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Over the last few weeks I’ve been doing some really deep work with my 1:1 clients and it’s no wonder, because it seems we are entering into a time where many people are feeling massive discomfort around where they are currently in their lives.
Some describe it has a sort of dark night of the soul, while others feel like they are stuck in a vicious cycle of two steps forward and what feels like ten steps back. However it shows up, one thing is for sure…the time for transformation is here. (Actually it’s always here, but more and more people are open to the shift right now.)
In one of my most recent sessions, we uncovered a theme of abandoning desires, dreams and the hope for something better because the feeling of wanting them while also believing she couldn’t ever have them was just too painful.
Imagine that for a second. Think about what it must feel like to want something so much and also carry the belief that you will never…ever get there.
I see this more often than you might think. I am constantly hearing women say how hard it is for them to believe in something that they just don’t think they will ever have. How can they keep wanting something that seems impossible? How can they keep hope alive when the pain of not having it feels so bad?
My question is often…what’s the alternative?
From what I can see desiring something & not believing you can have it might cause you to completely shut down all creativity and hope for the future which is painful in and of itself. But, it can also often lead to a lifetime of settling, discontent and a constant questioning of what if???
To me, that is far more painful because that’s not the life we came here to live.
My belief is that the ONLY thing that we can change (and ultimately the only thing that matters) is what we believe and what we DECIDE we get to have.
You are not here to shut down.
You are here to open up to the expansion and possibility of the world around you.
You are here to realize just how powerful you truly are and to live that truth and the first step is believing you can have it.
The challenge often comes when the journey gets uncomfortable or particularly intense. That is when many people question what is possible for them. They wonder if somehow they got it all wrong and in an effort to protect themselves from more disappointment, they retreat. They shut down. They remove themselves from all hope, all belief and they try to talk themselves out of their desires and into being ok with settling.
And if this sounds familiar and you are constantly struggling with “how” to make the changes above, here’s what I need you to know…
You are the sure thing.
You are the way, the how, the path.
Being you and showing up as the powerful, creative being you are…is the answer. It’s YOU that you need to trust.
And despite what you may have been told, no one is “giving” you any power you didn’t already have. You were born with it.
Sometimes it needs activating or elevating but YOU are the key to the answers you’ve been looking for and when you decide to stay in the room, lean into the discomfort and follow the nudge to do the work…things change.
–>You can be supported and guided.
–>You can ask for help when it is needed.
–>You can have someone hold space for you as you find your way forward.
But when it comes down to it, it is you who has to say yes. You have to decide. You have to choose to lean in, especially when things feel rocky & do the work.
And I promise when you do, you will be astounded, surprised and delighted by the magic that unfolds.
So, consider this your call to action to stay in the room and to lean into the discomfort and if you feel called, reach out for support because we are in a time of massive transformation & things are shifting quickly.
P.S. I hope you know that every ounce of inspiration in the words I share come from the heart and often from the very things I need to hear. February was a rough month for me in a lot of ways, but March feels almost like a clean slate & fresh start. My hope is that it feels the same for you.
As always, if there is anything I can do to support you, feel free to book a free chat and let’s see what kind of magic is waiting for you…
This past week has been a doozy energy-wise (is it just me?) and while I have been moving through some interesting thoughts, feelings and beliefs for myself, I was also hit with this massive download/message for us all.
In the middle of my own mindset “stuff”, I got intuitive nudge after nudge one night and couldn’t write the notes down fast enough. This is one of them & it is as much for me as it is for you. So, buckle up friends and let’s get ready for some tough love.
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It’s time to stop…
Pulling from your past and assuming your future experiences are going to be the same. Remember that is only true if you choose to believe it.
Assuming you know what the future holds, what that person is thinking or how your path is “most likely” to unfold. It gets to be whatever you decide it is…focus wisely.
Telling the story that this is just “how it goes” for you…that it’s always been this way and of course it will always be because that’s just how life works for you. Again…it’s not true unless you believe it.
Believing the little gremlin in your mind that says it has to be hard, it’s going to take a million years or a bajillion dollars to do the thing that’s on your heart. When you get out of your own way, magic & miracles are available for you.
Telling stories that don’t support where you are going and trying to solve problems that only potentially exist within your mind. Where your focus goes, your energy flows so why not tell the more empowered story?
Using the “evidence” of what you think you can’t have distract you from the very real, very true evidence that lives around you about what you CAN have. The evidence for your desires is all around you, all the time if you look for it.
Thinking that you are SO special and unique that the Universal laws that you believe, work for everyone BUT you. That’s just not how it works. If it works for them, it gets to work for you too.
It’s time to stop.
It’s time to remember.
It’s time to step into who you are, what you can do and why you are here.
You are here to live, love, connect and conquer. You are here to explore, expand, and extract the joy out of every experience possible. You are here to do the damn thing…whatever that is for YOU and then do the next and the next.
And yes…you are here to work through the muddled up madness that often takes up shop in your mind because it’s what you’ve known, practiced, believed and been taught for far too long.
It’s time to change the game. It’s time to lean into the discomfort, feel the feels if need be and do the inner work.
