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My Biggest Fear…

January 13, 2015 by Lamisha

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photo credit: the_exploratorium via photopin cc

If you are on my VIP list you know I’ve been thinking about fear and how it’s a f–king liar.

It’s true.  And even though I know this to be true, I have still struggled with fear myself in many ways.

The fear of being seen in my business was a big one for a long time that kept me playing small.

But, my biggest fear of them all has been…lack of control.

You see, for as long as I can remember, I’ve always tried to be 2-4 steps ahead of my current circumstances.  Trying to make sure all things go as planned and that I don’t end up blindsided by some crazy disappointment in life, I would work out all the outcomes in my mind and figure out how to avoid the bad ones.

Simply put I worried…a lot!

I developed general anxiety because I was always trying to stay ahead of the moment.  If I was making a decision about what to do, I would try to predict the outcome so I could strategize how to cope with it in advance.  Needless to say I wasn’t mindful or present in any moment.  I was always worrying about the future.

When it came to goal setting and setting intentions, I would torture myself!  I needed to know how it was going to work out and while I had some positive focus that it would, if I didn’t see the way, then I wasn’t convinced.

I had zero faith.

It’s taken a long time for me to get over that general anxiety and to stop worrying so much, but there are times when I can feel myself slipping back into needing to know how things are going to work out as opposed to just trusting they will.

The truth is, if we expect a specific outcome and we are open to how the outcome is manifested, there is nothing to worry about.  The perceived control I have over seemingly everything in my life is a bit misunderstood.

The only things we control are our thoughts & actions which in turn create our reality.

So, if being a control freak in how your dreams come true is something you struggle with, take a step back.  Take a deep breath and grab a pen and notebook.

I want you to write down all the ways your dream (or another situation) could manifest perfectly.  I’m not saying these are all things you might believe at the moment, but write down all the ways it could happen.  Get creative and remember that the Universe has every resource available to use and we only know a very small portion of that.  To expect that our way is the only way is a bit misguided and is the best way to lead to frustration and it may even cause a delay in manifesting what we want in our lives.

Be open to more than just the way you think is ‘realistic’ or ‘probable’.  The Universe doesn’t work with reality…it works with magic & miracles and I assure you as soon as you open your mind to ‘how’ it can happen and let go of the outcome a bit, more magic and miracles will find you.  It’s just how it works.

If you are still struggling with manifesting your deepest desires and want to learn about how to make that happen with ease, grace, and more flow, I encourage you to check out my 7 Secrets to Manifest the Life of Your Dreams.  In this free video series, I share with you my biggest secrets to manifesting.  Secrets I’ve learned after many years of trying to be realistic and logical.

Add subtitle text(3)Magical Manifesting is a wonderful way to create the life you have always wanted…not just in cash and things that you can buy, but in experiences, time, and freedom.  Manifesting the beautiful experiences and feelings you’ve always desired and inspiring others to do the same is why I do this work.

I would love for you to join us on February 1st for a journey of Magical Manifesting. This 6-week group program will give you the steps, tools, and secrets you need to create the life you have always wanted and provide you the practical experience that will infuse you with the faith you need to keep going.  Space is limited, so if you are interested I highly encourage you to reserve your place now!

 

Filed Under: abundance, Authenticity, Coaching, Decisions, fear, Intention, Planning, Practices Tagged With: control, fear, Free video series, Law of attraction, magic, manifest, manifesting, secrets to manifesting

Post-Holiday Giveaway Winners

January 2, 2015 by Lamisha

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Happy New Year!

I hope you had a wonderful holiday season and are ready to rock the new year with amazing joy, peace, and lots of passion.  I am finishing up my intentions for the year and implementing some new practices to help me stay grounded and focused while maintaining a bit of creativity and fun.  In fact, FUN is one of my words for the new year. (I generally select a few themes for the year, since I can’t choose just one.)

