I often get some profound thoughts on my morning walks and today I’m sharing my latest with you!
P.S. Don’t forget the #13WaysofGiving is still happening and I’ve been giving lots of great stuff over in my Love Your Life Tribe on Facebook and I’d love for you to join us 🙂
Money is always a funny topic to talk about and for so many people it’s wiggle in their seat uncomfortable.
I used to feel the same way before I had done any mindset work around the topic.
In fact, for a long time my relationship with money was…well tumultuous.
I had a love/hate relationship with it.
Never really knowing what it felt like to always have more than enough, I was anxious at the thought of money for anything. Spending it, making it, asking for raises, and dealing with debt made me cringe. I thought having just enough to get by was a good thing and never dreamed that one day I would be an entrepreneur who’s only income was based on my gifts and talents.
(GASP)
Parts of me believed money was always hard to get and keep. Growing up in a single parent household, money was tight most of the time and I learned never to ask for much more than what I actually needed because I didn’t want to add to the stress and anxiety of making ends meet.
As soon as I was old enough to work, I got multiple jobs because I thought that is what I had to do to survive and contribute in the world.
What I didn’t realize is that it was all in my head and that my thoughts were creating my reality.
Since then, I’ve made some big shifts to my mindset to really dig in and change my relationship with money and one of the BIGGEST things I have done is make an investment in myself by way of Denise Duffield-Thomas and her Lucky Bitch Money Bootcamp.
In the last year I have learned SO much about my money mindset and how to shift it and it’s changed everything for me.
Thanks to Denise the top 3 things I no longer believe about money are:
1. Money is a limited supply and if I have more, you get less. I used to live with the atrocious belief that if I have more it means you get less or vice versa. I thought that somewhere there was a big vat of money that was in circulation and if I had more than my ‘fair’ share, then someone else had to have less because….math. But what I have learned is that not only is there MORE than enough to go around, I have the ability and control to manifest as much or as little as I want…when my mindset is in the right place.
2. Money is hard. From the time I started working, I thought I had to work long hours and several jobs to make enough money to live. I pushed hard and at one point was working 3 jobs just to have a bit of extra spending money. It wasn’t fun and no matter how many hours I worked or how much overtime I volunteered for, it seemed like I could never get ahead. After working through the bootcamp (and soon moving through it a second time), I found that money didn’t have to be hard. That with the right mindset and focus, money could flow to me with ease and grace and it does on a regular basis.
3. You can’t do what you love AND make a boatload of cash. When I graduated college I didn’t know anyone who was doing what they loved and making money doing it. Honestly everyone I knew (adults included) was working in a job they didn’t necessarily hate (though some totally did) to make ends meet. They chose the path of least resistance so they could work, live, and save for retirement when they were finally ready to live a life they loved. I followed suit until my passion became louder than my logic and I decided to follow my heart. Starting my business I still had no idea how I would make enough money to replace a full-time income, but what Denise showed me is that it is not only possible, but 100% probable when your mindset is in the right place. (Do you see a theme here?)
Now, I’ve taken what I have learned over the years about money and mindset and I use it to help other women do the things they once thought were impossible. And I openly and honestly share my journey because I want you to know that this didn’t happen overnight. I made an investment in changing my relationship with money by investing in Denise’s Lucky Bitch Money Bootcamp.
It’s been a game changer for me as a woman, a mother, a wife, and an entrepreneur. But the truth is you don’t have to be all of those things for this to help you. The insight and support Denise provides in her program is unlike anything I’ve ever done and this month she is closing out the old program and will be releasing the new program at a new, higher rate.
If shifting your mindset around money is something you feel called to do, I encourage you to check her out. (Full-disclosure: I am an affiliate for Denise’s program only because I 100% believe in what she is doing and I am a part of her amazing community. So, any purchases you make through the links I share with you will result in me being compensated. )
And if this is the first time you have ever heard about Denise, she is hosting a FREE webinar tonight at 7pm EST to discuss Mindset Shifts You Need to Create Passive Income. It’s free and if you can’t make it live, sign-up using the link so you will get the recording.
You can also check out more info about the bootcamp here or check out her amazing free resources that I share with all of my clients because they are awesome!
If you are looking for even more mindset help in general, I am hosting a FREE Mindset Makeover Challenge in my Love Your Life Tribe on Facebook starting Monday July 13th and I’d love for you to join us. This group is full of amazing women like YOU who are looking to create an open, airy, love-filled life of their dreams. You will be in amazing company. 😉
It feels like forever since my last post and that’s because I’ve been on vacation and piecing together my next steps. The good news is I am back and I have a lot of GREAT things up my sleeve for you. But, before I share all of that with you (soon I promise), I want to share some of my most recent realizations.
All this traveling I’ve been able to do this year so far, I realized I have had a theme bubbling up my entire life and it is exactly the kind of life I want to create.
