Sometimes life just sucks and no matter how much you know you ‘should’ slap on a happy face, shift your thoughts, and get into the feeling place of a great life…you’d much rather scream, rant, and complain.

I get it.  Believe me I do!

Over the past few months, I’ve had my moments of zen-calm-peaceful-warrior as well as my moments (more like weeks) of everything-is-falling-apart-before-my-very-eyes-and-life-sucks.

Yep, I’m human.

And I just so happen to be a human who is a mother, wife, business owner, and I’m selling a house at the moment.  (There’s more to the story, but I’ll just leave it at that.)

To put it simply, things haven’t felt exactly easy.  They’ve been challenging and chaotic and to be honest…sometimes life has been rather sucky.

But, as I am beginning to see the light at the end of the tunnel, I’m realizing that if I had to do it all over again, there are a few things I’d like to remember.  (You know, in case things ever feel like this again.  I mean it is life after all and while I’d love to be lotus-posed-zen-calm-peaceful-warrior all the time, I’m not.)

How to cope when life just SUCKS:

• Feel the feels.  I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again, I’m a BIG believer that emotions are generally better out than in.  I’m a heart-felt, emotional person so when I’m frustrated, angry, sad, depressed, or even happy I tend to cry.  It’s the overwhelm of emotion that tends to get to me and I have to let it out! So, when life sucks…feel what you feel and own it.  By allowing it to flow, you let go of any resistance and things begin to look up much faster than you thought possible.

• Flip the script.  When shit hits the fan and life gets a bit sucky, it can be all to easy to ask “Well what’s gonna happen next?” I beg you to NEVER ask this question.  When you do, life (ahem and the Universe) shows you exactly what else can happen next.  A better question to ask is…’How can it get any better than this?’.  Even if you are feeling a bit snarky and ask it sarcastically, the Universe WILL show you how it can and will get better.

• Find the miracle.  (Putting my zen-cap back on.) One of the most simple ways of shifting your mindset when things really suck is to find the miracles and magic all around you.  I don’t care how small it might seem in the moment.  A miracle is a miracle and it can be something as simple as finding a penny on the ground or seeing a sunset.  Notice it.  Write it down and keep looking for more.  Eventually the miracles will multiply and life will go from being sucky to lucky. (ya see what I did there?)

• Screw “reality”. I say this a lot and for some it’s a bit confusing, but let me explain.  When things in life feel a bit or just down right shitty, the LAST thing you want to do is keep focusing on the very things that make you feel bad.  For instance, looking at your bank balance when you know that it’s teetering around zero (or when it’s in the red) or reading the statistics about health conditions, job statistics, or whatever people deem to be ‘hard-core-facts’ about your given situation.  Allowing your outer reality to set your inner vibration is a surefire way to keep attracting more of the same.  Focus on the problem, you get more problems or in the least more crappy feelings that then attract equal vibration problems.  You don’t need that kind of negativity in your life, so ignore reality for a bit.  Shift your focus completely and go back to finding the miracles around you.  I promise the sooner you do, the easier things will become.

• Own the manifestation & shift it.  This one hurts a bit, but it’s true.  YOU are a powerful creator and as such, you have the power to manifest the best of things and the worst of things.  Your thoughts, feelings, inner dialogue, beliefs, experiences etc. all feed into the overall vibration of who you are and it creates your reality.  YOU manifest for yourself…not anyone else, so when life gets sucky, it’s best to own it and shift it.  In fact, anytime you begin to feel a bit of negative emotion or when things get challenging check-in and see how you’ve been feeling overall.  What are your dominant thoughts?  Then shift them.  The sooner you do, the sooner life shifts too!

• Activate your mindset practice.  If you don’t already have a mindset practice, now is the time to create one and use it!  While it is typically best used as a daily practice, using it during times when you desperately need to shift your mindset and beliefs to something a bit more positive can be just the thing you need.  Your mindset practice may include reading/writing affirmations, meditating, visualization, using EFT tapping or something else entirely, but when you use it as a daily practice AND as an anchor to raise your vibration when you need it most, it’s priceless!  If you don’t already have a mindset practice, create one today!

• Reach out and ask for help.  Listen, you weren’t meant to live life on your own nor were you meant to solve all the problems by yourself.  Sometimes reaching out to a friend, mentor, coach, or family member to vent can be just what you need to see that things really aren’t as bad as you think.  You don’t have to go it alone.  Reach out and ASK for help.

I want to hear from YOU!  How do you cope when life gets a bit sucky?  What is your go-to method for turning the corner and getting yourself back on track?  Post in the comments below!