, more on that later.) To be clear, I LOVE what I do, I love who I work with, but sometimes I don’t love the way I do things, so I have a need to switch it up.

Sometimes I don’t feel like “enough”. When my mind-gremlins start kicking up, I get so stuck in my head about things that I start believing the crappy thoughts that come up and I feel like I’m not enough. Not smart enough, strong enough, clear enough, good enough, blah, blah, blah. Most recently, I felt like I wasn’t a good enough mother. I’m human. Sometimes these are quiet thoughts in the back of my mind and other times they can take me to my knees and make me cry uncle, but I always come out the other side stronger, because I know that this is just another part of the up-leveling process for me.

I am a lesbian. I realize that many of you know this about me already and it shouldn’t even be a “thing”. I get that, but I’d be lying to you if I told you that even after being ‘out’ for close to 15 years now (plus being married to the woman of my dreams and having a family too) that there isn’t a part of me that worries what other people might think of me because of this fact. I also realize that for some people, this is an utter and total deal-breaker. (There is an unsubscribe button at the bottom of this email, should this be a deal-breaker for you. No hard feelings at all and I wish you all the love in the world.) Moving on…

I am a card-carrying (not really) woo-woo coach & intuitive. All this means is that I am deeply in touch with my intuition (something we all have) and I am able to feel into the circumstances, energy, and “stuff” that clients have going on pretty easily. It’s my super-power an while it’s not something I try to explain (and to be honest, most of my clients don’t really ask) it’s 100% how I work. I also often use oracle cards with clients and occasionally will offer to do readings for people if that’s something they are into. (If that’s something you’re interested in let me know because I LOVE doing them.). The truth is, all of this spiritual and “woo-woo” stuff makes me the coach I am and it helps me, help you.

Sometimes, life gets the best of me. Basically what that means is that there are times when I need to retreat, regroup, rehash, revive, and refresh my mind so I can show up and be the best for you. It is often accompanied by general shit going on in my personal world (like this past month my wife had surgery, Mercury Retro gave me a run for my money, and I was totally off of my mindset practice.) that takes me off track. For the most part, I don’t like to share too much of that with you because, well-who likes to talk about that stuff? I mean, it’s the stuff that makes me relate-able, and human I suppose, but it’s just not fun to share. That, and part of me doesn’t want you to think less of me because of it. (I’m also a recovering, perfectionist.)

So, I guess that’s it for this round and honestly it wasn’t as bad as I thought it might be. I expect there may be some people who leave my tribe because of one or more of what I listed above and to you I wish you all the best.

For those of you who are sticking around-I’m so happy for you to be here! Stay tuned because the next email you receive from me is SO exciting and you don’t want to miss it!!!

P.P.S. If you LOVE being a part of my tribe and you’ve been wanting to work with me 1:1 (and you aren’t currently), hit reply to this email OR sign up for a free 30-minute consultation and I’ll give you the inside scoop on this very-super-secret-squirrel-crazy thing I’m cooking up that I’ll be announcing to the public in a few days.

When Life Gives You Lemons, Make Mindset Lemonade

March 17, 2016 by Lamisha

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Mindset has been on my mind over the last month or so and it’s probably because I’ve had to do some MAJOR reframing in my own mind to deal with a massive life move I am currently going through.

Between balancing my business, the move, selling a house, and dealing with what feels like 100 other things at once, I have to admit, my mindset has not been the greatest.

The Universe so kindly reminded me of this and provided impeccable inspiration to write not one but two pieces on the importance of mindset work that I’m sharing with you today.

If life is currently giving you more “lemons” than you feel you can handle right now, some teachers will tell you to “think happy thoughts”, and while I would tend to agree under normal circumstances, I’m learning that that just doesn’t cut it sometimes. Instead, I’ve found 5 other ways of handling these moments that are far more productive.

I even wrote a piece about it on The Huffington Post. You can check out “Why “Thinking Happy Thoughts” Isn’t Enough: 5 Things You Should Do Instead here.

If instead, you are feeling a bit sick of your ‘lemon’ reality and are ready to fast-track your mindset and life, then you need this incredibly powerful mindset hack that changes lives. I know it sounds dramatic, but I promise this is amazing.