That theme is FREEDOM.
Many (many) moons ago, I wouldn’t have known what it was because I was dealing with so much turmoil and strife, but today I can honestly look at my life as a whole and say what I truly desire is freedom in ALL forms.
I want to experience freedom in love (thank you SCOTUS for making that possible in all 50 states in the US finally).
I want to experience freedom in my finances (thank you Denise Duffield-Thomas for helping me clear my blocks to be open to more abundance.)
I want to experience freedom in my time and how I choose to spend my time on a daily basis (thanks boss-aka me!).
And I am finally embracing the fact that I want to experience freedom in what I create and share with YOU.
You see over the years, I’ve tried to make all of my desires fit nicely into little square boxes even though the contents were hanging out in odd (and fun) shapes and sizes. I realized this weekend that the only thing clean, tidy, square boxes are good for are moving- you know when you have to pack a moving truck and feel like you are playing Tetris to make everything fit.
I don’t fit into one clean and tidy box and I bet you don’t either.
I’m a bit messy and oddly-shaped at times, but it’s what makes me unique. What I desire today may change form in a few months, but that’s the true beauty of evolution and growth isn’t it?
Your desires, wishes, and dreams are as diverse as your experiences in this life and I want you to know it’s OKAY to have all those (sometimes conflicting) desires because in the end it’s all a part of YOU.
You will at times drop the things that are no longer serving you. You will de-clutter your dreams, desires, and wishes and peel back the layers to reveal what is really important to you right here and right now. And despite what gets left on the editing room floor, life will feel amazing for you because in the end YOU get to choose what stays and what goes.
My biggest realization over the last 2 weeks is the freedom that I not only desire and am now totally embracing, but also the freedom I help my clients attain.
And let’s be clear, freedom means something different to everyone. For me it might be about time and money and for someone else it might be entirely about their career. But, what I want YOU (and every other woman walking this planet) to know is that YOU have the FREEDOM to choose the life you live. You have the FREEDOM to break free from whatever has you stuck and to choose differently. But most of all you have the FREEDOM to decide the kind of life you live and experience while you are in this blessed body of yours.
And I want to help you get to that FREEDOM, whatever it means to you because I know that you have an amazing life to live and it’s time to make your dreams come alive starting NOW.
The Facebook Tribe I created a few months ago is under construction and with it comes a new name (TBA) and lots of awesome tools, tips, and challenges to help empower YOU to live that amazing life you want…right now. And instead of waiting for all the new pieces to be in place, I’m inviting you to join us today, before everything is perfect and the new name is revealed.
Everyone wants a life they love with money, abundance, joy, peace, and passion for what they do right?
Sure! Who wouldn’t want that?
BUT-there are far too many women settling for ‘good enough’ because they aren’t sure how to get to that passionate place and while I work with many women on finding what lights them up and sets their soul on fire…my work is really about helping you tap into your purpose.
What finding your purpose really means is finding the thing that you are meant to do right here, right now.
It doesn’t necessarily mean it will be forever, but it will be something that lights you up and something you do that brings you joy.
And guess what…finding your purpose doesn’t necessarily mean making it your career…that part is entirely up to you.
If you are struggling to figure out your purpose here are a few tips to get you thinking in the right direction:
Once you have all that information together I want you to see if there are any common themes. What pops up over and over again? You may very well be thinking…”Why didn’t I think of that???”, because finding your purpose isn’t about locating it outside of yourself…it’s about recognizing what is already there.
And I want you to know that your purpose can change and evolve as much as you do, so don’t get stuck in thinking what you do now is what you will always do. The beauty of life is that we have an amazing gift of choice and free will. Use that freedom and enjoy the process because that is what it’s all about.
I want to hear from you. What is your purpose? Share in the comments below.
***In my work, I come across so many amazing coaches and kindred souls that I just have to start sharing them with you. Today I am introducing you to Veronica Nieves the Soul Desire Coach. I met Veronica a few months ago and I am so excited to share with you an interview I did so you can get to know her a little bit better.
AND-she has so graciously offered to give away 1 Soul Desire Session as well as 1 Reiki session on June 2nd, so make sure you sign up for that! Enjoy!***
Hi Veronica, tell us a little bit about your journey and how you became the Soul Desire Coach.
The awareness of my journey, into listening to my soul, started when my daughter was born. My whole being was in awe of the miracle of birth and I wanted to create a miraculous life for myself and my family, the best life. There was that part of me inviting me to live in a joyful authentic place that was me. Now I have come to realize that it was my soul.
Early on I just felt the longing to live a life I would love, but I didn’t know how. I was bogged down with the day-to-day responsibilities. I did what I thought was the right thing to do at the time. I looked toward the external ideals of success to create that miraculous life. I worked hard to build my career as a teacher, be the best mother I could be and the best wife. Everything in the external world appeared to be in place. I was married, I had a child and a respectable career and approval from family and friends. I was successful. But this restlessness and a longing for more continued.
