Fear is something we all deal with & often when you are feeling the fear of the unknown in a big way, it means you are on the precipice of massive change. Check out the video below where I talk about how to move through the fear and get to the more you were made for.
If you want to explore what getting to the other side of fear looks like for you & you want some support to create those life changes faster, check out how you can work with me right now.
Today I want to talk about a common misconception that has literally popped up in 3 of my last 4 calls, just this week. (And it’s only Wednesday!)
It’s likely a misconception you may have believed or learned along the way & I want to clear it up right here, right now because it’s getting in your way.
The misconception is simply the belief that you can’t have it all.
This is a sneaky little belief that comes in various shapes & sizes. It may not pop up in your mind in those specific words, but it can sound something like…
“I already have so much, who am I to ask for more?”
“Others have so little, I can’t possible want/need/ask for more.”
“I’m spoiled/entitled if I want more than what I have.”
“Wait…can I have that? Are you sure?”
The list goes on.
Let’s be clear…You get to have what you want…period. You can have money, love, career, health, great friends, amazing vacations, success, a published book and your very own pet llama if you desire it. Plus anything else you decide you want.
But…the very fact that you *think* that might be too much, too big or too selfish is part of the reason you don’t have it.
Go back and read that again! The fact that you *think* you can’t have it, is part of the reason, you don’t have it.
The truth is…most of us were not taught about our true creative power in this life.
Many of us were taught to dream big, but really just be grateful for what you receive. Work hard, do your best, but know that whatever life experience you face…it could always be worse. Some of us were even taught to simply settle for slightly more than what our parents achieved, but not much more.
Not to mention the slew of unhelpful messaging you might receive as a woman…you can be a career woman OR great mom, but you most certainly can’t be both. Give, give, give, but never ask for anything in return…that’s not ladylike. Plus a lot of other untrue BS.
Two things I want you to know…
1. That nonsense is only true if you believe it.
2. You were made, created & literally crafted by the Divine for MORE.
You get to have it all, make it happen, call it in, step into flow & design your life.
You get to decide that you are enough right now to take the leap.
You get to choose to BELIEVE that you do get to have it all & then go prove it to yourself.
You get to want what you want & you get to have it too….period. End of story.
But only if/when you choose to believe it.
Part of my purpose on this planet is to empower, enlighten & ignite women all over the world so they can tap into the innate power they (aka you) were born with. You don’t need to “do” anything to activate it other than get all that other mindset nonsense out of the way & that is what I am here to help you do.
So, let us all just take a moment to lean into the innate power we were born with. Choose to believe that you get to have it all. You are a person who gets to be, have & do whatever you choose. It’s time to start LIVING it…BEING it & ALIGNING with it.
And of course if you need help getting out of your own way & doing that for yourself in 2022, I’m here to help. Head over here to learn more about how I can support you.
2021 was quite the year & as I’ve been easing into 2022 goals & intentions I am noticing some *key* mistakes I made in the second half of the year, that I promise I’ll never do again. At this point I like to think of them as “lessons” & I’m sharing them with you so you don’t have to learn them the hard way like I did.
3 Mistakes I made in 2021 that I’ll never make again…
–> I stopped listening to my intuition & listened to everyone else instead.
Back in August, I noticed some things that I was doing in my business that just wasn’t working anymore & instead of going within to align my energy with the next steps, I found myself searching for answers, formulas & things that I must be “missing”. I started “doing all the things” a few experts were saying to do without first feeling into it. In that process, I not only didn’t find the answers I was looking for, but I found myself re-learning a lesson that took me 2 years to learn when I started down this path in 2013.
What I’m doing instead: I am tuning into my intuition daily again, feeling my way forward & remembering that the answers, next steps & insights I want/need are all available to me now. If there is something new for me to learn or a new coach to hire, I will feel it & it will feel like a natural next step.
–> Doing “more” to compensate for feeling “less” than.
In the process of ignoring my intuition, I spent a solid 3 months in “hustle-mode”. I was working late nights doing the things I thought I “had” to do to get to the next level & felt an anxious energy around why I wasn’t “there” already. I was acting from a place of “lack”. Lack of answers, insight, & power & my results only reflected more “lack”. The more I did, the less I felt. In the end I began feeling resentful, confused & frustrated.
What I’m doing instead: I am filling my “enough” bucket daily which means reminding myself that things are always working out for me & choosing to never act from a place of not enoughness again. What this amounts to is mindset & energy work as often as needed. Not only that, but I am intentionally choosing & stepping into flow & trusting the process daily.
–> Earning/rationalizing rest.
In “hustle-mode” I found myself rationalizing when I could rest or giving myself certain things I needed to do first. I negotiated with myself about my sacred beach Fridays because I felt like I hadn’t done “enough”. The truth is, it didn’t matter how much I actually did, I wasn’t allowing myself to rest freely & as needed. That ended around Christmas when I realized how depleted I was creatively & energetically.
What I’m doing instead: I’m planning rest *first* (a concept that blew my mind wide open when I learned it from a business coach recently), & reinstating beach-Fridays. I’m setting better work boundaries with no late night work sessions & listening to my body when it needs a nap or extra break.