Check out my article on MindBodyGreen: The Mindset-Shifting Hack That Gets You What You Really Want In Life

Rest assured knowing that if you are going through some lemon-like times, you’re not alone. Many of us are going through incredible transformations right now and part of that means turning said lemons into mindset lemonade.

Remember this won’t last forever and that you have the power to shift anything in your life.

Onward and upward friends!!!

Something Life Coaches Probably Shouldn’t Say (But I’m saying it!)

March 3, 2016 by Lamisha

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I’m gonna just cut to the chase here.

When shit hits the fan, life begins to feel weird, or you are going through a major life transition and emotions and such come up to be released…you have my permission to WALLOW.

Yes, that’s right.

Today I’m giving you permission to wallow and it’s probably something life coaches shouldn’t say, but you’re human.

I’m human.

We are all human and we all on occasion have situations that call for a bit of a wallow period.

It’s actually a normal and very healthy part of living if you ask me, but it’s something so many people will tell you NOT to do.

“Look at the bright side.” they say.

“Focus on the positive.”

“Think happy thoughts.”

And while normally I would agree with many of those statements, there comes a time when you just need to feel the feels.

Cry. Take a day off. Cry some more. Take a walk. Journal about your feelings or simply sit with them and let them be there for a bit.

Crying is cathartic. It’s part of the healing process for many and it’s a form of release both energetically and emotionally. It allows you to let the energy of the past and frustrations of the present to pass on by so you can make room for the higher vibration emotions.

As a coach who empowers others and speaks so highly of mindset work, it might be a bit weird to hear this coming from me, but believe me when I say I am speaking from experience!

Life isn’t always sunshine and rainbows and as the old saying goes, you can’t have rainbows without a little rain.

So embrace it. Allow it. And if you feel the need to wallow…wallow baby.

BUT…

And this is a big but, (I cannot lie).

Don’t get stuck there. Don’t allow your emotions to be so overwhelming that they consume you, holding you hostage.

Resisting emotions and “thinking happy thoughts” to avoid the release isn’t healthy, and neither is swimming in hurricane of emotions for weeks or months.

It’s about balance.

Allow the emotions to come up to be released and then begin moving forward again.

Trust YOUR process.

My process is generally 1-2 days of wallowing (usually closer to 1) and then I’m back in action. Your process might be a bit different.

It might include a few days of social media detox, hot showers, and settling in with a really good book, but whatever your process is…do it!

Emotions aren’t bad things, in fact they are the very things that make us human. They are important.

And while yes, they are also what create our reality, the more you resist the seemingly ‘negative’ emotions, the bigger they become and the bigger the shit storm is in your life. (True story.)

So…if life’s been a bit rocky lately or you are going through a transition and are feeling out of sorts…this is your permission to wallow baby.

But…promise me you won’t get stuck there too long ok?

Tissues anyone?

There are lots of reasons you shouldn’t give up, but only 1 reason you should.

July 31, 2015 by Lamisha

In the last two years of my business there have been moments when I seriously thought about throwing in the towel. Moments when I thought I’d be better off dropping my dream all together and jumping back into the work force.

It wasn’t because I didn’t love what I was doing. Not at all.

It was because things got hard, I got frustrated, and I felt lost.

I felt stuck and instead of listening to my intuition, I ignored it entirely.

Instead of asking for help or allowing it in, I thought I had to do it all by my little lonesome.

In short, it sucked!

And as I write this I am getting ready to celebrate my 2 year anniversary in my business in just a few days and I couldn’t be happier! I can’t believe I made it this far and what was once only a dream is now my current reality.

I had a TON of reasons I could’ve quit before. I could’ve quit because:

Money wasn’t flowing
Potential clients were saying ‘No thanks’
Things got really hard
I didn’t know how to move forward
I was afraid I’d put all of my passion and it wouldn’t ‘work’

But despite it all, ultimately, I loved what I was doing.

When I get calls from clients telling me they took their big leap into something they never thought possible, I remember my why.

When I cry with clients as they have amazing breakthroughs and aha’s because I can relate to them so much, I remember my why.

And when I have that first call with a potential client who is sharing with me their hopes and desires for what they hope their life will become with my help, I remember my why.

The truth is this work that I do is far more than just a business. It’s my passion and purpose and despite the fact that things have at times looked as though they weren’t ‘working’, that passion has never ceased.

