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***DISCLAIMER: This post does include affiliate links to programs I have tried and highly recommend.  I never suggest any product or service that I don’t have first hand experience with. ***

 

If you know me personally or have worked with me you know that I am all about personal growth.

I am always looking for ways to learn, expand, and grow not only to provide the best service I can, but also so I can continue to reach to new heights personally.

In the process I have stumbled upon some amazing books, practices, & products that have changed my life.  They are things I often suggest to my clients because I like to share the love.  It’s that simple.

So, today I share with you a list of things I not only love, but things that have changed my life for the better.

 

All time favorite book….

Inspired & Unstoppable: Wildly Succeeding in Your Life’s Work! by Tama Kieves
It is the book I go back to over and over again when I need a little reminder to follow my inspiration & intuition.  I love it so much I actually ran a giveaway earlier this year to gift a copy to one lucky winner.  This book will change how you think of success and it will reinforce what you already know and what I have been sharing with you for as long as I have been writing and that is…Follow Your Heart. Always.  If you are just setting out on your journey to freedom and the living the life of your dreams, this is the book for you.

 

For setting intentions & tracking progress…

I adore Leonie Dawson for her creative brilliance & her authenticity and the moment I found her 2014 Create Your Amazing Year Life & Biz Workbook, I fell in love with it.  Everything in that workbook lights me up.  It is full of amazing artwork, insightful questions, practical tips, and magical rituals to help you make your year amazing.  She is making some upgrades to it for 2015 and I can’t wait for it to be available for purchase.  If you are looking for something a bit more creative and fun to use as you plan your year ahead, I highly encourage you to check it out.  (I’ll share reminders once the 2015 version is available!)

 

For money mindset & manifesting…

Another woman I simply adore is Denise Duffield-Thomas.  I have been following her for about a year now and when I was ready to learn a bit more about releasing my old worn-out beliefs about money, I jumped right into her Lucky Bitch Money Bootcamp.  To say that it changes your life is a gross understatement.  It not only changed my relationship with money, but how I think of it altogether.  She covers everything from upgrading your life to dealing with past money memories and releasing the money blocks that we all have.  I also have to say that the Lucky Bitch community has been amazing!  There are so many incredible people who have joined the program that makes this program so special.  This has been by far one of the best investments I have made in myself.  If you are considering a manifestation course, I highly encourage you to check this out & you can even get a taste of what she teaches in her Money in 24 Hours audio for free.

 

For clearing & releasing blocks…

This year was the first time I had ever done anything with EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique).  I had heard about it for years, but never tried it until early this year.  It might seem a little weird to you if you have never tried it, but the results are amazing.  I tap just about every day and it has changed my life.  I have used it for anxiety, frustration, fear, money mindset junk, and so many other issues I have dealt with in this last year and it instantly shifts how I am feeling.  If you are interested in some high vibrational ways to shift from fear to confidence or from lack to abundance, check it out.  I’ve included a few of my favorite EFT practitioners and their videos for you to take a look at.  Let me know your thoughts.

David Childerley & Brad Yates both have some awesome videos available.

 

0001-24026277I also want to offer you my free Overwhelm to Action audio to help you get through all the ideas you have so you can gain some clarity on how to start taking action today!  Simply sign up here to receive your free audio.

So what are some of the tools you have used to help you grow, evolve, and become all that you want to be?  Do you have a favorite book, practice, or program that you just love?  Share in the comments below, I’d love to check it out!

Dream Changer-Featuring Isis Arjeta

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***I am a little behind with posting the latest Dream Changer feature this week, however this one is worth the wait.  I am so excited to present to you the amazing transformative journey of a dear friend, co-teacher of the Unleash Your Personal Power course, overall amazing healer and soul sister, Isis Arjeta.  I know you will leave this post feeling anything is possible and I encourage you to check Isis out online and on her Facebook page to learn more about what she can do to help you grow, heal, and evolve into the abundant and amazing soul you are meant to be.***

“You may say that I’m a DREAMER….”

Since I can remember I’ve known that I am destined for an amazing life… to change the world for the better, and really make a difference in people’s lives. The how has never been clear, but a dream is all you need, right? In following my dreams,I’ve flung myself wholeheartedly on so many life paths I can no longer count them. I attended college for 6 years, and achieved the glorious Associate of Arts they give to people who don’t know what they want to DO with their lives. I’ve changed directions and dreams so many times that it has become a magical, colorful tapestry of experience and growth.

In the process of weaving this tapestry, I worked in a busy ER and collected some wild stories about the crazy things humans do. I’ve processed paperwork, I hung out with alter-able adults, and became a massage therapist. I sold books on amazon, I moved cross country in a home-made caravan, and I learned what it means to be a New Age Hippy. I’ve had a mohawk, long shiny blonde hair, and several sets of dreadlocks. I’ve worn high end pumps, and been barefoot and broke. I’ve crossdressed, been a nudist, and I’ve sold my dirty laundry online to fetish lovers. I stepped out of societies labels and boxes and altered my consciousness in ways most people can’t even imagine. But it still didn’t satisfy my dreams of radical success and happiness.