I want you to know that this growth process is like a spiral staircase & sometimes we need to revisit lessons to go to the next level. It’s normal, it happens & it doesn’t mean anything is wrong with you.
I also want you to learn from my mistakes & spend some time evaluating your own life & course correct as you feel called to.
Are you currently listening to your intuition & doing the things that are in alignment with it? Or have you been doing “all the things” because you thought that’s what you needed to do to get to where you want to be?
Are you acting from a place of lack & trying to do more because you feel like you have to? What if you too filled your “enough” bucket & acted, invested & lived from a place of enough?
Are you listening to your body & resting appropriately? If not, let this be your sign it’s time to do so.
Things happen & remember it’s ALL learning. So, take whatever lesson you’re learning & make it work for you.
Remember, you are fully capable of creating the life & life transformations you wish to make this week, this month & this year (and beyond), but YOU have to know it & own it. And if you’re having trouble believing that it’s possible for you, the special Jumpstart 2022 program I created still **TWO** spots available.
This program is a fraction of the cost of my 4 month program & provides not only 1:1 support, but you also get access to something a NEW community that is available for my 1:1 clients only for additional training & support.
If you want me to send you the details about this program, simply email me HERE & I’ll send it over ASAP. This offer expires at the end of January or when the other 2 spots are spoken for.
Is it time to invest in you? If so, let’s go!
I think we can all agree that over the last few years, it’s become pretty apparent that there are many things in life that we are not in control of. Things that impact & influence us in ways that we wished they didn’t. And while there has been a lot that is outside of our control, we have far more power than we often realize in order to make this year more incredible than the last.
Here are 5 things you can do to ensure 2022 is better than you ever imagined it might be…
–> Manage your energy- This means mindset, emotions, feelings & vibes. This means choosing how you want to feel & doing things in alignment with those feelings. This doesn’t mean “control” them or try to not feel them. It simply means, feel the feels as they come up & process them.
When things are going well & your energy is neutral or better, milk it, expand it & elevate it as much as possible. Remember, emotions aren’t “wrong” they are just part of our experience & are visitors to give us information about where we are & what’s going on.
–> Give yourself copious amounts of compassion, love, grace & self-care. Stop punishing yourself for the mistakes, perceived failures & fumbles we all make in life. You don’t need more self-judgement & no amount of anger, frustration or punishment is ever going to bring you the kind of life experience you desire. In fact, if you received that as a child you know that.
It’s time to pour on the compassion & grace. It’s time to double-down on the self-care (and I’m not just talking bubble baths & massages although those are great). I’m talking loving self-talk, kindness, grace & doing more of the things that fill your cup & your soul.
–> Practice being enough. Right here, right now & always. You are enough even before you ever hit a single goal this month or this year. You are enough before you find the love of your life, make a single $1 in your business or if you are thousands in debt. YOU. ARE. ENOUGH. PERIOD. The sooner you practice this, know it & own it in your life, the better your life will be.
Your “enough-ness” cannot be contingent upon any external point, thing, person or milestone you are trying to reach. That’s not how it works. In fact, the more you embrace your “enough-ness” now & live from that place, the faster you will hit those external goals & milestones.
–> Choose your hard. Sometimes making the changes we wish to make in this life feels hard, but so does staying where we are. Going to the gym is hard, but so is the lack of energy you feel when you don’t. Believing that your life can bet better can be hard when it’s something new for you, but so is living life like it’s passing you by. Choose your “hard” & allow it to be easier than you thought it could be.
Virtually every single client I work with tells me that at first glance all of this seemed “hard”, but it actually is a lot easier (and it creates better than imagined results), that the would 100% do it over again. Choose your hard right now & then go all in.
–> Take bold, intentional & decisive steps…consistently. When you know what you want, there is always a next step you know to take to move forward. Often it’s the very first step you’ve been avoiding for too long & it’s a lot easier than you thought it would be. Be decisive. Be intentional with your actions & energy.
Invest in yourself with the intention that it’s the thing that is going to take you to the next level & beyond. Be bold, not timid. Be certain & go all in with those decisions because the energy you carry into the decisions play out in the outcome itself.
Now, for accountability sake I want you to go back through each of the items above & decide how you are going to start implementing them NOW. Check in with your energy…what do you need? Where do you need to give yourself some compassion & self-care right now? Say it with me “I am enough…right now.” (repeat). Choose your hard…what will you choose today that will change your life for the better? What’s the bold, intentional step you are going to take TODAY to move you forward on your path?
For those of you looking to take that bold, intentional step of getting support, I have good news. I’ve decided to put together a SPECIAL 1:1 program to help you jumpstart 2022 with mindset support, energetic expansion & intentional action toward your goals.
I have ***3*** spots available for this to begin ASAP. If you’ve been wanting to work with me & the investment has been a challenge OR you know that NOW is the time to leap. Email me HERE & I’ll send you all the details. There are only 3 spots available & I won’t be opening anymore, so make sure you take BOLD, decisive action & email me HERE.
This is the tip you’ve been waiting for and it’s one that I share with every one of my clients. It’s critical to creating the kind of results you desire in 2022. Check it out!
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