One of the things you may or may not know about me is I am a firm believer in the fact that we never stop learning and growing. 

I don’t consider myself a guru or a know-it-all when it comes to what I teach because there is still so much to learn and share with you. 

In fact, when I first started my business I made a commitment to be as authentic and vulnerable with you as possible, because I want you to always know that a) I’m human and b) If I can get through this crazy thing called life, so can you.  

With that said, the last few weeks have been a bit of a challenge for me and I noticed some (what I thought were) old feelings of insecurity popping up.  While noticing the shifts and changes in others around me, I began feeling uncomfortable and uncertain within myself. 

To be honest, it made me anxious and without realizing it at the time, I ended up diving right into self-sabotage mode.  It wasn’t a pretty sight so I’ll spare you the details, but what came from those few weeks ware a couple of lessons I want to share with you today. 

A lesson in awareness:  One thing I’ve gotten so much better at on this journey of personal growth is becoming aware of my thought patterns and behaviors particularly when I’ve fallen down the rabbit hole.  I may not be aware of it while it’s happening, but over the past few weeks I’ve learned the importance of taking a personal inventory of what’s going on within me and questioning where these thoughts and feelings are really coming from because they are almost 100% of the time NOT about what I think they are in the moment. 

Awareness is key and it takes practice, so the next time you find yourself spiraling, take a moment to reflect on what’s really going on.  You might just find it’s not about what you think it is and friends that is where the real magic happens. 

Taking responsibility for your feelings:  Generally speaking I’m a very feelings-driven woman.  I feel my emotions to my core and at times they can be overwhelming especially to other people who are less emotional that I.  What I’ve always known intellectually, but have rarely put into practice is that we are responsible for how we feel and regardless of the situations that may elicit an understandable emotional response, only I am responsible for those emotions and it’s up to me to process them.  

Emotions and feelings are a necessary part of life and their job is simply to provide information to us.  The key is to be aware of them, understand them and then process them accordingly- particularly if they are “negative” emotions.  And the key here is that while others can facilitate the processing, it’s really up to us to do.

Hyper-focus isn’t necessarily healthy focus:  As a mindset coach I know how powerful our focus can be and as a human, I often mistake ‘hyper-focus’ as a ‘healthy’ focus.  Meaning, I have a tendency to get stuck on a particular area of my life that I want to change or improve and end up focusing so much on it that I create more resistance than flow (doh!). 

The past few weeks have really shown me the power in shifting my focus inward instead of spending so much time and effort looking at what is or isn’t happening externally.  It’s a slight shift that makes a world of difference in how I think and feel. 

I share all of this with you again to say:
 
 
Within each life challenge lies a gift that will help you expand into more of who you are meant to be. 

And with that expansion comes new opportunities, new ideas and other ways for you to create a life you love. So, embrace the challenges and know that there is alway something in it for you.

Ultimately, I hope that by sharing my lessons and challenges with you I am empowering and inspiring you to keep moving forward on your own journey. 

We have an amazing opportunity in this thing called life to be, have, and do whatever we choose and that often means working through our shit to get to the other side.  Having done a lot of that work already, I can tell you it’s absolutely worth every step along the way.

If YOU are struggling at the moment and you need a bit of support to get through the fog of the moment, I’d love to chat with you.

Feel free to book a FREE 30-Minute Consultation here.

Were these lessons helpful for you?  Post a comment below and let me know!
 

You hear me talk about the importance of committing to your mindset work every single day and how much of a difference it makes in your day-to-day life.  And if you’ve ever done it for awhile and then stopped for whatever reason, you know it’s hard to get things going again.
 
When you fall out of the habit of doing something, it’s a bit more difficult to get back on track. 

So, when I am working with a client I am not only stressing the importance of keeping the momentum of the daily habits going, but also the importance of keeping your mindset momentum going on any given day.

What that really means is this…if you’re in the flow and loving how you feel in the moment, you want to do what it takes to keep that momentum going.  The more you feel good, the more you find things to feel good about.  The better it gets, the better it gets.  The more focus on what feels good, the more good comes your way.  
 
However…momentum works regardless of which way your mindset is flowing which means if you’re having a “bad” day (and you haven’t pivoted your thoughts) things can feel like they are going downhill really fast. 

In the beginning of my journey into all things mindset, I didn’t really understand the concept of momentum.  I very often was feeling the highs and lows every single day and couldn’t figure out how to get things to level out.  In some ways I felt like the “good” and “bad” days were out of my control, but if I could ride the wave of a “good” day a bit longer, I knew I would feel better. 

Over time, I realized I could control the momentum by controlling my focus and doing the work not just at the beginning of each day, but also throughout the day as needed.