I can’t wait to share the things I’m planning for the month, but first I want to announce the winners of the Post-Holiday Giveaway.

The winner of the 2015: Create Your Shining Year Workbook is……Kelly T.

The winner of the book: Inspired & Unstoppable by Tama Kieves is…..Natali C.

And the winner of the Dream 2015 session with me is….Ellen K. 

Congratulations to all the winners & thank you to everyone that registered.

If you didn’t win and would still like to purchase the 2015 workbook, book or Dream 2015 session, you can do so here.

P.S.  January is about new beginnings and making plans for an epic year ahead.  2015 is your chance to make all your dreams come true, but first you have to do something you haven’t done before.  It’s time to reach outside your comfort zone and make the investment that will change your life for the better. I currently have 3 spots left in my 90-day Breakthrough program for January, so if you are interested in making big waves for 2015, schedule your 30-Minute Consultation.  These spots will fill up fast, so don’t miss your chance. 

Filed Under: Coaching, Goals, Happiness, Life, New Year, Newness, Planning Tagged With: coaching, Leonie Dawson, leonie's workbook, planning, post-holiday giveaway, winners

Goodbye 2014

December 29, 2014 by Lamisha

photo credit: Markus Grossalber via photopin cc
photo credit: Markus Grossalber via photopin cc

<<Note: The Post-Holiday Giveaway is still going strong and winners will be announced on January 1st.  If you haven’t signed up yet, you can do so here.  Awesome gifts to help you plan for the epic year ahead!>>

In light of the year coming to a close this week, I felt the need to do my reflection in a bit of a different way.  Throughout this post are links to some of my posts from this year.  Feel free to walk down memory lane with me as we say goodbye to 2014.  Enjoy!

Dear 2014,

I wanted to take a moment to share with you my deep appreciation for what you have done for me this past year.  It’s been an amazing and memorable year with lots of highs and lows to be celebrated equally.  I’ve had moments when I didn’t think I could manage and others when I didn’t know just how good it could get and I’m forever grateful.

Before the year began, I decided my words for the year would be to “Show Up”.  It took some work, but by mid-year I had stepped out and into my power.  That momentum is ever-growing and had it not been for the theme I selected, many things may not have happened.

I also connected with an amazing tribe of women, many of whom became clients, mentors, friends, and teachers for me.  Some are still here and some have left my path, but I am so happy for the many connections I made early this year because I have learned so much.

I’ve learned to value my voice, my purpose, and my vision for the future.  I’ve learned to connect with my intuitive guidance and allow that to lead me forward in life and in my business, but most of all I learned that I have the power to make the best decisions from my heart and there is no amount of information or guidance from others that can stand in the way of that.

I’ve gained clarity about what I love to do, who I love to work with, and how investing in myself has proven to be one of the best things I can do.  It took a few months (almost 10) to get to this point, but I’m glad I made it.

Throughout the year, I also managed to make huge leaps in my life and business simply by being willing to be seen a bit more.  I took risks that lead to videos, published articles, and amazing opportunities I never would have had, had it not been for my desire to really share my light with the world.  It’s been an amazing ride for sure.

More recently, I’ve made some pretty wonderful connections and breakthroughs that are sure to catapult me into entirely new territory for the upcoming year and again I am grateful.

For every lesson, challenge, new dream, fallen desire, connection, friendship, success, and everything in between, I find myself full of gratitude for it all, for without it, I wouldn’t be where I am today.  Prepped and ready for a new, amazing year that will be nothing less than epic.

Thank you 2014. You have gotten me ready for the year ahead and I can’t wait to see what is waiting for me.

With love,

Lamisha

Filed Under: Authenticity, New Year, Planning, Reflection Tagged With: 2014, goodbye, grateful, gratitude, New Year, planning, recap, reflections

Giving the Gift of Self-Care

December 18, 2014 by Lamisha

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Welcome to The Holiday Sanity Blog Tour, 20 days of tips, tools, techniques, and perspectives from me (and 19 other coaches) with LOVE this holiday season. I’m so excited to be a part of this tour and connect with a group of like-minded coaches that have such a passion for helping others.