This is when I discovered Reiki. It opened me up to the idea of the energy body and an internal knowing. Reiki gave me the opportunities to connect with my universal life force, the energy of source and the know that I was part of something greater. It slowly started to provide insights, calm my mental chatter so I could take the necessary action steps. I could feel myself hanging on to what I had known, what seemed good and comfortable. The restlessness began to grow in all areas of my life and Reiki provided a self-care routine as I started to let go of limiting beliefs.
Then my mother passed away of breast cancer and that was a catalyst that shifted me into honoring my soul and living its desires. I knew that I had to help others gain their awareness and live a life that was truly theirs. The pain of living a life that was too small for the soul was something that I knew others where feeling and needed support to transcend.
What does a Soul Desire Coach do?
As a Soul Desire Coach, I help you to connect to the part of you that longs for experiences that would be fulfilling and are truly aligned to what you are meant to do. It is about doing what you are curious about, sharing your gifts, discovering who you truly are and experiencing a life that is authentically you.
What are some ways we typically ignore the calling of our soul & why?
There are 3 ways that most of ignore our soul’s calling
What are some ways that we can connect with our soul desire?
One way you can connect with your soul’s desire is to begin to feel and notice sensations. For example, what does it feel like to be in your body? Can you feel the softness of your skin or the firmness of your feet against the ground? Bringing your awareness to your body opens up other ways of interacting with the world instead of just your intellect. The soul is a language that is found in our feelings and sensations and resides in the heart center.
Another way to get in touch with your soul’s desire is to change your relationship to commonly held aspects of living, that affect how we choose to navigate in the world. One such aspect is time. Time presents itself as a reflection to our beliefs about it. If we perceive time in a way, that favors what we want to accomplish, then the desires of what we long for seem possible, instead of out of reach.
(You can also sign up for my 10 Soul Desire Practices for free to learn more of these practices AND get entered to win 1 Soul Desire Session OR 1 Reiki Session.)
You use Reiki in your work too right? Can you tell us a bit about what that is and how it works for those that may not know.
Reiki is life force energy. Is the energy that is part of us and connects to the universe. This energy is stored in our bodies and is around us. But each of us has our own unique life force energy that we are either circulating or blocking.
How does Reiki enhance your work?
Reiki energy works on the idea that we are connected to the universal source, an energy that supports our innate healing abilities. We have energy centers in the body know as charkas and meridians and around our body known as the aura.
When the flow of energy is optimal all the centers are moving the energy in ways that support us with ease. When the energy centers are disrupted, which can happen because of negative thought patterns and experiences, it blocks in our optimal energy flow. Reiki helps to clear the blocks so that our energy can flow optimally again. Reiki influences physical, mental, emotional and soul energy.
You are also using it in moon ceremonies is that right? Where can people learn more about that & maybe sign up to participate?
Reiki connects our body’s life force and uses the energy of the celestial moon, which has it’s own relationship to us in order to create an aligned flow of manifestation of our desires. We can release blocks and manifest our desires with the moon energy. Reiki boost the connection because we connect as our universal source potential, that part of us that knows all is possible and doesn’t entertain limits. I just finished with the New Moon Reiki ceremony on Saturday, but I will be hosting them for each full and new moon. If you would like more information about those ceremonies sign up here and you will be notified of the next ceremony.
And if people want to schedule a Reiki session for themselves how might they go about that?
To schedule a Reiki session you can check out my website or schedule a session here.
What 3 things would you suggest to people that may be struggling with their soul desires?
1. If you are struggling with your soul desires do open stream of consciousness journaling for about 10 minutes. You can start with the phrase I am struggling with my soul desires because… and list everything that comes up for without editing. Pick the one struggle that you can transform in a short time.
For example, when I was thinking of moving to the west coast, I made a list of all the struggles or a con’s list. One of them was, my uncertainty about where to move to. I took this struggle and asked, “how can I figure out where I want to move to?” Through open stream of consciousnesses journaling I came up with a few ideas. One of them was to move close to a friend until I could checkout different areas and that’s exactly what I did.
2. Struggling with your desires means that you are beginning to listen to your soul, but there is a block keeping you from fully committing to your soul’s desires. List 5 things that you would love, but you are not doing. Ask yourself, “if I where on my deathbed reflecting back on my life, would I regret not doing those things I love?” If it’s a “no”, then you need clarity in defining your soul’s desire. If it’s a “yes”, then seek out support so you can begin to live the life of your dreams.
3. The third option is to schedule a free 30 minute consultation by clicking here, to talk about how I can support you in living the desires of your soul
How else can people get in contact with you?
You can find out more about what I do and how to work with me on my website or follow me on Facebook or sign up for the FREE Giveaway (1 Soul Desire Session & 1 Reiki Session will be awarded on June 2nd!)