The real shift in my life happened when I decided it was time to actually manifest what I’ve been dreaming. No matter what I do, I want it to be EASY. Yes, you heard it, easy. I was always told that life is hard, nothing is easy, and certainly you never get anything for free. Inside I always laughed, because something in me KNEW that it was a lie. It doesn’t make any sense to me that with all the resources and incredible talent present in a world filled with 7 billion creative souls, anyone would be destined to suffer and work hard.

Yet every time I tried to build a business, make a name in the world, or just be happy, something went wrong. It wasn’t easy, and I had to work very very hard. It left me with a rage and hatred that the world could be so cruel… and deep self-loathing that I couldn’t figure out how to make my dreams real. How does one small human being change the world?

One day I gave up. I screamed a desperate prayer at God (which I hadn’t done since I was a teenager) that said something like “F*ck you, I give up. What am I supposed to do? I believe in an easy, blissful, and abundant life for all beings, but everytime I try to make it real, something is in my way. What gives?”

For the first time since I was little, I actually received a full-on answer from Spirit. A Voice spoke to me and said “You are the only one standing in your way. Get your sabotaging beliefs and all those angry emotions out of your mind and heart, and the world you see will change before your eyes.” So I thought, “I need some help with that, I don’t even know where I’m stuck.” The Universe kept answering me, and the perfect teacher showed up – I could literally see her bright angel wings outlined behind her head. So yet again, I took a wild leap of faith, and signed up for an EFT and Hypnotherapy training class at The Miracle Center of California. “My dream is so big, I need a Miracle to make it happen,” I thought.

“…But I’m not the only one…”

My first day of class, everything changed. Robin Duncan, my angel teacher, used EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and Hypnotherapy to help me release trauma and angst from my childhood as well as lifetimes of experiences, and she encouraged my dreams. For the first time EVER, I met others who also believed that life can be easy and beautiful in every single moment. It requires a complete shift in how you perceive the world, but with access and tools to clear to the subconscious, it is EASY!

According to A Course in Miracles (my FAVORITE life guide), a Miracle is defined as a shift in perception from fear to love. Who doesn’t want to do that, right? Sometimes our subconscious and emotional beliefs make that difficult though, and learning EFT and Hypnotherapy gave me the ability to shift my perceptions on all levels. It became so simple to shift my experiences on a daily basis that I am now living in a whole new way – with ease and grace, no matter what challenges I seem to face. I had never realized how much of my time and energy was wasted on fear, complaining, and trying to figure out the details.

“…I hope someday you’ll join us…”

I couldn’t believe how fast that initial shift happened. I literally looked like I had a facelift after that first session – and I felt 20 paradiseyears younger. Within months I had quit my spa job and was running my own home-based massage and healing business. Nearly two years later I am now living the life I always dreamed of, filled with ease and daily Miracles. My lifelong dream of living in the tropics came true this year when I moved to Maui, Hawaii where I play and dance and swim in the ocean every day. I am able to share the gift of EFT and Hypnotherapy with clients from all over the world, in person and through the internet. I have created e-courses to help others make the same kind of shift into an easy and fulfilling life, and I teach in-person certification courses in EFT and other energy healing modalities. I am truly blessed that my dreaming world is now my waking life. I wake up every morning in Paradise, with the awareness that my DREAM is my REALITY.

I am still in awe of the transformation that occurs when we access the subconscious patterns we’ve accepted as our identities and shift them into what we truly desire. I believe that every person on earth has a very special purpose and mission – to make an impact, to change the world, and to be filled with love and gratitude in every moment. What is holding YOU back from living a life of ease, while changing the world for the better?

If you are ready to make a radical shift in your life and allow your dreams to become your everyday reality – to live on easy street and be filled with radical joy and excitement – I want to hear from you! Please comment on this blog post, and head over to my website and Facebook page to stay in touch! I want to hear what YOU are dreaming into reality!

 “…and the world will live as One!” ~ John Lennon, Imagine

IsisArjetaIsis Arjeta is a radical mystic who loves to laugh, play, and surf the waves of life – or the gorgeous Maui coastline that serves as her backyard. She uses her wide variety of skills and experience to help you uncover the brilliant being you already ARE. A session with Isis feels like a conversation with your best friend, and always includes laughter and spot-on insight. She blends an irreverent sense of Spirituality with deep love, and creates a safe space for transformation wherever she goes. You can find Isis at www.facebook.com/OneSoulution or www.isisarjeta.com to stay updated on her latest Miracle adventures!

 

Dream Changer-New Series

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I have been thinking about this series for a few weeks now and I am so excited to share with you some truly amazing fellow dreamers and achievers over the course of, well hopefully the rest of the year.  I think it’s important for anyone who is just starting out on a new goal or dream path to hear stories about others who have been where you are.  It’s not only meant to be a source of inspiration, but I hope you can take away some sage advice that can be applied to your own dreams.