When Megan Hale & Jenn Scalia shared their vision for this blog tour with me, I knew I wanted to be a part of it because I know what it’s like to go through the crazy hustle & bustle of the holidays and end up in total overwhelm.  From the gifts you have to buy, to getting the house ready for guests, and doing everything else in between, this time of peace, joy, and happiness can often leave us feeling like a big ball of nerves with nothing but, stress and exhaustion.

In fact, as I type this, I am eyeballing the gifts to be wrapped, the boxes to be mailed, and the holiday cards that need to be sent and am feeling the stress big time.

So what can you do to ensure you remain sane (and dare I say relaxed) this holiday season?

Well, I have found a few simple things that have worked for me in the past and they are things that I am reminding myself of this holiday season.  And it all comes down to one thing…Self-Care.

As women, it can be hard to take time out of our busy schedules to focus on what we want and what we need on a regular day, not to mention during the holiday season, but it is imperative to ensure we are able to enjoy what this time of year brings.

You might be wondering how you can squeeze a little bit of time for yourself in when there is so much to be done?

Here’s how:

  • Put yourself first. This is by far one of the hardest things for us to do as women (and if you are a wife and mother too, this might be even more difficult for you to do), because we are so used to putting ourselves last.  We take care of work, the kids, the spouse, the house, etc. and leave our needs on the back burner until we have…more time.  We all know that more time never comes, so learning to put yourself first is key.  You can’t take care of anyone or anything if you don’t first care for yourself.  This can be as simple as getting in a bit of yoga before anyone wakes up or reading a good book in the tub at the end of the day.  Whatever it is, make your self-care your top priority and I assure you everything else will get done.
  • Create a ritual.  The thing about self-care is that it’s not a one-time or one-season deal.  We always have to be aware of creating the time and space to take care of ourselves and the best way to do that is to create a ritual or a habit that is easy for you to stick to.  This can take some experimenting to get totally clear, but it is 100% worth it.  To start, think of the things you love doing.  If you love to meditate or do yoga, how can you work that into your days/weeks with ease? What can you do add a bit more fun and flow into your day starting say…today? A self-care ritual doesn’t have to be complex, but it does need to resonate and feel good for you.  So figure out what you would love more of in your days and weeks and start doing that now!
  • Remember the magic of the season…and let go of the perfection. Part of the stress that comes during this time of year is based out of our distraction from what the season is really about.  As we struggle to make things ‘perfect’ by getting the home and gifts just right and we race to beat the clock for various deadlines, we miss the joy in the season.  The twinkling lights, the fun Christmas music, the holiday movies, and the laughter and fun that comes with spending time with family and friends.  Trying to make everything perfect is often the #1 way to get to exhaustion, overwhelm, and disappointment.  Let go a bit and let the holiday season be perfectly imperfect.  Your family would much rather spend time with YOU than see you run by in a flash trying to get everything done.  It’s time to enjoy yourself this season!
  • Mandatory F.U.N. I get it, you don’t have time for fun because you have approximately 1,342,343 things to do on your list! But, having a bit of fun is the best way I know how to ease up a little and take care of you.  When was the last time you had a good old fashioned game night or spent time with the kids playing the snow?  Remember that feeling you had as a kid when the holidays rolled around?  Get back to that feeling and enjoy yourself.  The years fly by enough on their own, there is no need to rush them along because you are stressing to get things done.  Kick up your heels and have a good laugh.  It’s good for the mind and the soul.
  • Create some space.  My last suggestion for giving yourself the gift of self-care is creating some extra space in your calendar and your days.  Spend some time alone, reflecting on the day and the year that is coming to an end.  You might choose to go for a walk on your own, meditate for a bit, or write in your gratitude journal, but whatever you choose to do, make sure you create some sacred time & space to do it…for you.  This time will allow you to create some space for you to take a few deep breaths and be fully present in the moment.  In fact, try that now as you read this.  Just close your eyes and breathe for a moment.  Now, doesn’t that feel better?