The inner work is the way. The inner work is the path.
The inner work is the journey and it’s how things change.
And if you’re ready and willing to do something different, to get some support to do that work, you will be amazed at what unfolds for you.
You see, the thing about me is…I’m stubborn (I’m a Leo after all) and when we do this work together…there’s no giving up or throwing in the towel, because you were made for more and my job is to help you see it, feel it, and make it happen.
But, beyond all that…the message is clear, if you are reading this…there is more available for you. You just have to start where you are, be open to where the path leads you, go where you need to go, lean into the discomfort and of course be willing to do the inner work.
This world is changing & so are you. The question is are you ready to receive it or are you resisting it? My hope is that you will join me in leaning into receive it. I’m ready…are you?
My hope is that this message inspires you to take the next step…whatever that may be for you. And if it inspires you to reach out for support, click the button below and let’s chat.
Last week I shared a message on Facebook that I felt called to also share with you because it’s a challenge I see *so* many women struggle with in this work.
This is a challenge I’ve struggled with for a good portion of my life and I speak from experience when I say it’s one of the toughest things to overcome and if this is something you struggle with as well, I want you to know that you are not alone & you absolutely don’t have to move through it alone. Ready? Let’s dive in.
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Many of the women I work with, come to me for one issue and through our work we uncover a variety of beliefs that are holding them back.
The BIG one I see most often and the one that is a surefire way to throw the brakes on any new path, adventure or desire you might have is this… I am unworthy.
The truth is, it comes in a variety of shapes, sizes and disguises, but the premise is the same.
–> Unworthiness or Not enough-ness <–
It seems many people have grown up with this message and carried it for the bulk of their lives. While the origin for this belief varies from person to person, for some it stems from a feeling of abandonment.
Whether it’s emotional abandonment from parents, caretakers or partners or a perceived abandonment in some other way…the result is very much the same…feeling not enough.
Not good enough or smart enough.
Not attractive enough or thin enough.
Not successful enough or skilled enough.
Not rich enough or worthy enough.
Just…not…enough.
If you can relate to that message in some way, you might feel as though you’ve settled in life. Settled for a career, relationship, financial, or health situation that is less than desirable and no matter how much you hope it were different or how hard you try to change it…you don’t feel good enough to do it.
If you’re anything like I was when I began this journey, you might think to yourself…
If only I had/knew/could <fill in the blank> then, I would feel like I’m finally ready (aka enough) to be/have/do it.
You might even find that even the GOOD things don’t last long because you don’t feel worthy of them.
–>I know this. I feel this. I can so relate to this because this has been one of my biggest struggles<–
When I first started doing this work, I didn’t think I was “good enough” to help anyone. Later, I questioned if I was good enough to charge for my work, raise my rates and set boundaries with my time. I’ve moved through my life, relationships, and business not feeling worthy enough of love, money, success, support and even some of the incredible testimonials clients willingly share.
But, no matter how unworthy or “not good enough” I felt, there was a little voice in the back of my mind urging me not to abandon my big dreams and desires and instead to believe in something bigger and better for myself.
A recent client of mine put it in words that were far better than I could ever describe it…
She said that she realized in all the areas of her life where she felt abandonment, she’s decided to no longer abandon herself…and THAT friends, is what is creating the shift she needs.
When you commit to backing yourself up and you choose to believe in something bigger and better than what lies in your past, you are capable of anything. And if we are being honest here….that nonsense about you not being good enough/worthy enough is only true if you believe it.
I’m here to tell you it’s time to put that non-sensical belief to bed.
Let’s be clear…
–>You ARE worthy and deserving because you are here and every desire you have currently is valid, important, and yes…you get to be, have and do whatever you choose IF you are willing to believe that.
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–> No matter how many times you’ve felt abandoned in your life, it’s time to decide you are no longer going to abandon yourself, your dreams or your desires. You have a FULL life to create and you have the power to make that happen.
Change starts here.
No one is going to do it for you and to be honest, no one could even if they wanted to. This work, my friends is up to you to say “yes” to.
But you know what else? You don’t have to do it alone. If I had known then, what I know now, I would have gotten support even before I thought I was completely ready because looking back, 11 years is way too long to try and figure it out by myself.
You’ve got a *big* life to live and if you’re tired of being stuck in the same old cycle, same old story & you’re ready to see what you can do when you get your mindset & energy behind you...I’m here to help.
The moral of the story is this…you ARE worthy and deserving of creating the life you desire and it’s time to stop abandoning yourself and your dreams due to some nonsense beliefs that you can change.
I talk about the importance of mindset work all the time, but there is one mistake I see people making all the time that is holding them back more often than not.
If you are feeling particularly *stuck* at the moment or you’ve been doing mindset work and find that for some reason it’s not working… this video is definitely for you!
These 2 things are not the same…
We went a little off track in today’s video, but like all of my 1:1 work, we go where we need to go and it is always what is needed.
If you resonated with the message above and you are tired of the same stuck cycle playing over and over again in your life…mindset/energy coaching may just be what you need. If you’d like to explore what this work can do for you, let’s book a *free* consultation to chat more.