So, here’s how it works.  Each week I will highlight a new dreamer and their answer to one simple question:

What is or has been your ‘Dream Changer’?

A Dream Changer can be a moment, a phrase, advice from a friend, or a feeling that changed everything in terms of your dreams.  To start us off, I am going to tell you a little about my dream changer.

If you have read my story, you know I wanted to be a life coach for a very long time, but the ‘traditional’ path I thought I needed to take just wasn’t working for me.  I felt like I was spinning my wheels trying so hard to move forward only to find I hadn’t moved even an inch.  That went on for close to 3 years.  The Dream Changer came in a few simple words from a co-worker who had just signed up to go back to school so she could do what she really wanted to do.

Her words, “Sometimes, you just have to take that leap.”

Those words hit me in my heart.  I knew she was right. That moment and those words began my path into doing what I love, my way.

Instead of following the path of another and finding a way to make myself fit the mold, I created my own path.  That was in April of 2013 and here I am not only writing about coaching, but working with clients, planning new programs, and reaching for the stars! My Dream Changer could very well be called my Dream Maker, because without those words, I might still be spinning my wheels looking for a way to fit the mold.  Luckily a dear friend and coworker shared her sage wisdom with me and I listened.

Do you have a Dream Changer or know of someone who would be great for this series?  Please feel free to contact me with their info.  I would love to highlight as many dreamers as possible in this series so others know that they are not alone in the pursuit of an amazing life.  It all starts with one step.

Have you taken that step?  Do you have a dream or passion that is burning in your soul, but you haven’t quite figured out how to make it come to life?  I am a master at untangling the web of anxiety and fear to help you realize your dreams, so shoot me an email and schedule your consultation to find out if I’m the coach for you.  If it turns out I am not, I will help you find a great fit.  It’s a win-win situation. 

What’s Your ‘But’ Statement?

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If you ever meet me out in public and we start chatting about your career, work, or hobbies, beware!  I might just ask you the question I love to ask and found myself asking to almost every person I have worked with in the last 10 years and that question is this:

If you could do anything in the world (and money weren’t an issue), what would you do? (Sometimes the question is phrased differently depending on if I am speaking to someone about their career or just a general hobby.)

It doesn’t matter what answer you give, I will most certainly follow it up with this:

So why aren’t you doing it?

After a string of answers like : “Because I have a family to support.” or “It’s too late.” or “I don’t know where to begin.”

I get to the nitty-gritty of why people aren’t accomplishing their dreams and it goes a little something like this.

“I would love to start my own non-profit activity center for children, BUT I just don’t have the money to do it.  I mean I do have bills to pay!”

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“I would love to sit in a little cabin in the woods somewhere and write books all day, BUT what if I can’t do it?”

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“I would love to open my own bookstore/coffee shop/literary center for the community, BUT I’m broke and I have to keep my crappy job because it’s all I have.”

The truth is we all have a ‘but’ statement and what that is, is the reason we feel we can’t/shouldn’t/will never/won’t accomplish the life of our dreams.  For many of us it boils down to dollars and cents.  For others, it’s simply knowing how to get started, but I think it’s more than that.Fear

You see, I am finding more and more that your ‘but’ statement (no matter what it is) is really another form of fear.  For the person that says they don’t have enough money, they may fear losing what they have on their dream that feels so risky.  For the person that just doesn’t know how to start, it could be fear of failure.  For the person afraid of whether they can do it or not, it could be fear of ridicule both self-induced and the ridicule of others.

Regardless of what form your ‘but’ statement takes, what it really is, is a form of fear manifesting as an excuse.  If you would have asked me 2 years ago why I wasn’t on my path to coaching already I would have told you I didn’t have the money to do it.  I couldn’t afford the training programs I thought I needed to succeed.  It took a long time for me to even entertain the thought of doing things differently.

Today, I encourage you to identify your ‘but’ statement.  The truth is, you probably have more than one, so write them down and face them.  Get them out of your head and utilize your amazing imagination to think of all the ways those fears can become irrelevant.

If lack of money is one of your fears, then think of all the ways money can flow into your life.  Some examples might be gifts, a raise, a new job, selling old stuff, refunds, rebates, unexpected checks in the mail etc.  There are an abundance of ways for money to flow and for your dreams to come true.  Don’t limit yourself to the singular road you ‘think’ will lead you to what you desire.  There is so much more out there if you open your mind to the possibilities.

The first step is identifying your ‘but’ statement.  So, if I asked you about your dreams, what would you say?

” I would really love to _____________, BUT _______________.” Fill in the blanks.

If you are ready to talk more in-depth about your ‘but’ statement and what is really holding you back from the life of your dreams, contact me to schedule your consultation.  I would love to hear more about what lights you up and how I can help make your dreams a reality.  The truth is, if more people were doing the things they love the world would be a much happier place, so let’s do our part.