Taking care of yourself during the holiday season and beyond is the key to a happy life.  If you aren’t caring for yourself, you can’t possibly be of service to anyone else.  Enjoy the holidays for what they are, a time of sharing, caring, and love for one another and remember that love starts with you.

I’ve had so much fun connecting to so many amazing coaches who are passionate about helping others.  I’d love for you to have access to the rest of the tour so you don’t miss out on this valuable resource.

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Make sure to sign up here for The Holiday Sanity Blog Tour updates and check out Shelley Davidescu’s post from yesterday and Jenev Caddell’s post tomorrow.

As always, I wish you love, joy, and lots of happiness especially through the Holidays!

P.S. Speaking of holidays! If you haven’t already, please check out my Post-Holiday Giveaway that I am hosting now until December 30th.  Check out what is available here and sign up to win.

Filed Under: Being, Challenges, Coaching, Intention, Joy, Life, Peace, Planning Tagged With: Holiday Sanity Blog Tour, holidays, More time, overwhelm, planning, Self care, stressed

The When/Then Manifesting Pitfall

December 12, 2014 by Lamisha

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When you think of your happiness and what it takes for you to live a happy life, do you find that you mostly feel that way in the present?

Or, do you find yourself falling into what I call the When/Then Manifesting Pitfall.

We all know that when we want to create or manifest a specific thing (be it a career, money, a relationship etc.) it is because we think it will make us feel good.  We search for happiness and want certain things in our lives to feel fulfilled, worthy, and blissful.  But when we are in the process of creating or manifesting those things, we often find ourselves feeling antsy, uncomfortable, and impatient.

We might look around asking “Well where is it?”. 

And if you are like me you might be saying…“When I have the money/car/relationship/career/body I want…THEN I’ll be happy/grateful/fulfilled etc.”

Unfortunately, that’s not how it works.

When you are in manifesting mode, you have to first know that it is coming and enjoy the process.

I have one too many times fallen into the habit of taking score of what I want and how long it takes to get here.  All the while I am missing all of the amazing things around me.  At times in my life I have been a conditional happy person, meaning under certain conditions I would be happy.  (Mostly when things were going really well.)

Falling into the When/Then Pitfall is so easy in our world.  We are constantly on the look out for the next thing to bring about joy that we miss the very thing in front of us that could make us happy now.  And the crazy thing is that in order to manifest what you want, you have to be happy first.

What the career of your dreams? Make peace with the job you have.

What more money? Be grateful for the money you have and enjoy where you are.

What a better relationship? Appreciate the positive aspects your partner brings to the table and simply be happy.

The best thing you can do when you are trying to manifest anything, is start by focusing on what brings you joy in all aspects of your life. 

Find your joy with the in-between time.  As the details are coming together and you haven’t yet reached the ultimate manifestation, know that it is coming and choose joy, happiness, and bliss now.  After all life is to be lived and enjoyed in the present as opposed to some arbitrary moment in the future.

Life is meant to be loved, enjoyed, and appreciated in the moment…always.  Don’t wait for the future to live the life of your dreams…start now with the little moments.

Your action step for the day is to be mindful of all the joy, happiness, and blissful moments you have right in front of you.  Notice them, appreciate them, and welcome them with open arms.  When you do that, I guarantee all those things you have been wanting to manifest will come that much quicker. 🙂

Filed Under: Authenticity, Coaching, Gratitude, Happiness, Inspiration, Intention, Joy, Life, Planning, Practices Tagged With: Bliss, dreams, happiness, happy, joy, Law of attraction, life of dreams, LOA, manifest, manifestation, manifesting, Pitfall, relationship

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