When you are moving in the direction of your dreams with passion in your heart and purpose in your soul, there will be lots of moments of learning, growing, and evolving.

There will be times when you want to quit. Times when everything on the outside looks broken and you wonder if it will ultimately work.

There will be many, many, many reasons to throw in the towel as you wonder if you are strong enough, smart enough, or if you are doing enough to make your dreams come true.

And the ONLY time you should quit, is if that passion and purpose have gone.

When your heart isn’t in it and the love for your vision transforms into something else as it may, that is the only time you should ‘quit’.

But honestly, that isn’t even quitting in my book. That is simply a transformation of a dream into another vision that lights you up and sets your soul on fire and that can never be deemed a failure nor are you a quitter.

Dreams unfold and transform as much as we do and while you may have many reasons to ‘quit’, don’t do it unless your heart truly isn’t in it.

Keep going. Keep reaching. Keep dreaming and trust in the passion in your heart. When you do…magic happens.

In other news, August is a HUGE month for me and my business. Not only is August 1st the second anniversary of my business, but my birthday is on the 13th and with that comes BIG celebrations & gifts for YOU.

Introducing the 13 Days & 13 Ways of Giving!!!

For 13 days I am giving gifts, services, paying it forward, and creating very special offers for my tribe and allowing that to filter over into the community. I’d love for you to be a part of this amazing vision and you can do that in a few ways.

Join my Love Your Life Tribe for exclusive gifts for my tribe members only
Sign up for my VIP List to get access to special giveaways for VIP’s only
Follow me on Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram to stay up to date on how, when, and where I am gifting for all 13 days.
Share in the giving by posting your own 13 Ways of Giving using the #13WaysOfGiving on social media

Paying it forward, sharing the love, and really creating a community of love, joy, and good will has always been near and dear to my heart and I’m so excited to share what I am cooking up for you!

Your Limitless Life

March 17, 2015 by Lamisha

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It took me many years to come to the realization that I am capable of creating my life experience.

I wasn’t always like this. It took me many years of believing I was bound by my circumstances and experiencing that in my everyday life before I started looking for another way.

You see, on the inside I knew that I had the power, but there was a part of me that doubted it. I thought I was destined for the mediocrity that is adulthood.

Work, bills, responsibility and that’s it.

The creativity I craved and the joy I knew was waiting for me was at one time just a pipe dream. A figment of my imagination that I created to get through each day.

What I know now is that we are each given a limitless life.

One that allows us to create, craft, form, build, and enjoy anything we desire. We have the power to manifest amazing experiences and that is what life is all about. It’s about growing, evolving, becoming more of who we are.

We peel back the layers to uncover more false beliefs that are holding us back and more authenticity in how we live, connect, and share with one another.

YOU have this same limitless life.

YOU have the power to change.

YOU are tapped into a universal grid of power that with a bit of intention and focus, will change your life and the world.

YOU have all you need, right here and right now.

The fear, anxiety, worry, frustrations, and doubts that tell you, you don’t…well they are lying to you.

I speak from experience when I say…anything is possible.

I never dreamed of creating a business empowering women to create a life of passion, purpose, and joy. I couldn’t fathom ever working on my own, being my own boss, AND loving what I do. I didn’t think I had the energy, focus, or knowledge to make it happen. I just didn’t know what was possible…until I did.

Until one day my heart and soul screamed so loudly I couldn’t ignore it another moment. For years I settled. For years I succumbed to what I was ‘supposed’ to do and ignored what I was meant to do.

Until one day when everything clicked and I knew, I had to leap.

Everyday I am blessed to work with women with their own vision. They are led to me because they have listened to the call of their soul and they respond. They are ready. They are inspired and awake enough to receive the support that I am able to provide and everyday I get to do this work I am forever grateful. Because with every limitless life I help to change, I am changing my own.

Today I ask you this…what are you doing with your limitless life? Are you answering the call of your soul or are you trying to cancel it out by listening to what you think you ‘should’ do instead of what you are meant to do?

It’s time to answer the call and make a change. You have a limitless life with so many gifts to share with the world and it’s time you shared them.

If you are feeling the call of your soul and you are ready to respond, let’s schedule a 30-minute consultation to chat a bit more about your vision and how I may be able to support you. This is my life’s work and I am honored to be able to do it. I want you to feel the same about your limitless life.