So, if I got a flat tire when I was already running late to an appointment, I had an opportunity to shift how I thought about that moment.  I could either allow the negative momentum to carry me away or I could actively choose a different thought. 

 
No matter where you are or what you are dealing with, you always have an opportunity in the moment to choose how you view the situation you are in. 

Is it always easy to choose a different thought? Absolutely not!
Do I always remember to do it? Nope.

Shifting your mindset in challenging moments takes practice like anything else. But if you are committed to transforming your life and keeping the positive momentum flowing, it’s necessary.

Here are a few tips to help you with momentum…
• Start with a mindset practice. (If you don’t have one, this is a great way to begin.)
• Meditate more often.
• Move your body more often.
• Focus on the good through a daily gratitude practice.
• Celebrate your wins!
When things aren’t so “good” here are some tips to shift things…
• Stop and reframe the situation.  How can this be working for you?
• Remember, everything is always working out for you…always!
• Do some EFT tapping and deep breathing.
• Chat with a supportive friend to help you reframe things
• Focus on getting back to neutral.
• Move your body, meditate, or do something else to shift your focus.

The moral of the story is this…you and only you get to control how you feel and it begins and ends with your mindset.  When things feel good, milk it as much as you can and when it doesn’t feel good, shift your focus and allow the positive momentum to pick up again. 

This is the work. It’s a simple concept, but isn’t always easy to do and that friends, is why many people choose to get support and accountability.  My challenge for you today is to focus a bit on where your momentum is going and course correct as needed. 

You can do this!

We all can do this..the question is not can you, but will you?

If you’re looking for ways to expand your mindset and keep the momentum going or jumpstart your mindset, let’s chat.

Book a free 30-minute consultation to see if we are a good fit to work together.

Today I want to share with you a short and sweet truthbomb that really gets to the heart of this work I do day in and day out. 

 
Truthbomb: Your mindset is ALWAYS working…the question is whether it’s working FOR you.

When I say it’s “working” I simply mean, it’s always validating what you believe to be true and is bringing your awareness to situations, circumstances, and realities in front of you that reinforce that which you believe.

ALL of the thoughts you think contribute to what you see and experience in your life on a daily basis and when you believe those thoughts, they become your truths.

–> IF you believe money is scarce, it will be for you.
–>IF you believe you can’t do “it”, you won’t.
–>IF you believe you’ll always be stuck in a dead end job, you will.

What you believe is ALWAYS validated in your life…always.

That is the reason so many people find themselves in the same relationships with different faces over and over again.  They’ve simply developed a belief about men/women and that’s what they experience time and again.

When I was growing up, I watched my single mother work several jobs just to barely make ends meet.  I was inadvertently taught that in order to (barely) survive, you had to work multiple lower paying jobs.  So, from the time I began working in high school to about 10 years ago, I always had more than one job just to get by.

It wasn’t until I started working on my mindset consistently and began planting new beliefs  that I really saw things shift for me. 

Most people live their lives by constantly reacting to the things around them. 

For example: They see the weight on the scale, the balance in their bank account, the status of their business/career, and the difficulty in their relationships and they create a story in their mind about those things based on the “evidence” in front of them.  

They begin to believe things like…”I can’t ever lose weight.” or “I’m not good with money.” or “I’m not business savvy.” or “True love doesn’t exist.” etc. and then without realizing it, prove those beliefs in their experiences year-after-year. 

But…when you know how mindset really works, you know you get to CHOOSE your own beliefs and then you begin to LIVE them.  

Which means, you can choose to believe you are a business badass who always has more than enough money and then begin seeing the evidence of those beliefs faster than you realize.  The same goes for any other belief you choose.
 
So…this “mindset” thing I’m always going on and on about is ALWAYS working, but the question is…is it work for you in the way you want?

Is your mindset working in your…

–> Finances?
–> Relationships?
–> Health?
–> Career?
–> Business?
–> Personal life?
 
If the answer is NO, then there’s some work to be done friends.  More specifically, you have to choose new beliefs and begin practicing them daily.  That’s how it works.

Can you do it on your own? Of course you can, but if you really want to take things up a notch and transform your mindset faster, working with a coach is a great way to do it. 

Working with a coach also helps create a customized plan specific to your goals and helps you see and transform the beliefs you may not know are holding you back.  

–>THIS is why I believe in coaching.
–>THIS is why I have consistently hired coaches over the years.
–>THIS is why I believe investing in yourself is a non-negotiable.

We are all given one magnificent life to be, have, and do whatever we choose and unfortunately there are still thousands of men and women who are still struggling to believe in themselves.

My mission is to help as many of those people transform their mindsets so they can create the business, find love, get healthy, find their purpose, and anything else that is linked to creating incredible joy in their lives…because let me tell you friends…THIS IS WHAT LIFE IS ALL ABOUT. 

So, consider this my invitation for YOU to click this button to begin the journey in making MASSIVE shifts in both your mindset and in your life.  I promise you won’t regret it.

Inspiration comes from some of the most amazing places!

I recently finished a book called “Single-minded” by Lisa Daily (great read if you’re interested) and I came across the quote below and it got me thinking about how so many people want their lives to LOOK and FEEL differently, but they keep finding themselves stuck in the same old loop. 

I know you’ve heard this before, but if you want something different you have to be willing to DO something different. 

And for most people that “something different” is about THINKING differently. 
 
–>When you think differently, you behave differently.
–>When you believe differently, you choose differently.
–>When you KNOW better, you do better.

That’s how change and transformation works friends.

You don’t get to a different destination by taking the same route.  You have to be willing to switch things up, get off the beaten path and be open to the things you don’t yet know. 

–> If you want to transform your financial situation, you have begin to think and behave differently in your financial life.

–>If you want to transform your health and body, you have to begin to think and behave differently in regards to your daily habits.

–>If you want to transform your relationships, you have to begin to think and behave differently than you have in the past. 

And while it’s not always ‘easy’ to do, it certainly is a simple process.  

 
Practice new thoughts and new actions consistently and I guarantee you will get different results.  

There are a lot of people who feel stuck in a loop in some portion of their lives and it’s likel because they want to transform the OUTSIDE without ever addressing the INSIDE.

Outside= the stuff we consider “real” and can be felt or measured.
Inside= the habits, thoughts, and energy that goes into transforming our lives.

Most people don’t do the INTERNAL work necessary to create lasting external change.   Are you?

 
If you are one of those people that keeps starting with the same tired beginning…it’s time to make a change and a good place to begin is here.  

You have the power of being, having, and doing so much more and if you’re not in the place you want to be right now and you’re tired of spinning your wheels, this is your chance to reach out for support.

Let’s create that magical ending together shall we?

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Happy Friday Friends!

This week has been full of amazing breakthroughs and incredible conversations with my clients and I am oozing with gratitude over the fact that I get to do this work each and every day. #moreplease! 

I am constantly inspired by the brave souls that say YES to their growth and expansion as they move forward in creating the new vision of their lives even if they aren’t quite sure what shape it will take or how to get there. 

For some people saying YES is easy, effortless and totally natural, but the more I connect with my tribe, the more I’m finding that isn’t the case for everyone. 
 

Sometimes you just don’t think you’re ready…

Ready for what you ask?

Ready for the next step.
Ready to do the inner work.  
Ready for the clarity you need to move forward.
 
The truth is sometimes we think we just need MORE…

More time to figure things out.
More experience to finally do what we want to do.
More training, skills, and knowledge to be our absolute best.

But I want to tell you a little secret…

“Not being ready” is just a mindset thing…

The truth is if you are feeling stuck, stagnant and just plain tired of where you are and you DESIRE something different…you’re ready to move forward and make that desire a reality.

Remember, your feelings and emotions are the indicators that tell you when it’s time for a change but it’s up to YOU to take the first step.  And before you say you don’t know what that first step is…there are LOTS of potential “first steps” you can take.  The idea is just DO something different and follow your intuition. 

Action step: If you’re feeling like you don’t know what the first step (or the next step is for that matter) on your journey, grab a pen and paper and write down 10 things that could possibly be the next step for you.  Then, take action on at least one. 

PSA: “Not being ready” is just a matter of you getting in your own way.   

What it really means is you’re afraid of what the future YOU is calling you to do and you’re not sure you can do it.  Maybe you have some imposter syndrome going on or you’re worried you could fail, but my question to you is this..

What’s the alternative?

Stay where you are and do what you’ve always done or take a chance and do what your soul is truly calling you to do?  The choice is always yours to make.

But when you get down to it, instead of saying “I’m not ready” maybe say “I’m choosing not to be ready” and see how that feels.  

When I began my journey there were many times when I felt like I just wasn’t ready to do it all, but then I had to ask myself if I was ready to BE, HAVE and DO all the things my heart was craving and the answer was YES.  

So…it’s time for you to make a decision.  Stay where you are or get out of your own way. 

What’s it gonna be???
 
If you’re ready to get out of your own way and get your MINDSET in alignment with your VISION then my 1:1 program is for you and I’d love to tell you about it.  I’m only opening FOUR spots for the moment so if you want to know more about the program and want to see if it’s a good fit for you, book a free 30-minute consultation HERE.

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